Guys - do most of you struggle with committment and why?
Q. Hello. It turns out that the guy I am with and have been with for coming up to 1 and ½ years may have some commitment issues. don’t get me wrong, he’s great, we love each other and we are still together and have no intention of breaking up but he ...
A. 19 May 2011: its an interesting question - define commitment? if its a life long love and never leaving the other person there are heaps of couples I know who have been married 50+ years. At a certain point I believe you get comfortable in the relationship and... (read in full...)
Why do some men not care about women's feelings?
Q. Why some man are so unconsidered of someone elses feelings... He stringing me along for over a year, always coming back saying that he wants to try things out, knowing how in love i was, I was always honest about my feelings hoping he would make ...
A. 19 May 2011: Hi - I think it is good that you got to love and experience that massive emotion - some people never have! And also you still care enough your ex to feel happy (ish) for him even though he's a jerk. Wish you all the best finding a decent man - they... (read in full...)
Ex says he will always love me but has to move on
Q. My ex is engaged,. I just moved out of the house a month and a half ago. I am so hurt. I lost twenty pounds. He tells me to give him some time he needs to find himself. He is not even admitting to me he is engaged.(He says a promise ring) We have ...
A. 18 May 2011: Ok - I just broke up with my girlfriend over the weekend and we both told each other we still love each other, its more around circumstances that has caused us to pause and say ok, either we take the time now to resolve some issues or it will really ... (read in full...)
Do I read too much into his actions?
Q. There's this man I really like and I think it's mutual, but sometimes it's hard to tell. Oftentimes he shows romantic or attracted interest and others, like lately, he shows disinterest, as in not responding to my text messages anymore. Has he ...
A. 18 May 2011: maybe he's waiting for you to pick up the pace a little - txting is pretty boring and is a mere shadow of interaction - you need to meet with him and start dating him. Then things could develop more... (read in full...)
What type of girl appeals more to men?
Q. This a question I have wondered for a while, and men would probably find answering this one easier, but what type of girl do guys usually go for? I know it's personality that counts and I would never change how I looked to please someone else, bu...
A. 18 May 2011: Obviously the clothes woman wear indicate how well she looks after her self and her tastes. If she is artie shes likely to look like a hippie, if shes high maintenance probably designer clothes that look like crap on her and lots of make up etc.
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Why doesn't my wife believe me when I say she is my true love?
Q. I treat her like a queen, why doesn't my wife believe me? What can I do to convince her she is the love of my life? We were at my school reunion. I was talking with my ex-girlfriend Linda and her husband when my wife Sally,not knowing who they ...
A. 18 May 2011: Hi - from what you have described it sounds like you kind of are ignoring her and actions do speak louder than words. If you wonder off to talk to people you havent seen for years and leave your wife to it for the entire weekend most people would ... (read in full...)
Not sure what this guy's intentions are and worried he might have a girlfriend....what do you think?
Q. Hello everyone thanks for taking the time for reading this. Let me try and make this short. I've been single for 2 years now. I was previously in a 5 year realationship. But found out the whole thing was based on a lie. So now its hard for me to ...
A. 18 May 2011: Hi - I think you should go for it with this guy, after all you are 26 yrs old and you can make your own decisions. When a guy says that he is not involved and he calls you and he is interested I would take him at his word - yes he's thinking about ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 17 May 2011: Sorry - have to agree and I cheated on my wife just before we broke up - step back and look at this situation - would you stay with any man that fathers a child and then deserts them while in another relationship? kids bring couples together - there ... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel this pain anymore. Need advice on getting over my first love.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I broke about a month ago after 2 years and I'm pretty sure that she already likes someone else and is moving on...which really hurts me :( But I now realize that I really need to move, but the thing is...I don't know how:( I ...
A. 15 May 2011: Hi - I'm going through the same stuff as you - and yes its so incredibly hard. You do have alot of choice about how you feel at any one time. Accepting that its ok to feel depressed and hurt is the first step. By accepting thats its ok, you can then ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you like tall girls?
Q. Question for the guys, Do guys prefer a woman to be tall? Not taller than them, but not too short? Why do some guys dislike dating short women? Is is to do with the sex? lol ...
A. 9 May 2011: I would say it's about proportions as well, if the waist to hip ratio is good and have nice long thin legs then you will be very beautiful regardless of height. I have a relative who plays in the NBA and his wife is 5 foot 3 so definately there is ... (read in full...)
Do guys usually have an idea of how a girl's body would look like without clothes?
Q. Do guys usually have an idea of how a girl's body would look like without clothes? Or are they completely surprised when the clothes come off? I have an average body type, more so on the thin side. But I'm not lean and fit with muscles. Guys can...
A. 9 May 2011: Hi - Guys can definately see what type of body is under clothes - its interesting actually since people with better than average bodies - either slim and well proportioned or fit bodies usually fit their clothes well also and tend to wear tighter ... (read in full...)
Is there anywhere I can go for male advice on male problems?
Q. is there any agony site for men. similar to dearcupid.com but mainly for men. I notice that most of the male questions here are answered by female aunts. I need male views on some male questions. ...
A. 4 May 2011: I'm a male, heaps of the uncles are men so whats your question? We enjoy anwering where we can although i will admit some of the problems are outside of my experience and should be answered by people with very wise heads.
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Why would a guy treat you like you are everything when he is cheating on you?
Q. Why would a guy do such a horrible thing? Why would a guy treat you like your the only girl for him in the world and tells you how amazing you are and how much he's in love with you and all the while he's cheating on you behind your back an...
A. 3 May 2011: Hi - It sounds like your feeling very hurt by the actions of your now (former?) boyfriend but I think when you meet a man who actually does love you very much you may realise that the way your boyfriend treated you had little to do with love and ... (read in full...)
I'm still not over him...should I tell him my feelings?
Q. Hello, i would appreciate some advice. I was in a relationship with a guy, not for very long but i did fall in love with him. We started having problems and he ended it. Nearly 2 months later i am still in love with him and today i have actually...
A. 2 May 2011: Hi - I would definately see him in person and invite him for a coffee or something - but not as a catch up how are you discussion but as a confession of how you feel - I always believe you cant go wrong with expressing your emotions truthfully and ... (read in full...)
She keeps pushing me away and asking me to date younger woman...I'm at a crossroads
Q. Hi all, thanks for reading my question. I'm 32/m/Aus. I broke up with my ex about 4 weeks ago. We were together for nearly a year. She's older than me and being sick. Our connection and feeling was very strong from the very beginning and de...
A. 2 May 2011: Hi - dont you think that by pushing you away and breaking up with you it was asking how committed you were to her? There is no way on this earth that I would consider dating someone else so quickly after breaking up with the love of your life - its ... (read in full...)
He had performance anxiety on our date...tips for handling it the next time round?
Q. I recently started seeing a guy. He's sweet, funny, but shy. He always given me hugs, but I had to initiate kissing him on our third date at his home. When he took me to bed after making out for a while on the couch, I asked him if he had any ...
A. 2 May 2011: Hi - just be aware that its pretty common when two people start having sex - he's so uptight about wanting it to be good he's losing his erection. Happens when someone likes the other person heaps and is concerned aboput their pleasure. My advice... (read in full...)
How best to find out why her feelings seemed to change?
Q. Basically, I have tried to get with a girl I like, I think I now get the message she isn't as keen as I am, she always says she is bored, I offer to go out and do stuff with her, no response, buy her stuff, no comments. I think to keep wishing is ...
A. 1 May 2011: Hi - you have basically asnwered your own question even though you wish she would like you as much as you like her. If I were you I'd just ignore her now and look for someone else - if she has any feelings at all for you then this would bring them ... (read in full...)
LDR b/f broke up with me yet wants to keep me as a friend?
Q. My LDR of 4 years broke up with me last night ='( He got depressed over the past month about how his life is because his friends all seem to know what their doing and where their going and he doesnt. He got totally lost in life, lately he has no...
A. 24 April 2011: Hi- because he wants to keep you as a back stop if his life turns completely to crap - but right now he's thinking that he wants to try meeting someone else closer to him and seeing what happens. Obviously the hassle of sustaining the LDR has done ... (read in full...)
No sex in 3 months, he gets morning erections but doesn't like morning sex!
Q. Hiya everyone! Hope u can give me some advice as I really don't know what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and we haven't had sex for 3 months. He has told me he has a problem getting errections.however I am not sure if...
A. 24 April 2011: Hi - why dont you invite him home at lunchtime during work time and get busy then or have sex on the kitchen table as soon as he comes home or jump into the shower with him and give me a blow job - maybe he's just a bit bored with the same old same ... (read in full...)
Sexually inexperienced--should I just tell him to grab a condom?
Q. I'm not really sure what I'm asking here...advice I guess... I recently started to fool around with a friend (we haven't had intercourse- only oral sex, and a lot of dry humping with nothing but our underwear on). Anyhow, thing is I had only eve...
A. 24 April 2011: Hi - so you have realised that all guys are different and they like different things. I suggest one of you has to take the lead and just do what you have done in the past and adapt yourself as you go along - so if that means condoms then get him ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my long distance boyfriend...now he snaps at me when I call and text him
Q. I was in a LDR for 4 years. He began to get depressed around January and then around 3 weeks ago dumped me. Said he doesnt want a relationship right now because he wants to focus on getting himself better and also love is to exhausting for him so ...
A. 23 April 2011: look - Ive suffered from depression myself for the first time in my life and you literally do feel unloved and alone even though there is heaps of evidence otherwise. he needs to get on to the tablets for depression and also start talking with his ... (read in full...)
How many of you think you really know your partner well??
Q. One thing I am wondering about a lot lately is how much long-time partners (either girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband) really know each other. I must confess I am surprised at how superficial some long-term relationships seem to be to me. I m...
A. 23 April 2011: Nice question and one that I would like to write heaps about - my partner and I dont spend a lot of time together due to her children and her desire to make sure that they are happy after she split from her husband and stuff - but when we do we ... (read in full...)
We broke up, he's with her, how do I move on??
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out my husband was having an affair with my friend who was also my bridesmaid at our wedding!! We have a 9 month old little boy. He is in a relationship with her and as been since we split. I am absolutely devastated, he as ...
A. 23 April 2011: Hi - I've been that man same as your husband and your pain sounds horrible to hear - you just need to concentrate day after day and look after that son of yours very well. My parents kind of disowned me as well so nothing new there - but also most ... (read in full...)
I know he likes me, I just don't understand whats going on.......
Q. hi, well this is kind of long, first of all, I feel ashamed to be this confused because i am 27 years old and should not be feeling like this. truth is up until a year a go, i was doing very good when it came to men. my two most relationships, w...
A. 21 April 2011: Hi - from my perspective - you shouldnt have to chase after him so much since you kind of both are just starting out - chill out a bit and just dont text him for a couple of days - let him come to you. If he's keen then he will not be able to stand ... (read in full...)
Soulmates or should we not be together?
Q. We have been together for about 10 months now. The feeling and chemistry is very strong right from the beginning. Deep down, we just know that 'we belong together' but we can't just work it out. We are good to bring out the best in us, and also the ...
A. 20 April 2011: Hi - my partner and I are exactly the same as you and we have been together ten months also and have broken up probably about six times in total and got back together within 1 or 2 days. Its so horrible for both of us the feelings of breaking up ... (read in full...)
Can two people be friends if they are both married to others? If not, why not?
Q. My question is this: Can a man and woman who are both married to others also be friends with each other, if they are attracted to each other? Why or why not?...
A. 9 April 2011: Ah no - course they cant. You cant just be friends if your already saying your attracted to them and they agree. normal friends never say things like that do they.... (read in full...)
Depressed because of age. Any advice?
Q. I am getting terribly depressed and although not suicidal. I keep getting very depressed because I am coming up to 60 years of age. No man will want me now I know that and cant help wondering what a bleak future. I know one doesnt have to have a ...
A. 9 April 2011: I know there is a social stigma attached to taking anti depressant pills but they do work for helping with the blues becuase it helps to restore the chemical imbalances in your body. also research has shown depression is a marker for wider mental ... (read in full...)
I think he said it was enough because I'm so inexperienced. Any advice?
Q. Im 15 and I've never really had a proper boyfriend so I'm quite inexperienced. Recently I've been on a couple of dates with this guy who is also 15 but a lot more experienced than me. So last night I was meeting this guy at his house before w...
A. 9 April 2011: just close your eyes and let nature take over! kissing is easy if men can do it, you can to...Its the closeness and the meeting of lips on lips that is go good about it. Just relax and it will be as natural as falling off a log. I'd just kiss ... (read in full...)
Unhappily married, and emotional affair partner wants to take it to the next level. What should I do?
Q. Help! I am afraid I will cave under pressure. I have been in an emotional affair with a married man for many months. I am also married. Neither of us are happy in our marriages but we both have children and stay because of them. I have not felt att...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi -my best friend had an emotional affair with a girl at his work for months, they were txting etc even driving to secluded places and a few kisses. In any one's book that is cheating. I pointed out to him that he was not investing any energy into ... (read in full...)
Why do I always panic and think a girl is too good for me?
Q. need a bit of feedback. ive posted a couple of times. yeah im still a virgin at 30. i was in the pub tonight. had a few drinks but just could not relax. normally i would wait to sober up before posting but i want to try and get my exact feelings ...
A. 9 April 2011: Hi - I agree with the other Uncle in terms of girls arent gods and you can at least talk to them - so for you rather than wait to see one girl you fancy - I would practise talking to people at the bar every time, aim to say something to ten girls in ... (read in full...)
Should we stop having sex or still have it occasionally? Need advice on this relationship.
Q. I need some advice about sex. Sorry for the long story. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months (only known him about 5). We met online on a dating website and he's one of those really sweet guys that are hard to find. When we were ini...
A. 8 April 2011: I totally understand what youre feeling, making love to your partner is the best feeling in the world, and it increases the intimacy between you as a couple. I do wonder why he said he liked to take things slow when he only had one other ... (read in full...)
Is my life cursed?
Q. I'm in huge confusion, I don't know what to think. I keep doing the right thing, but my life ,(actually not mine but my family's life) is falling apart. I have such a tragic things with my kids, with all of them, that nobody would believe me...
A. 8 April 2011: Hi - i know its hard when all these bad things happen - I believe myself I'm the unluckiest person I know - traffic lights always seem to turn red as I apporach, my girlfriend has does things thats stops me seeing her, the list goes on and on. I ... (read in full...)
After 4 years I think he wants to end things but won't express his feelings
Q. I hope someone may be able to help advise me. i ahve been in a realtionship with a guy 6 years younger than me for 4 years now. Mostly things are fantastic and we are good friend and have great respect for each other and allow each other to follow ...
A. 8 April 2011: hi - being in a long distance relationship myself the hardest thing is to maintain the level of intimacy that you used to have when you were together and with that comes fear about where the relationship is going etc. My question to you is, why ... (read in full...)
He turned down a handjob, does that mean I'm not good at it?
Q. The other night I was over at my boyfriend's place but since I was on my period we didn't have sex. We still had a good time, went out for coffee and watched a movie. Later in the night I offered to give him a handjob and he said no. His reason was ...
A. 8 April 2011: Hi - firstly is it a big deal if he turned down a hand job? no it isnt.
Secondly - I know from experience that when your girlfriend gives you a hand job its so frustrating because they just cannot do it like you can - just the same as a man tryi... (read in full...)
My break up....did I deserve this?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years in total. I had started dating him after 6 year relationship I ended because I was so young I grew out of it. We fell in love and after a year and a half I cheated.. he started neglecting me sexually he ...
A. 8 April 2011: Hi - it sounds like your doing the right thing by not contacting him - if he wants you back,let him come to you. You need to lay some rules with him anyway about his sister and how you need to have respect from his family too.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Condom or No Condom, Which feels better?
Q. Hey guys, is your amount of pleasure decreased at all by use of a condom? Or do you get the same amount of pleasure either way? Have you ever done it with a woman who used a female condom? What is your best description of the physical sensation when ...
A. 7 April 2011: Yep hardly any difference between condom or no condom. I've found its actually the shape of the womans anatomy that make more of a difference because of a number of factors around how your penis fits into her vagina. Some woman create more ... (read in full...)
Does the 3 day rule still apply?
Q. Does the 3 day rule still apply? I know it is kind of old fashioned but i'm just wondering if men in particular still go by the 3 day rule? Does it still apply with texting, chatting online, phoning and everything? I have a wonderful guy and i don't ...
A. 7 April 2011: Hi, I dont think there are any "rules" anymore around this because basically you can get in touch in so many ways anyway. If there person wants to go out it would make sense that they contact you mid week or early in the week to arrange a late w... (read in full...)
He said if he wanted to be married it would be with me but he wasn't sure if he was the marrying type...
Q. my boyfriend and I broke up a couple of weeks ago. We were great together we were dating for about 4 years he knew very well I wanted to get married he always told me to give him some time.....he said if he wanted to be married it would be with me ...
A. 7 April 2011: Hi No doubt this is mostly a fear based reaction, maybe to do with his perception of marriage, or what happens when u marry or having kids etc. Even though its been a couple of weeks, I would give it another week or two and then if he hasnt cont... (read in full...)
Men what is the right number of times to call?
Q. Men how often would you like for a woman, or your partner, to call you in a day or a week where you would not get aggravated when you two don't live in the same house. Thanks...
A. 6 April 2011: Hi - somedays I contact my girlfriend 20 times via txt other days zero. We try and catch for for an hour or so via phone every day or when I'm with her its in the late evening so its for 2 hours. Do what ever you feel like - important thing ... (read in full...)
I'm not confident about my body and am confused about exercise
Q. Please help me out. I have NEVER been confident with my body. I want to transform myself, so that my confidence will finally be where it needs to. I am confused about exercise. I cannot afford a personal trainer, and nobody in my family is a...
A. 4 April 2011: ok - this is my question, as my name suggests I've done 4 ironman triathlons and heaps of marathons etc so I know a thing or two about exercise.
Firstly you have to know that it is a combination of exercise and eating smaller amounts that will tra... (read in full...)
How do people in their 40's hook up?
Q. How do people in their mid-40's hook up? I married young (19) and spent most of my life with someone (25 years) so I cam completely out of touch and I'm not in my 20's anymore so hitting the bars and being coy doesn't work at my age. But I am ...
A. 4 April 2011: Hi - I'm not so sure on line dating is what you want becuase the people on there speaking from experience are most often not what they pass them selves off to be. Its easy to lie when not face to face, but harder if you are meeting face to face. ... (read in full...)
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