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writes:Hi GuysI knew a girl from my dance lessons a coupe of years ago. We shared an unusual chemistry and did seem to get along real well. But I did not ask her out cause I was then involved with someone else. I met her yesterday after almost a year and we quickly got to talking and reminiscing good old times. It was like an instant connection. However she is leaving the country soon and going on a bike tour of Europe for a few weeks and then back to he home town in another country. She said she was not sure if she comes back but she might. I have just over a week to meet her and maybe tell her how I feel cause I know she feels the same. All the signs are there. But I dont know if I should and if I should, I am stuck as to how. Pls help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): Hi Guys. Thanks for that. It is obvious that it makes no sense to go ahead with something that I know will be a tough endeavor and most likely to end in a lot of difficulties. I don't think I want to get into a relationship here but I sure as hell want to find out if she is fun to be around and we can have a good time maybe even as a friend. I know its not that simple, friendship like that is seldom only friendship. But I am thinking there is no harm in just asking her out maybe just a casual tea or so and have some fun till she leaves. And then just leave it at that ! So maybe I ask her casually for going out for a coffee. I think she might say no given that she also might not want to have any complications.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): Don't bother. You'll be back to DC in a couple of months miserable from trying to carry-on a long-distance relationship after she leaves; and wondering why she doesn't respond, or if she's really interested. It was just an "instant" connection. Nothing to hang your heart on.
Use your sense of logic and practicality. Hitting it off for a few hours doesn't mean it will amount to a relationship with the woman.
Seriously?!! Why put yourself through a whirlwind romance.
Here today, gone tomorrow.
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reader, Mistresskiki  +, writes (22 July 2014):
Tell her - you have absolutely nothing to lose by letting her know how you feel. try not to put any pressure on her about coming back, but at least let her know how you feel and that, if she feels the same, that you would like to try to make it work (somehow!). If you don't tell her how you feel, and don't know how she feels, you will always wonder 'what if'. Even if she doesn't feel the same, at least you will have made the effort.
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