I have trouble committing. What do I do?
Q. Hi I met this girl during "vacation" and we had a one month "affair" (she was in an LD). She got in some minor fight with her bf and I could tell that she was waiting for me to ask for some kind of commitment. But every time the opportunity aros...
A. 17 April 2009: Well, i should stop blaming her. I guess I didnt like her enough or something... I got her in this mess with her boyfriend in the first place... but why do i keep thinking about her? I dont get it...... (read in full...)
I have trouble committing. What do I do?
Q. Hi I met this girl during "vacation" and we had a one month "affair" (she was in an LD). She got in some minor fight with her bf and I could tell that she was waiting for me to ask for some kind of commitment. But every time the opportunity aros...
A. 17 April 2009: Ok I love(d) her... but I dont get it... thanks for the advice, yeah i should have felt sorry, but how can i commit to someone who cheated on their boyfriend, begged their way back to them, then left them again (for me... coz i apologized). How can ... (read in full...)
I have trouble committing. What do I do?
Q. Hi I met this girl during "vacation" and we had a one month "affair" (she was in an LD). She got in some minor fight with her bf and I could tell that she was waiting for me to ask for some kind of commitment. But every time the opportunity aros...
A. 17 April 2009: Well I finally understood the problem.
I didnt believe in it.
She didnt invest in it.
We got caught in a circle where i didnt want to believe lest she invest, and she didnt want to invest lest I believe.... (read in full...)
I have trouble committing. What do I do?
Q. Hi I met this girl during "vacation" and we had a one month "affair" (she was in an LD). She got in some minor fight with her bf and I could tell that she was waiting for me to ask for some kind of commitment. But every time the opportunity aros...
A. 17 April 2009: I think looking back the problem is i wanted to commit, but i wanted her first to show some sign of apprectiation, investing in our relationship or at least appreciating the work that it takes me.
She apparently never did, on the opposite she thou... (read in full...)
How do you get over having your heart broken by someone who you know you will always love no matter what?
Q. How do you get over having your heart broken by someone who you know you will always love no matter what? She said she doesn't think she is in love with me any more. I have loved her for almost 6 years. I know I always will. To be blunt. it's sh*t...
A. 27 October 2008: The guys who dwell on it might have been mistreated by their mum, so every time they get their heart broken they remember that... Or... well they might have been waiting a long time for this love (like a decade... like me...)... so you see... n... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that if I tell her I want more than the sexual relationship we have, she'd stop seeing me (she's my friend's fiancee.)
Q. My name's Steve, and I'm 35. *all names changed* I've been working with a guy named Ryan who's 25 for the last 12 months. When we first started working together, he invited me over to his house to hang out with his friends and have a few drinks. ...
A. 15 October 2008: You sound jealous of nate, that's not good, it doesn't make you look good. Hows her relationship with him? Is it deteriorating? If not... after 6 months... then this girl is really not a saint... If she loved you she'd have drifted apart from ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her I love her without ruining our friendship?
Q. I'm 16, I love a girl but I didn't tell her that because I'm not confident about myself. I'm not so tall and handsome. We're saying to each other that we're just good friends, nothing more. Now I want to build a strong image of myself to her ...
A. 13 October 2008: Ask yourself, how can I not tell her that I love her without ruining a chance to go out with her...
Friendship is easy to find... love is much harder to find.
I think you're just making excuses...
Once I was friend with a girl (i tried to hit... (read in full...)
Have I lost her forever? She has no patience left for me...
Q. Ok so if you have read my other question you already know what has been going on somewhat, but for those who havent. My girl that i am madly in love with has decided she wants to know what its like to be single. To not have to worry about anyone but ...
A. 10 September 2008: She seems to be afraid of commitment... or maybe love has faded... any case LEAVE HER ALONE, ok? Make a plan on when u call her and stick to the plan, however you feel.
If you love someone, set them free, if they come back to you, they're yours fore... (read in full...)
Should I give it another go with my girlfriend after she cheated?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now. I know it doesn't seem like a long time but we have been friends for a couple years and with her I feel different then I have with any other girl. So I was out of town recently for my job and she ...
A. 7 September 2008: You treat her like gold, so she goes cheat with the "bad guys"... Some women love "bad guys" and take advantage from good guys.
If she wants u back, she has to beg you back... You have to be a bad guy too and teach her a lesson and stop trea... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me, I dumped him, but he seems to have really changed. Is forgiveness possible?
Q. Okay, I need some advice... I don't normally come on these asking random people for advice but I'm in a really difficult spot and thought I could hear some people's opinions. My boyfriend of a year and a half just recently cheated on me. It broke me ...
A. 7 September 2008: There's always chance he might do that again... but since he seems to be suffering and crying, I think he learned his lesson...
I think he did that as a way to sabotage your relationship because he's afraid to trust u and let go to ur love.
He mu... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 7 September 2008: FFS he cheated, YOU went back to him, he doesnt want you???
Get out of there... let the asshole suffer, in 2 weeks when he'll realise what he has spoiled. He will come back begging you...
Go throught the pain and stop trying to change the past. Ev... (read in full...)
Do I choose to leave my partner of 15 years, or give up my lover?
Q. Maybe a typical problem, but I have to choose between my partner and my lover. There is no right or wrong, just a unhappy situation that needs fixing. I have been with my partner for about 15 years, a partner that I love dearly but love only as ...
A. 3 September 2008: You accuse her from being selfish... but did you ever wonder about her needs...? Did you ever ask yourself during the 12 years what you could do for her?
Ask her, please her, give her more of what she wants, and then maybe she will be more will... (read in full...)
Is it possible to make yourself like someone?
Q. There is this guy who likes me a lot and have for years. He's very sweet to me and would make a great boyfriend, which is what i really want. The problem is that im not attracted to him at all. I still have very strong feelings for the guy I lost my ...
A. 28 August 2008: How many times did u see him... maybe u didnt give him enough chances... somtimes it takes time to fall in love...
But beware, if he "sweeps u off ure feets" too fast... he might be a commitment phobe. Check previous relationship history...
U can... (read in full...)
Should I try and steal this girl from her long distance boyfriend?
Q. I am studying abroad right now and realized I like a girl here. The thing is this girl has a boyfriend. She has been dating him for about 7 months or so, but he moved to another part of the country about 4 months ago. She talks to him a lot, and I ...
A. 19 August 2008: Just dont understimate what can happen between you.
Let me tell you my story, and I'm just (still not) recovering from it.
I was working in dubai, and i met a cute chinese girl, I did everything right with her, was nice and all, and i think sh... (read in full...)
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