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writes:I've met a guy through work who I really like and whilst I'm not sure how he feels about me, I think that he could feel the same way. The only problem is that I don't know if i can trust him. He's a sales rep (I've worked with sales reps for about 6 yrs and am usually immune to their charms!) so has to have an out going personality and charm - which he has. Only problem is before I think about taking things further, I need to find out if I can trust him, this may sound really strange, but I think he's either a really great bloke or a compulsive liar. In past relationships I have been cheated on and lied to and now find it hard to trust people. I'm scared of getting hurt again and am not sure if this is the reason why I'm having doubts about him or whether it's some kind of 6th sense which I should be listening to. I haven't met him yet, but we speak several times a day on the phone and sometimes text in the evenings. He doesn't know the details about my bad relationships, but knows I find it hard to trust people and have been hurt before.So basically, should I take the chance and risk getting hurt again or play safe?
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 One other thing comes to mind that my fiance said to me..."life is like a bus, people get on and people get off."
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (15 September 2007):
I sit here and read all of the stories about people screwing other people outside of their relationships. I am engaged to be married and it's true I have been hurt in the past too. I try to look for warning signs of unfaithfulness. I have 3 rules that I live by, you can email me if you want to know those rules. What I won't do is screw around on my partner, because if she does on me then I have to have a clear conscience when I say goodbye to her. What I won't do is ever trust completely again, I will love and I am in love, but I love with my heart and think with my head. My ex mother in law used to say "nothing is forever". In this world she was right, she died at 69, and it's heart wrenching to watch someone you love die of cancer. If you're going to love you have be ready to hurt.
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 What do you mean "haven't met him yet"-saw him?Anyway I know it's difficult but as a friend of my mum used to quote someone I guess "If you close your hand you cant drop the money you already have in it but you cant take anymore of it".Aw I just realized it sounds so stupid translated on English but the point is (quote of Del Boy now) "He who dares wins".It's to bad people get hurt all the time but it's the fact and another quote again "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger".Well actually,my advice for you is to give it a try but without raising your hopes too high.Good luck;)
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