Is there such a thing as a ridiculously attractive average looking guy?
Q. There have been a very very small number of guys who said they've done some kind of psychological exercises to become more attractive to girls and now they get checked out everywhere they go by a LOT of girls and don't have to say anything special ...
A. 22 July 2014: A LOT of what people find attractive is down to body chemistry; if someone (on a mostly subliminal level) smells right then they are (at that point in time) the right one. Sure, there are 'tricks one can play - mind games - to get someone into bed... (read in full...)
My heart is broken....I don't know how to fix this. Help me!
Q. My husband asked me to fulfill a fantasy for him. He wanted me to have sex with another man and video it for he and I to watch later. I am not as open minded as him and it took me a while to process the idea and agree to it. We did it this ...
A. 22 July 2014: First of all - it is NOT your fault; not in the way you think. Yes, you had a choice to very firmly say "no" to the idea, but you didn't because the man you love pestered you into fulfilling HIS (you see, not yours, HIS) fantasy. He (your husba... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend is very controlling
Q. Hi,I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 31. At the beginning of our relationship things were great. He was a gentleman, gave me great advice, was always doing little things to show me he cared. Those things haven't changed but now he also does other little ...
A. 22 July 2014: He sounds like a creepy combination of lover and father. You have the sexual side, which sounds great, but then you have someone who insists on you being there ready for him to collect you? And you are only 7 years older than his actual ... (read in full...)
What other forms of therapy or support might help to get me through my issues with having sex?
Q. Hello. I'm a 47 year old man. I have trouble with having sex. My problems began with my first girlfriend. We had sex that first time. She came and I didn't. For months this went on and nothing seemed to work for me. After the next one I too...
A. 22 July 2014: It sounds as though there are two levels here - the physical and the mental. At no point in your post do you mention whether or not you loved any of your partners. You also come across as someone who feels as though he has been put under an ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give him an ultimatum, either pick me or masturbation/porn but his choice is having an impact on our sex life. What would you do?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months has a lot of great qualities but our sex life is lacking. He can't always maintain an erection when we're having sex or when he can he can sometimes he still can't orgasm. He says he watches a lot of porn and masturb...
A. 22 July 2014: I stayed in a marriage for a LONG time (we were in our 30s then) where he claimed that he wasn't able to perform, and used the 'sex isn't everything' excuse. I tolerated this,a s I thought the rpoblem was my problem (apprently I was too tight and ... (read in full...)
Considering our past history, was what we had together recently a ''one night stand''?
Q. Good day, If you had a relationship with a guy, hook up again a year or two later, have sex and never see each other again,does this count as a "one night stand" ? Even though you were involved earlier?...
A. 22 July 2014: It is a one night stand with the added evil twist of 'sex with the ex'. Doubly toxic. ... (read in full...)
We broke up but I still feel like I should tell him I went out for drinks
Q. I was in a long distance relationship for almost a year. He and I had several problems throughout the relationship, initially about opening up and then trust issues towards the end. In the beginning after a month or so of dating he was demanding...
A. 22 July 2014: Stay.Away.From.Him He sounds unfeasibly controlling and, if you get back together, he will continue to be so. It sounds as though he did his level best to 'cut you from the herd' the first time around - this level of control and invasion of priv... (read in full...)
I only have a week to tell her how I feel -- if I even should?
Q. Hi Guys I knew a girl from my dance lessons a coupe of years ago. We shared an unusual chemistry and did seem to get along real well. But I did not ask her out cause I was then involved with someone else. I met her yesterday after almost a year and...
A. 22 July 2014: Tell her - you have absolutely nothing to lose by letting her know how you feel. try not to put any pressure on her about coming back, but at least let her know how you feel and that, if she feels the same, that you would like to try to make it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's little sister is going all wierd on me.
Q. Ok this is weird. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 and a half years. The other day we went to the water park with her younger sister. While there at one point the litter sister, who is 18 and I'm 20, started to tickle me underwater ...
A. 21 July 2014: She has a MAHOOOSIVE crush on you. Absolutely enormous. I would suggest you don't get yourself into a situation where there is the opportunity for 'harmless' play (it isn't - and you know that, otherwise you wouldn't be asking these questions). I ... (read in full...)
How can I ever tell my wife that due to my diabetes my ability to have sexual relations is no more?.
Q. I am a 53 year old man and I have lost my ability to have sex because I suffer from diabetes. I can just can ejaculate but my penis is not hard enough to sustain sexual relations with my wife. I feel guilty myself. My wife is so good, How can I te...
A. 21 July 2014: Tell her and make the best out of a bad situation. DO NOT simply let things slide because, without explanations, she will assume you have lost all sexual interest in here (and therein lies a whole new world of pain). Be honest, and find ways to ... (read in full...)
Invited out for a drink, but what to drink when I have to drive!
Q. I'm going on a first date with a guy I met at a party and we're going to get a drink. I'm not a big drinker and we're both driving there separately. I've maybe drank 5 times in my life. I really don't drink a lot. I already agreed to get a drink so ...
A. 6 January 2014: Fruit juice, a lemonade or a cola; just because you are on a date you don't have to drink anything alcoholic if you don't want to. It would actually be a pretty good indicator of your date's personality, to see how he copes with your decision not ... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend the entire time we were dating and now he wants to meet up!
Q. I was dating this guy for two months. Everything was perfect, we got along, we had the same common interest and we were going to college, both of our majors went hand in hand with each other and we really helped pushed and motivate each other in ...
A. 12 December 2013: Answer = NO!!
He's lied to you - maybe to her too - and will probably keep lying to you if you let him. Dump him, block him, (maybe let the GF know what a rat he is too) and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Please help - I found dodgy photos on my boyfriend's computer.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a bit confused and any insight would be appreciated as I can't talk to anyone else about this. My boyfriend is a sweet guy, I always knew he had a Pervy side but all guys do and that didn't really bother me.... Until I found pic...
A. 12 December 2013: OMG - I felt sick reading this. Report him, take the evidence, tell your friends and get the hell away from this vile piece of filth. Beyond "bit of a perv" - waaaaaay beyond.... (read in full...)
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