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writes: hi. i am 15i have found out 3 weeks ago that i am pregnanti have onlii had sex twice and we have used protection both times but i have managed to get pregnanti have told my child studies teacher at school because she is realli easii to talk to and she has helped me n been there for me the last week i dont know where to go from herei refuse to get rid of a babiiits not the babiis fault it was madeit is my faulthow do i tell mi mum??do i tell mi mum??please help??? tarr x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): I got pregnant when I was 15, made the choice to have and keep my baby. That was 24 years ago. I know how you feel, I've been there! But let me say this about abortion...it's an option, and for some it is the right choice. In my opinion it's not as simple as saying "it's a child not a choice", I disagree...it is a COMMITMENT a life long commitment to raise a child. I made the commitment and I raised my child on my own. It was a struggle and I did without and missed out on my teenage years. I put myself through college working days and going to school at night. Adoption is another option. There are several adoption agencies out there that will help you, financially, provide counseling, and with housing if needed. I don't know how your relationship is with your mother...but you do need to tell her...you never know she just might surprise you with her reaction. But right now you need the guidance of an adult. You're 15, scared and confused. Not a good state of mind to be makeing a life long decision. Take care.
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 You have decided that you want to keep your baby, at least you know in your head what you want.
Talk to your mum and tell her about this. Dont let her pressurise you into doing anything you dont want to do though.
Explain you want to keep the baby, and you would be grateful if she would stand by your decision.
Maybe you would find it easier if your teacher was with you when you told your mum.
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reader, m698778  +, writes (24 May 2007):
you are just too young to be pregnant and as well as having sex!! you should have thought this through and thought about the risks and consequences. well, then it's now too late to think about this now. Now you will have to support the baby and you probably don't even have a job or a job that pays great bucks. it's your choice in keeping the baby or not. still, you should tell your mom on what you have been doing, therefore, she could help you with your issue as soon as possible!
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reader, tracey +, writes (22 May 2007):
Hey, yes babe you really need to sit down with your mum and tell her everything, i know your scared but you need to tell. At first ur mum maybe be upset, thats understandable as you are her baby.
You need to go to your gp, talk to him/her thats what they are there for.
Dont go through this alone darling and they wont take your baby away from you.
you really need to talk to ur mum
take care x
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reader, minaah +, writes (22 May 2007):
i think yooh need to take it easy and calm down
i am nt tryin to discourage yooh buhh yoh are 15 yooh dnbt have any income..... an dit is most likley that the babiii wiill be taken away from yoooh...yoooh are under age which means that the two boys that you had sex with will get in trouble.......tell your mum she might just surprise yooh...x gd luck.....xxxx
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reader, nologo  +, writes (22 May 2007):
 Answer to "dont know where to go from here":
http://teenmoms.ourfamily.com/advice.htm#1
This is clear for me that you decided to keep this baby.
Only one comment to make about "its not the babiis fault it was made... it is my fault".
It is not your fault at all, because in life there is a thing called Predetermination.
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