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I'm just an ordinary, English gal who speaks her mind. I think the world would be much better if we were all a bit more truthful, a bit more courageous, a bit more loving, and thought through what we do a bit more. If I can help anyone do these things, that makes my life all the more worthwhile. Get in touch with me anytime.
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Can a 12-year age gap work out or should I let it go?
Q. Okay, so I've been reading some of the posts on age differences and they're all pretty reassuring. I'll be legal (18) soon and have had a pretty strong interest in someone 12 years older than I am. We've developed a really great friendship and ...
A. 25 November 2006: Dearest Anon,
I'm glad all the posts are reassuring. The fact is that there are many, many successful relationships with age differences. It's up to you not to make it a problem. Don't turn something into an issue that really isn't. You and this... (read in full...)
I feel worthless and stuck in this nowhere relationship. Need advice on what I can do?
Q. my boyfriend and i have two small children. One is 16mo. and one is 2mo. He turns me down for sex, can't stop looking at other women, hides naked pics of other women and throws mine out. He lies about where he is. He goes out all night and doesn't ...
A. 25 November 2006: Do you remember the woman you used to be, when you told your friends, "Leave that loser! Women are stronger than that!"? Do you remember the certainty you felt when you said this? The confidence you felt that you were right? Do you remember the ... (read in full...)
I have chosen to 'avoid' my ex bf and his new gf..friends tell I am behaving rudely! Is this wrong?
Q. I was with my my ex for about ten years. When we broke up he moved on to someone else really quickly. Although I was really hurt I have wanted nothing to do with him since the breakup. I felt that because he replaced me so fast I wanted him out of ...
A. 24 November 2006: I don't think you are being rude at all. If this coping mechanism works for you, then that is fine. You were with this guy for a very long time and it's not easy to face an ex and his new girlf afterwards. I don't think you are wrong, rude or a ... (read in full...)
I think he's spending way too much times at his ex's place...they both seem to think I have a problem because of this!
Q. I live with my partner who I met 5 years ago and we have a young son. My partner has a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship who I accept and love and comes to stay every other weekend and in school hols. We have a good relation...
A. 24 November 2006: Hi honey. I can only suggest that you - together with your partner - get some relationship counselling to talk through these issues. There are a lot of people involved, including children, and any quick-fixes are probably not going to be fair to ... (read in full...)
My current partner wants me to cut down on my visitation with my little daughter! What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I feel as though I am in an impossible situation and don't know which way to turn, can you help! I divorced my wife earlier this year, we have a child between us who is three years old and who I see on a regular basis. I now live with ...
A. 24 November 2006: whatever you do, don't stop seeing your daughter less. that is ***not*** something your current partner can bargain about. make that clear to her. be firm and straight with your new girlfriend, explaining that there's no question of you reducing ... (read in full...)
Will this feeling of hatred toward his and his mistress's baby daughter.. ever go away?
Q. well my daughters father cheated on me had a baby with another woman. I despise this baby every time i look at her i cringe i want my daughter to know her lil sister but i know i will never accept her and i fear i will always treat her different ...
A. 24 November 2006: Hi there Angel Eyes,
I really feel for you.
You say you know that the baby did nothing wrong. Hold on to that thought - that is a piece of sanity - keep hanging on to it.
When parents treat each other badly, the very worst thing you can... (read in full...)
A new baby and confusion and hurt feelings over this child's 'surname". Help me deal with this!
Q. My boyfriend had a divorce 2 1/2 yrs ago. His wife cheated on him and left him to live with the new guy. My boyfriend and his ex-wife has a 6 yrs old daughter. The ex-wife was never re-married, just living with that guy and the daughter. Recent...
A. 24 November 2006: Hang on a minute, from the ex-wife's point of view, she has given her own surname to her baby. It's not that odd that she should want herself and both her children to have the same surname. It is up to the new guy and the ex-wife, and if they are ... (read in full...)
What do couples do other than have sex??
Q. i havent seen my boyfrind in a few weeks and its still quite new, hes in the navy and is away alot so time together isnt much. i need ideas as to what we can do. first off we seem to be nervous and it take a while to relax into each others company,...
A. 24 November 2006: in the last few months i have done the following things with by bf:
* taken turns to read a book aloud to each other in bed (its nice curled up cuddling and a funny book means you laugh lots together)
* watched a DVD together
* cooked a dinner ... (read in full...)
He always has a problem with my friends, is he a lost cause?
Q. Things are a bit rocky with my boyfriend. Since March we've split up twice but always got back together after a few weeks. When we are together we get on really well and i love him to bits but we always argue about the same thing - he always puts ...
A. 24 November 2006: Have you told him (calmly, outside an argument) how you feel?... (read in full...)
I love him so much I have considered 'stalking' him!
Q. im so in love with this bloke i have consided stalking him! is this back im still considering it?...
A. 24 November 2006: if you love him truly you won't stalk him.
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I'm 16 and I am 5 ft 6 inches. Do you think I will have another growth spurt?
Q. Hi, my birthday is in May, and Im 16 at college. Im about 5ft 5- 6 and my parents were shorter I want to know if I will still have a growth spurt? I feel like I have only had one. Other people have really shot up. Younger than me too. I havent had ...
A. 24 November 2006: I have always been tiny. I am 4 ft 10. It is probably easier for a girl than for a guy. But I really am extremely small that I stand out wherever I go. So I know a little how you feel. And my father is 5 ft 4 and has talked about how he was ... (read in full...)
We're from two different worlds, is it worth another go?
Q. After several years of dating the player type of man, and getting severely hurt...I finally started dating someone who was serious about me. However, we are from different cultures, and I can't help but feel he is less of a person than I (we are t...
A. 24 November 2006: Your honesty is amazing, and I respect that very much. But it is painful to read what you have written. You say he is "less of a person" than you, because he hasn't bought a house and doesn't have a job as good as yours. You seem to agree with ... (read in full...)
Lately, she hasn't wanted to have sex with me! Is she still attracted to me?
Q. Hi there, im 18 and my girlfriend is 17 (both over the age of consent in great britain) we have been going out for 3 months and have been seeing eachother on a daily basis for 2 to 3 hours a day after school. we have had sex, lately i h...
A. 23 November 2006: It is natural and normal for both men and women to go through times when they do not want sex. There can be many reasons for this. Don't jump to the conclusion that she no longer wants you. That is a hasty reaction and a self-centred one. Stop ... (read in full...)
I need to get over him, I dont want to, but i have to! Its proving impossible..help!
Q. hey im 17, i seriously need to get over my ex! when we went out everything was perfect, and i fell in love with him. he told me he loved me too and that there was no other girl out there he could see himself with, but it wasnt long untill everything ...
A. 23 November 2006: the pain of ending a relationship with someone you love is great indeed. most readers won't need your explanation "it hurts too much", they will know only too well how severe this pain is.
i think you are already part of the way there, because ... (read in full...)
Iquickly kissed my fiancee's workmate...should I tell my fiancee or not?
Q. Should I tell my fiance or not? Last night my partners work mate came over so I could keep him company, as he has recently split from his girlfriend. I was very tipsy, and a sympathy hug ended in a kiss on the lips, it was very quick and it was only ...
A. 23 November 2006: Your fiance is the person you are planning to spend the rest of your life with, right? Is there anything more important when starting out on this path than to do so truthfully?
If one day your husband meets someone and fancies them a little b... (read in full...)
He cheated on me twice then asked his friend to tell me, it was over! I still feel for him though and I want to know why he did this?
Q. About a month ago, I was 'dumped' by my 1 year boyfriend. He has told his friends he has cheated on me twice, and his friends told me. I am absolutely appauled. Even so, I still feel something for him. He has not spoken to me since the break-up...
A. 23 November 2006: When I got dumped by someone I loved very much I wanted desperately to know why. After all, the relationship seemed perfect. And he was a really good guy. That was ten years ago. I never got the answer to my question, but I understand now that ... (read in full...)
The doc took blood tests but I have been smoking pot - will they still take me seriously if they find out?
Q. I'm ill at the moment and the doctors have taken blood tests to try and work out what's wrong with me. I think It's to do with depression as I've never felt this low before, and as a result I have been smoking weed occassionally. Will this show up ...
A. 23 November 2006: If the doctor doesn't take you seriously, get a new one. Your priority right now is to make yourself better... concentrate on that. It is really good to hear you've had the courage to go to the doctors and take tests. Don't let anything get in ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but should I try it on with her cousin instead?
Q. hi im in love with one girl, but i dont believe i will ever be with her. Its just i dont think she feels the same and never will, no matter how hard i try but i like her cousin and she loves me is it wrong to try things with her cousin when im still ...
A. 23 November 2006: you should definately not go out with this girl's cousin if you are doing it in any way to get closer to the girl you really love. be honest with yourself. do you want to try and make a go of things with the cousin for who she is? you say you ... (read in full...)
18 months into our relationship and I feel like a kept secret!
Q. i have been dating a guy for 18 months, i have never met any of his family, even while doing a car boot sale his parents were there talking to him and he never introduced me when i asked if they knew who i was he said no sure they have never seen ...
A. 23 November 2006: dear irisheyes,
deep down you probably know the answer to your question, don't you?
when someone really cares for you, they will embrace you
in all parts of their lives. some things are difficult to share and it takes time to truly let an... (read in full...)
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