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writes: hi im 23 and have one son with my current partner he is alway playing world of warcraft and we never talk he shouts and swears at us but blames me i work hard i get told im having affairs he looks on my phone and though my stuff. ive been with him for 8 years and never cheated we have a mortgage too and i dont know how long i can live like this if it was happen to u what would u do. he says my boy is going down hill cause i always at work i dont know what to do
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (14 December 2005):
 Your BF and you have been together 8 years and he's just now becoming an A-hole. I would rather speak to him then, you so maybe you could pass this along. First of all as a man and a FATHER you have the responsibility to NEVER cuss in front of your children, EVER! Secondly if you can't do that then find another place to cuss like a bar or something where someone will teach you manners. Most importantly YOU need to set aside a time limit for YOUR game and spend the rest of the time devoted to teaching your child how to love, fight, spell, share, care, build, grow, and have respect for others. For you to insult YOUR CHILDS MOTHER in front of the child is absolutely the dumbest thing you could do. How do I know this? Because I used to play PS1 or PS2 for hours on end and blame my defeat or mistakes on others. The truth is that if your game system breaks tommorow you CAN replace it. YOU WILL NEVER REPLACE YOUR CHILD, THEIR MOTHER, OR THE FACT THAT YOU DIDN'T SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH THEM. So when your child is grown and you missed the opportunity to raise them the right way; make sure you tell them it was because of a $49.99 dollar game. In addition whenever you die in the game you simply click on restart, sure you lose a little but you keep going. It's not going to be that easy when the woman who stood by you for 8 years (so far) leaves. You cannot hit restart and she will magically be replaced. As far as looking through her stuff and checking her phone and anything else weird I may have done at one time. If she is going to cheat on you or vice versus their isn't anything you can do about it, period. Get over it. You could just of easily cheated on her. So if you want to push her away; then buddy keep on the same track. Personally if that's your attitude, I would just let her go now and stop wasting her and yours time. If you stop and realize what she has done for you by writing this letter to get help, then you should realize she needs YOU. How, take 1 of your playtime hours or even a 1/2 hour for her and just ask her how she is? Ask if there is anything you could do for her and then tell her that she is special. Try to give up 30 minutes (minimum) for her and this does not mean having sex. Just listen and learn. You will be the best husband and Father ever. Plus you still get to play your game with your friends. Make sure you spend 1 hour a day with that child devoted only to them not watching TV or games. You will quickly realize that you have a gold mine right in front of you and just forgot the pick axe. If my calculation are correct that leaves you 22 1/2 hours for your game. If you don't get sleep it's your fault. GOOD LUCK BOTH OF YOU!
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (13 December 2005):
 First thing your son is both of your responsibility, if he is going down hill (which I seriously doubt he is) then it is not just because of you it would be because of both of you. You are an adult and have the right to be treated as such. No one has the right to yell at you or belittle you. No one should ever swear at a child. It is up to you to protect yourself and you child, if you feel it is unsafe to demand that he treat you and your child better then have friends and family help you get out of there. Just remember everyone deserves respect, if he loves you he will give you that. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): Sounds like you're pretty stressed... :-(
First of all, World of Warcraft is a very addictive game (I know because my boyfriend used to play it all the time - he ended up giving it up because he thought that it took up too much of his time, being so addictive).
You need to sit him down and talk. Unplug the computer, if you must! - Just because you're always at work, doesn't mean that he can blame you, yell and swear.
If he continues being like this, you must leave him. Sounds like you really don't need all of this on your plate.
Good luck!
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