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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've met this guy about a month ago, and we've been hanging out about 10 times. Last week we started holding hands and kissing. When I'm with him I feel that he likes me but he's never said he likes me or any of his feelings. So I remain silent, too. I don't know what he really thinks about me, but when we don't see each other he rarely texts me. He also never says that he misses me. I want to ask him how he feels but I don't want to sound clingy or pushy. Should I still ask him straightforward?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): I was in a similar situation when I was aged about 15!
I always used to walk her home after church, me on one side of my pushbike, she on the other. I was shy. She was my first girlfriend. She was shy. I was her first boyfriend. We never held hands, probably because as well as the shyness, the bike got in the way.
Anyway, if I knew then what I know now, I'd have left the bike at home and we could have been somewhat more romantic. I wanted to hold her hand, and, as I found out years later, she wanted to hold mine. Talk about wasted opportunities!!
So - say what you're thinking and get him to do the same. Be honest with each other. He's not a mind reader and neither are you. You might be surprised at how your relationship could develop if you open up to each other.
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): hay hunni! well my advice to u is not just askhin, kinda hint but to be honest sounds like he is into u hes just playing it cool! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): i think u should ask him out straight. i too am in a similar situtaion. but the guy i love has only kissed me once. we too hardly ever meet but also say to each to meet up. he rarely texts me now, i feel we become a bit distant. the next time u see him or contact him, and he does anything u feel that only a boyfriend should, have it out with him, dont leave it for too long!
but let me warn you i know this may seem blunt and sometimes the truth hurts, but this is what someone said to me about the guy i like, thats maybe he is just an overfriendly guy!!
what ever it is or isnt clear it up and ask him
hope this helps
xxx good luck xxx
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (17 September 2007):
 Wait for a while longer.I know plenty of guys acting like him and it's not cause they don't like a girl,it's just some macho trip they have.Guess that holding hands is a good sign.Be patient for a month more and then ask him if he doesn't improve till then.xo
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