The kiss didn't change anything, she says, but I feel like being more than friends!
Q. I need some help. Here is my situation. Two weeks ago, I met a girl, and she's amazing. We have a lot in common, and we became fast friends. She keeps making all these gestures that she likes me more than a friend, but I don't know. I'm going...
A. 27 September 2005: If i was in the situation, i personally would say that i want to be more then friends and if she doesnt i wouldnt want to be just mates...
It seems bad but maybe she says just as friends because shes frightened to speak her feelings and lose you... (read in full...)
How can I give him the unmistakable message that I'd love oral sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a number of months now. I really care for him, and our relationship is perfect....well almost. We have sex most days, and although the sex itself is fantastic he hasn't once given me oral sex. I don't know ...
A. 27 September 2005: frustrating... hinting is no good, you need to tell him, dont need to shout just talk to him!
Probably the best way to face it is to make him feel not good enough as he doesnt satisfy your needs *unless* he does oral.
The usual "i read up on...... (read in full...)
I think I'd be ready for sex with my boyfriend, if only I didn't have to show him my naked body!
Q. I am so scared of showing my boobs or downstairs to my bf. I am 18 and I'm ready to get phyical with my bf who I have been seeing for about 6 months but I'm so scared of showing him my body. I feel fat and I think that my body isn't good enough. My ...
A. 26 September 2005: First you need to gain some respect for yourself!
Your perfect boyfriend wouldnt be with you if you were ugly and fat and nasty!! That must mean something.
Recently i have been criticised for my advice on here by one individual and as a bloke i... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship... I just want to feel sexy and special for a few minutes!
Q. Hi everybody, I don't know what to do. I am in a very difficult part of my life. Me and my boyfriend of 1 and a half years broke up just over a week ago over a silly argument. He got nasty and called me offensive names btu then he told me he was s...
A. 26 September 2005: I dont understand, you said you broke up with your bf, rite? Yet you didnt feel guilty about your bf not being there? :S
Anyway, you should stay single and im sure with looks like those many guys would want to kiss you!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to be a lousy kisser!
Q. I'm a 14 year old boy and I want to make out with my girlfriend but I don't know how, I've never done it before. She's not a virgin and I'm too nervous to make out with her. I'd never even kissed a girl until me and her started going out. We've been ...
A. 26 September 2005: First... You have been together for 3 months, you never kissed a girl before hand until you started going out yet she seems happy to be with you!! and she hasnt dumped you!
I'm told this sort of thing comes naturally to people, im sure other pe... (read in full...)
Stuck in the middle... Do I choose with my heart or my head?
Q. Never, ever felt so utterly confused in my life. At least there are no kids involved. I married my partner, Tom - not real name - (of 6 years) 2 and a half years ago. I never so much as looked at anyone and 'thought' I was happy...until someone ...
A. 26 September 2005: Always follow your heart... (read in full...)
How could we go from lovers to friends to... this?
Q. My ex dumped me about 8 months ago due to an illness I had, which was at the time unbeknownst to me and him. I didn't discover for a couple of months after the break-up how incredibly sick I was. When we broke up, he was adamant about remaining ...
A. 26 September 2005: Why do you want to know someone who turned their back at a time of need? Someone who replaced you so rapidly?
Move on WITHOUT him, youre worth alot better... (read in full...)
My husband could have me any time... So why does he need to masturbate to porn?
Q. When I go to work my husband downloads porn and plays with himself. It hurts my feelings because he could have me anytime he wants. He could have had me before I went to work. He has even looked at porn when me and the kids were sleeping. It ...
A. 26 September 2005: Ok, if you want to quote someone, quote them, i said "Its not cheating, stop being pathetic!" not " 'he's not cheating , stop being pathetic' "
Whos/What OP?
Anyway, i totally agree with what you said regarding its disrespectful an... (read in full...)
Why does he send me hot, sexy messages AFTER I leave, instead of when I'm with him?
Q. I am a 48 year woman that is involved with a 33 year man. We have been friends for a year and just began a sexual relationship when he moved an hour away. He send emails telling me he wants hot, loving sex, massages etc., but when we are together ...
A. 25 September 2005: I wish females will learn to break the stereotype that males should be the ones to make the first move, men should be the ones to ask a women out, men should be the ones to propose..etc!!!!!!
It may not be what it seems...
From your point of vi... (read in full...)
Three times a week isn't enough. My husband says I should "do whatever it takes" to make him happy.
Q. My husband wants sex all the time. The problem is I don't. I love him deeply and am frustrated I don't feel sexual. I've tried explaining this to him but all he says is if you love someone you will do whatever it takes to make them happy. He has ...
A. 25 September 2005: Dont let him use emotional blackmail!
I would say leave, but for the sake of your child(ren)that may not be the best idea for their sake.
I'm, sorry, i aint much of a help, but im sure someone else can be of some help. ... (read in full...)
I thought "I love you" on my phone was a joke from a friend. Did I blow my chance with her?
Q. Hi I am a student and in love with another girl in my group. We always looked to each other during the lessons. One day I got a message on my phone saying I love you. I first thought it was one of my friends with some stupid joke. By the time...
A. 25 September 2005: Yes, tell her your feelings and be honest with her and say you thought it was a joke.... (read in full...)
My friend is depressed. What can I do to help?
Q. Hi, My friend is really depressed at the moment and she has been to the doctors. They said it was something to do with her hormones, but I'm worried about her. Sometimes she just wants to burst into tears. What can I do to help her?...
A. 25 September 2005: Support her in every way you can. Listening, even giving hugs and having cuddles - no you dont have to be a lesbian or bi- to do that - even if you can give no advice listening will help loads and hugs and cuddles will make her feel loved, and ... (read in full...)
How do I pick just one of the 2 girls I like?
Q. I like this girl, and she knows I like her, but I also like another girl in the same way. I am torn between the two of them. Both are single and flirt with me in their own ways (so I am told by friends). I am really close with one of them, but not ...
A. 25 September 2005: durrrr!
Pick the one you close with, thats the one you personally have more feelings for.
If that relationship fails then im sure you can choose the other one, but simply dont make it seem like she was second best, you would need to say that... (read in full...)
My husband could have me any time... So why does he need to masturbate to porn?
Q. When I go to work my husband downloads porn and plays with himself. It hurts my feelings because he could have me anytime he wants. He could have had me before I went to work. He has even looked at porn when me and the kids were sleeping. It ...
A. 25 September 2005: This goes deep.
It seem you lack trust for him, he has a right to masturbate to porn same as you do!
I cant give you advice, because you dont mention if you two ever have sex or play sexually together, but if you dont then there is a probl... (read in full...)
Can get sex easily, but I'd like a proper relationship!
Q. I am an attractive 53 year old woman who is finding it impossible to meet someone who will commit to them. I have no trouble attracting men, but they only ever want sex. As that's not what I'm about I very rarely see them again. What is it about me ...
A. 23 September 2005: If i may say something, that a suggestion might be of help.
I dont know you and i dont know how you come across to people so im not saying you are like the following etc. just a suggestion.
Theres to main CASE scenerios (cant spell lol):
O... (read in full...)
Could my pubic hair be off-putting to guys, even though it's tidy?
Q. I have pubic hair insecurities. I am an attractive 23year old girl who is confident with my body, however I am afraid that my pubic hair could be unattractive! I know this sounds dumb, but how important is it to a guy? I wax my bikini line to k...
A. 23 September 2005: Lets split guys into 2 groups...
THE JUST WANT SEX PLAYER TYPE (sadly all guys are stereotyped like this):
They want a fuck and dont care about things like that
THE CARING GENTLEMEN TYPE:
They love you for you and not your pubic hair, the... (read in full...)
What can I do about my loneliness and lack of self-esteem?
Q. Dear Cupid. I have a really low self-esteem. In public situations I get so nervous that I feel I might pass out. Usually I feel like I'm worth nothing and that people don't care about me. At school I see girls hanging out with their big group...
A. 23 September 2005: Even though in general i agree with Pops, but where i am from if you did that, people would find out and you would be bullied which will make you even more lonely and have no self-esteem or confidence at all.
You need to see an external counselo... (read in full...)
My boss and I had a relationshp that went sour. Now I don't have a job...
Q. Me and my married employer formed a relationship. Afterwards he kept changing his mind as to whether or not he wanted a future with me. I decided to just apologise for any upset so he would employ me for the next 1 years contract. He switched and ...
A. 20 September 2005: TAKE LEGAL ACTION!! UNFAIR DISMISSAL
Say you had to have a relationship to keep your job and when you said enoughs enough he saked you... (read in full...)
My partner was supposed to be working in New York, not chatting up other girls!
Q. I had been with my boyfriend for seven and a half years, since 17. We had been saving for a house but still lived with our parents. I always believed he loved me. We hadn't been getting on over the last year as well as normal, he didn't seem to ...
A. 20 September 2005: LEAVE THE TWAT!!!
(Excuse my language)
Even if you are stupid enough to forgive him, you wont cos that would always be a barrier, stuff brought up in arguments and you wont be the same ever again.
He CHEATED, he BETRAYED you, hes a FRAU... (read in full...)
My guy is gone into the military, and he's just not a phone person so we never talk!
Q. I have been talking to/dating this guy for about 4 months. I found out early on that he had just graduated from the same college that I still attend and was going into the military. I did not expect to get as close to him as I am now, but ...
A. 20 September 2005: End it, most people from millitary play away (they are females in there too or some abuse prisoners..im sure he int liek that tho).
When you join the millitary you live another life. Its not just going somewhere... it can be very hard being ho... (read in full...)
I had to move quite a distance away, but I still think of her as the girl I want in my life...
Q. I am an Asian male in my mid twenties. On one of my jobs, I had to live for almost one year out of my home. During that period, I was with a girl. We used to go out most of the time, but not as a couple. After more than a couple of months like t...
A. 20 September 2005: Cant you talk daily via the phone? Or via Instant Messenger client like MSN?
To me it sounds like she has been occupied by someone else i.e. another guy, she has feelings for u still thats why she does reply...im sorry to bring that up but i th... (read in full...)
I can't get over her past with her ex. I feel like her second choice!
Q. Girlfriend's Past and present I have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now and I love her more then anything. She is amazing and she loves me so much. The problem is I can't get over her past. I know this is standard. A lot of guys have...
A. 20 September 2005: Leave her, relationships are built on trust and you obviously both dont trust each other!!
I know you have a soft spot, its very sweet you being so considerate but You cant change the past...
and well simply she would rather be with her ex (how... (read in full...)
Please help me... I need some "reasons" to take my girlfriend's virginity!
Q. I have a girlfriend who is a virgin and I think she is ready to lose her virginity to me but she said I must first tell her why she should lose her virginity to me....
A. 19 September 2005: "I LOVE YOU" ?? Good enough?
I agree with the other answers..... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to let any guys get close, because I'm sure they'll see my flaws!
Q. Can anyone help me? I am a 27 year old female - virgin. Not by any religous choice but purely because the fact of letting someone that close to me terrifies me (I feel sick, start shaking - like real fear!). On the outside I am fairly outgoing, ...
A. 19 September 2005: YOU DONT HAVE FLAWS! YOU HAVE CLAWS!
Im sure ure one of the BEST, however, no1 is PERFECT, every1 has FAULTS and PROBLEMS, alot of people FRONT and HIDE these perfectly from people while others are HONEST and SHARE them with others.
PEOPLE ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with a boy who only "cares" for me?
Q. I am a girl who had been in love with a guy for 2 years. He doesn't love me, he cares for, me but I doubt he loves me. He wants sex, and I am a virgin. Should I do it or not? The country I live in doesn't approve of such stuff but it's happenin...
A. 19 September 2005: Whats your definition of he dont love you?
if he reli doesnt love you then like the rest have said, dont do it!
But if he cares for you as having feelings for you and stuff and simply hasnt said "I Love You" then perhaps you should, however,... (read in full...)
We had to stop when we tried intercourse. It just hurt too much!
Q. Me and my boyfriend just tried to have intercourse for the first time tonight. Technically I am still a virgin. He is not. We couldn't. Not for lack of wanting to, but because it hurt so bad I had to make him stop. Now I get a burning sensation when ...
A. 19 September 2005: It may not be because of your first time...but he might have given you an infection!
When females lose their virginity its common for them to feel sour down below or ache for a while after and this can continue when having sex again and again du... (read in full...)
Sex with my older guy isn't as good as sex with a guy my own age!
Q. I've recently started dating a new guy and I really like him. We waited a while before we had sex, as I was with someone else when we met and fell for each other. Now we're together but something isn't as I thought it would be. I'm 18 and my ex...
A. 18 September 2005: I think you shouldnt discriminate with age.
Stereotypically an older man would be more experienced then a younger one, however, thats not the case, the older one might only have sex with ones he loves after having a great non-sexual relation... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to have sex, but I'm afraid I'm not big enough to give her any pleasure!
Q. I am 18 and I am in serious relationship with my girlfriend. She has said that we should go the full way (sex) as soon as possible. I however am worried that my penis will be too small for her to get any pleasure. I have considered penis ...
A. 20 August 2005: There are two things:
1) technique
2) confidence
Size is nothing unless it affects your confidence, this can be very embarassing if it does.
Dont go straight into intercourse...
The following stages normally works well, even if you hav... (read in full...)
The guy I want, wants someone else. And she's not ready for anything "serious"...
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about a month now and we met on MySpace. Anyway he is such a good guy and I really like him and I think he could like me. Only problem is he likes another girl who just got out of a messy relationship and made it ...
A. 20 August 2005: Wake up! I know you aint thick! You telling me you chose bad relationships? No, ... the relationships started off good then goes wrong, same could happen in this situation, i dont doubt but how do you know he is a good one, months down the road when ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, and now she's pregnant. How can I deal with this?
Q. I am desperately in love with my boyfriend of 4 months. I thought we would be together forever. But I just found out he cheated about 2 months ago, in a drunken one-night stand with an ex. I never suspected a thing, even though I knew they had ...
A. 20 August 2005: Even though one shouldnt cheat on another, 2 months is too early to be a mistake IMO, longterm it wouldnt work (unless you wouldnt midn him cheating on you).
Get out, stop crying you have made the best choice, he isnt good enough for you and it w... (read in full...)
He wants time to concentrate on his football. He doesn't even want me to text him!
Q. Where do I start? I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, we've been on several holidays together, have talked about getting a mortgage together and just last week talked of getting engaged. He always tells me he loves me and he used to ...
A. 10 August 2005: lol, point 1:
(Professional) Footballers are one of the least loyal people to their gf's/wifes (or bf/husband if female).
(take David Beckham for 1)
My instincts tell me that he maybe "playing away" so-2-speak.
I mean the reason why h... (read in full...)
My friend said our bond was "sick". He's 90 and I'm his carer.
Q. I work as a carer for a 90 year old man in his home. We have, over time, formed a special bond and are in love. He wants to get married but I can't face telling my family as I recently confided in a friend who said the relationship was 'sick' and ...
A. 10 August 2005: you already have a relationship, just not as of a bf/gf one, you should keep the relationship with him you got now, and find someone a bit younger!! or a lot younger! ... (read in full...)
How far can you go before you've lost your virginity?
Q. At what point does one lose her virginity? Is it just by engaging in sexual acts?- but a kiss is considered a sexual act so how far from heavy kisses to heavy petting can you go before you can consider you've had intercourse and are no longer a...
A. 8 August 2005: Thats a good point.
Sex is an abbreviation for sexual intercourse which at one point basically meant sex where the penis enters the vagina, now it means many other stuff. Anal sex is understandable but oral sex and even those where you arent to... (read in full...)
I found pornography on my Dad's computer!
Q. dont know what to do about my dad? i was recently browsing on the computer when i came across a folder of my dads which i opened. it contained many poronographic images and then many images of himself. ifeel disguisted at this and i dont know how ...
A. 5 August 2005: You should tell your mum.
If those pictures are of minors you should tell the police.
Anyway, what you doing in HIS folder?... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't giving me what I need! There's no thrill any more...
Q. Both my wife and I are young, attractive, fit, fun and have only been married for a year, but I'm not getting what I need. Before meeting my wife I had a ridiculously active sex-life, and at the beginning of our relationship we had sex round th...
A. 5 August 2005: "are young, attractive, fit, fun" thats the good bit!
In every relationship that goes to the marriage stage its like that, it appears the novelty of sex has worked off.
Its a pathetic myth that a dead-sex life can ruin a relationship, fo... (read in full...)
Used by a woman on the internet, I find it hard to trust women at all any more...
Q. Dear Cupid, I had a relationship for 3 months with a girl whom I met on internet. I am 23 yrs of age and I just started chatting casually with a girl who was introduced to me by one my friends. Initially I was not very much interested in ch...
A. 5 August 2005: Join the club! :D Happened to me many times...... (read in full...)
I don't want to have to choose between my love and my parents...
Q. I'm 19 years old. My problem is I'm interested in women. I'm a Lesbian. I love a girl. I love her so much and she also loves me too. We want to be together and marry. She so nice. She always takes care of me, stay with me when I'm alone. She makes ...
A. 4 August 2005: Thank you for telling me what a lesbian is ^o).
Anywayz... You are an adult its shouldnt be a problem. Your parents should respect your decision and that you are an adult its less of a problem then if you were in the early years of your teens.... (read in full...)
The sex is amazing for me, but I need tips on how to help my boyfriend ejaculate!
Q. Hello I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months, but before that we were friends for two years. We love each other to bits, and the sex is amazing...for me! He says it's brilliant for him too, but I can't make him ejeculate. He had to really ...
A. 4 August 2005: Maybe its just me but one of my major turn ons is hearing a female orgasm, maybe letting him perform oral sex on you might get him into the mood?
maybe the reason why he doesnt come is because you reach climax so early, then you stop?
Alcohol... (read in full...)
Sometimes he makes my skin crawl when he touches me, but my bf wants sex all the time!
Q. This is a sex question. I have been with my b/f for almost 3 yrs, in the beginning things were great. Then he started drinking real bad, getting physical, very jealous, accuses me of sleeping with every man that crosses or path. I love my b/f, and...
A. 23 May 2005: LEAVE!!!!!... (read in full...)
I have one photo of the woman I'm dating, and all I want is another. Is that too much to ask?
Q. I am dating this woman and she says that she loves me. She's very pretty but she won't take a picture for me. We have not met face to face so I really want her to take a picture for me. I have one but all I asked for was another. Am I in the ...
A. 23 May 2005: Just a question..how can you date someone NOT face-2-face??... (read in full...)
Could my girlfriend get pregnant if the condom went in with a trace of pre-cum on it?
Q. Me and my girlfriend see each other rarely, well only on weekends, due to her exams. We are both always wanting to have sex. The only problem is, when I was getting ready *putting the condom on* I accidently went to put it on the wrong way and put ...
A. 23 May 2005: YES. if in doubt you should take emergency contraceptive asap. The pill is more effective if taken within 24 hrs, it gets less effective 24hrs-48hrs and alot less effective 48hrs-72 hrs and after that its basically useless. If this happ... (read in full...)
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