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30-35,
*sk The Leprechaun
writes:Ok, briefly this is the situation, Theres this girl a year younger than me, she has no friends, everybody hates her, But She is really nice to me. And here is the problem........Recently I seem to be getting on well with my friend(X)'s friend (Y) and today we (X, Y and Me) were all hanging around the corridor, and then The Girl(Z)appears. So she comes over and talks to me, she says she should borrow my anger management book and that she threw a clump of Ice at someone in her last school because they were mean to her. And also that We are both supposed to be on one of the stalls at the school "(not so)Fun evening fete" together tonight. I say I probably can't make it, I hate those things. ANYWAY, Y is getting impatient and slightly annoyed. X and Y head outside, I follow, with Z. This gets Y really aggitated. X tells Z it's probably best to leave us alone and go with the people in her class, but Z says they all hate her and follows us. by the end of the path what little hint of politeness there was has now faded and X and Y are basically shouting at her to piss off. I stand up for Z and say "no, that's mean!" etc. But evenatually, Y kind of guides me in another direction with X, and Z lingers a few meters away. I confront X and Y. X says "You were talking to her, you brought her over here" and I say "yeah, and?" then Y says "We don't want her with us, She's gay" I reply: "She's not gay". Then X says " Yeah she is. Really. She told like half the people in her class she fancies them, and in the lesbian way, why do you think they all hate her?" And I say "So what!? I Don't care if she's gay" All of which Z probably heard before wandering off on her own. Then X added "she's really horrible and her voice is SO annoying aswell" I said "I don't think she's annoying and she's really nice to me" and then X and Y said together "thats because she fanices you the most" Then we went to Lunch. then me and Y were heading to the science labs after lunch, to finnish our all day ISA practical thingy, and on the stairs we meet Z. I apologise to Z. and I say I'll try to be there tonight. And before she can reply Y butts in and insensitivly blurts out to Z "Do you fancy her (me)?" Z says nothing and Y replies to the silence saying " No answer, she's not denying it!!" and then Z says "I don't really want to talk to YOU (Y) right now" and walks off. I tell Y she can be such a dickhead sometimes and I stand there for a few seconds on the stairs, Y walks to the labs, Z is sitting at the bottom of the stairs but just outside not facing me. And I really don't know which way to go. I go down the stairs, but then I go back up and head to the labs. about a minute later I feel really guilty and run out to find Z, but she's gone. so I head back to the labs, and Y is all Like "How's your girlfriend?" But not in a mean way to me. As I leave, I see Z again, she asks me if I'll be there tonight, I say deffinatly. So here I am, I have one hour, and then I have to go to this damn "fun evening" and face X, Y and Z again. what should I do?I should probably mention that I'm an in the closet bi, Do you think I should sympathise with her. I don't fancy her, but I really understand how hard it is. I need to go to the fun evening really, see there's this kind of school election thing going on for my year to see who runs things for next year etc, and it's kind of neck and neck between me and this really horrible homophobic ultra competitive person (S). I don't really mind if I don't win, but I just know that if they get it, then people like Z are doomed. I got the most votes, but S is doing all this other stuff like organising everything and going to all the things, etc....and I don't. SO I probably need to go anywaY.but what should I do about this?
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reader, Ask The Leprechaun +, writes (27 June 2008):
Ask The Leprechaun is verified as being by the original poster of the question Looking at it, You're right, no issues, it is complicated. but A B and C are a bit out of my league on a regular basis :)
well I'm back now. Suprisingly the fun evening was...fun. I spent like 5 minutes on the stall and the rest of the time I went round with Z. Y was there, Everytime we saw her she made kiss faces at me and raised eyebrows. Y and S were gossiping about Z, and S looked disgusted.
Z was very "touchy-feely", but didn't mention anything about what Y had said earlier. Except that she now does not like X, and she's still not talking to Y.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Fist off way to go second of X and Y are being total B words. Everyone is different you should hate someone just because they are in love with the same sex. I have tons of gay, lesbian, and bi friends (I also have many straight friends too.. Not to mention I am straight.) few years back my best friend at the time had a huge crush on me she only asked a simple question like or you bi or lesbian and i replied no, she never asked me out because of that but a lot of people thought i was a lesbian for many reasons, till i started dating.. It shut up a lot of people so I can sympathize with you and your friend Z. The things is you should ask those you hate her why does it matter if she is lesbian? We all have our differences and we should all get along. Tell Z she is an awesome person for sticking to what she believes. Try to have fun, people are mean and cruel. Try to see if their are any other lesbians or gay in your school and try becoming friends with them, maybe Z will have more friends then?... If their is none don't worry you and Z young, Z will find someone eventually. If your school is anything like my high school (my age thiny lies I am your age) you'll find lots of gays and lesbians and bis. If you do try forming a club like the one at my school has called GLAS Gay and Lesbian Association of Supporters or something like that...
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 This is all too complicated. It's time to make friends with A, B, and C instead, who don't cause nearly so much drama. And they will introduce you to D, E, and F, who aren't homophobic losers.
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