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I'm 24, hot and still a virgin

Q.   I am a very attractive 24 year old female virgin and I’m ashamed that I have yet to be intimate with someone. I have never been in a serious relationship and have never done anything more than kiss. I am worried that when I find a guy I want to have ...

A.   24 January 2009: Honey, you should be so proud of yourself! Keep your high standards, and wait for the right guy to come along. No guy is going to think you're weird. They'll feel so honored that you chose THEM to lose your virginity to. ... (read in full...)

I stuff my bra, don't want any guy touching me there

Q.   so basically, i dont mind if a guy touches me anywhere, but since i stuff my bra, i dont really like them to touch my breasts... and im scared that my boyfriend will want to touch me there, and be confused if i say that he can touch me anywhere else ...

A.   24 January 2009: Stop stuffing your bra and get a bra that has its own padding. It would confuse him and make him more curious about what's going on there if you tell him he just can't touch your breast area.... (read in full...)

IF I have sex will a doctor know?

Q.   Okay, I've been dating this guy for a year now, I'm in love with him. Like any woman who is physically attracted to someone, I want him. SOOO bad. I've never wanted someone so bad. I know we'll be together 'forever' or else I'd never con...

A.   24 January 2009: 1- Maybe. If a doctor examines your vagina after sex within a days, there will be vaginal tears. Your hymen will also be broken, but very often that happens naturally, so that's not necessarily a telltale sign. Your parents won't be able to tell, ... (read in full...)

Best friend commited suicide

Q.   hey everyone, this isn't much of a relationship question, but somewhat. My best friend in the whole world just commited suicide! i couldnt get to his house to help him and talk to him because i am pregnant, this is extreamly stressfull a...

A.   24 January 2009: Oh baby, I'm so sorry. Please don't blame yourself for this. Some people just can't take the things life throws at them, and nothing anyone does can help them. Grieve for him, and cry for him, but don't be mad at yourself and don't blame yo... (read in full...)

I just can't tell if he's interested or not

Q.   I have been dating this guy i met online about 3 months ago. We have been out twice so far and he has invited me to his house this weekend and is cooking me dinner...but i still dont know where i stand with him or if he is that into me. When i log ...

A.   24 January 2009: Yeah, I think he's interested, but this is a confusing time for him right now. It's probably hard for him to handle the emotions coming from his wife and you, so sometimes he probably does not want to talk to you because he may just be in a bad ... (read in full...)

Can she be straight but have feelings for me?

Q.   So I have this girl that I have been best friend's with for about 6 years now. When I came out about being bi last year she confessed that she had thought she had had some feelings for me for awhile. To make a VERY long story short, she felt she ...

A.   24 January 2009: I honestly believe that you can't choose in life who you love whether it be a man or woman. You all have known each other for a long time, and for most of that time she has "known" she was straight. Then you came out, and that probably made her ... (read in full...)

Should have never let it go this far

Q.   Ok so I have been seeing this guy for over a year. We are still just seeing each other. He comes over almost every weekend when he doesn't have work. We usually go out to eat, movies, or both. Whatever we feel like doing. We do have sex. I'm just so ...

A.   24 January 2009: Stop having sex with him until he commits to a relationship with you. To him it seems like you're both just having a good time. Now it seems like you're wanting more and your heart is on the line. Let him know your feelings have changed and see ... (read in full...)

I need advice--I can see myself with both men?

Q.   Hi, I am a 23 yo woman and I am at my wits end trying to figure out if I should go back to my ex or stay with my man. Here's the story: My guy and I (whom I will refer to as RW) have been together for 15 months. Our relationship began and moved ...

A.   24 January 2009: I don't think you should be with either of them. One hits you, and the other has a string of nasty relationships, and 3 possible children by 3 different women. You really can't help but to wonder why RW seems to have had so many problems with wome... (read in full...)

I never came during sex?

Q.   i have never came during sex and i'm in love with this guy i've been whith for a long time... what should i do???...

A.   24 January 2009: A lot of women need clitoral stimulation as well as vaginal. Have you had an orgasm on your own? If not, take time and explore your body. If you have, think about what works for you, and just add that to your intercourse.... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about the "nasty", hardcore, pissing porn?

Q.   Do you think it's a serious problem if my boyfriend of two years looks at " nasty" porn , like with women drinking piss while getting f@cked? I don't have a problem with him looking at "regular" porn, but what scares me about this is that it seems ...

A.   23 January 2009: He does probably think you'd freak out so that's why he's secretive. Maybe you could try to bring it up without mentioning that you snooped and see if he has anything to say just to put your mind at ease. Otherwise just leave it alone unless he ... (read in full...)

Do you think this guy is for real?

Q.   is he for real? am 24years old and my bf is 34. we have known each other for about 4years. the problem we have always had is distance, but more to that now is that he proposed to me some months back which i accepted and he promised to see my paren...

A.   23 January 2009: Hmmm.... I don't think it's normal to go a month without calling your fiance. Has he always been this way or just recently? If it's recent, I think there's more going on than what he's told you. If he's been this way the entire time, he eith... (read in full...)

Are my fiance's bizarre behaviors something to be concerned about?

Q.   I'm going to try to keep this brief, but I do tend to be wordy. So please, forgive me if I start rambling. I am a 47-year-old female and have been with my fiance for a little more than 2 years now. We have been engaged for a little more than...

A.   23 January 2009: Oh babe... you need to go with your gut. His behavior is not normal at all! Nothing you've described can even be construed as normal. Quite honestly, I thought you were describing an autistic person...the seemingly uncontrollable touching, the ... (read in full...)

5 years later, suddenly we've been sexless for 5 months?

Q.   I am looking for advice, I do not know what to do, my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years now, we HAD the most incredible sex life up until 5 months ago, then nothing, literally nothing. I think I am fed up, I can't live like this a...

A.   23 January 2009: Something MUST have happened. You don't go from 5 years of lots of sex, to nothing. Has she gained weight and feeling insecure? What happened around the time that this started? You need to dig deeper, and don't accept the "I just don't want it." ... (read in full...)

I really want to know how he feels without making it obvious that I like him.

Q.   Okay, I've seen a lot of questions like this and none of the answers have really helped, and I really do need advice on this one. I'm in Year 9 and recently, I've got to know a boy in Year 12 and now I'm starting to fall for him. He really is a...

A.   23 January 2009: Well, one way to tell is to see if he's treating the other girls he knows the same way. If you're the only one, then I would say that he does like you. Since he's in grade 12, he may have a lot of stuff on his mind that would make him hesitate in m... (read in full...)

Is my ejaculation normal?

Q.   I'm a healthy 24 year old guy, but I'm concerned with my ejaculation. Whether it's masturbation or sex, it is always very liquid - not much different at all from the viscosity of urine. It doesn't in any way resemble what I would typically think of ...

A.   23 January 2009: It could have to do with your diet, as that determines a lot about the consistency. Also, if you frequently masturbate, that will make it more runny. Maybe go a week without masturbating and see if it changes. If not, and you are worried abou... (read in full...)

I'm curious about BDSM. Does this mean I'm gay or being selfish towards my wife?

Q.   I wnat to know if I want to explore anal stimulation and penetration for my wife and myself. Does it really mean I have homosexual tendencies. I am very curious about the BDSM lifestyle and the femdom practices. I really would like to get my wife to ...

A.   23 January 2009: I don't think you're being selfish. The anus is a very sensitive and erogenous zone, and wanting to touch and be toughed there doesn't make you gay. That being said, your wife may not think that way, and trying to convince her of that may be toug... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about the "nasty", hardcore, pissing porn?

Q.   Do you think it's a serious problem if my boyfriend of two years looks at " nasty" porn , like with women drinking piss while getting f@cked? I don't have a problem with him looking at "regular" porn, but what scares me about this is that it seems ...

A.   23 January 2009: Not unless he starts trying it on you. People like to explore things, and it may just be a novelty to him (Kind of like "What in the hell are these people doing??"). If he does start to dominate you and you don't like it, you have to tell him. H... (read in full...)

Could I still be pregnant or is this just normal?

Q.   I'm in a long distance relationship but everytime we meet up we have sex. We met up and decided to not use a condom. He didn't "cum" inside me but could i still be pregnant as i have missed a period or is this just normal?...

A.   23 January 2009: Yeah, you could. Go get a pregnancy test right now. Get the kind with 2 in a box, take one now, and take one a week from now if the first one is negative.... (read in full...)

How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.

Q.   Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We o...

A.   23 January 2009: Only time will tell, best of luck to you!... (read in full...)

Is he playing hard to get? Does he want me to ask him out?

Q.   He liked me a lot for more than 1 year, it was extremely obvious, but when he showed his true feelings i strongly rejected him in different ways, 'cause i was kinda shy.. but he never insulted me and he's the type who would do it. now he knows for ...

A.   23 January 2009: I think he's afraid and he's trying to make you jealous. You should ask him out because you rejected him in the first place, and now he's not sure what to do with you.... (read in full...)

I am afraid that I will never get the chance to go out with him once I go back to school.

Q.   I have a guy who I see at the at the local health club I go to. I really, really like him and I think he likes me, too. But I start school soon so I won't get to see him any more because he goes at the health club when I am at school (and only then ...

A.   23 January 2009: Ask him out. That's the only way you'll figure it out i a timely manner.... (read in full...)

What do you think I should do?

Q.   Me and My first love broke up a little over a year ago. We were together for about 2 years. We broke up for many reasons. We both messed up and cheated on eachother, it was our first time being in love, our longest relationship and our first serious ...

A.   23 January 2009: It sounds like you played the field and discovered that you all prefer each other over other people. You were younger, so maybe the time apart has matured you and you're ready to go the distance. You can either try it again, or not and wonder for ... (read in full...)

Trying to understand if he's bi.

Q.   Hello all, I have a friend , whos been married and been in relationships with other women. being gay myself i think i have a hard time knowing exactly how a str8 acts with another guy friend. as i probably see into things that a str8 wouldn`t. ...

A.   23 January 2009: Hmmm... I think he's feeling himself out to see if he's gay/bi. I think he might be using you as a tool, so protect your heart.... (read in full...)

Could his stalling mean his love has faded?

Q.   Quick question Mybfriend of a year said he wanted to move in with me (his idea) this year but now says its too soon and he has so much to sort with his house/mortgage. He is still being the same with me as before but does go distant some tim...

A.   23 January 2009: It depends... are you moving into the house with the mortgage, or is he selling that or renting it or something else? If you're moving into that house, he's stalling. If not, he may just be trying to sort that out before he brings you into the ... (read in full...)

What is the difference in feelings between real love, and infatuation or lust?

Q.   Kind of a general question. What is the difference in feelings between real love, and infatuation or lust? I ask as there is this one girl who on two occasions I have stopped feeling attracted to and then am again at a later point. Througho...

A.   23 January 2009:'s different for everyone. But, I think you need infatuation and lust to be in love. The infatuation is where for feel like you can't breath without someone, and lust is when you want to screw their brains out. Love is the one that last... (read in full...)

I think I'm over my first love, but if I am why did I have this dream? Help me!

Q.   Hi, i've just had a very strange dream, and I wondered if you could help me understand it. It featured my first love, a new potential girlfriend, and a girl who I know but I'm not interested in. It's a little sketchy, but please try and help me ...

A.   23 January 2009: Some people see dreams as premonitions, and others see them as crap. I think dreams process things your mind sees and thinks about at random. I think you're nervous about having a new relationship, and you're wondering if you're really ready for ... (read in full...)

My ex called me after 6 months of not talking. What does this mean?

Q.   Please help me. He called me after 6 months of not talking. What does this mean? Does he want me back or did he just want to see how I was doing? Can you help me. Ok me and my ex broke up over a year ago. He told me that he didn't see forever with...

A.   23 January 2009: You're not crazy or dumb. I think this guy is just confused. I think he loves you, but he can't figure out if he wants to be with you. Do you want to be with him? Consider everything you've gone through together, and the hot and cold you get ... (read in full...)

What did my husband's odd dream about me and another man...really mean?

Q.   my husband is impotent, but recently I found out he was in contact by facebook and mobile with an ex girlfriend, who he says he never spoke to just texted and never met up although there was talk, did I stop him before he started an affair, also ...

A.   23 January 2009: Does your husbands impotency really bother you? I think it's odd that that's the first thing you said. Why was he in touch with an ex? You may have stopped an affair for now, but you can't stop it forever if he still wants it to happen. Ask him ... (read in full...)

I love my ex-boyfriend very much, but he loves someone else.

Q.   I love my ex-boyfriend very much, but he loves someone else. If I call him he come to me and he behaves like he is my boyfriend. They both love each other, me too love him madly. I need him so much and I want him to be in love with me. What can ...

A.   23 January 2009: You can't make someone love you. Please move on.... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem as dedicated to our relationship as I am.

Q.   I'm in a complicated relationship with my boyfriend, like me and him are secretly dating. We've been on a break once for about a month we broke up once for about a week but we do love each other a lot... or at least I love him a lot. We've been ...

A.   23 January 2009: Yes, he's losing interest, and he's probably seeing someone at school. Make a surprise trip if you can and see for yourself.... (read in full...)

It feels weird having sex with him because we are so close.

Q.   Okay im confused. I have this friend named chris. I have been friends with him for 6 years. He is gay. But i have had sex with him twice. I see him more then a friend. Like a husband, cus i can always tell him everything. I don't know if i'm in love...

A.   23 January 2009: Okay. It seems like there are a lot of issues here. The first one is that you can only have sex with guys you don't know. Are you afraid of commitment? Have you been hurt in the past? My best guess is that the answer is "yes" because you are ... (read in full...)

He blows hot and cold. Should I stay with him?

Q.   Right now I'm dating a guy who I really, really like but I don't know what I should do about him. He ignores me all the time, and when I ask him why he says that he doesn't want to be too clingy. I understand that, but now it's gotten to the point ...

A.   23 January 2009: Dump him because he's not mature enough to have a relationship with you. He ignores you in front of his friends, he ignores your messages when he's with his friends, and yet when you're alone, he's all lovey dovey. He doesn't want to seem ... (read in full...)

Is this just a normal shift on our schedules or is he pulling away?

Q.   I was married for nearly 10 years. My husband always seemed distant and I began to find outside interests, hobbies and friends so I could avoid spending time with my spouse. After the divorce, I met an interesting man. At the beginning of our ...

A.   23 January 2009: No, I don't think you're over analyzing this. Communication is the most important thing you have n a relationship. I'm sure the shifting of your schedules has caused a rift in your life together, but he has to be willing to at least talk about it. ... (read in full...)

I haven't "came on" this month, could it be because of the morning after pill?

Q.   I had unprotected sex and came on my period a couple of days later (on time) but I wanted to take the morning after pill just to be safe so I did so. I then came on my period the next month on time again but quite heavily. But this month I haven't ...

A.   23 January 2009: I doubt you're pregnant. I think the pill has just messed with your body's natural cycle. Take a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease.. stress can also cause you to miss your period, so worrying about it will make it come on even later.... (read in full...)

How do I stop being so possessive and crazy everytime he talks to another girl?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two and a half years. The first year and a half of our relationship, everything was great. He was such a sweetheart and I completely trusted him in all aspects of our relationship. This past February ...

A.   23 January 2009: He is acting this way because of his parents divorce. When something has been a part of you for your entire life, and you've had this support group for your entire life and it suddenly goes away, that's a major problem. He wants to know he is ... (read in full...)

She doesn't want me! I need a solution, besides just moving on!

Q.   I am in love with my first cousin and have been through a lot with her in a few months of our relationship. We start of well and now in a long distance relationship. I am a posseessive and full of insecurities and that messed up our relationship. ...

A.   23 January 2009: She doesn't want to be with you, and you are not going to change her mind. Give yourself some space from her (don't call her), and realize how amazing you are without being with a woman. You have to be happy and love yourself...the rest will fall... (read in full...)

She says I am like her brother!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have a 'friend' who I have been seeing a lot lately whether it be a date, at my house for a swim or even we go shopping together. She has even called in sick at work just to spend the day with me (in my pool, lunch, then the movies)...

A.   23 January 2009: Awww... you really can't make her see you as more than a friend, because you're playing the role of her friend. She knows how you feel about her, and by her not doing anything about it, and telling you she doesn't want to lose you AS A FRIEND, she ... (read in full...)

The Introvert... or is he? You tell me!

Q.   Ok here is my situation: I am 28 and met this great guy who is 27 and I have seen him 5 times. He is really cute and just seems like an all around good person: what's the problem you ask: copy of our conversation: I was asking him what he was look...

A.   23 January 2009: I think you're doing okay so far. It's just going to take time with him. He should be asking you out though. Go a few days without contacting him, and see if he calls/texts you. If he doesn't and a week goes buy, call him and say "It's been a ... (read in full...)

How can I tell my ex there will never be an "us" without hurting his feelings?

Q.   I'd just like some advice about what to do with my ex boyfriend, he will not leave me alone I have a new boyfriend now but we're keeping it quiet for a bit to see how it goes. The other day I explained to my ex that I didn't want to be with him and ...

A.   23 January 2009: I think he'll figure it out as long as you continue to tell him no when he asks you out, and you don't tell him you love him. Of course it hurts him... and it'll hurt when he figures it out, too. But he will, and he will move on on his own. ... (read in full...)

His friends say he likes me but he hasn't said so

Q.   There are a group of boys in my p.e. class and for the three days they keep on insisting that I should date one of there friends. They say he likes me, the way I voice, and that he likes my eyes. But they say it in front of him and he says that he ...

A.   23 January 2009: His friends put him on the spot and he was embarrassed. He probably does like you, but he's shy. Maybe someday he'll make a move, but until then, I would move on with my life until he's no longer embarrassed about his feelings. ... (read in full...)

How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.

Q.   Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We o...

A.   23 January 2009: I think you need a heart to heart with him. I also don't see my methods as "sneaky psychology." Either talk to him about how you're feeling without getting emotional, or take a break to evaluate the relationship and figure out if this is really ... (read in full...)

How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.

Q.   Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We o...

A.   23 January 2009: You all are in a bad cycle where you're both frustrated, but neither of you seems quite ready to give this relationship up. As far as respect goes, you earn it. I'm saying that for the benefit of the two of you. I'm not sure how your culture is, ... (read in full...)

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