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I joined this site because I always love the problem pages in magazines and people say that I have good advice.
Im quite young, but I'm not inexperienced and I'm quite mature for my age. I'm good at seeing most situations from other points of view and try not to judge other people before I really get to know them.
I'm just a typical girl, I love shopping, straightners and make up ;) but I also read ALOT of books, I have read over 100 books at least and I love listening to and trying to solve peoples problems. I have also been a vegetarian for almost 7 years now. :)
I live in Scotland and have a boyfriend that I will have been with for 9 months on the 18th and he's just amazing and loves me for me :)
Like most people I've had my share of ups and downs, I've had an operation for scoliosis in february '08 and have been depressed and had some issues with my anger which I'm controlling well at the moment and I'm pretty happy with my life. :)
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Help me please - I haven't heard from him since yesterday! I'm so worried!
Q. Hi, I am currently in a long distace relationship with a guy in florida.. We have never met, Anyway yesterday he was at the theme park .. and he sent me a message saying "hey i can't text much but i am going home very soon and i will call y...
A. 2 July 2009: Take a deep breath, relax.
Your just jumping to conclusions. I felt like this quite a few times about my boyfriend. He said he was coming over and he didn't come for ages and his phone went straight to voicemail but I found out later that he miss... (read in full...)
For him: oral sex while he watches porn. For me: 3 minutes, no kissing, no passion. Help!
Q. I live with a guy for almost a year we have had are share of troubles. At first he said he didnt love me but he has grow to love me but we never have sex maybe once a month but he always wants me to give him oral sex everyday while he watchs porn. ...
A. 2 July 2009: It sounds like he wants all the benefits in this relationship and doesn't want to give any in return.
My advice is to dump him, and find someone who loves you from the beginning and is willing to do anything (within reason!) for you.
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I'm on the Pill but we don't use condoms, could I still get pregnant?
Q. hey i'm sophie, 16 right so i've been on the pill for nearly 6 months now and everytime me and my fiancé have sex we don't use a condom. Can i still get pregnant? i'm slightly worried. please help....
A. 2 July 2009: Of course you can still get pregnant, out of every 100 people taking the pill, 1 person will get pregnant and if you think how many people take the pill, thats quite alot of people. Some pills vary on this though. It is still best to use a condom, ... (read in full...)
We're set in our respective churches -- should we try to work it out or break up?
Q. my bf and I have been together 9 months. He is catholic and I am baptist. We are concerned about what this will mean if we get married and start a family together. We are definitely in love, but we are very set in our own churches and ...
A. 1 July 2009: If you really love him it shouldn't matter what religion he is.
If you love him try and work it out together. If you cant work it out I'm afraid you might have to break up
Hope this helps
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How can someone be incapable of loving?
Q. My boyfriend told me that he doesn't want to be with me because he isn't capable of truely loving anyone and doesn't want to hurt me. He also doesn't want to have sex with me because he knows I will end up getting hurt. I think that my boyfriend ...
A. 1 July 2009: I dont think this guy is really into you if he keeps saying these things. Hasn't him saying I don't truely love anyone and don't want to have sex with you because of this enough to make you realise that he doesn't want to be with you?
Maybe... (read in full...)
Boyfriend being completely insensitive and will never support me when I need him.
Q. I need some relationship help. I've not been getting on with my partner lately and it's really stressing me out. I've had a lot of issues this year and he hasn't helped me through any of it. The first major one was that i had major issues abou...
A. 1 July 2009: First of all I know you said you really love him but can't you see he's verbally abusing you? If he makes you feel down all the time by putting you down and shouting at you this is verbal abuse.
It sounds like this guy is very insensitive to your ... (read in full...)
Do you prefer guys with six packs or not?
Q. Just A Quick Question To The Girls. Do you prefer guys with or without a six pack? i ask becuae my mates girlfrieds's dont understand wat the point of us workin out so much is.. so ummm yeah, Do you prefer guys with or without? ...
A. 30 June 2009: I like the not too muscly, not too flabby, not too skinny look. :)
Really muscly is nice to look at, but abit too weird and makes you think they love themselves.
Flabby is just no. I think guys have to have some degree of keeping healthy ... (read in full...)
Girlfriends going away for college soon and I'm afraid that she might cheat!
Q. My girlfriend be going to college in a few months, and as each day passes, I get more and more worried. We have been together for awhile and we love each other dearly. My girlfriend hasn't really partied since we've been together, but she has drank ...
A. 30 June 2009: Relax she probably feels the same way. You need to trust her to make the right decisions if she loves you she will understand why you are worried. Its very natural to be worried.
Just sit her down and explain that this is making you feel this way... (read in full...)
My wife has lost all sex drive. What do I do?
Q. I am a happily married husband of 24 years with 2 gorgeous children and a beautiful wife. We have been married for 8 years, I am nearly 32, she is 31. I used to vists my family weekly since my job is away from family. After ourlast child ws born, my ...
A. 30 June 2009: Hm.. could she be stressed or worrying about something? This is a common reason for loss of sex drive. If she's on any birth control on taking tablets this can also affect it. Sometimes when people get older there sex drive becomes low and others ... (read in full...)
Want to get rid of these stretch marks! What are the best creams to use?
Q. i'm going on 16 and i'm pretty skinny but now that i'm actually growing lol i'm starting to get stretch marks on my butt and hips, wat's the best coco butter to use for this? i want to either minimize their appearence or just get rid of them, my ...
A. 30 June 2009: I agree with eyeswideopen Palmers is very good.
Bio oil is also very good. I have an 18 inch scar on my back from a scoliosis operation and it seems to have helped so I'm sure it would also work on stretch marks.
Hope this helps =)... (read in full...)
He told me he loves me but not 'in' love with me, cheating at the same time. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 yrs just told me he love me but not in love with me.we have a 3 yrs old boy and live together.what does that mean.he have been seein women behind my back.will that relationship work and lead to marriage?...
A. 30 June 2009: I really don't think your relationship will work... if he really loves you even at all, why would he cheat on you with someone else? I'd say you will be much better off with someone who actually cares about you. You deserve better than someone who ... (read in full...)
Girls: would you stay with a guy that's so cheap and shallow?
Q. see i use to like this guy when he was studying with me i use to look at him in class because he's so cute well he asked me out and we've been going out for like 4 months and in this period i've never hated any one as much i do not like him when i ...
A. 27 June 2009: If you feel like this why are yoiu with him? He should pay for you, well at least offer to pay for you. It sounds like you aren't meant to be together if he's that shallow and self centered. Get someone else, you deserve better =) xx... (read in full...)
I hate it when he has to go to his wife! It's like he never has time for me...
Q. Im 18 and hes 40 and where having an affair, i hate it when he has to go to his wife, help? First of all he told me got divorced at christmas and he was 2 kids who are 3 and 7 who live with the mum, then he finally admited he was still married an...
A. 27 June 2009: First of all this is not a healthy relationship, your young, 18 and have your whole life ahead of you and he's married, 40 and has 2 kids.. Don't you feel the slightest bit ashamed that he has a wife? How would you feel if that was you? I'm not t... (read in full...)
What does FWB entail?
Q. Hey Im 16 and the girl i like asked if i wanted to be her friend with benefits what does this entail? I have never had sex before and i know she has had a fair bit....
A. 27 June 2009: It means basically what the name says just being friends but with the benefit of sexual stuff, which means you would not be seen as boyfriend or girlfriend. Hope this helps. :)... (read in full...)
Help! He wants to have sex with me but I'm not ready. What shall I do?
Q. I'm 13 years old and I have a boyfriend (16). Until yesterday, we were only kissing each other sometimes. But yesterday evening he wanted to have sex with me. I said i didnt want to, but he didnt listen and started to rape me. After I started crying ...
A. 27 June 2009: You should definatly call the police but first you should tell an adult you trust.
It was definatly NOT ok for him to do that to you if you did not consent to it. You need to tell someone as soon as you can.
hope this helps.
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He's stopped texting me -- have we broken up?
Q. he just stopped texting me and im assuming we're broken up. its painful to just act like nothing happened and move on. i know it will not be a good idea to contact him. all my friends say wait for him to contact you, but im in pain. what do i do?? ...
A. 27 June 2009: I know this really hurts when someone you care about ignores you, but maybe it is not on purpose? Now I'm not trying to make excuses for this guy but it may be that he doesn't know he's upsetting you by not texting you. Pretty much every guy is like ... (read in full...)
My roommate's b/f is racist, but I can't afford to move
Q. My best friend/roommate has been dating this guy for a little over three months. The problem is, I hate this guy. I've met him once, and he said some racist shit to me (I'm black, he's white). It wasn't just one comment either, it was quite a f...
A. 27 June 2009: This sounds like a tricky situation. Your friend can not possibly expect you to like him if he's being racist towards you. Is there anybody else you could move in with if this doesn't stop? Maybe this would make your friend realise how much this is ... (read in full...)
Didn't bleed after first time sex, why did this happen?!
Q. Dear cupid,i am 20year old.i had sex at first when i was 16.before that i never had a sexual connection with anybody.even not a kiss.but my first sexual experience was unusual.there was no bleeding.my boyfriend didnot get any problem to leak my ...
A. 27 June 2009: hm.. I had the same thing, I didn't bleed the first time I had sex either. It could be because your hymen had already broken before sex. This can happen especially if you were into doing lots of sports or horse riding. Don't worry its complete... (read in full...)
It feels like her love for me is fading, is there anyway I can restore it?
Q. Hi...I have a situation that I don't know how to turn it around. I'm currently in a long distance relationship. I'm in a different country then my girl. I have been away from her for close to 7 months now. We would video chat almost everyday ...
A. 27 June 2009: You have to remember that inicial spark in a relationship doesn't last forever, you have to have more than a 'spark' to make it work. Why don't you text her something sweet or next time you see her go and do something fun that you havent done bef... (read in full...)
Am I naive for believing my ex isn't just after sex? are all guys only after one thing?
Q. How do guys think? What am I not getting? I have recently been in contact with a sort-of ex (unofficial relationship) and he wants to meet up to 'discuss things'. My friend, when I told him, was angry at this. According to him, all my ex wants ...
A. 27 June 2009: I think its up to you to judge whether this guy is only after you for sex, but NOT all guys want girls for sex, there are some really nice guys out there, they're just pretty hard to find. Since youve already know him you probably can roughly judge ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant.....what should I do?
Q. I dating this guy for more then one year and now I decided to end it because its a dead end, I found out Im pregnant. He says he wants me to do an abortion, knowing the risks of abortions I wanted to keep it, but since we found out he's been ...
A. 26 June 2009: Hm.. its a tough one.
You have to think whether you'd be willing to let him in your life if you do keep it, to see the child if this is what he would want to do. If you have no means of support then I think it would be a bad idea to have a chil... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or is my cycle irregular?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex anf I was supposed to start my cycle on the 19th. I still haven't started, but took a pregnancy test on the 24th it came back negative. On the 25th I started spotting but never actually started. ...
A. 26 June 2009: Hm.. this does sound like you could be pregnant.
It might have been too early to take a test try and wait a couple of days and try one again. Spotting is a sign of pregnancy so I would do more tests if your period still hasn't came.
Hope this hel... (read in full...)
Is this what normal couples do in relationships?
Q. I'm gunna try to make this short. Basically I feel I'm horrible with relationships mainly because I overthink and overreact. So I just want to know if I'm reading to much into this. My ex and I are going back out after awhile of being broken up ...
A. 26 June 2009: Don't worry, I'm alot like this too to be honest!
Just because he hasn't contacted you doesn't mean that he's gone of you or doesn't care about you. Guys don't think like that. He probably doesn't even realise what he's done.
If this still... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill but he didn't use a condom. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Could I be pregnant? Here is what happened: My period is supposed to start either today or tomorrow. I have been taking Femcon birth control pills for a year. Well, boyfriend and I had sex last week. He forgot to bring a condom, but since I am t...
A. 26 June 2009: There is not a big chance you could be pregnant because the pill is very effective, but there is still a slim possiblility. I would wait for your period to come before you see a doctor because it may just be late if your worrying about it too much. ... (read in full...)
My mom's boyfriend did this to me, what do I do!
Q. Well for starters, this isn't an easy topic to discuss. I've had so much guilt, and frustration built in that I don't think I can do it anymore. My mom's boyfriend has been living with us now for almost 2 years. At first he seemed really cool, an...
A. 26 June 2009: This is totally wrong, you really need to tell your mum even if she will be devestated.. its better than hiding it from her and you shouldn't have to put up with that.
I think you should talk to your mum as soon as you can (when he's not arou... (read in full...)
Worried about going to the pool with my boyfriend because of my weight!
Q. okay so i have been with my boo for like a week now, school is done and he called me and asked if i want to go with him to the pool. but i am 13 and 210 pounds. but i look 160 pounds since im 5"5. but i am highly highly emberassed to go in the wate...
A. 26 June 2009: Its horrible to feel insecure about your body but trust me, you will over analalise your body, everyone does. If he's your boyfriend why would he be with you if he didn't think you were attractive, if he loves you he will accept you for who you are ... (read in full...)
Decisions decisions... go back with the ex or stay with my current boyfriend?
Q. Ok so i have a difficult decision, go back to my ex or stay with my current bf? Ive been with this guy for about 2 weeks and hes really sweet and all but now my ex has told me he wants me back and i want him so bad now. Last time we spilt up because ...
A. 26 June 2009: Its natural to miss your ex but you will probably go back to being insecure if you get back with him. I would not get back with him players = bad news
Stay with your boyfriend just now and see how it does
:)
hope this helped :P
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Pregnant girlfriend and the sex has stopped!
Q. Why Doesnt my girl wanna have sex with me anymore? We use to have sex constantly, but until she got pregnant and cut down on the sex extra hard. She is now 6 month or so and i have seen nothing....
A. 26 June 2009: Maybe your girlfriend doesn't feel comfortable having sex whilst she is pregnant or sometimes pregnancy can make woman not as sexually aroused as they would normally, alot of hormone changes go on through pregnancy that cause moods to change.
B... (read in full...)
She mentions her ex too often for comfort...
Q. My wife sometimes mentions her ex's name for whatever reason and also uses his name for passwords, usernames, etc. She says it because it's easy for her to remember; but I think it's for another reason. I haven't been snooping but I just know. Makes ...
A. 26 June 2009: I can see why you feel as if she hasn't got over him, using his name as passwords and stuff is a little bit strange...
How long did they break up before you both got together?
Maybe she still hadn't got over him if it was soon after they broke up... (read in full...)
I can't take this constant abuse. If anything goes wrong its suddenly MY fault!
Q. I can't take the blaming anymore. Ive been dating a man for over a year and everything that goes wrong, every insecurity he has is somehow a result of something I've done. If his boss doesn't return a call to him, it's because of me. If someone ...
A. 25 June 2009: I would say that he is verbally abusing you, accusing you of things constantly is not right and if it is wearing you down as a person and making you feel horrible then I think it would be best for you to find someone that loves you for you and ... (read in full...)
Handjob question...What do I do when IT happens?
Q. My girlfriend has agreed to give me a handjob. The only problem is, as everyone knows, guys ejaculate. Do I tell her to stop when that happens cause I feal like its rude making her have to clean up herself. I know its a weird question, but felt like ...
A. 25 June 2009: I think you should talk to her about it and see if she would feel comfortable with you ejectlating on her on not. Talking to her about this may make her more comfortable about doing it. Try and be open and honest about stuff like that and it will be ... (read in full...)
What are your views on premarital sex?
Q. hi there, what do you think with that I think girls and boys should have sex after getting married(for the first time)no sex before marriage what is your opinion?...
A. 25 June 2009: I believe that its ok to have sex at any time when you think that you are mature enough and you love that person. But you should always think before you do and ALWAYS use some form of contreception. I had sex at 14 and do not regret it as I was ... (read in full...)
Don't have many friends and feeling lonely, need advice on how to approach more people!
Q. recently i've been feeling very lonely. i feel like the only person i can hang around with is my boyfriend, not because he's too protective but because i don't have many friends. the popular girls in my school get on with me, but just as friends,...
A. 25 June 2009: I am in the exact same situation! I do have friends but I don't feel like they are best friends. I have one best friend that I rarely see and I usually stick with my boyfriend because he's like my bestfriend as well as boyfriend, I love him and I'm ... (read in full...)
She's really pissed off at me! Was my joke a bit harsh?
Q. Kay my friend is going to sound like a skank but please dont trash her cause I will report you!! Well my friend decided to cheat on her boyfriend for some reason with some random guy she met at a party. They had sex without using anything. She th...
A. 25 June 2009: Oh dear this sounds like a bad situation.
I think your joke was abit harsh, especially when she was freaking out about it, think of yourself in your friend's place, would you think it was funny? I think you should apoligise to your friend and say ... (read in full...)
Will asking him wreck our friendship?
Q. hey guys, i've seen a guy that i really like but i don't know if he likes me. we are good friends, but i am really confused!!! i have liked him since the start of year 7 - maybe 7/8 months now - but i really do not know if by me asking him out it w...
A. 25 June 2009: Obviously it could ruin your friendship but then again it might not. You have to decide whether you like him enough to risk your friendship. Also it might be a good idea to try and find out if he likes you beforehand maybe by asking someone that you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a low sperm count at 18?
Q. can you have a low sperm count a the age 18...
A. 25 June 2009: Yes it is possible for 18 year olds to have a low sperm count. It's not often clear what causes a low sperm counts, sometimes the lack of sperm can reflect an abnormality in sperm from birth but also morre commonly there may not be a reason.
I... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm bi???
Q. I'm 13 years old and never ever had a relationship before. I love chasing after guys but think I'm starting to like a friend of mine (she) is cute funny and bi How do I know if I'm bi too2?...
A. 25 June 2009: Hey =)
It could just be a phase, it's common to have a 'crush' on a friend especially if you really admire them.
If you think that it's not just a phase then could try contacting a Lesbien and Gay hotline if you would like to dicuss this with som... (read in full...)
Are bachelor/bachelorette parties wrong for our situation?
Q. Ok so my BF and I are thinking about getting married and the topic of the infamous bachealor/bachealorette party has come up. Something I should tell you is that my BF and I have been together for about 6 years now and we were teenagers when we ...
A. 25 June 2009: You can't have a good relationship with out 100% trust and I know it's hard to trust your partner after he's cheated on you but if you both really love eachother try and move on. Remember you don't have to be pressured into having one just because ... (read in full...)
34DD and breasts are still growing, when are they likely to stop?
Q. Hi. This is kind of an odd dilemma, but please bear with me. I'm nearly 15 and 5 months, and I wear a 34DD bra. I think I've outgrown them already. What do I do after that? When will my breasts stop growing? I'm really getting sick of this! I...
A. 25 June 2009: I know it is a pain, my friend is only 14 and she has 32F breasts (natural). By the sounds of it roughly you shouldn't have too much growing left to do. I'm 15 and I started my periods at 11 and I've stopped growing and I'm of a similar build to you ... (read in full...)
Is it dafe for her to come off the pill after unprotected sex?
Q. My girlfriend wants to get off her birth control pill becuase she is not happy with the weight gain that came with it. She's currently on YAZ. She's been on it for over a year and a half now. The problem is that she was planning to stop taking i...
A. 25 June 2009: Yeah she could because inside a womans body sperm can remain active for quite sometime, sometimes a few days.
So as a precaution I would keep taking them until the pills run out.
Hope this helps
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Can pre-cum make her pregnant?
Q. my girlfriend says she thinks she is pregnant and she is have all symtoms in after two days it that possible? i didnt cum in her but precumed in her can someone get preg from that? Moderators note - Have re written the question as the spelling...
A. 25 June 2009: Yes precum can definatly get you pregnant although I don't think the symptoms of pregnancy would be as early as 2 days after intercourse.
If the symptoms continue then I suggest that you should get a pregnancy test at the doctors.
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