How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We o...
A. 23 January 2009: Only time will tell, best of luck to you!... (read in full...)
His friends say he likes me but he hasn't said so
Q. There are a group of boys in my p.e. class and for the three days they keep on insisting that I should date one of there friends. They say he likes me, the way I voice, and that he likes my eyes. But they say it in front of him and he says that he ...
A. 23 January 2009: His friends put him on the spot and he was embarrassed. He probably does like you, but he's shy. Maybe someday he'll make a move, but until then, I would move on with my life until he's no longer embarrassed about his feelings. ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for this love
Q. Well I kind of feel confused about this so called "relantionship". Im 16 and in 11th grade but it all started when i was in 8th. Theirs this boy who use to like me and would make passes at me all the time asking me to marry him and everything, he ...
A. 23 January 2009: I don't think you're crazy.. some guy who use to like you is suddenly THE man to be with. It's only natural for you to regret your decision.
I think he considers you a good friend for your past together, but that's about it. ... (read in full...)
Actions speak louder than words and I'm the one always making the 1st move
Q. well ive been talkin 2 this guy for about a month n change. He is 21 and im 18 the problem is im not 2 sure if he likes me as much as he says he does.We talk on the phone but thats only if i call him 1st bcuz he doesnt call me.For the time we have ...
A. 23 January 2009: I know you can't imagine what it's like to have a child, but they do take up a lot of time. If he also has a job, he's probably pretty exhausted at the end of his days.
Do you think you can handle being in a relationship where you'll always be seco... (read in full...)
Comments on his facebook have got me wondering what he feels towards me
Q. I've just split up from a long term relationship. I like this new guy. We've met twice, the first time I chatted to him briefly, I knew that I liked him but thought he didn't like me as he didn't seem that responsive so I left as I didn't want to ...
A. 23 January 2009: It would bug me too, but I agree with you that it shouldn't. Perhaps he is sensing your hesitation at getting involved. He's chosen to not limit his options since you may not be ready for an exclusive relationship. I would go on more dates with ... (read in full...)
Its always up to me to make the first move
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over a year now. It seems that I always have to make the first move every single time to call her or even ask her out, and when she is feeling moody due to work, she doesn'...
A. 23 January 2009: Has she been like this since your relationship started?? Maybe she doesn't know how to be a girlfriend. Some girls don't know how to go from friends to girlfriends because it's a different relationship. She might be old fashioned and want the guy ... (read in full...)
Am I just someone for him to talk to?
Q. Ok so I have been talking to this guy(getting to know him)for about 2 months. We have hung out a couple of times,he has told me he has a crush on me, we text and talk on the phone almost every day. He calls me sweetheart, hun, gorgeous, sweetie and ...
A. 23 January 2009: Maybe he prefers in person interaction as opposed to texting. I HATE texting, because you can't see the subtle cues the person gives you through their voice, their facial expressions, and what their bodies are doing.
If he has a crush on you, take... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel? Is this relationship possible?
Q. I have graduated from college and have known one of my profs for about five years now. We've really hit it off and become good friends, but now I think it's becoming something more. When I was his student, he would pick on me in front of the cla...
A. 23 January 2009: Well, I admire BOTH of you for not doing anything foolish while you were in a student/teacher relationship.
It sounds like he has feeling for you, and if he accepts your invitation, there's not doubt in my mind that he does.
Go for it!!!... (read in full...)
She doesn't care about me at all, and now I think I HATE her; but I'm still upset that I lost her as a friend.
Q. I was best friends with this girl since I was in the 3rd grade, were almost done high school now and I feel like she's become a totally different person. She ignores me, expects me to work around her schedule and basically does nothing to prove to ...
A. 23 January 2009: That's rough, but unfortunately it's just a natural progression of growing up. People aren't going to stay the same people they were when they were 8. In fact the person she is now, probably won't be a shadow of the person who she will be. The ... (read in full...)
A month ago I found out that I wasn't the only one that he was in love with.
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for two months now. Just about a month ago I found out that I wasn't the only one that he was in love with. I was shocked at first and then found out the other girl started dating another guy. Just recently I've ...
A. 23 January 2009: Did you find out because he told you, or did you find out because other people told you?
Is this guy honest? At 16, most guys don't really know what love is all about, they just have a ton of hormones in them that turns their head every five minu... (read in full...)
We are just sexually connected and not on the right level that we should be connected on.
Q. My situation is pretty complicated. I'm 16 and this boy that i like is gettin his license on the 2nd. thats less then two weeks and he plans on fucking in the car as soon as he gets it. I know that is all he wants cuz he can't even have a normal ...
A. 23 January 2009: I'm so sorry, but your question makes me giggle. Does this guy like you? Like, is he a friend at all, or just someone you're attracted to that is flirtatious?
I wouldn't sleep with him right now. It seems like he's more interested in just havi... (read in full...)
How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We o...
A. 23 January 2009: I think you need a heart to heart with him. I also don't see my methods as "sneaky psychology." Either talk to him about how you're feeling without getting emotional, or take a break to evaluate the relationship and figure out if this is really ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he call me now?
Q. I met a guy last year around November at a gathering. He facebooked me afterwards and we started talking. He seems like an interesting guy and kind too. We exchanged long messages for days for about two weeks and he decided to ask me to go see a ...
A. 23 January 2009: He probably knows the mutual friend will say something about this, and he's just not ready to talk. Can you drop by where he lives and talk to him face to face? If not, I would just forward with your plan of action. I'm sorry.
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Why has the sexual spark completely died for my husband?
Q. Please help me out with this sexual question.. I'm at my wit ends, I really don't get this. My husband and me, are living in a very strange place. So he says. I love you, you are my love. But we are together naked in bed, and he does not get an e...
A. 23 January 2009: Well, at least you all are in love and working through this together.
How long has this been going on? Guys bodies go through changes just like womens, so he may just being going through a phase right now.
Is he stressed about anything? A lot of... (read in full...)
My ex best friend's brother is hot, but he's not part of my fantasy life I have planned
Q. My ex best friend and I became best friends the second day of sophomore year (about 3.5 years ago). And a year and a half after we established our great friendship, I met my ex (who was a sophomore at the time). We started dating and then this ...
A. 23 January 2009: Have a fling with the hot brother. That'll help you get over the ex, and hopefully the two of you can just see it as a good time before you move on with your adult lives.
Seriously... let loose and enjoy him in all of his hotness!... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he call me now?
Q. I met a guy last year around November at a gathering. He facebooked me afterwards and we started talking. He seems like an interesting guy and kind too. We exchanged long messages for days for about two weeks and he decided to ask me to go see a ...
A. 23 January 2009: He's embarrassed. I would call him and if he doesn't answer and doesn't call back, you only have a month invested so cut your losses and move on.
If you do get to talk, I would tell him that you care about him, and that you want to go on anot... (read in full...)
If I see him with someone else at the part I'll be upset so don't know whether to go or not.
Q. I was seeing this guy for a while who I work with, he took me for lunch, cinema, dinner etc. He used to hug me and massage me, everything was great. I text him telling him that I liked him on new years eve but he never said anything about i...
A. 23 January 2009: He does it because he's a player and he doesn't care how you feel. Avoid the party if you must, but it won't make him miss you or feel bad.
Try to move on and forget this loser.... (read in full...)
How do I gain mutual respect in this relationship.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend is 21 and I'm 20 this year. We have been together for almost 2 years and recently we have been having lots of problems, from 5 months back. My boyfriend was enlisted in army for 2 years, and right now, he left 1 year to go. We o...
A. 23 January 2009: You all are in a bad cycle where you're both frustrated, but neither of you seems quite ready to give this relationship up.
As far as respect goes, you earn it. I'm saying that for the benefit of the two of you. I'm not sure how your culture is, ... (read in full...)
Do I trust my gut feeling or my head?
Q. I have been reading a book in order to help me with my confused mind. I am currently with my man of 4 years, he does everything right, and everyone around us thinks we are very happy together. I am however constantly thinking about another man, ...
A. 23 January 2009: It's been 4 years, and you've hit what I call "shit or get off the pot" territory. Just because there aren't problems doesn't mean that the relationship is good. If you're having strong feelings for another man, you're obviously not satisfied in ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance he will fall in love with me after all this time?
Q. I am the one who has the boyfriend of four and a half years. We have been living together four of the four and a half years. I am so in love with him. We never fight. We have alot of fun together.We have alot in common. He has been the best ...
A. 23 January 2009: Well, was he ever in love with you? You have been together for a while, and most marriages/long term relationships seem to hit a snag around the 4 years time frame. (The reason is a long a drawn out biological process that has to do with ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do about him...
Q. Theres a guy I've liked over the internet for a few years now, I've met up with him 5 times before, but he lives 2 hours away in San Fran. I've told him before how cool he is, he makes me laugh, makes me happy, can be myself around him, that...
A. 23 January 2009: I would call him on the phone so he can't avoid your questions and tell him you like him and you're interested in having a LDR with him. That's the only way you'll know. I don't think you'll seem obsessed because this would be a normal progression ... (read in full...)
I would like to forgive him as I do believe in forgiveness but I think he is a compulsive liar.
Q. I had a good friend (male) who I thought I was developing a relationship with and we were taking it slowly. One evening we met up for dinner, but I was due to meet him first in a local bar. When I arrived he was talking to a girl who was a bit ...
A. 23 January 2009: Yes, let it go. Everyone at work knows what kind of an ass he is, and an retaliation o your part will just make it look like you can't get past it.
Be the bigger person here and let that jackass see what he missed out on.... (read in full...)
The girlfriend complains a lot about her friend yet they still go out together, should the boyfriend have a say in this?
Q. What do you think? A girlfriend (lets call her Tracy) tells her boyfriend (lets call him Mike) about her old friend (lets call her Cat) on how Cat hasn't treated her right many times. There have been occasions where Cat asked Tracy for her help...
A. 23 January 2009: Mike needs to stay out of it because relationships between women who are best friends are very different than relationships between men.
Some girls love to hate each other, and it sounds like your girlfriend and her best friend are that type of girl... (read in full...)
Unsure if I should just put this thing on hold and tell her to sort out her problems...
Q. Me and a girl have fell in love over the past 8 months my age 22, hers 24. The situation is one she has a baby with this dude and is going thru how best to make sure she can get her child when she leaves his abusing butt, the recent news Im meeting ...
A. 23 January 2009: Yes, put things on hold and let her sort it out. Meanwhile, go on living your life. If she find that you're the one, great! If not, as long as you've been moving forward you'll be just fine.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I love and hate this man and every time I meet someone he comes around and mess everything up! What to do??
Q. hey, i used to post on here quite a bit before i started seeing a counsellor... over the past few months my life seemed to be getting better. then suddenly my grandma was rushed into hospital and since then i feel like im right back at the ...
A. 23 January 2009: Hmm.. I don't think you really hate him, but Bill needs to realize that no one will make his life worth living but himself. Even if you did date him, and he was happy for a while, it would only be a matter of time before everything fell apart for ... (read in full...)
Should I start dating my ex-wife again even though we're divorced?
Q. Should I start dating my ex-wife again even though we're divorced? Divorced ended because of an affair. I will admit I still have feelings for her... But trust and honesty play and issue. I don't want to be played for a fool again or ever again ...
A. 23 January 2009: If you think you can ever trust her again and think she is repentant, go for it. Otherwise you're just setting yourself up for heartbreak.... (read in full...)
So many guys, only one of me!
Q. ok i have this problem were im wiv this guy who is really nice but a load of guys have been asking me to go out with them i mean about 8 guys there all really close m8ts so i let them down gently but when i see them they tell me how much thy like...
A. 23 January 2009: Take it slow, and don't commit to anything. This is a great opportunity to figure out what you like about guys, and what a good guy really is.... (read in full...)
I can't seem to let go of my ex
Q. My story is long and I really hope someone can help with it because it's been tearing at me ever since it's happened. In my first year university I met a boy and he asked me out, we started out great, he seemed to be everything I asked for. My ...
A. 23 January 2009: Okay, I went through this same situation...
my boyfriend and I were together for over a year, and he broke up with me several times, and then I found out he was using drugs and that was the last straw. We were apart for a few months and he told... (read in full...)
Please tell me the solutions to break down this illegal affair
Q. Hi All, This is Smith, I know one of my friends where she is facing problem with her mother, where she is having sex with one of his uncles and it have been known by his father but he is not bothered about it because he wants to live his life ver...
A. 23 January 2009: Unless someone is underage, there is nothing illegal about it. If everyone is consenting, your friend just needs to realize that life is complex and strange.
No one is sleeping with their uncle, right? I got a little confused there...again thou... (read in full...)
He could just have been saying he cheated because of the fact that he is bipolar but I can't let go of 4 years.
Q. My boyfriend dumped me because he said he cheated on me. He's bipolar but I love him how do I get him back or what should I do, I am so confused, I am lost, I am a mess without him, he could just have been saying he cheated because of the fact tha...
A. 23 January 2009: Has your boyfriend lied about stuff in the past like this? I don't understand why you think he would lie about that.
People who are bipolar aren't known as liars.
I think you need to talk to him to get some closure and figure out where he's at ... (read in full...)
I have had an affair for 3 years with a very sexy, experienced man but, ultimately a cad!
Q. Dear Cupid,I have had an affair for 3 years with a very sexy, experienced man but, ultimately a cad... The same age as my husband. It was exciting, great sex, but the novelty is wearing off, on both sides now, but he won't admit it. He wants me to ...
A. 23 January 2009: End the affair and work on your marriage. Why would sexual relations feel wonderful with your husband when you've been lying to him and cheating on him for 3 years! You're awful.
... (read in full...)
I think my friend manipulated the situation
Q. I met this guy in the summer, before I moved to Ottawa. I had planned on moving back to Hamilton, and he started messaging me on face book after he promptly added me telling me that he was going to drive down with my best friend at the time to get ...
A. 22 January 2009: Meet with him face to face and tell him all of this. Keep your "friend" out of it.... (read in full...)
I have never felt so emotionally obliterated since our break up...
Q. I was with my ex for 2 years and I was doing fine after we broke up. I felt that after he moved 2 hours away and I couldn't get a job to be with him. Our odds of feelings changing and fights increasing from lack of time to see eachother and the long ...
A. 22 January 2009: Wow, he must have done something pretty hideous.I admire you for keeping everything else together as you fall apart on the inside.
I would seek professional help because it sounds like the end of this relationship has released something inside of y... (read in full...)
Have been used for sex and basically ignored - Hot and cold!!
Q. Hi All, I'm 22 and about 3 months ago split with my long term boyfriend whom was my first real love and we had been together for 2 and a half years. we both agree that whilst it was good things did go stale and lifeless and it was meant to end (he...
A. 22 January 2009: Uh... Revenge is not a good idea. I think he was confused. It doesn't sound like he used you on purpose. I would just let it drop and move on. If you try to go the revenge route, you'll just look bitter and pathetic.... (read in full...)
Even more period problems
Q. I've had my period for two years now (I don't know how far along that put me puberty-wise) and I've felt my hormones amping up for some time now. When do they usually start to calm down?...
A. 22 January 2009: I'm not sure what you mean about the hormones amping up, but if you mean that you notice guys more and are thinking about more intimate relationships, that won't stop until you're probably 18-20.
If you're talking about acne and stuff, it depe... (read in full...)
How should I talk to him?
Q. hello to everyone! k my problem okay its not really a problem, There is this boy in my global studies class and he has this mysteries arua to him that draws me in. Every time we speaks he amazes me. He has so much to say about everything and he ...
A. 22 January 2009: It seems like you have already addressed him, so after class, I would expand on the topic that you all were speaking about in class. It should naturally draw him into a conversation that you can make more personal.
... (read in full...)
Friend flirting with boyfriend
Q. my friend has a friend that like to flirt with her boyfriend ...what can i do? i want to do a favor for her because she has done a lot of favors for me and i want to return that favor??...thank you!!...
A. 22 January 2009: This person is not her friend, or she's just such a flirtatious person that she doesn't realize what she's doing.
Your friend needs to speak with her about this, and if they girl seems sorry or like she didn't mean it, she should forgive her. If t... (read in full...)
My friend was offended & is depressed. How can I help?
Q. dear readers, good day. a friend of mine encountered a problem. a problem that made him angry to a certain group of people in a state. the story is this. he tries to answer all the questions in a site that is made to ask questions about rela...
A. 22 January 2009: Wow... that's hard. The final decision will be his of course, but I think you need to tell him exactly what you've told us. See if you can find other people who feel the same, and have them write to him as well.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How can I make her appreciate and love me again?
Q. Hello, i've been with a girl for over 15 months and recently we split up. I used to pratically live over there and seen her almost every day for 15 months. During this time I grew a mass of feelings for her, we even nearly had a child. Due to me...
A. 22 January 2009: The problem is, she doesn't love you without your wallet, so making her do thatis impossible.
You need to get some respect for youself and move on with your life. Don't be at her beck and call to fix stuff. Let her miss you. She'll come runn... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in this situation but don't want to hurt him
Q. Hello everybody i have a huge problem. I met this guy while home on winter break. He lives in New Jersey and I go to school in Florida. We dated and basically fell in love with each other. I love him very much and care for him deeply. I went back to ...
A. 22 January 2009: You need to put your life first and not the life and happiness of someone else.
I know that's tough to hear because you love him, but he is now addicted to you because he traded his addiction for drugs for an addiction to love.
If you all stay... (read in full...)
Why won't he talk to me online?
Q. why isnt my boyfriend talkin to me yes i know hes just someone online but i really love him . the past 3 days he hasnt been talkin to me b4 dat his comp wasnt workin for about a month or somethin wen i contacted him again he was fine but then i sent ...
A. 22 January 2009: He met someone else. That's what hard about online relationships- there's no accountability, and it's very easy to just meet someone new and stop talking to the old person.... (read in full...)
I don't think she is showing me her true self, her true life?
Q. hi there, first i would like to thank you all for your previous advises to heal my inferiority complex...this days something has happened to me...there was this girl whom we are working together in a bank...we begin it as a friend, we discuss on ...
A. 22 January 2009: No, she is not your real friend. This girl sounds like she likes to complain to whoever will listen, and you are simply another person who is in the audience of her life. If you don't enjoy listening, tell her you'd prefer not to hear about her ... (read in full...)
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