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anonymous
writes:Yesterday I got fired from my job for having an affair with my boss. I didn't expect it because we thought we were careful not to get caught but the video camero showed us kissing in the parking lot. has this happened to anyone else and how do I cope with all of it?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 What confuses me: They didn`t see you having an affair with your boss, they saw you kissing him. Having an affair means actually having SEX, and the fact that they saw you two kissing doesn`t PROVE you did that. Of course, if I saw two people kissing, I would suspect that they might be sexually involved, but it doesn`t prove anything.
Even if you actually had an affair with him, the people watching the cameras had no way of knowing. Your kissing him is circumstantial evidence.
Miamine is correct in telling you to seek legal advice about this. You may have a claim to wrongful dismissal, but I`m not sure what the employment laws are in Canada.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Anon reader has given good advice... as he's your boss, you may also have a claim for sexual harassment and loss of wages against him.. He's the senior employee, you could claim (if you feel desperate) that he should have known better, and you felt as if you had no choice..
Not nice, but it's an option.
Also if neither of you were on duty at the time, but were leaving work, the company may have overstretched it's authority as your allowed to do as you like in your own time.
Get a lawyer.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (25 December 2010):
Did your boss get fired to. If not, then you can sue the company for sex discrimination. Also, for this to be a sackable offence they needed to inform you that your not allowed to date people at work, it should have been some where either in your contract of employment or Terms and Conditions. If you haven't been informed that this is disallowed, then you could sue for wrongful dismissal.
You need advice from someone familiar with employment law in Canada. I assume that if you phone a lawyer and ask where you can get free advice, they should have details of where you can go. (This is how it works in the UK)
Sorry, I'm not familiar with Canadian law or advice services... You need legal help, please contact your local advice service and ask them for further details.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 I know that you are probably now thinking that what you were doing was wrong, so I'm not gonna tell you that you messed up. We all make mistakes and none of us are perfect so we shouldn't judge.
The only thing you can do now is to move on, have a fresh start. Don't continue this affair. When these kind of things happen - you do something wrong, you get caught or something similar, I believe they happen for a reason - a new start is calling, a new turn in life's path so use it to your advantage. My advice would be to take a short holiday - clear your head, think about your next step, be it a new job, a move to another part of town etc.
You need to think outside the circle that was your life before this incident happened and get out. This is my advice to you. I am not going to tell you to go back and try to get your job back because I do believe things happen for a reason and I think this is your calling to get out and start a new way of life. Your life's path has turned, so go with it.
Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Did he get fired as well? Everybody quick to blame you. If he did not get fired and it was company policy then contact you and attorney. That is discrimination. You may can even get sexual harassment charges brought up as well. He over exerted his power as your boss. Employers do not want funk in their lives. You start insinuating theses charges, I bet they will give you your job back or pay you off.
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reader, JustinNki  +, writes (25 December 2010):
 Dang Im sorry :(
thats kinda hot tho.
U cant take anything back or change what happend. Just deal with it the best you can. Try and get your job back once things have settled or just move on.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): You shouldnt have even been involved with him or having an affair.People always get to comfortable then they slip up.Karma,..it never forgets about you.
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