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2 January 2011: I was revising physics when an epiphany struck me that made me realize something potentially significant about the high rates of failure in cross-gender relationships, that is male and female companionship( and if you're wondering what the ...
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Whats happening to this generation?
Q. Lately I been thinking a lot about the teens now days. I myself am a young 16 year old. I been seeing many teens throw there lives away for drugs,sex,love ect. Many have the pressure of fitting in with everyone else, that if you don't have the ...
A. 31 July 2011: In fact, i contest that increased teenage pregnacy is a bi-product of the previous generation treating teenage sexual activities as taboo instead of sufficiently providing education on matters of contraception. Saying "its bad, don't do it" doesn't ... (read in full...)
Whats happening to this generation?
Q. Lately I been thinking a lot about the teens now days. I myself am a young 16 year old. I been seeing many teens throw there lives away for drugs,sex,love ect. Many have the pressure of fitting in with everyone else, that if you don't have the ...
A. 31 July 2011: Thanks for the clarification. I apologize for my inability to agree though, its just im throughly convinced that what ever "bad" or lack of of motivation my generation suffers isn't new or more concenrated. I think it appears so because the media ... (read in full...)
Whats happening to this generation?
Q. Lately I been thinking a lot about the teens now days. I myself am a young 16 year old. I been seeing many teens throw there lives away for drugs,sex,love ect. Many have the pressure of fitting in with everyone else, that if you don't have the ...
A. 30 April 2011: Honestly, I fail to understand what fuels people's negative perception of my generation. Sex, drugs, violence and such arent making their debut now, and the level of their concentration varies depending on what circumstances surround what ... (read in full...)
I dreamt that my fiancee impregnated another girl! What does it mean?
Q. I dreamed that my fiancee impregnated someone else. What does this mean?...
A. 16 April 2011: Dreams are a glimpse into your subconcious thought processes. When you remember what you were dreaming, its pretty much equivalent to remembering what you were thinking.
Essentially, your dream was the result of your subconcious consider... (read in full...)
I am cheating on my wife, my lover has a boyfriend who cheats on her, and my lover is cheating on her boyfriend with me! What should I do about this mess?
Q. i am 34year old married man and she is 22 yrs god knows how but 3 years ago i very deeply fell in love with this girl and she was the one who proposed me that time even after knowing that i was married. i agreed and we were deeply involved, used to ...
A. 15 April 2011: I really hate to break it to you my friend, but believe me, your relationship with your wife is far from good. You're just a good enough liar to create the illusion it is, so much so you begin to believe it yourself. As for your side girlfriend,... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 15 April 2011: Actually I take that back, they are wrong. Dear Aunts/Uncles, Whilst I understand that a major contribution to the success of this site lies in the ability for all of you to voice your opinions, a certain degree of objectivity is needed in your... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 14 April 2011: Unlike the rest of the mild manner souls that serve as this site's aunt/uncles, i'm not bound by morality and conscious, so I won't be judging your motive.Quite the contrary actually, i understand. That's not to say they're wrong. As for how to ... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 14 April 2011: OP. Porn for women exists. I can send you links, if you so wish. Male nude scenes in movies exist. For mainstream acceptance, nudity in movies is typically restricted to the upper body(and sometimes the buttocks) for both genders;take it ... (read in full...)
Wife had an affair, no protection and now I won't touch her
Q. Wife having an affair This went on for a year and i didnt know. she said no condoms were used. That was it , I left. I got tested and no std's. she wants me back but all that goes through my mind was his fluids. I know after sex they leak out of h...
A. 14 April 2011: Leave her.... (read in full...)
What can I take or do to reduce the size of my breasts?
Q. Hi cupid friend! I will really appreciate if you all can find the solution to my problem and it goes... There is this guy i love and he really love me too, but the problem is that he complain how big my breast is. Please help me, what should i take ...
A. 14 April 2011: You're willing to reduce your breasts for a guy? Don't.... (read in full...)
Men versus Women
Q. Aunts and Uncles: Lately, I’ve noticed a lot of questions on this site generate divided and predictable responses depending on the gender of the poster…or the gender of the aunt/uncle answering. Yesterday I read a question posed by an upset boyf...
A. 14 April 2011: Well, I have exhausted my capacity to argue this males vs female debate any longer. I'm simply here to say that the sexism towards men, which is so prominent and accepted in western culture we don't even know it exists sometimes, is the reason I now ... (read in full...)
Found Dad's history of porn on computer. Should I confront him or tell my mum?
Q. my mum and dad have been married for about 18 years and recently things have been a bit awkward. they have been arguing quite a bit and my mum even told me a few weeks ago that she was getting fed up of my dad because i was upset and said that i was ...
A. 14 April 2011: No don't tell your mother, there are positive implications associated with that choice. All that would do is further complicate a delicate relationship. Confront him if you so wish.... (read in full...)
I cannot continue to lead a double life with boyfriend
Q. Help... I am in despair. I have been seeing a married man for a year who has been going through emotional abuse due to his wife having affairs and her having control of his life. He just cannot seem to walk away. We have chatted for 3 years before ...
A. 14 April 2011: I sympathize and all, but i can't omit his and your infidelity, even if his wife is the she bitch you described. She cheats, he cheats(with you). Hard to see it when your involved, but your double life ends with you stopping this, not him leaving ... (read in full...)
How can I hold myself back from visitng prostitutes?
Q. I again visited a prostitute for sex. But this time I an feeling very guilty. Now I don't want to go there ever again but I am not sure about my emotions. What should I do to avoid going there?...
A. 14 April 2011: The only solution I can think of is to simply stop. This can be categorized as an obsession, but theres no rational physiological factor influencing you (like nicotine in smokers) except maybe the orgasm, in which case you're a sex addict and t... (read in full...)
Need to study but friend keeps on distracting!
Q. Hiyaaaa Right my old primary school friend recently got in touch with me and I'm extremely happy and we call each other and all that. Now I'm my Easter break revising my butt off for AS and she wants me to go out with her for an hour or some...
A. 14 April 2011: AS is a drag! I haven't touched a book yet:/ HOWEVER, you have a little over a week. Work, then give yourself one afternoon off. It's healthy to balance between lesuire and obligation.... (read in full...)
Relationships: An Observational Assumption
Q. I was revising physics when an epiphany struck me that made me realize something potentially significant about the high rates of failure in cross-gender relationships, that is male and female companionship( and if you're wondering what the ...
A. 5 January 2011: In all my time on this site, this is the first time I've been addressed as OP:)...then again this is my first article/question ever so i guess it makes sense.
I was promised handcuffs once. Never happened:(
ChiGirl, I give. This here will g... (read in full...)
Relationships: An Observational Assumption
Q. I was revising physics when an epiphany struck me that made me realize something potentially significant about the high rates of failure in cross-gender relationships, that is male and female companionship( and if you're wondering what the ...
A. 4 January 2011: ChiGirl: Because of it's structure, it's almost near impossible for a real family to lack love. It's possible that, INITIALLY, a family might have been established to, for arguement's sake, provide finacial stability. But even in such a case, love ... (read in full...)
Relationships: An Observational Assumption
Q. I was revising physics when an epiphany struck me that made me realize something potentially significant about the high rates of failure in cross-gender relationships, that is male and female companionship( and if you're wondering what the ...
A. 4 January 2011: The problem with using arranged marriage as example is that the individuals involved are usually subject to other obligations eg. family tradition or finance, so they stay together with whom ever they are assigned.
The issue with comparin... (read in full...)
Relationships: An Observational Assumption
Q. I was revising physics when an epiphany struck me that made me realize something potentially significant about the high rates of failure in cross-gender relationships, that is male and female companionship( and if you're wondering what the ...
A. 3 January 2011: ChiGirl,, It's the mordern day culturization, like you said, that's underminded the concept of marriage, and I can't say i'm unhappy about that, because I don't think marriage is the best way to be rid of permeability, simply because it's pri... (read in full...)
I was told by my GF :"Girls don't like it when guys last long, they get sore and it hurts down there". Really???
Q. Hi, Happy New Year by the way! So, when I have sex with my girlfriend, first I pleasure her for about 7 minutes until she finishes, then we have sex and I last for about 1 minute on a good night. Now, once I kept "doing it" for a while after I wa...
A. 2 January 2011: Look, i dont think i've really been useful, so i'm going to give you the oy right answer, and yes, it has been said before, but if I reiterate, it will increase the chances of you having a "oh, that makes sense" moment.
Your girlfriend is wrong in... (read in full...)
I feel so out of place.
Q. Hi. I'm 18. I've never had many friends, still don't. Not because i'm weird or anything like that, just because i don't really identify myself with most people i know. I used to not care about all that, but recently i've been feeling really low.. ...
A. 2 January 2011: Sucks huh? I'm in the same hole of hell as you are, but I think I have a way out:) I used to have a group of friends that I identified with, and I really enjoyed their company, but now we're in seperate schools. Now, like yourself, the pr... (read in full...)
I was told by my GF :"Girls don't like it when guys last long, they get sore and it hurts down there". Really???
Q. Hi, Happy New Year by the way! So, when I have sex with my girlfriend, first I pleasure her for about 7 minutes until she finishes, then we have sex and I last for about 1 minute on a good night. Now, once I kept "doing it" for a while after I wa...
A. 2 January 2011: Really?!?
Can I be the first to tell you, if that's truly how she feels, your girlfriend is a keeper!... (read in full...)
She admitted to faking it! Should I forget about this?
Q. hello dear readers so i'm with my gf 1 year and 6 months...so everything is well. But...we were at a party this new year eve, so we drank a little bit as you all know...and we played a game truth all falls, so the questions were asked to my gf, and ...
A. 2 January 2011: I wouldn't kill myself about it, it's not exactly a rare thing for women to do. Just get back on the horse, or, if you're not a missionary man, let the horse get back on you.
Sex in relationships is about finding out what works and what doesn't.... (read in full...)
Why do people think they can talk down to you, just because you're serving them food!
Q. Hi guys just a random question. Since I was 14 Iv worked in fast food to aupport myself and help out my family. I'm currently in uni and online o graduate with a first. But why is it that people think they can speak to you like crap just cos your ...
A. 2 January 2011: The majority of people don't do this with malicious intent, however, psychologically, the position of power naturally evokes some people to feel oblidged to "enjoy" the authority they have over another individual, and it's all subconscious. What... (read in full...)
He's smoking again and I consider this like cheating!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 20 (almost 21) and have been together for a little over four months now. He was a smoker for two years before he started dating me and he told me he would quit once we started dating; that was the ultimatum I set for him ...
A. 1 November 2010: Everyone's entitled to their own morales so if smoking's like cheating to u, go forth as you wish, but if we want to be rational and logical thinkers, no its not. Not even a little.
Giving up smoking is a difficult process and relapsing is commo... (read in full...)
Does penis size determine if a woman will stay in the relationship?
Q. Is penis size a major deciding factor on if a women will stay in the relationship, or leave?...
A. 26 July 2010: I sure hope so!
(Checks himself)
I sure hope not!... (read in full...)
I want to find my soulmate.
Q. Ok so I'm a 21 year old, tall, decent looking guy. And I want to find my soulmate (girl). Recently I've been having sex with girls I really don't feel anything for. The sex is ok but I feel like i'm missing something here. This might sound weird ...
A. 24 July 2010: Sorry, I meant NOT qualified...i've been missing letters and words frequently recently.... (read in full...)
Can you love someone toooooo much???
Q. Hi, I really need some help. I'm going to end up breaking me and my partner up. We've been together for 2 years and I am so jealous, even when she is out with her family but I don't mean to be. While she is out I feel so alone and I take it out on ...
A. 24 July 2010: "My day say if miss someone too much, it can kill you. Say he missed me so much till it like to kill him"
-Zonia Loomis, Joe Turner's Come and Gone
"At high enough doses, that which heals can kill"
... (read in full...)
I want to find my soulmate.
Q. Ok so I'm a 21 year old, tall, decent looking guy. And I want to find my soulmate (girl). Recently I've been having sex with girls I really don't feel anything for. The sex is ok but I feel like i'm missing something here. This might sound weird ...
A. 24 July 2010: I don't believe in soulmates. Then again, i'm a cynical skeptic by profession, so i'm really qualified for this. Here's an article by someone who is:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/soulmates.html... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?
Q. Well, me and my best fried were swimming and having a wonderful time, when my boyfriend texts me I get her phone, because mine was practically dead, and when I get her phone she gets a text message from her boyfriend and he is talking about me, I go ...
A. 24 July 2010: He's a your ex, it's almost his job to be jerk.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's dad walked in on us during oral sex, kicked me out and now she wants me to apologize to her dad!
Q. I am 18 and my girlfriend will be 18 next month, we have been dating for 6 months. Her dad is a total hard ass, he is beyond over protective and he hates me jsut because I am dating his daughter. Afew nights ago we were in her basement fooling ...
A. 24 July 2010: Ms Blossom, I respect and salute your perspective, but, and correct me if my assumption is too far fetched, I'm guessing at one point or another after the fact, this gentleman's girlfriend has had to talk to her father about it and apologize. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's dad walked in on us during oral sex, kicked me out and now she wants me to apologize to her dad!
Q. I am 18 and my girlfriend will be 18 next month, we have been dating for 6 months. Her dad is a total hard ass, he is beyond over protective and he hates me jsut because I am dating his daughter. Afew nights ago we were in her basement fooling ...
A. 24 July 2010: I'm pretty sure there's no way one can say ''sorry I ate you daughter'' without provoking a punch, but you're gonna have to man up and try. You need to show your girlfriend that you are able to accept responsibility and step when required. Also, you ... (read in full...)
I'm freaked out! Girlfriend came home poured water on me at 3am! Why ???
Q. I don't know what to do. It's 3am, I was woken up by my girlfriend who dumped water on me to wake me up. What if I didn't wake up and drowned, there's a fan next to me and could have caught hypothermia and she's a nurse she would know about that....
A. 23 July 2010: Drowning and hypothermia? Exactly how much water are we talking here man, like a little lake or something?
You're overeacting, and she's a funny drunk.
And am I the only one who finds it funny this dude called himself waterdumped? Tha... (read in full...)
Theoretical question: Which of the 2 scenarios is worse?
Q. This is more of a theoretical question! Which of the following is worse: 1. Being in a relationship with a man who makes you happy and you know you would have a happy life together BUT always wondering about what could have been with someone els...
A. 23 July 2010: The thought of situation 2 becoming reality is repulsive to me. Okay, he's your ideal man, I respect and salute that, however, euthamisms aside, situation two means you are leaving a good man because you've seen something new and more appealing. To ... (read in full...)
What does double penetration mean?
Q. "OP Own Title" what does double penetration mean? Does it mean to have sex with 2 guys or to have anal and vaginal sex at the same time using your finger or a vibrator? I'm a bit confused....
A. 21 July 2010: It means you won't be walking for a week is what it means.... (read in full...)
For the men: What makes a woman beautiful?
Q. Not advice i'm after just feedback really. What makes a woman beautiful? Thanks...
A. 21 July 2010: Good genes.... (read in full...)
If I had sex with protection and it broke would I still be able to get pregnant?
Q. i havnt had my period for about... 4-5 months now. if i had sex with protection and it broke would i still be able to get pregnant?...
A. 21 July 2010: If a shield breaks during battle, it is rendered useless. The same logic applies here.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for fooling around with my ex because he is still involved with another girl?
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a situation wher me and my ex-bf have been back seeing each other for some time now, but when we broke up he meet a new girl so he is still with her! I mean we see each other daily, I go to his house and he comes to mine. We go ...
A. 21 July 2010: Yeah, you're pretty much knee deep in wrongness. Stop it.... (read in full...)
Is this a sign that he's cheating?
Q. I am living with my baby father recently i saw a condom in his bag which is different from the type we used i was wondering if it is a sign of cheating....
A. 21 July 2010: Unless you guys have a prefered brand of condom, its possible he just wanted to try Nike instead of Adidas... (read in full...)
To all the cheaters and heartbreakers out there; start being sincere and stop being deceptive because time waits for no-one!
Q. This is for most men,especially the cheaters and the heart breakers. Women are supposed to be loved not abused or get their heart broken. Men were made in the image of God and to hear how some men treat their wives,girlfriends,significant other or ...
A. 21 July 2010: The fall of man wasn't the result of Adam and Eve's lust, it was their thirst for knowledge that screwed mankind over. I know this article is about so much more, but that stood out to me.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 21 July 2010: If a girlfriend ever denied me my time alone will Lacey Duvalle, I'd probably die a little inside...just thought I should add that.
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The Truth About A Man's Sexual Appetite
Q. Please publish this question. I have no need to view answers in my inbox. I want to read them from this page. Restraint, Sacrifice, Satisfaction: Restraining sexual appetite bears a unique burden for every human male in history. Instinct...
A. 20 July 2010: Generalising at its best. I want to be mad at this article, but something about being told I have a ''barbaric anatomy'' makes me feel like a sexual Conan, and that has a nice ring to it.... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed by what I thought was my good catholic wife!
Q. I recently went to my wifes 20th high school reunion. I was ok with the fact that some of my wife's ex-boyfriends were there and unfortunately I personally know them all. My problem began when i read the last wills and tenaments from their senior ...
A. 20 July 2010: Retroactive jealousy my ass, you have a right to feel the way you feel. That said, you need to understand that, although your feelings of betrayal are justified, you weren't ACTUALLY betrayed per say.
All technicalities considered, you were und... (read in full...)
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