Girls seem to like me as a friend. So why can't I convert any of my friends into a Genuine Girl friend?
Q. I’ll be turning 27 soon and have never had any sort of romantic relationship with a woman. I just can’t seem to figure this out. From what I hear from friends and family I should have no problem attracting women. I’m told that I’m an attractiv...
A. 2 November 2012: Quite simply, you haven't found the right person yet. During the whole courting phase, as women we really do weigh up how we feel about someone from our gradual interactions with the person, chemistry, attraction etc. These thoughts usually comprise ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buys me anything! Should I bring this up, and if so, how do it do it?
Q. My boyfriend never buys me anything!!! When we had been going out for about 2 months, he bought me a birthday present, but didn't even pay for my dinner! We always split EVERYTHING, he never even offers to pay. Which really makes me upset. I havn't...
A. 2 November 2012: If something is bothering you, then I'd say definitely bring it up with him. There's no use holding in what you're feeling since it'll just become toxic.
I would address this sensitively when telling him that you would appreciate a nice gesture ... (read in full...)
Does she really like me? Could she be afraid to tell the world that she is into girls?
Q. Hey everyone. I am a 17 year old female who is bisexual. Around the beginning of September my friend had started taking this girl to school with us in the morning. I had thought nothing of it until her and I actually began talking. We have...
A. 31 October 2012: Understanding and making sense of sexual orientation is a very difficult thing for some people. For some people, its a complete gray area for a while. If I were to base my comment on yours and this girl's age, I'd say that it is very likely s... (read in full...)
Do I tell my former teacher how I feel and risk ruining our friendship?
Q. I am a freshmen in college now about to be 19. For the past 4 years I spent in high school, I grew extremely close with my high school band director: single, no kids, late 20's. Problem: I have developed STRONG feelings for him, perhaps even fallen ...
A. 29 October 2012: There is always a risk involved when revealing feelings to someone we've grown to love. I'd advise that you go for it! It's always better to be open about your feelings towards someone you care about.
From what you have described your friendsh... (read in full...)
B/f accuses me of cheating on him but I didnt do anything wrong!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half. We live together and have never been apart more than a day. He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and doesn't trust me at all. (He is 40 and I'm 27 by the way) Every single girl he has ever ...
A. 22 October 2012: Getting him to understand that you "feel badly" about lying to him should be the least of your concerns in light of this situation. Your boyfriend has severe trust issues which he'll need to resolve himself before any improvement can be made with ... (read in full...)
She loved me, left me, and now wants to come back
Q. Hi I had never been with a girl ever an then met someone in jan this year!! Fell for her head over heels an gave her my heart. An she used me and then dropped me in April to go back to her ex who had done the same to her!!! But I haven't moved on ...
A. 20 October 2012: I would be very cautious about going back to somebody who treats your heart like a yo-yo. She obviously has very little regard for your feelings, and you've really got to consider if its worth being with somebody like that.
My answer would be... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: I'm afraid I'll have to side with the boyfriend about this one too. You've definitely crossed the boundaries of trust into cheating terrain with what you did. He clearly told you that the reason for him not wanting you to perform oral sex was that ... (read in full...)
Does 'taking a break' mean she's broken up with me? Devastated. She is the girl for me. Help!
Q. I'm in a crisis state with my girlfriend (hopefully not soon-to-be-ex) our relationship was largely great. we had our issues, but whenever we fought we always worked through them in the end and would kiss and make up. last week we got into a h...
A. 18 October 2012: It sounds as though you are going through a relationship hiatus from what you are describing here. At this point, I wouldn't overly pester her about the status of your relationship, since that would only push her further away from you. The most ... (read in full...)
In love with the wrong guy... Is there a way out of this for me??
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 2 1/2 years with the the relationship being intimate for just under 2 years. We met and there was immediate attraction. We stated our goals for long term relationship at the beginning and as things progressed he changed ...
A. 15 October 2012: I think one of the reasons you cannot let go is because you saw this whole situation as a challenge, and you like the chase/drama that came along with it.
Why else would you still be in this unhealthy situation if you know deep down that he is not ... (read in full...)
Realistically, what do 20 something year old girls think of men with long hair?
Q. I've always been really self-conscious about my appearance, namely because I have pale-skin, red hair, freckles, and glasses, while the rest of my family all has dark Native-American hair, eyes, and skin. As such, I was always picked-on for being ...
A. 15 October 2012: I love long hair on males! I guess anything to do with an expression of personal style (be it what clothes you wear, how you style your hair etc) all comes down to how you carry it.
Do what works for you. There's no point trying to please a... (read in full...)
After his flirting, how can I keep him interested in talking to me ?
Q. ok so here it goes, my friend started dating this guy and turns out he's friends with a guy I have seen around. His friend and I started talking but we went straight to flirting, he's really cute but sometimes I think I annoy him. We talk everyd...
A. 15 October 2012: You cannot really make someone "want you" or "stay interested." You can only be yourself and other than that, there is nothing more you can do. If he is interested and makes an effort, fantastic! You will know he is worth your time. if not, don't ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? He hugs me for the smallest of things, plays footsies with me and always teases me
Q. This guy baked me a box of brownies on my birthday. He always compliments me (albeit in a weird way sometimes, like "why are you so funny?"). He hugs me for the smallest of things, plays footsies with me and always teases me. He even yelled a...
A. 15 October 2012: There's only one way to find out...Ask him! I am very friendly with people too, and sometimes they think its more when it actually isn't. I know it might be hard, but you could always just ask him in a friendly way. You've got nothing to lose. At ... (read in full...)
She is half my age and up the duff!
Q. OMG!! my husband of 21 years wants a divorce after getting his co-worker who is half his age pregnant. he says he loves me but he is in love with her and wants to marry her, and is excited about the baby. we had no children together but i had 2 from ...
A. 15 October 2012: The fact that he cheated on you should be your primary concern. I think you need to focus whatever energy you have left on moving on from this situation. This man is not worth "fighting for." Once a cheater, always a cheater. ... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for quite a while, I'd say 3 years now. I've never done anything wrong to him I do everything and anything. I've gone out of my way sometimes to do things for him because I love him so much. I just recently found out ...
A. 15 October 2012: I feel as though you know you deserve better than this. This guy doesn't know what he has in you, and due to his own personal insecurities is unfaithful and unfair to you. I think its time to acknowledge you are worth more and leave this guy behind. ... (read in full...)
Can I ever forgive her? How?
Q. I am a young man aged 28 working in the government and my fiance is 24 and she does not work. My fiance loves telling lies most of the time and my friends always tells me that your fiance looks like crook. Two weeks ago on Saturday I bought a ...
A. 15 October 2012: Well it looks as though you no longer have the fundamental component of any successful relationship...Trust. Clearly, you do not trust this woman seeing as you went to the length you did to expose her unfaithful ways. Consider yourself fortunate ... (read in full...)
How can I determine if my ex still has feelings for me?
Q. how do you know if your ex still has feelings and wants to get back with you? We were together 6 years on and off now and again sleep with each other now and again. I don't know whenever i should just cut ties completely its hard, as we have 2 kids ...
A. 15 October 2012: It sounds like you and your ex do not have a healthy set of boundaries at present, therefore you are confused about where you stand. The only way you'll get rid of the confusion is to openly speak with him about how this is making you feel. This is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is upset our porn movie has been posted online.
Q. My girlfriend is a sweet, amazing girl but very shy 21 year old. She was in a few very bad relationships before we met and has some trust issues from being hurt in the past. I had always wanted to make a sex tape but never did because ...
A. 15 October 2012: This would be quite a devatstating and traumatic thing to happen to a young woman. The fact that you pressured her into doing something she was clearly uncomfortable with doing to begin with is rather distrubing to me. Unfortunately you are now ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work between 2 people like this? me - never used drugs. him - clean now, but used to use every drug imaginable!
Q. I need some input from people who have understanding of drug addicts. I'm in a relationship with a man my age who used to be a drug addict. He started in his teen until his mid 20s and has done pot, acid, cocaine, ecstasy but heroin was his bigg...
A. 15 October 2012: I was in a relationship with a self-confessed drug user/drug addict about one year ago. Like you, I am very opposed to drugs and haven't tried anything in my entire life. Not even a cigarette. I have a strong sense of will and do not believe in ... (read in full...)
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