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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a year and half and we have been living together for a year. He started having serious back problems a year ago and we have not had sex since then. He now wants us to buy a flat together but I am scared of committing to this when at the back of my mind I worry that we will not go back to having a "real" couple's life. I tried telling him how i felt but he got angry and said if that's how i felt about him (like a "friend"), that i should just leave. I met someone else a couple months ago but I don't think we have a future together. I don't want to leave my boyfriend but i don't know how we can go back to being lovers now that i've cheated on him and that we've been living as 'friends' for a year.I don't know what to do...Thank you for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): Your bf already told you to leave if you see him as just a friend. Well you do pretty much see him that way so the decision is made for you and you just need to follow through.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 You need to leave him, you cheated and it's not fair to him.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 You don't want to leave your Bf? A little too late for the realization, since you've already cheated on him. Your relationship is irreparable and you shouldn't mislead him any longer. The problem with you is that you're not sure of what you want. You don't want to leave your boyfriend, you don't want to buy the flat together, you don't know how you can go back to being lovers, you dont even think you can have a future with the guy you had an affair with...I mean come ON!! What DO you know?!
Look OP, this isnt a game and you cant behave like a babe in the woods. Just leave your poor bf because he doesnt deserve to be in this mess.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 April 2012):
 You should leave your boyfriend. You cheated on him. Does your boyfriend know that?
There should be no "I don't know what to do". You cheated on him! You're past the "I don't know what to do" phase, because you've already done it!
You say that you're living as "friends" now, so was there an official breakup and now you're merely roommate status? How would he respond to knowing that you're having sex with another guy?
Heh, I already know the answer to that: You said "he got angry and said if that's how i felt about him (like a "friend"), that i should just leave.". I'm guessing that if someone asked your boyfriend whether or not you're merely "friends", that he wouldn't have the same answer you do.
You should leave, because you're using your poor boyfriend. Back problems are awful, but getting betrayed and cheated on is worse.
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