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Can she be straight but have feelings for me?

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Question - (24 January 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 24 January 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, *iara08B writes:

So I have this girl that I have been best friend's with for about 6 years now. When I came out about being bi last year she confessed that she had thought she had had some feelings for me for awhile. To make a VERY long story short, she felt she wanted to be intimate with me, so we were and after that her feelings for me kept getting stronger and stronger until finally she confessed that she was in love with me. Now, what I don't understand is, how can this be when, after talking about it she felt positive that she's never been attracted to any other woman in the least so she didn't feel as if she really was bi because "you have to like woman and men, not just men and one woman.". So... I'm confused. What's going on here?

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A female reader, PunkyPippi United States +, writes (24 January 2009):

PunkyPippi agony auntI honestly believe that you can't choose in life who you love whether it be a man or woman. You all have known each other for a long time, and for most of that time she has "known" she was straight. Then you came out, and that probably made her realize her feelings for YOU. Not some other girl, or other girls, just you.

You have shaken her beliefs about sexuality, so for now, let her think what she wants about her sexual preference. At the age you all are, you're still discovering who you are, so give her time to admit that she may be bi. For now, just enjoy the love you share.

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