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I have been told that I have a knack for perceiving many facets of an issue and giving balance advice. Since it’s free, I figured that I might as well offer it to those who ask for it! I attempt to reserve personal judgment and deal with the issue directly, if I feel that I have a unique and helpful opinion or solution. I hope I can help!
Come to the edge.
We can't. We are afraid.
Come to the edge.
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Come to the edge.
And they did.
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| Latest articles: Please help support 1st Lt. Dan Choi.
No replies yet... 29 June 2009: Tomorrow (June 30 2009) at 8:30am Lt. Dan Choi, an Iraq combat veteran, a graduate of West Point with a degree in Arabic, is going to face a panel of colonels who will decide whether or not to fire him -- to discharge him from the military for ...
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I've invested a lot into this friendship. What do I do now??
Q. My best friend of a year terminated our friendship this week. I don't know what to do. I'm in a mess. This is the situation: We've been friends a year. He's a gay guy I'm a female "Grace". My gay friend I will call 'Will'. We hit it off immediate...
A. 7 April 2009: Aw hun, at least it seems that these past few days have given you the down-time you needed to better sort out the situation. You seem like you have a handle on it, from your own perception at least. Of course there are things from Will’s (et al) ... (read in full...)
I didn't want to reciprocate as I'm not ready and he thinks I'm selfish
Q. ok i've been talking to this dude for a week and he wants to have sex with me but im not ready, he performed oral sex to me but i didnt return it to him, he said that im selfish and i was so wrong for not doing him, was i?????...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi there, I get the impression that there may have been a lack of communication prior to the act. If it was his idea to initiate oral, than he probably assumed that your consent to this sex act implied a prelude to more. By your refusal he most ... (read in full...)
His dad won't let us date
Q. Earlier this year i asked this guy out. He said yes and we dated for a total of two days. Early in the morning on day three he texted me saying that we can't go out anymore because his dad won't let him. He said we could still be friends but I ...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi there, I'm suspicious if this guy is using "dad" as an excuse; maybe trying to break the relationship in a way that doesn’t force him to confront his feelings with you. If so, consider yourself lucky that such a weenie is out of your life no ... (read in full...)
What can I do different to make my husband say wow!
Q. i am blank in my marriage it is like i am doing but it is not enough or good enough what can i do to spice up my marriage not only sex wise. And what can i do different to make my husband say wow.''''' what else can i do to make him smile. t...
A. 7 April 2009: The most important thing is to get two-way communication going. You may get a million different responses to your question on-line, but the only person who you will be guaranteed to get the 'right' answer from is your husband. Let him know that yo... (read in full...)
Want to tell my friends that I am gay
Q. Hi, well I'll cut to the chase, I'm gay, in love with my bf to pieces. only my best m8s kno, but I wanna tell other m8s but just cant find the right time/place/way to bring it up. and also i honestly have no idea of how my m8s wud react to it. any ...
A. 3 April 2009: Hi there,
I can sympathise with your situation. I’ve known that I like guys ever since I can remember. If it is a “phase” then it started in the womb and hasn’t stopped yet! ;) When I was around your age I started telling my closest friends ... (read in full...)
Gangbang..who is the daddy?
Q. I am 24 and married fo 2 years. Recently (the last 8 months or so)my gusband and I started swinging with his step bother and wife.We have also has a group ogy involving 5 other men (all unprotected). I just found out Im pregnant and I hvae no idea ...
A. 3 April 2009: Hello,
I don’t mean to start this message out on a cynical note, but I wonder if that other woman is offering that advice because she is afraid it might be her own husband’s. Food for thought.
I don’t see a reason for you to keep this from y... (read in full...)
Is hitting a guy as bad as a guy hitting a girl?
Q. Is hitting a guy as bad as a guy hitting a girl? Sometimes my bf treats me really bad, especially when he has been drinking. So last time we went out he was flirting with a girl at the bar and I confronted him and he turned around and snapped at me. ...
A. 2 April 2009: When people in relationships resort to physical violence to express their feelings, their relationships are only a step away from becoming what is called “combative.” This is when the couple begins to use physical violence more and more often, so ... (read in full...)
Circumcision issues.
Q. I love my penis in every way, except that I wish that I still had a foreskin.. Unfortunately I was circumcised at a young age (4), partly because of cultural reasons and partly because I had a tight foreskin which made it difficult to retract all ...
A. 2 April 2009: Hi there, I suffered from the same procedure shortly after birth.* I’m sure my parents only did what they thought was best at the time. However, I’ve since had more than one long discussion with them about my feelings on the matter. To put i... (read in full...)
Child porn located on his computer! Now what?
Q. Hi i recently found numerous videos of child pornography (VERY VERY GRAPHIC TITLES AND HORRIBLE FREEZE FRAMES, NEVER WATCHED BY ME I CAN ONLY STARE AT THE SAVED FILES)on both my boyfriends computers, both of which the children use and his profiles ...
A. 1 April 2009: Wait... you said there are children living with you, and they use his computers?
Even if the kids are not the same gender as the ones in these videos, you need to understand that they are still in danger. Child abusers rarely limit themselv... (read in full...)
Messing around with other guy but I want to be straight!
Q. Hi i am a straigh 16 year old male and I have a few things on my mind. I experienced with another guy friend of mine awhile back and i honeslty didnt know what i was doing. and we humped eachother. nipple play. penis play. thats it. nothing with him ...
A. 1 April 2009: Heya,
Sexual orientation isn’t something that you can decide or change, like a fashion accessory. At its core it is determined by who you are attracted to on an emotional, intellectual and yes, physical level. In short, who you have the ability ... (read in full...)
I've invested a lot into this friendship. What do I do now??
Q. My best friend of a year terminated our friendship this week. I don't know what to do. I'm in a mess. This is the situation: We've been friends a year. He's a gay guy I'm a female "Grace". My gay friend I will call 'Will'. We hit it off immediate...
A. 1 April 2009: Hi there,
I feel really bad for you. We call guys like Will Drama Queens in the gay community, and personally I think of them like a pimple. At least from your description of him, especially the molesting girl’s part. A lot of these guys do it an... (read in full...)
Blowjob information
Q. My boyfriend keeps suggesting oral sex, I have never done it before and jusr wondered when you give a blow-job, this sounds silly, is it just the fact of putting him in you mouth, what do you do with your tongue....
A. 1 April 2009: "No teeth" Amen sister. And the best way to avoid them is to gently press your lips against your teeth, like you are pretending to be an old toothless person. Don't overdo it to the point that your lips go into your mouth, but just so that you... (read in full...)
Another question about anal sex!
Q. Does the majority of women like or dislike anal sex... and would a woman leave her man because of it??...
A. 1 April 2009: In a recent survey of 100,000 women, Redbook Magazine found that 42% of women had tried anal sex once, and, for 2%, anal sex was an "important part" of their sexual relationships. But as with all forms of sexual practices between couples, it very... (read in full...)
Does having a simple, tiny "crush" on the same sex, even though you are definitely straight, make you bi?
Q. I know, I know. Some of you might respond with "EWWWW" or "GROSSS" etc., but I just wanted a little input. I didn't mean for this to happen. I've always been straight. Boyfriends, the whole deal and what not, I've been through it.. but recently ...
A. 1 April 2009: Heya, When a person develops a firm perception of themselves, and then they suddenly find cause to question that perception, it can be very uncomfortable and even scary. When it happens to be something as personal as the nature of our sexuality... (read in full...)
How normal is it for a girl to enjoy watching gay sex?
Q. Right, basically what i want to ask is how normal is it for a girl to enjoy watching gay sex? I started off just enjoying gay films, like nothing explicit or anything just normal films. But then it kinda started getting more than that, i really don'...
A. 31 March 2009: Oh hun, don't you worry about it for a second. I can't tell you how many straight women I've known who love watching gay porn. You are perfectly normal just as you are.
Besides, lots of straight men go ga-ga for lesbian porn, so I figure that tur... (read in full...)
Pros and cons of being gay
Q. Ha to all around I definitely need help. I believe in gay life. I'm watching them most of the time. Nowadays i'm ending up in gay life. Is that accepted to be gay nowadays.How do the girls think about? What is the pros and cons to be gay !...
A. 31 March 2009: What are the pros and cons of having green eyes? What are the pros and cons of having brown hair? What are the pros and cons of being human? We are what we are. If we face discrimination due to any personal trait that discrimination d... (read in full...)
Do you think this will ever go anywhere?
Q. I am gay and my mate always knew it. My mate is a big strong Fence Builder who drives a work van and has 2 teenagers from his first marraige and one more kid he's seen only once from a second marriage. We were in a church together for years until I ...
A. 31 March 2009: In all the conversations you’ve shared with your friend, have you ever opened up and told him how you feel about the friendship itself? And I mean all of it; even the unflattering parts, such as your admitted manipulations and the reasons you feel ... (read in full...)
Porn good for my guy?
Q. Is porn good for my boyfriend to watch once in a while, even though we live together?...
A. 31 March 2009: You’ve received some great replies, so I won’t be repetitive. However, I have a relationship suggestion for you; why not take his interest in pornography as a potential spice for your sex life? It may be possible to find some material you can both... (read in full...)
She used to be a HE!
Q. I really don't know what to do here. I've been with my girlfriend for one year. It's been going great and she's perfect, or so I thought. We met at work. I'd always had an attraction to her and I was overjoyed when I found out that she liked me as ...
A. 31 March 2009: Hi there, I have not been in your position, but I believe I can help with some general relationship advice that may transcend the unique nature of your current situation. I am gay, but I know transsexual people and I may be able to offer some in... (read in full...)
How can I find someone to do what I want to sexually?
Q. So I'm a bi-curious 20 year old male, I had never been w/ a guy, and I'm not attracted emotionally to guys whatsoever, just to penises. Anyway, I went to a gay bar and found a guy and went home with him. There was almost an hour of handjobs and ...
A. 31 March 2009: When people advise you to be safe, try to take it as a sign that they care, not a condescending quip. Even from strangers on the internet. On that note, be safe. Make sure you understand the signs of STDs and other transmittable infections, and ... (read in full...)
Do all parents feel like this?
Q. My daughter's boyfriend is taking her for a night away with dinner for her 18th birthday after a big family party (he won this in a competition seemingly) and sent me a text to ask how I felt about it. They have been together two years and so all ...
A. 31 March 2009: Only you know the guy well enough to judge the sincerity of his intentions in asking you. It may have been at your daughter’s request, or he may be a genuine gentleman who sincerely desires your approval. Or he may be following an ageless ritual ... (read in full...)
L think he's straight?
Q. l'm gay, and he's straight. l have only known him since September, but it feels like l've known him forever. Recently l have developed feelings for him, but l cannot get the courage to tell him, fearing it will obliterate what we have now. I have...
A. 31 March 2009: If the guy is in a relationship, gay or straight, all of your fretting is moot. Falling for a straight guy has happened to most of us. There are so damn many! A good friend of mine fell for a straight buddy once, and although the guy was single, ... (read in full...)
Am I right to tell my wife to drop this stupid idea?
Q. I have a situation which could have serious ramifications for other people, not just my wife and I. My wife and I are married for 7 years now, have 2 great kids, and are timing out having a 3rd child. The issue is, when I was younger (18-19),...
A. 31 March 2009: Hello,
You said, “If my wife all of a sudden told me she had a kid with some other guy but gave it up or had an abortion, our marriage would be over.”
Fair enough. However, I ask you to consider this; what if your wife felt the same way? What i... (read in full...)
He posted as a bi curious male, views gay porn, so do you think my ex is gay (he denied this)?
Q. Hi IM 23 and female, my now ex partner is 22 and male, we have been going out now for a year and a half. A couple of weeks ago I found a dating account that my partner had set up when we had been goiong out for approx 5months, on this account he ...
A. 30 March 2009: Why would a straight man look at gay porn? He wouldn’t. But I think the deeper issue here is that in our society we often label things as straight/gay; black/white. In reality, human sexuality is largely a continuum of shades of grey.
I am not s... (read in full...)
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