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16 April 2010: Its like a taboo subject isnt it. A lot of people judge teenages who fall pregnant, i know this all too well. I was at the tender age of 15 when i had my first daughter then caught on again at 17 and had my second daughter. The remarks you get the ...
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I'm 17, how would I look if I dated a 15-year-old?
Q. I'm 17 and I'm wondering is dating a girl that is 15 and a freshman is that low class? She is really nice but would that make me look bad...
A. 16 April 2010: I have to just say red green i agree with most of what you are saying but yes to sleep with her he has to wait...And if thats all he is after then she needs to stay clear but there is nothing stopping him going out with her.. To be in a relationship ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to make my best friend jealous?
Q. Okay, so I like this guy and I have for a while and he finally aked me to prom, but later that day he confessed in a text that he likes my best friend. I am confused if he is using me to get closer to her or if I am a tool to make her jealous or ...
A. 16 April 2010: There is only one thing you can do here... its your best friend so tell her that he likes her. And tell him that next time instead of going through you go straight to her! It is an awful situation he has put you in! But men are men and know what ... (read in full...)
How to help my friend???
Q. my friends bf is a loser. he just got out of jail for turning some poor guy into a vegetable. she is constantly finding him lying about text/calling girls but she never finds out the content of the convos. she confronted one of the girls who to...
A. 16 April 2010: I have just read you last post! If she wants to leave but is afraid there are people that can help her. If you would like private message me and i can give you more information to pass on to your friend! I hope for her sake she gets out!... (read in full...)
How do I make this a special time?? I'm a virgin and she is not.
Q. im a virgin but my girlfriend isnt, and i dont want to be bad for our first time, so how do i make this a good and special time, not just another guy??...
A. 16 April 2010: First off still a virgin well done. Means you havent just given it away for any girl. The fact you are thinking about it now must mean you really like this girl? When it comes to it you will do what to do and if you aint sure then ask her. Ask her ... (read in full...)
I was wondering why no guys ever ask me out...
Q. Hi. I was wondering why no guys ever ask me out. I feel sort of neglected most of my friends have boyfriends or have had one before yet I am left out. I get really good grades am a brunette with brown eyes and am 5'5". I am pretty athletic (I'm not ...
A. 16 April 2010: Boys hey dont know a good thing even if it smacked them in the face. Are you really that interested in boys now? Or do you just want to do it because your friends are? Focus on you for now and then boys will come later! And if there is some one you ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife but I stay with her for the sake of the kids and have affairs. What should I do?
Q. OK im a 32 yr old male...I have been married/together with my 28 yr old wife for 12 yrs...we have 3 beautiful children under the ages of 12...the last 3 years i have cheated on her with 2 ppl...there is a 3rd person who i have not had sex with but i ...
A. 16 April 2010: Staying with some-one for the sake of the kids is not a good idea. Children are very good at picking up on vibes. You may have noticed a change in their behaviour? What you have to do is be honest with yourself and leave. It is not fair on your ... (read in full...)
I don't like her past and wonder if I should stay married
Q. hi, i'm 26 male n just got married a couple of months back. My problem is that i'm upset/angry whenever i think of the sex my wife had with her ex-boyfriends and it haunts me like i wish i were dead. She told me her past life with whom she slept ...
A. 16 April 2010: You married her knowing about her past. For one respect the fact that she told you about it, not many people like to tell current partners about their previous sexual encounters. I dont know what to say other then just deal with it and get on with ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, how would I look if I dated a 15-year-old?
Q. I'm 17 and I'm wondering is dating a girl that is 15 and a freshman is that low class? She is really nice but would that make me look bad...
A. 16 April 2010: By all means date her, take her out have fun...what you dont do is sleep with her. Even if she says she is ready... untill she 16 it IS illegal. And ensuring that you wait till she is old enough and that she wants to, will prove to everyone how much ... (read in full...)
I think she might be using me and trying to control me!
Q. I am 27 and my girlfriend is 38. She has a salon and has alot of male clients that she flirts with. Should I be concerned or let that be? She also has her act together and owns a house and 2 condos that she rents out. I on the other hand have been a ...
A. 16 April 2010: This women sounds like she is very independent and is used to things been the way she wants them to be. Sit her down and tell her how you are feeling. Maybe she is pushing you because she wants whats best for you. I see there is an age gap and you ... (read in full...)
Would he still want me if he knew I had a son?
Q. there is a guy who i have been going out with for 3 weeks he dosent know about my son and im scared to tell him in case he dosent accept me and my son are a deal he has me he accepts my son to its starting to worry me so i try not bring up my ...
A. 15 April 2010: If you really like this guy dont keep him in the dark. You have to be honest with him. I understand why you havent told him yet i can see that you would be wary. But is it not better to see how he going to react now rather then getting attached to ... (read in full...)
How to help my friend???
Q. my friends bf is a loser. he just got out of jail for turning some poor guy into a vegetable. she is constantly finding him lying about text/calling girls but she never finds out the content of the convos. she confronted one of the girls who to...
A. 15 April 2010: I agree there is nothing you can do and if you do try to help your friend may think you are sticking your nose in and she will push you away. The only thing you can do is be there for her when it goes bad. Good luck hun... (read in full...)
What do you do when you want to leave someone but feel stuck (because you live with them)?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years, and I love him deeply. However, when we moved in together 2 years ago, our relationship turned into a rollercoaster. Things will change for a little while, and everyone is happy, then he will regress back to ...
A. 15 April 2010: All you have to do is read back through everything you have just said. You are not happy in this relationship. I know how it feels to be stuck and not wanting to hurt the other person but not wanting to be there anymore. And you could go on and ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I wish I could just dissapear!
Q. Hi, I am a mother of 5, my oldest daughter is graduating this year...Then I have a 16 year old daughter and a 14 year old son, a 11 and 10 year old daughters. Well, when I was 20 I was ran over by a drunk driver, I had a spinal cord injury, I never ...
A. 15 April 2010: The very first thing you need to do hunni is leave that man, no body is more important than your kids you know that from the way you were raised. Take a look at your family your children... have you done a good job in raising them. Id say so seen as ... (read in full...)
I confronted him about another girl and he spat on me and shoved me down the stairs. How do I move on from this?
Q. I am not sure how to get over this so im asking for everyones opinion. I just recently broke up with my ex saturday because I confronted him about texting this girl and deleting messages from her. he got all pissed off kicked me out of his house ...
A. 15 April 2010: So wait a second he actually physically assulted you and you havent reported him? Men like that aint worth it. Foreget him and get on with your life. You move on by realising that you do not deserve to bo treating in such a vile manner. Forget your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible he has a personality disorder?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years. The man involved and I love each other very much and express it too each other alot. We do have our arguements. I have found when we argue all the things I tell him are thrown in my face and when we argue ...
A. 15 April 2010: Its the second time i have said this today but what you need to think about is are you happy! Some people can change and some cant. The last thing you need is to be in a relationship where you cant talk about how you feel because you are afraid that ... (read in full...)
We have not met yet so would it be unreasonable to ask him to remove other girls from his facebook?
Q. a guy i've been talking to thru internet and texting for a month says he loves me and wants to meet me so we r meeting in a few wks. i know he is who he sez he is cos met him thru a friend. on hif facebook. he has 500 friends. i'd say he knew bout ...
A. 15 April 2010: What you have to think about is how many people does he say the exact same thing too! My ex could be the guy you are talking about. He has laods of stunning lasses on his facebook, chats them all up arranges to meet up with them tells them all the ... (read in full...)
How do I explain to her my situation without losing her?
Q. I've been seeing a lovely woman for over two months now and we get along perfectly well and we have a close and intimate relationship. She recently moved to my city (and the country) while I have been here for over a decade. There is a big a...
A. 15 April 2010: What you need to do is sit her down and tell her everything. Dont hold back. If she likes you and respects you then she will understand. Alot of people are alot more understanding when they are told the truth rather than been made to feel neglected ... (read in full...)
What else can I do to get over him now he has gone back to his ex?
Q. hey, I was with this boy for only 4 months but really fell for him. he then said i was too full on so he ended it. i have now found out at hes getting back with his ex but i really do like him and cant stop thinking about him. ive tryed to keep busy ...
A. 15 April 2010: It says you are 18-21? In that case what you should be doing is going out with your mates and having a good time. He left you, there is nothing you can do about that. So go out and enjoy yourself, you are only young once and there are plenty more ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to be more friendly towards family members?
Q. Hi. My husband is very nice to me. But sometimes he gets angry for silly reasons and shouts at me. I sometime feel like getting out of it but it will be impossible. He loves his parents a lot but he never speaks to them he always shout at them. He ...
A. 15 April 2010: The main thing here is are you happy? Thats the main question you need to be asking yourself and no one on here is going to be able to answer that for you. If you are not happy thentell him and if he can sit there listen to you and make the changes ... (read in full...)
I really want to kiss him but I don't know if he feels the same!
Q. ok so theres this boy in my neighborhood i like, hes been my bff for like 2 years i really wanna kiss him but i dont know if he would kiss me or not! he's 1 year younger than me and im 14 need advice! thx...
A. 15 April 2010: Some times you just have to go for it. Talk to him let him know how you feel. He may be feeling exactly the same and just isnt sure how to express his feelings. On the other hand you have to think about whether that is what you really want. Some ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my boyfriend and should I tell him.
Q. HELLLPPP!! so im in a relationship with this boy ive been seeig for 7 mnths now and a new boy who is older than i im 16 nerly 17 this new man should i say is 23 asks me if i like him and i cudnt lie i sed yes i do he sed good i like you wht do ...
A. 7 February 2008: the fact that he is asking for sex all the time and wanted to keep it a secret that sounds like he is trying to manipulate you! you should sit down and think about what you really want whether you want to be with your bf or not! but please dont ... (read in full...)
I treat her like a princess but she keeps breaking my heart. What can I do?
Q. Hey Cupids, Really need your help right now. To cut a long and complicated story short. Met a girl at uni, had a relationship, she broke up with me over the summer. She returned a few months later wanting a casual thing. I could'nt do that, but we...
A. 22 October 2007: this girl is playing with you, she knows that if she is ever lonely then you are there! i know this must be hard to hear but you do need to move on and foreget about her! a girl who can act like that is not worth it! and trust me i do know what she ... (read in full...)
She was raped by her ex father in law. How can I cope with the distress I feel for her?
Q. Hey, My fiance has a sexual past that she is not proud of and I'm not either. It's a real problem because I get these recurring disturbing images. She is coming from a really sick marriage in which her husband tried to sell her for sex and his ...
A. 22 October 2007: what she needs is some one to talk to, some one she can trust to tell any thing! whatever you do do not force hert to speak, she will talk to you when she is ready! trust me, things like this are very hard to get over and will always be in your ... (read in full...)
Is my mind having a meltdown?
Q. Okay this is one of those things that just confuses me! If you are in a 'fun bud' relationship with a guy, who knows you care about him more than casual, are these things normal behaviour or is he showing that he cares when he can't actually s...
A. 22 October 2007: i think you are very lucky to have some one thats cares about you as much as he does! personally i think you should sit down with him and discuss how you both feel and take it from there! you sound like a very lucky lady and you would be mad to let ... (read in full...)
Will he ever come looking for me?
Q. Hi when i was 15 i started going out with this boy we were madly in love for about two years in the last 6 months it became very stormy as he had a wandering eye. Any way we broke up and both moved on he has been with his girlfriend about 3 years ...
A. 22 October 2007: your first love, this is the one thats worse because no matter how old you were you will always love them, always compare your current boyfriends to them and maybe you dont even relise you're doing it!! just sit down and think about what you have ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with losing my babies and not push my fiance away??
Q. please help me I've been going through alot and really need some good advice as i cant stop hurting and cry. My fiance is very understanding and there for me but i know he is hurting too. I can't be there for him. I feel like i do try but i feel l...
A. 17 October 2007: i not not begin to imagine how you are feeling right now! no one can stop you hurting but you two need each other so talk to him! see a counciler it may seem daft but trust me they do help! the best advice i can give you is to talk about it with the ... (read in full...)
I like a guy but the age difference keeps holding me back.
Q. Hey I am a senior in high school and im 17. I like a guy who just turned 15 so im over 2 years older. Im more worried about the age difference for his sake because i can deal with what people say, but i dont know how it would affect him. I think he ...
A. 17 October 2007: it is a very strange thing going out with some one who is under 16! the best advice i can give to you is be friends till he 16 then if you both still feel the same way make a go of things... (read in full...)
How do I help my girl get over her Father's death, and convince her that she's not going to lose me as well?
Q. Ok i really need some advice. My wife and i have been married for 7 years and together since we were 16,friends before that! So i've been there through pretty much all of her life,through the ups and downs etc. Her dad died about a week ago, the ...
A. 8 October 2007: you need to understand that it will be hard for her to talk about things right now! the best thing you can do is say that you will be there when she waants to talk and will always be there for her! take her out some where treat her, let her know how ... (read in full...)
Some questions about anal sex...
Q. Can you get pregnant when having anal sex? Do I need to use a spermacide when I have anal sex? ...
A. 1 October 2007: there is no chance, dont worry about it, and if you are worried go to the doctor... (read in full...)
In love with my cousin
Q. I fell in love with my cousin, im jus 21 and she is 28 i didnt mean to fall for her. it just started like friends but we matched eachother so well, maybe to well. I still in love with her and i know she loves me to. we've slept witheachother but now ...
A. 1 October 2007: love is a strange thing probly the worst thing in the world as you cant control it! people will say it is wrong but if you are both sreious about each othere than go for it! maybe go away for a while meet new people and if you still feel the same ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from BOREDOM! Any advice?
Q. Not really a relationship question, but more of a problem exacerbated by breaking up. I'm so bored! HELP ME! It's monday. I don't have college. It's raining. I don't have the car. My old friends who lived nearby have gone to univeristy. All ...
A. 1 October 2007: there is never any thing to do! i have had days like these where you feel asthough life is passing you by, leaving you behind, but the trick is to do some thing about it!! have you got a job? if not get one that way you will be doing some thing and ... (read in full...)
I'm hanging out my my crush tomorrow even though I have a bf! I don't know what to do!
Q. Okay guys, I love this sight for your answers to my questions - Now PLEASE Help!!!! Okay, today I was in a store with my mom and I saw my friend whom I haven't seen in a VERY long time and in that duration of long time, we both had a thing for each...
A. 27 September 2007: every one will always hold a torch for thier first love, but you need to remember that if you went back to him it might not be the same as what it used to be! you say youreally love your current boyfreind, sop compare the feelings you have for both ... (read in full...)
Cellulite: I have it, I hate it. Will it put him off?? And how can I get rid of it?
Q. Cellulite... I have it, I hate it. I know that most women have it a little bit but I still can't get over how disgusting my legs look in certain lights! It's not terrible but it's there!! Anyway, I always have sex with the lights off for this ...
A. 27 September 2007: every one has it, take a look in your magazines and even the stars have it! dont be ashamed of your body and if the man your with doesnt lik it then why you with him! but remember there is no bigger turn off than some one who is always hiding, men ... (read in full...)
I am 18, she is 15. Is it ok to date her?
Q. I've recently left my old job of which I got quite close to another person who worked there. I'm 18 but she is still 15, is it wrong if I try to make something happen- not having sex; but just having a good time together?...
A. 27 September 2007: if you really like her there is nothing wrong with it! however make sure both of your families know about it and are ok with it! and even if she says she is ready for sex wait untill she is 16! this way she will also respect you more and you will ... (read in full...)
He cheated, but he won me back... Now he's had to move 2 hours away! I love him, but I have doubts...
Q. I am so conflicted. I have been dating a man for about 4 years. Last March I found out he cheated on me with my best friend. I broke it off with him and kicked him out of my house. Afterwards he was very remorseful and fought very hard to win me ...
A. 27 September 2007: you need to be true to yourself, at the end of the day you need to be happy! you deserve to be happy so if you dont feel like you used to about this man, talk to him and let him know and do what your heart is telling you to do! all my best... (read in full...)
After I got him off, I used antibacterial lotion on my hands - could I still get pregnant from touching myself?
Q. I am on the pill and last week I was on my period. I wacked my boyfriend off and then my hands off and used an antibacterial lotion. Later, I ended up touching myself when I took a shower. Am I possibly pregnant?...
A. 27 September 2007: it is highly unlikly that you are as the semanwouldnt be able to get to your eggs and you did wash your hands! however if you are still worried go see a doctor and set your mind at rest! every thing you discuss with a doctor is confidentual! hope ... (read in full...)
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