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anonymous
writes:So we have been together for 5 years. In the last two months, the thought of his mouth being on me in any way has become disgusting because he has begun dipping (which I have made clear that I absolutely despise.) He told me today on the phone when I said I "wasn't in the mood to be sexy" that during intimacy I am like a "wet log" or a "zombie: I don't make sounds, or move, or anything." He has also said in the past that I am like a "church mouse" in bed. When I told him I would fake the noise if that's what he wanted, he proceeded to say "why not, you fake everything else." I am really offended because I have never, EVER faked an orgasm which he obviously doesn't believe. I am also offended that I am apparently so incredible DULL, despite the fact that I try very hard to give him the exciting and varied sex life that he clearly craves. ( I don't remember the last time we used standard missionary position or the last time we "made love" rather than just dirty words and kinky activities.) The only activity that I am uncomfortable with is talking dirty, because it makes me feel absolutely ridiculous. How do I show him I'm offended? How do I respark his interest in our sex life? And how do I get over being un-attracted to him because of his dipping?
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (18 October 2013):
 Ok you've stumped me! I've heard of "double dipping" but not this, is it the same thing as "rimming"?
And there was me thinking I'd pretty much heard it all over the years, well it goes to prove you learn something new every day! :)
What you need to learn today, my lovely, is self respect.
This guy is just mean and horrible to you. And, despite me not knowing what "dipping" is, if your partner wishes to engage in any sexual activity that you find repulsive then DON'T DO IT!
Sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship but if both parties enjoy a healthy and active sex life then it's important that you're both happy.
He's clearly not because all he's doing is complaining despite you being a willing partner all these years.
I think this man is poison and is being a complete pig to you.
Changing things up in the bedroom is a great way to keep things fresh and exciting but you both have to want to do it and there's nothing nicer, or wrong with a good bit of old fashioned "missionary" from time to time!
Your boyfriend has done nothing but insult your bedroom style and quite frankly that says more about his prowess than yours!
My opinion would be to rethink your choice of partner, do you really want this kind of relationship for the rest of your life?
I suggest that you only share intimate times with someone worthy of them and your current guy is NOT the one!
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, R1 +, writes (16 October 2013):
 You stand up for yourself and leave this man!!
What do you get out of this relationship? Do you enjoy the sex or do you do it for him?! If you don't find him attractive and he treads you badly what's the point ???
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