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... Send *.O.S.E.R. a private message | | | *.O.S.E.R.'s profile:Hey you guys.I'm Ana and I chose a display name 'loser' cause currently I feel like one.Life isn't working out,everything is crappy,guess you know what I mean.I've been on this site for over a month now and gave plenty of my opinions to people seemed like they could use it so I guess the better way to get info about me is to read them.Set-ups that make my motives to stay joined on www.dearcupid.org are listed below and other than them I can't find anything else important to be mentioned here.I welcome you to contact me if the reason why you're reading this is to find out who's that loser who gave you the advice;)Holla
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My boyfriend has gotten abusive
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we recently had a baby during my pregnancy he started getting a little aggressive just doing little things like pulling my hair and pinching me, since the birth of our son its got worse in the ...
A. 30 September 2007: THANK YOU Cathy - that's all GREAT news:)))Whenever you feel the need to chat with someone or anything know that we'll all be here for you (I'm sure that others share my opinion on that).xxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
If I could I'd express my love to him now, but 14-15 is a bit young to lose my virginity, is it not?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are soo in love, we've been together for almost a year [11 months and 22 days] And we've discussed having sex for the past few months, i am not pressured at all and we're very matture about the subject. We've discussed contrcep...
A. 22 September 2007: Well are you SURE you're ready?If you are,you know what you want,it's your life and you don't care about anything else...but you do.I think it's important not to care about what others think cause it can stop you from doing some things that might be ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with the boy my friend had a one night stand with, and she says she loves him. What should I do?
Q. My best friend lost her virginity in a 1 night stand after telling the boy she was'nt a virgin and has never tried to contact him since, i met him a few weeks later and fell in love with him and now shes saying she has feelings for him. what should ...
A. 22 September 2007: BACK OFF.She's your best FRIEND and I can't understand how can you even have a dilemma about it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten abusive
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we recently had a baby during my pregnancy he started getting a little aggressive just doing little things like pulling my hair and pinching me, since the birth of our son its got worse in the ...
A. 22 September 2007: Awww honey...I realize it's just a beginning but 1st step is the hardest one and I'm unbelievable happy now that I read you made it.I also admire you for doing that,it takes lots of bravery and logical reasoning what might have been hard for you to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten abusive
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we recently had a baby during my pregnancy he started getting a little aggressive just doing little things like pulling my hair and pinching me, since the birth of our son its got worse in the ...
A. 21 September 2007: I 99% agree with Leanne cause actually I believe he'll change...on worse!PLEASE don't do it to yourself or to your son,you DON'T need it-run as fast as you can.There must be a place where you can go,wherever.It would be right thing to do to tell a ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my ex fiance?
Q. hi aunty, my problem is how to forget my engaged girlfriend whom we separated after 3yrs but still feel i love though she told me she is seeing someone else seriously.help aunty...
A. 21 September 2007: Dunno how long since you two broke up but keep in mind that time cures everything-it's a fact.If you haven't so far start going out and find a new girl to replace her.I'm sure it's way easier to write than to do it but unfortunately it's the only ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him but he says he doesn't have those deep feelings for me. I don't know what to think anymore?
Q. I'm 29 yrs old. I have been with my boyfriend for 7months. At first he was very motivated, and worked very hard to get me to start dating him. We get along wonderfully, we have the same interest, circle of friends, similar values and goals...
A. 21 September 2007: Maybe he just has fear of saying "the L word" lol.Dunno,I personally think that deeds are more important than words.If you do get along perfect as you say you do I guess theres no reason to worry at all.You start enjoying too:)... (read in full...)
If I go back he will continue his torture, if I stay back society will blame me, so what should I do to end the abuse in my marriage?
Q. Iam having troubled life for the past seven years, my first marriage was a dissaster there was dowry problem, i was physically abused, i kept quiet for a long time for my parents sake. basically i am a shy person and closed person who would like...
A. 21 September 2007: Oh honey I'm BEGGING you,for you own sake only:FUCK the society!!!It's YOUR life ONLY,don't let it slip away while doing things others think you should.PLEASE!!!!!!It's for the best and I'm sorry I can't be there to convince you and make sure you'll ... (read in full...)
My friend is building a relation with my ex, who was awful to me. Thought I'd be rid of him, but he's still trying to ruin my life with bad rumours. Views, please?
Q. Hi, I have a problem that has really disturbed me and I dont know what to do. I recieved a text message last night from one of my friends, basically telling me that she was seeing my ex boyfriend. I do not see this mate very often but she is a rea...
A. 18 September 2007: Your so called friend is not a lovely girl,she's a mean bitch-I got so irritated while reading this all.Stop communicating with her or him and try to forget about it all cause you can't change a thing and you might get hurt even more.Dunno,you'll ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her that just b/c I like guys now, I'm still the same person?
Q. One of my friends thinks I'm changing, but everyone else thinks I'm the same. She thinks I'm changing cause I'm more into guys now. But, you see, everyone is changing cause everyone is now having sex at this age! Like a lot of my friends already ...
A. 18 September 2007: Oh hun,if everyone is jumping of the roof you don't need to be among them-from what you wrote seems to me you're absolutely not mature enough to have sex...but unfortunately it's your decision only.... (read in full...)
Did I take the pregnancy test too early? Is there a chance I could ge pregnant?
Q. i recently had unprotected sex, i haven't missed a period as such i started bleeding about 4days earlier than my period was due, it started off a brown colour then gradually turned redder, it was really strange, it would go from nothing in the ...
A. 18 September 2007: I agree,redo the test in about 1 week from now.Hypothetically you could have a fake period (or what's the word for that in English).Symptoms are almost definitely caused with your mind and worry so ignore them and try to remain calm.I'm almost sure ... (read in full...)
How do you know when is a safe time to give yourself to someone?
Q. When I finally decided to have sex for the first time, it was with my bf who I had been going with for 6months. The following month he treated me like crap! I finaly broke it off a month later, at the 7month mark. It made me feel like he was puting ...
A. 18 September 2007: No meter how adorable or pathetically in loved he acts you can never know it for sure-that's the risk of the game.My advice to everyone frightened of being used is to be honest in his/her own eyes.You know,you must kiss lots of frogs before you find ... (read in full...)
My ex was the jealous type, and it's really hurt me. Can you give your prespective?
Q. I just broke up with my bf. The thing is that throughout our relationship I think he was jealous of me and this makes no sense to me and I need some perspective. Well we had started dating and I could tell that he felt a little insecure about ...
A. 17 September 2007: It's not jealousy,it's inferiority complex.Also on that farm of his I guess he has been raised to believe he must be "the man","head of the house" etc.Probably he realizes how stupid he is and that's why he mocked you,to try to make himself look ... (read in full...)
Should I still ask him straightforward?
Q. I've met this guy about a month ago, and we've been hanging out about 10 times. Last week we started holding hands and kissing. When I'm with him I feel that he likes me but he's never said he likes me or any of his feelings. So I remain silent, ...
A. 17 September 2007: Wait for a while longer.I know plenty of guys acting like him and it's not cause they don't like a girl,it's just some macho trip they have.Guess that holding hands is a good sign.Be patient for a month more and then ask him if he doesn't improve ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's parents
Q. My boyfriend's parents hate me. I don't know what I did wrong. I ws staying with them for seven weeks in France (where they are from) after we accomodated my boyfriend for two months while he did a work placement here in London. During that stay...
A. 17 September 2007: All you wrote shows me they are just pathetic retards.I hope your bf realizes that.If he's the right one he should (no,if he's sane he should).Try not to waste any second of your time thinking about them anymore cause they don't deserve it-what can ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel attracted to other women
Q. Hey, I need a bit of advice I've been with my first and only girlfriend now for almost three years which is great. but for a long while now our sex life has almost gone. In the last 18 months we have had sex less than around five times,we dont liv...
A. 17 September 2007: Well basically it depends on is the sex more important then love to you but it seems like you have been GREAT boyfriend so far.Your girlfriend should appreciate what you've done for her so far and how patient you were.It's normal that you have your ... (read in full...)
She dosent even comfort me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have being going out for 4 months now in the beginning it was crazy love now she treats me like Im just a normal friend I have been so nice to her and now when Im seriously depressed she dosent even comfort me?...
A. 17 September 2007: Well maybe now she's safe with you and feels no need to show you her love.Most of the times I have an idea that people who are close to me and who I love can realize when I feel like crap-but unfortunately they can't.In kind of moments when I want ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pornography addict!
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now. 5 months ago, he told me that he had an addiction to pornography. I was really upset at first, but then decided to stay beside him, be a prayer support, and try to get him through it. Thin...
A. 17 September 2007: Never knew theres such a thing as "addiction to pornography" lmao.Maybe he's overrating his issue or something,it can't be that bad.It's like if I'd say "I'm addicted to collecting posters",point is: soft addictions can be stopped with free will.If ... (read in full...)
My parents seem a little homophobic and I'm concerned what they'd say about my sexual orientation.
Q. hi im a 17 year old bisexual. Im sick of lyin to my parents about where im goin when im goin to gay bars, and always deny myself being gay. i think im ready to come out, but dont know how. i think they seem a little homophobic and they may hate me. ...
A. 17 September 2007: Hey.I'm glad to see you don't feel bad about your own life choices,it's great:)Regarding your parents I don't think they'll hate you for any reason,you're their child.Even tho honestly I'm a bit homophobic myself I have a few gay friends and I ... (read in full...)
He wants me back. I want to stay single, but I'm not sure my feelings will ever go away!
Q. I was with a guy for 6yrs an have 2 children by him, we split up 4 mnths ago due to him staying out all night partying and generally not treating me very good.Now he wants me back and although i do still love him my head is telling me not to do it.I ...
A. 16 September 2007: I must declare my opinion on this:for the kids it's better to be with one parent only then with both if they're arguing or disrespect each other.You two have already split up and I dunno...how come you haven't mention kids in your question?That ... (read in full...)
I'm bi and I'm dating my g/f online... but she only feels like a friend
Q. I'm bi and I'm dating my gf online. We both feel like we talk like friends rather than gf's. We both have feelings for each other but we don't know y we talk like friends and not as gf's. Any idea how to fix this or any advice u can give me. I would ...
A. 16 September 2007: What do you mean "dating online"-you know her in person,right?I think it's ok talking to gf in a friendly manner,on my logic you meet someone and you never know will you two stay together forever or for a week...but if you do stay together one day ... (read in full...)
My gf's cousin is not allowed to date unless accompanied, I didn't let my gf assist because a second boy was going, am I too jealous?
Q. my girlfriend has a best friend and they are cousins, she has a boyfriend but she cant go out with her boyfriend unless someone else goes, so she invited my girlfriend. i know it seems ok but the thing is that her best friends boyfriend was go...
A. 16 September 2007: Aw,sorry then:)It means you have a good relationship if you talked it over and she decided not to do something you toled her it bothers you.I'm not sure is it too jealous to mind the fact your gf is going on a double date but if that's the only time ... (read in full...)
What are the chances that I may be preganant?
Q. i really need some help i know it was stupid but ok my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time yesterday we did it twice the first time with a condom then the second time to be able to get deeper we didnt and he came just as he pulled out so how ...
A. 16 September 2007: Well,the pre-cum is a bit of a problem but I think the odds are less than 25:75 that you are.You know,it does happen,but when sometimes people can't have a baby after years of trying let us hope you're not THAT bad luck to get pregnant for the 1st ... (read in full...)
He keeps taking pills! Is this going to harm him?
Q. I've been with my partner now for about 18 months and although we started off really badly we are really happy together, and i'm working away from home now for a year and wer as strong as ever. However i need help, my bf is constanly taking tablets, ...
A. 16 September 2007: I think they do...But I dunno how could you help him cause if he doesn't wanna talk to you about it I guess he also wouldn't wanna go and see a doctor for the same reason.Probably he has some problems with sleeping and maybe you should check ... (read in full...)
How many times a week should a guy in my position masturbate in a week?
Q. Am really wondering how often somebody without a partner especially a boy(20-25yrs) should mustarbate in a week if its right at all...
A. 16 September 2007: Of course it's "right" and you should do it whenever you feel like it:)I am a girl so I guess you won't find any reason why am I replying to this but as a meter of fact I dig to be the 1st one who's posting answer and also I'm into medicine and ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me two weeks ago. But she's really calling me a lot...is she missing me?
Q. Hello I am 24 my ex 27. She broke up with me two weeks ago. She told me she fell out of love. Well anyways she was calling me everyday to see how things were. So three days ago I decided to not return her calls. She tried to call me 3 times one day, ...
A. 16 September 2007: Seems to me like she realized she made a mistake;)I'm glad for you already even tho nothing happened yet-maybe you could try to talk with her a bit more or just text her with "I miss you"...She called you all those times,you could make some ... (read in full...)
And old crush likes me now but I'm with another guy! What should I do?
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend now for over a month but before i went out with him I really liked this other boy. Now that im goin out with my boyfriend he has broken up wth his girlfriend and says he likes me. i dont kno what to do. i ...
A. 16 September 2007: I advice you to do it cause you're young and what you're in is not a "mature" relationship.Even if it were it's just one date,no big deal.Don't feel guilty,enjoy and...feedback on us how was it;)... (read in full...)
My gf's cousin is not allowed to date unless accompanied, I didn't let my gf assist because a second boy was going, am I too jealous?
Q. my girlfriend has a best friend and they are cousins, she has a boyfriend but she cant go out with her boyfriend unless someone else goes, so she invited my girlfriend. i know it seems ok but the thing is that her best friends boyfriend was go...
A. 15 September 2007: Sorry but I get so irritated when I see statement like "I didn't LET her go".I start thinking in a way "who da fuck are you to keep someone from doin ANYTHING he/she wants".If you don't trust her let her go-in all other ways leave her alone and let ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my best friend's ex, my friend seems comfortable with it, how should I do about her and how do I avoid a heartache?
Q. i've just goten out of a really awkward relationship and i love being single the only thig on my mind is i cant be dealing with heartacke any more..but i recently have started colege again and my close friends ex is now one of my close friends..but ...
A. 15 September 2007: There was a similar question here few days ago and my reply was (now I'll paraphrase myself) "ex boyfriends of your girl (and boy) friends are not allowed";)Better quit it while you don't fall for him TOO much.If you love being single as you wrote ... (read in full...)
My ex got rid of our baby, should I have her back hoping she'd want a child this time or continue with my current gf?
Q. ex got rid of baby (I wanted it) I still think about her all of the time (hate and love) after 2 1/2 yrs. She has 2 kids already, I have none, My question is should I risk trying to woo her back thinking she'd have a baby, I'd have to dump my ...
A. 15 September 2007: Look,I'm not so sure about weather to give you the advice or not cause getting rid of a baby is a BIG decision (especially when you already have 2 kids) and there must be a reason she did it (we can't know).I wanna say,the fact she didn't want your ... (read in full...)
He says "your my girlfriend, not my mother". Should I be so concerned with his life choices?
Q. Hey its me again, about the should I chuck him or wait for a miracle. I've got another question, my boyfriend wants to do more pot which is completely against my morals. He has plans to do it this weekend. I want to use the old "three strikes your ...
A. 15 September 2007: Well I actually don't see weed as dangerous and necessarily bad "mean green plant"...but if you do theres no reason to stay with him...so I advice dumping too:( Hope he doesn't mean too much to you but even if he does better stick to your beliefs.xo... (read in full...)
Is my fiance cheap? He makes 2800 a month and spend 2000 on my ring.
Q. Is my fiance cheap? He makes 2800 a month and spend 2000 on my ring....
A. 15 September 2007: The only way I could understand your question would be if you made mistake and wrote "2000" instead of "200".Even then I wouldn't consider him cheap...which I couldn't say about you tho (consider it a joke;)I wonder what particularly made you think ... (read in full...)
I take it from his actions he doesn't love me any more?
Q. My guy broke up with me a few weeks back, it's so hard to get over him.. he doesn't even want to be friends.. says it's for the best.. I really want to get back with him.. I've emailed him telling him how I feel but he just doesn't reply:( I don't ...
A. 15 September 2007: Sorry to hear it girl:( Try to keep a low profile for a while if you can-during that time two things might happen: 1)he realizes he misses and still loves you 2)you realize you're better off without him. Well unfortunately you can't force him to g... (read in full...)
Should I take the chance and risk getting hurt again or play safe?
Q. I've met a guy through work who I really like and whilst I'm not sure how he feels about me, I think that he could feel the same way. The only problem is that I don't know if i can trust him. He's a sales rep (I've worked with sales reps for about ...
A. 15 September 2007: What do you mean "haven't met him yet"-saw him?Anyway I know it's difficult but as a friend of my mum used to quote someone I guess "If you close your hand you cant drop the money you already have in it but you cant take anymore of it".Aw I just ... (read in full...)
We both want sex, but she loves me and I don't love her. Is this right?
Q. hey, im fifteen years old. I want to have sex with this girl. I think she pretty, sexy, and mad hott. we went out for a little bit and from that I got a blow job. Some issues arrose and I broke up with her. She's in love with me and I want to have ...
A. 12 September 2007: I agree with them all,don't do it mate!Become an ethical man haha.Look,you'll have plenty of chances to get laid in life,no need to take every one of them.You're just gonna hurt her a big time and it's wrong thing to do.I know you have it in you or ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling guilty for cheating on my girlfriend?
Q. I have cheated on my girlfriend after 3years of being together, i kissed another girl. Can anyone help me get rid of the guilt that continuosly pesters me every second and every hour. Im struggling to forgive myself and it is affecting my ...
A. 12 September 2007: Hey macho man,what's the deal?You kissed another girl and it was wrong thing to do.Ok,but it seems to me like you haven't toled her yet,huh?(Cause if you did tell her already you forgot to mention her reaction about it).Anyway I'll quote Charlie ... (read in full...)
She hasn't told me how she feels about me and it's tearing me up! I don't know what to do.
Q. ok heres the thing i am in love with this girl and i told her and she said she does have feelings for me but not sure what they are and i've been waiting for ages to get a decent response and still nothing. so anyway i asked her well do i forget ...
A. 12 September 2007: Well how old is she?Guess I agree that if you love someone you can't be with anyone else but then again can you really LOVE a person you've never been in relationship with...How long has it been since you toled her what you feel?Are you good friends ... (read in full...)
I'm with my friends ex and she seems to have a problem with it. What should I do?
Q. my best friend use to sleep with this lad, and he fancies me. we got together last sat she said she was really happy for me and shes not bothered about him no more, but shes told one of our friends that shes bothered, but she has already got a ...
A. 12 September 2007: Ups,touchy....But what were you even doing with your best friends ex?If you ask me,you should turn back time and don't get together with him or don't stay friends with her.No matter what kind of guy he is,if he treated her bad you should not even ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he already had chlamydia before we started our relationship and I just did not catch it?
Q. I had been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months when i went on holiday for a week for a hen party, my boyfriend gave me such a hard time about it thinking that i was going to cheat on him. About a week after i came home he started getting some ...
A. 11 September 2007: I advice you to ask a doctor...clever,huh?No,seriously,just call any kind of health service phone line and ask them that as a hypothetical question since they're way more expert than anyone of us here could be:)Hope they'll say 'yes' as a reply ... (read in full...)
How long should our break last? Will we be able to get back together and move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I had been together for four years. About 5 months ago he got drunk and kissed a girl, but told me that night and apologized. I attempted to get over it but was devastated for the next few months. I lost the emotional aspect of our ...
A. 11 September 2007: He JUST kissed her?AND apologized you on the SAME night?Oh girl,PLEASE try to get over it if you love him cause it's soooooooooo NOT big deal.I think you'll certainly be able to get back together...just if you'll be able to get close to him ... (read in full...)
It's been lies for the past 6 months, so how can we rebuild trust in each other?
Q. What can I do or my boyfriend do to rebuild trust? Is compromise an option? Hey all, I could really use your help. I'm 32, my boyfriend is 29. I recently found out that my boyfriend has been lying to me about where he has been going out. He k...
A. 11 September 2007: I think that if you're SURE he loves you you might show him some trust for that.I understand he's an a-hole for lying but it's unfair of you not to be supportive about what does he want to do with his life when you're not together(heeey,I'd dump Vin ... (read in full...)
I cannot see her or her daughter suffer the consequences of my leaving. Thanks to all.
Q. In regard to the last question I posted: Your advise was all good and probably right. Only one problem, I really am in love with this woman and her daughter. I can not see her or her daughter suffer the consequences of my leaving. Their worlds w...
A. 11 September 2007: Aww...You are the guy who posted that he's in England,girlfriend in USA and she had a sex with co-worker several times?It's GREAT opinion not wanting to give up on continuity of the family and I am also a kid out of broken marriage so couldn't ... (read in full...)
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