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writes:I just recently moved into a house with a good friend (Steve), and his best friend (Kevin) that I don't really know too well.Before this, Steve was living with his girlfriend of several years. They had a long drawn out break up, and I don't know all the details, but it was because of deception on her part. After the break up, she wanted to get back together, but Steve wouldn't have it. Though they did decide to try and remian friends. But every time they're together, there's a weird tension, and they usually end up being really mean spirited towards each other.When we first moved in, Steve asked his ex over to drop off some of his things. She came and ended up staying a while, haning out with Steve and Kevin.Then, a couple days ago, when I came home from work, I noticed that her car was there. I walked in to find her and Kevin on the couch together watching a movie, a little too close. Steve was at work.That night, after Steve got home, he came to talk to me very upset. He had found out that Kevin had invited his ex over, and was suspicious. I told him what I saw, and he got really angry, talking about how he couldn't understand why Kevin would even think about something like that.Personally, I was pretty shocked by the whole situation, but when I told my boyfriend about it, he didn't seem to think it was a big deal.So I'm wondering what everyone here thinks about the whole thing. Is it ever ok to make a move on a best friend's ex, let alone doing it in his own house?? And I can't help but think that it all might be a part of some malicious intent on her part as well.This isn't really MY problem, but since I'm living with the two of them, I could get stuck in the middle. Any suggestions about what I should say/do?
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reader, no_issues +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Stay out of the middle, unless it's the kind of middle where you're enjoying a substantial amount of the pleasure involved. (at which point you can become one of those people who asks questions like, "What do I do now that I'm sleeping with my boyfriend, my housemate, and my other housemate's ex all at the same time?")
If they want to ask you about it, tell them to fuck off and ask each other if it's that important, and get on with the far more important work of getting with your boyfriend.
If they insist, hit them with a stick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Stay away from the whole situation. Try as much as possible to do this. If you see something, don't say anything. Lieying, to both of them, is the best you can do to save youreself here. You have nothing to do with this drama, and if they blame you for anything it will be unfair.
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