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... Send *r.Ed a private message | | | *r.Ed's profile:What qualifies me to help people is definately a great question to answer. I have been around the world, had several relationships, been married once, divorced, suffered from addictions, actively involved in church, experienced loss of loved one's, have children, in a current engagement and have a passion of love for people and their well-being. I know what hurt is and I know what love is. I have a strong opinion and am not biased towards sexual, racial, nor ethnic backgrounds. I am not suprised at any question and have alot of EMPATHY towards most people. Sympathy comes from thinking you understand; empathy comes from definately understanding.
I grew up and currently live in Kansas City, Missouri. I'm about as mid-west as they come without the accent. I developed a good self esteem over many years of hard work and know that I'm a good person.
What makes me tick is that I thrive on helping anyone who ask's for help and giving the shirt off my back to the friends I've made throughout the years. I'm very cool and layedback while still being a musician, songwriter, artist and a DADDY.
I am currently engaged to a wonderful woman who adores me as I adore her. We actively communicate each and everday to see if there is something that we are missing, wishing or needing to develop in our efforts to better our relationship. Any relationship is worth the hard effort and work you must put into it to get happiness out of it. I am working everyday to fullfill her dreams, goals, ambitions, fantasies and spirit toward love; all the while she works on mine. |
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Do I just let him go and hope that he gets his head sorted and come running back?
Q. My bf of 3 years recently kissed another girl, we broke up! We hadn't eally been getting on for the past 6 months, well not not getting on its just we were both too busy for a relationship! Anyway I love this guy, I really really really adore him...
A. 19 December 2005: Did you see them kissing or did he tell you they kissed? The reason I say this is MEN do stupid things but if you caught him it's definately over. If he told you about it then maybe he is really sorry and won't do it again, however telling the one ... (read in full...)
I need to know if he really fancies me or if he is doing it just for fun?
Q. im sorry to keep on its me again! deep down, i do know that he is flirting with me but its really getting to me now, he's driving me crazy, all i can think about is him. Is he doing this because he likes me or just for fun? i enjoy flirting with ...
A. 19 December 2005: I answered the other letter you wrote and seriously my opinion has not changed. Back off and just have fun and let it go. You'll be suprised at what you find out. Sincerely Ed ... (read in full...)
He flirts with me constantly- I like him very much so where do I go from here?
Q. he makes constant eye contact with me and its not just a stare, its like a real flirty sort of dreamy look, when we go out he makes an effort to laugh at my jokes, touch me, and generally be close to me, he tickles my feet and stuff, all i need to ...
A. 19 December 2005: Ok here we go. First things first is your right about ending up the way you think. Let's just try this one on. What if you let the relationship go where it goes instead of you putting your thoughts and ideas where you think they need to go and not ... (read in full...)
He's 46 and ogles the teen girls! How do I deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend is 46 years old. I am the same age. Whenever, we are out shopping, he really looks (I mean really staring and ogling) at teen girls about the age of 13-16 years old. I feel rather disgusted with this behaviour and I feel sorry for the ...
A. 19 December 2005: First of all NO! men should not be doing this because this is why we are so stereotyped. Ole geezer. I don't find this behavoir appropriate because what if it's true; what if he finds them attractive? As a father of two daughters if I seen this ... (read in full...)
Why am I dating my bf of 3 months...but still cheating on him?
Q. i am a girl of 17 and ive been going out wit my bf 4 about 3 months even though i dnt lik him, however during this time i have cheated on him many times. the other day i kissed a friend who i work with and told him that i didnt have a bf so now he ...
A. 19 December 2005: You really are a girl of the worst kind. First your not ready to be called a GF and second if you just want sex then make sure you tell a guy that's all you want from him. When you grow up there will be someone waiting for you to treat you with ... (read in full...)
He has another gf and won't make a decison between her and I.
Q. I have got involved with my best friend, but he is also seeing someone else. They have been seeing each other for over 3 years, but they lives miles apart and only see each other on holiday, snatched days etc because she lives with her partner. ...
A. 19 December 2005: To this situation I will tell you that I used to do this sort of thing when I was younger. The only regret is that I was really stupid for doing that and truely apologize to any woman I ever hurt. I felt as long as the door was open or the grass was ... (read in full...)
When my guy gets depressed, he breaks it off with me...
Q. I think my ex is depressed. He just broke up with me for the 3rd time in 2 years. This time he told me he needs to get back on his feet, but can't juggle that and a relationship at the same time. I am 24 and he is 25. I love him more than anything...
A. 19 December 2005: I'm truly sorry you are going through this as it is severe. On one hand if you run back or try harder you are enabling him. On the other hand you do love him and obviously most of the time he makes you happy. I have suffered with bouts of depression ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants experience with other men! What do I do?
Q. My younger girlfriend says she loves me, but wants to get as much experience as me. I've had ten partners, she only two and she says thats unfair. She says it will just be for sexual experience and won't hurt our relationship. She wants me to agree ...
A. 19 December 2005: Way to go KellyO a woman with a great opinion. Walk away she is definately not mature. Honestly, even with all my experience my fiancee still finds new and cool ways to turn me on that I have never felt before. Experience is also gained through ... (read in full...)
What are the chances that our relationship will work with a 17 year age difference?
Q. What are possible difficulties that could arise from having a 17 year age difference in a relationship? I'm 27 and the guy I like is 44. I really love him and he loves me, but already we've had comments that I looked like his daughter. I've a...
A. 19 December 2005: I agree with codesa about age. Your situation is unique and WILL require dealing with certain aspects as they arise. If you let the age thing bother you it will become a problem. He is more experienced but that doesn't have anything to do with your ... (read in full...)
Does he like me more than a friend??
Q. Hello its me again! i recently asked you all about this guy (who is my sort of mate) whom i think fancies me. Well anyway, we all went out clubbing on saturday night and he was standing close to me all night, i was playing on one of those game ...
A. 19 December 2005: Hello wake up! This is blatant flirting at it's finest. I would never touch my friends feet or tickle them without the thought of flirting. I may not act upon the sexual side of it but I would definately be flirting if I did it. Your response ... (read in full...)
My gf did some some questionable things and I wonder..can I still trust her?
Q. a year ago my gf of three years had a friend do some sexual stuff for her over a webcam, when i asked about it she said she didn't look and that it hadn't happened before ( i'd read the msn conversation they had becuase i knew he liked her and had a ...
A. 19 December 2005: The old webcam thing. What is the difference between a webcam and a porno? Is seeing someone else exciting her really what's bothering you. Do you know for sure she sleeps next to YOU every night. Trust is a funny thing; others write flirting with ... (read in full...)
No sex with my husband and now I've met another guy who has a girlfriend!
Q. Married 27 years separate bedrooms sexless for 12 years - husband never gave me a reason why. Stayed because of son. Recently met another guy who has fallen for me and I'm falling for him. He's got a gf but some problems there. He gave me a hug and ...
A. 19 December 2005: Well you certainly have yourself in a jam and guess what I'm not a genious but it appears that if you think about it I guess the root of the problem is communication with your husband. Whenever we choose to be married it is for sickness and in ... (read in full...)
We dont talk, he shouts and swears...what do I do?
Q. hi im 23 and have one son with my current partner he is alway playing world of warcraft and we never talk he shouts and swears at us but blames me i work hard i get told im having affairs he looks on my phone and though my stuff. ive been with him ...
A. 14 December 2005: Your BF and you have been together 8 years and he's just now becoming an A-hole. I would rather speak to him then, you so maybe you could pass this along. First of all as a man and a FATHER you have the responsibility to NEVER cuss in front of your ... (read in full...)
She can't make up her mind and I'm fed up-it's either her ex or me.
Q. is it normal to be insecured over my girlfriend relation to her ex partner? Back in july 05 i meet a very nice girl in a night club. In october i moved in with her and her 4 years old daughter. The first 3 months were really nice, we got to ...
A. 14 December 2005: Seriously man, I have been in a few of those and I am the father of one of those. You seem like a nice guy and you care. Maybe you should spend your time on some one who will reciprocate your kindness. GET OUT! I've had arguments with fathers, fist ... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm!
Q. I am 19 and i have had sex about 5 or 6 times with different women, yet none of these women have made me come, most men would like this as it means i can last a long time but i am desperate to have an orgasm through sex, my last experience lasted ...
A. 14 December 2005: Might want to see a doctor because that's not normal at all. Yes there are times when a man does not ejaculate once in awhile; however it is a medical condition that has a terminology. Your semen can go back into your bladder and be dissolved in ... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm!
Q. I am 19 and i have had sex about 5 or 6 times with different women, yet none of these women have made me come, most men would like this as it means i can last a long time but i am desperate to have an orgasm through sex, my last experience lasted ...
A. 14 December 2005: Might want to see a doctor because that's not normal at all. Yes there are times when a man does not ejaculate once in awhile; however it is a medical condition that has a terminology. Your semen can go back into your bladder and be dissolved in ... (read in full...)
I long to be with someone else but what about my girlfriend?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months, she lives with me and I am her world. She cut herslef off (own choice) from all her friends and just lives for me. 3 months ago I met a lady through work who is really cool, fun and I am really attrac...
A. 14 December 2005: I know that I've been there several times and for the most part the grass is definately not greener on the other side. Don't be fooled into thinking that your having a gay ole time with this new woman. I honestly think that if you haven't seen your ... (read in full...)
He wants no contact for 2 weeks but it's been 3 days and I'm anxious to contact him! Help
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2years and he just asked for a break. we have a fantastic relationship or at least i thought we did but this has come out of nowhere. just 2 months ago he was extremely loved up. now he wants no contact for at least ...
A. 14 December 2005: I've been here a few times and honestly it was because I was smothering the person I was involved with. However, I don't agree with the two weeks no communication thing. I don't set deadlines to work out major problems. Does anybody really think ... (read in full...)
Can't get my ex out of my head...
Q. to anyone who can advise me what to do. i have been in a relationship for 11 months with my boyfriend but can simply not get my ex of a few years out of my head. whenever i come home from uni he is the first person i think about and call. on several ...
A. 14 December 2005: First let's just say it's hard getting over someone you really love that's the truth. However, you need to seriously look at your relationship with whom your with from their point of view, not yours. If I even thought you were seeing your X and we ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so clingy and insecure it's leaving me at breaking point!
Q. Although she really does'nt need to be, my girlfriend is very insecure. She knows it too, but this hasn't changed over the 8 years that we've been together. We are definately still in love, but pointless arguements happen all the time, which make us ...
A. 14 December 2005: Well, I've been on both ends of that spectrum. Hmmm.... What to do? I suppose you could just tell her to knock it off or not now. But, that would cause an arguement. You could just give it right back to her until she's sick of your affection ... (read in full...)
What do I tell her when I say that I think we should break up?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 5-years now. Here lately things just haven't been the same. Ending the relationship has crossed my mind many times recently. The one problem I have is that I am the worst at breaking up with someone. I never know ...
A. 6 November 2005: This answer is simple, looking on the outside to your general question. You ask yourself one simple question. Do I MAKE HER HAPPY ANYMORE? The question is very simple the answer is very clear. If you don't make her happy then guess what. YOU NEED TO ... (read in full...)
So many barriers between me and the girl I'm seeing... Should I just move on?
Q. I'm 20 years old and recently got dumped by my girlfriend after 3 years. I was pretty cut up but got over it after about a week. I thought she was the only one for me and that I wouldn't find anyone else. However, 1 month later I met a another girl. ...
A. 6 November 2005: Dear Si 494, I totally empathize with your situation as I once was 20 and trust me your whole life is going to go around in circles if you consume yourself with this petty stuff. I have had so many relationships that I actually lost count. A ... (read in full...)
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