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My BF doesn't work and is immature, the new guy is a drug dealer. Who do I choose?

Q.   ok i got a problem...ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and i love him to death, but he dont work he is kinda immatuire and we fight about stupid things...well i met this other guy he is so sweet to me he is all i think about he does everything ...

A.   30 June 2008: In porn, we find that when a young woman is confronted by two equally unappealing men, if she ditches them both and goes for a short walk down the street, or sits in a lawn chair in her front yard, at least one other option -- and possible more than ... (read in full...)

My brother and his girlfriend had a baby. I want one so much...

Q.   ok my brother and his girl just had a baby and i love her dearly and i want one but you see im only 13 and they live far away so i dont get to see her that much and i really want one what should i do ...

A.   30 June 2008: Having a baby is very, very easy for teenage females. You probably don't even need to ask how to do it. There are whole nations of teenage males willing to help you with the part that requires them. The one drawback is that society takes a ... (read in full...)

Could sharp pains in my head be linked to masturbation?

Q.   Hi, i am a 15yr old male incase the above says otherwise. I masturbate frequently but recently have had a problem. I occasionaly get sharp pains in my head for a short while (for about 15-30mins). Also, I don't know if this is relevant but I think I ...

A.   30 June 2008: Everything is linked to masturbation, when you think about it. As for doctors, if you don't want to ask your regular doctor for whatever reason ask him for a referral to someone else. Or go to an anonymous STD clinic -- they won't even ask your ... (read in full...)

Two guys, really sweet, tonight is the work party.. give me some advice on what to do!

Q.   I just started working at an amusment park a few weeks ago and I've met two guys who work in games, during my breaks. I work in retail. They are both tall and have brown hair..and are sweet. I think I have a type. Tonight is our work party. S...

A.   30 June 2008: No point in beating around the bush. Tell them that life is short and you have a fantasy involving both of them but to find out what it is they have to come home with you (and/or your friend, if you want to involve her). Then proceed from the... (read in full...)

Is a kiss just a kiss? Was THIS kiss just a kiss?

Q.   My girlfriend of four years kissed a work colleague. We were going through a rough time and it was during this that the kiss occured. A few weeks before the kiss she had told me she wasnt in love with me anymore......... i had threatened to end it a ...

A.   30 June 2008: First of all, stop calling it your "relationship." That is a trap. Call it your romance, your love-affair, your sex-train, your um-tss-OW-tikka-um-tss-OW, whatever else comes to you -- just not "relationship." A relationship is what you had with ... (read in full...)

How do I get my boyfriend's dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own?

Q.   How do I get my boyfriends dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own? I've been going out with my boyfrind for 18 months, and moved in with him and his dad 7 months ago. My boyfriend and his dad have...

A.   30 June 2008: Three easy steps: Step 1. Tell your boyfriend you are moving out, and if he wants to stay with you now's his chance. Step 2. Move out. Step 3. If he moves in with you, you are now successfully living together by yourselves. If ... (read in full...)

Met an amazing guy in a foreign country, now I'm depressed that I can't see him again until February. Please advise.

Q.   ok guys i need help - although i dunno if there is a solution! ok, i was with my boyf for 3 yrs and we broke up - on friendly terms. just before we ended, i was in brazil and met this amazing guy. we were with eachother for only 3 days but swapped ...

A.   30 June 2008: From watching porn, we learn that encounters with foreign men are generally of a very short duration, and sequels only happen if the first run was exceptionally well-received. I mean -exceptionally.- Like, you might need to get your ex-boyfrien... (read in full...)

I've been supporting us and my boyfriend feels like I'm "attacking" him when I mention him getting a job!

Q.   I have been seeing my boyfriend unofficially for over a year. Our official 1 year anniversary is coming up on July 6th. I'm very happy with him. He is very affectionate, treats me very well, spends lots of time with me and is just all around a ...

A.   30 June 2008: College students have been enjoying amorous vacations on absolutely no money for a thousand years. Be happy that he didn't drunkenly beat your father with a cudgel and steal his silver before ravishing you in the barn. Compared to the way students ... (read in full...)

What do I do about a guy I met at the pub? I really want him to ask me out!

Q.   hey everyone my name is Clare i live in surrey in englnd, i went to a party at a pub the other day and there was this really hot guy who works in there of course being a girl i was wearing a low cut top, anyhow he kept looking at me but i was too ...

A.   30 June 2008: 1. Walk up to him. 2. Tell him that you really want him to ask you out. If he doesn't then directly proceed to ask you out, then he is one or more of the following: a) gay; b) taken; or c) too stupid to be believed. In any of ... (read in full...)

This may be stupid...but...what is a multiple orgasm?

Q.   what is a multipul orgasm? :S my boyfriend always talks about it and i dont know what it is, i feel kinda stupid....

A.   30 June 2008: Multiple orgasms are like Macintoshes. The people who have them say that they're the best thing in the world, that they're incredibly easy and that anyone can have one if they want. Everyone who doesn't already have them finds them a little my... (read in full...)

I used to think I looked ok, now I have major confidence issues and feel ugly.

Q.   i think i am having major security problems or confidence problems, i feel im really ugly and thats why i havent got a boyfriend and i feel everyone is constantly laughing at me like the other day i was walking past a few guys and i was looking at ...

A.   30 June 2008: Porn teaches us that the "ugly" girl is actually jaw-droppingly hot -- she just has to let her hair down and take off her glasses. And maybe start wearing thigh-high stockings under her skirt. Porn also teaches us that your cable repairma... (read in full...)

Is it ever ok to make a move on a best friend's ex, let alone doing it in his own house?? What should I say/do as I am witnessing this?

Q.   I just recently moved into a house with a good friend (Steve), and his best friend (Kevin) that I don't really know too well. Before this, Steve was living with his girlfriend of several years. They had a long drawn out break up, and I don't know...

A.   30 June 2008: Stay out of the middle, unless it's the kind of middle where you're enjoying a substantial amount of the pleasure involved. (at which point you can become one of those people who asks questions like, "What do I do now that I'm sleeping with my ... (read in full...)

What are the chances I'm pregnant??

Q.   i started my period on june 7 finished on june 11, has sex (unprotected,and he came in me) on june 13 and 18. i should have ovulated somewhere around june 21. we also had sex on june 28 and he came in me then as well. my boobs are a little sor...

A.   30 June 2008: Your chances of being pregnant are near 100% if a test says you are, and near 0% if a test says you aren't. ... (read in full...)

I think I might be gay - or psychologically disturbed

Q.   Okay, so I think i may be gay. Gay porn really turns me on but I feel so gross. Its not because I'm gay, its because I fantasize about my highschool mates raping me. Is that wrong or are there others like me. And another question: how do I know if a ...

A.   28 June 2008: Anything you fantasize about, there are other people that fantasize about it too. Lots of other people. That's why they call it "the internet." If being gay disgusts you, then call yourself a straight guy who likes gay porn, wants to give hea... (read in full...)

How do I find out if he's having an affair?

Q.   my husband had an affair he denies they slept together and were just friends now he has a lot of female friends i dont know i may have met her in the supermarket once and have been introduced i think he's up to some thing again but have no proof and ...

A.   27 June 2008: If you have money, hire a detective. If not take time off from work and follow him around the clock and see where he goes. If that doesn't seem worth it then you don't really want to know. Figure out how to deal with not knowing instead.... (read in full...)

How can I help our relationship through these tough times?

Q.   I've been married to my husband (age 48)for 26 years and he has recently informed me that he "loves" me, but is "no longer in love" with me. (He actually said that he couldn't believe I didn't know that was how he felt. I told him I didn't get that ...

A.   27 June 2008: He's a grownup, he needs to take care of this. If you realize your window is broken and something has been stolen from you, you might be crushed and everything but you dry your tears and call the window guy and the insurance lady and take care of ... (read in full...)

My ex is now dating my friend! I'm angry that he used me as a friend after. Can we not trust anyone???

Q.   Hey...im sooooooo stressed. I spilt up with my boyfriend of three years at the end of last year. We decided to be friends, in fact i did near enough everything for him. I kind of hoped we wud get back together. I found out last week he has slept ...

A.   27 June 2008: Get out of town. Join the Foreign Legion. Travel far away and forget your past. Visit foreign lands with foreign boys and foreign ways. Drink their foreign drinks and listen to their foreign music and get lost on their foreign streets and never ... (read in full...)

I'm in a really confusing situation..why won't he talk to me or sit next to me?? I just don't get him!!

Q.   Ok this is a bit weird but can you tell me what you think of this. Right theres i lad ive been in love with for about 7 months, we're on the same course and everything. He showed signs he liked me ranging from staring to the softness in his voice ...

A.   27 June 2008: Walk up to him and ask him out on a date. Whatever it is you kids do for fun these days. Text messaging or being emo or playing World of Warcraft together or who knows what. If he doesn't say "yes, okay," then there you have it.... (read in full...)

Does anybody believe that these bad signs mean that I shouldn't move??

Q.   I am due to move in with my boyfriend of 1 year in the next few weeks. I have been really excited up until about 3 weeks ago and now I am petrified!!! So many things have gone wrong which are making me worried that they are signs that moving is a ...

A.   27 June 2008: Bad things always happen. While you were typing your question millions of people unknown to you died all around the world. Instead of focusing on that, focus on what you need. If you move in with this guy, can you move out again if it's not work... (read in full...)

She likes me but doesn't love me...how can I make her love me??

Q.   40 and i love lady how is 24yers old but she send me email taling me {that you know that i like you, but i dont love you}. so pls how cain i make hemer loves me...

A.   27 June 2008: Keep pestering her until she files for a restraining order from the local dispensers of justice. That is a sure sign that a woman loves you. Then when you have violated the restraining order and are about to go to jail, shave your head and lear... (read in full...)

My boyfriends family keep picking on me and my bf...what should I do??

Q.   Okay so I have a dillema that I'm having trouble on how to handle. I've been with my boyfriend for going on nine months now. The issue isn't with my boyfriend its with his family. He has cousins all younger than we are and for some reason they find ...

A.   27 June 2008: Take a stick to their backsides. That's what my daddy used to do and it learned me respect in no time. Or at least taught me to stay out of arm's reach.... (read in full...)

I have a problem staying hard after foreplay....help!!

Q.   Hi there, i'm 16 years old, and i've been dating this girl for about a month... We started staying over each others house's, and we gradually got further (sexually) each time, untill the first night when we both decided we wanted sex... So, a...

A.   27 June 2008: Time to change your game. If getting wrapped is causing your pecker to lose interest, then you need to do something different to perk it up. Despite what they tell you, not every prick is happy being a well-behaved, sheathed, protected citizen of ... (read in full...)

I have a serious problem with a group of friends...what should I do about it all??

Q.   Ok, briefly this is the situation, Theres this girl a year younger than me, she has no friends, everybody hates her, But She is really nice to me. And here is the problem........ Recently I seem to be getting on well with my friend(X)'s frie...

A.   27 June 2008: This is all too complicated. It's time to make friends with A, B, and C instead, who don't cause nearly so much drama. And they will introduce you to D, E, and F, who aren't homophobic losers.... (read in full...)

Any advice on how to play this situation??

Q.   Any advice for how to play this - I haven't seen my boyfriend for 8 months. I am due to fly out to him in 3 weeks and we have had an argument (not the first time as the distance has taken its toll) but he has said not to bother coming he is not ...

A.   27 June 2008: Sounds like a dead end. If you can't get a refund, find someone else to hang out with in your destination town when the boyfriend turns out to be an ex-boyfriend with a pimp cane and a vapid sex bunny on each arm. Then at least you can have some ... (read in full...)

I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a father, I need your guidance.

Q.   Need advice, I recieved an email from a girl I slept with about 6 weeks ago, saying she is now pregant, wants to keep the baby and wants nothing from me and is willing to cut off all commuication. I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a fa...

A.   27 June 2008: Nobody is ever "ready" to be a father. You just do it. Marry her, or don't. Live with her, or not. For 10,000 years people have raised children together in all kinds of ways. But the kid, and the mother, are now your responsibility. ... (read in full...)

He tells me he loves me, is he leading me on?

Q.   Hey :) What are the signs that a boy likes you ? because i dont really know if im recieving mixed messages :S i mean the boy i like has an on off girlfriend , and then flirts with me most of the time and tells me he loves me, is he leading me on ? ...

A.   27 June 2008: What you see is what you get. If you can't tell then he's not being clear enough, is he? Ask him about the girlfriend. Or better yet, ask the girlfriend about it directly. That should help clear things up.... (read in full...)

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