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i have been through quite a bit which i hope i can relate to people about.
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i don't believe anybody has the right to judge me
i make up my own mind and i do not follow the rules of what is and isn't socially acceptable. i don't believe anyone has the right to tell me how to live my life but i like it when people share similar experiences with me.
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What can I do to boost my nerves before it's too late and he's gone?
Q. What do I do? I am in love with this guy who loves me too, only I don't have the nerves to tell him I love him too and I can feel him slipping away but I just don't have the guts to admit I love him as much as he tells me he loves me. What can I do ...
A. 14 November 2008: Talk to him tell him that it's hard for you to open up but that doesn't mean that you feel any less for him than what he feels for you and that you want to say it but you don't want to get hurt. be honest with him, if he really loves you he won't ... (read in full...)
Sex/Love
Q. I have been thinking if I should lose my virginity to my boyfriend that I've been going out with almost a year. He's a virgin too, we're both 15 years old. Since I'm his first love and he's mine to we want our first time to be with each other but I ...
A. 14 November 2008: How would he know if you weren't doing it right anyway, It'll all come naturally and maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about this, but make him wait if you're not ready because you might end up regretting it and you might be all tense and it ... (read in full...)
Do I still have a chance with him or did I mess up big time?
Q. dear, whoever wishes to help me im a 18 year old guy and i have been speaking to a 22 year old guy for 3 weeks now, we get on really well. we arranged to meet up yesterday and we did, he was really great a bit shy but great. we watched tele...
A. 14 November 2008: You do have a chance with him he's probably thinking he's messed things up to so come clean tell him that you had a good time but maybe if he wanted to see you again you could slow it down a bit, i think nights in always lead to this kinda thing so ... (read in full...)
I lost my brother, broke up with my BF. I'm so lonely... how can I get him back?
Q. my boyfriend told me he still loves me but he wasnt happy so i broke up with him. the problem is i miss him so much, he says he still loves me and he thinks about me all the time. i just lost my brother 6months ago and im feeling deeply alone now ...
A. 14 November 2008: I think he means that right now he isn't ready to have a relationship with you but in the future he will be, I suggest you go out and you make friends and get introduced to guys that don't mess you around you don't need that and how dare he put you ... (read in full...)
I want to forget him, but I think he's the love of my life.
Q. I don't know ,if I know my own feelings, but I got a big problem. I'm married , we have children, and a good life, but , i can't forget my first love , 20 years ago , I'm obsessed with this, and I tried everything but it hunts me. I live a double l...
A. 14 November 2008: it's probably not love it might just be you thinking he's this great guy and you and him would be so happy together but people change, maybe this is because your bored so you find yourself thinking back to the only other person that you've loved in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends cum tastes horrible!
Q. my boyfriends cum tastes horrible! he is really keen for me to give him head and as much as i want to satisfy him i can't stand the taste, i have never given head before him so i didn't know what it tasted like but im sure it can't be this bad. ...
A. 14 November 2008: this is why you should always keep a bottle of coke handy! you could give him head and wank him off when your mouth gets a little tired that way he cums on your hand and it's not that bad, or you could spit but if he's really keen on you to swallow ... (read in full...)
Why would he want head again right away? Was I not good enough?
Q. ok so the other day i gave head for my first time to this guy...before he asked if i ever did it and i said no and he said ok i'll teach you. so yea he said it felt good and all and eventually he cummed then like 30 or 45 minutes later he asked me ...
A. 14 November 2008: he's a greedy guy! if you made him cum you did a good job and it was good enough but he probs just wanted more head, plus after the first time they have cum it's easier to cum again maybe you just turn him on alot. but in future make him do ... (read in full...)
I lost my brother, broke up with my BF. I'm so lonely... how can I get him back?
Q. my boyfriend told me he still loves me but he wasnt happy so i broke up with him. the problem is i miss him so much, he says he still loves me and he thinks about me all the time. i just lost my brother 6months ago and im feeling deeply alone now ...
A. 14 November 2008: aww you don't. i think maybe you and your ex should meet up and talk things through tell him you still care about him and talk it out ask him why he was unhappy and you can both come up with ways to change it. tell him how he can make things better ... (read in full...)
His Mom hates me, and I mean HATES me.
Q. hi. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 9 months now. i love him to bits, you cannot imagine how much i love him! he's that person everyone loves. but, the major problem is that, his mum hates me. like seriously HATES me. it was 4...
A. 14 November 2008: get your boyfriend to stand up for you, you didn't do anything wrong your both young your meant to be dating, his mum sounds really mean, you didn't deserve what you got unless you did something truly terrible your not mentioning? whynot just tell ... (read in full...)
I think I might be getting into an online relationship. Thoughts and advice anyone?
Q. I think I might be in a situation where I could end up in an online relationship. Can this ever work? It's just we are opposite sides of the ocean. I think if were geographically closer it really could work. I have been doing some serious flirting...
A. 14 November 2008: i was with a guy for 7 months saw him once a month it worked out for quite a while if you don't get too serious about it otherwise you'll just get upset you can't be with her all the time. online relationships can make you feel quite confident in a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend or let HIM tell her?
Q. I'm falling for my best mate's boyfriend but I don't know how too tell her. I told him and he said that he is mad about me! and we got together but he still hasn't dumped my best mate, he said he is waiting for a right time but we've been together ...
A. 14 November 2008: tell him straight he has to tell her or you will, i think it would be best if you both told her at the same time but it was their relationship and if she's not that much of a friend to you let them get on with it, if she's like your bestest friend ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should leave my marriage.
Q. I don't know if I should leave my marriage. We have no fun. No sex, no good times, nothing. No adultery, or drinking, or beating what seem to be the only valid reason, to leave a marriage. It is a dilemma, because, why would I leave, if I'm not ...
A. 14 November 2008: sit down calmly with him and tell him that you feel your marriage is becoming empty. i'm sure deep down you both love eachother you just have to find ways of getting that spark back. as for your sex life maybe he has a problem have you tried asking ... (read in full...)
Is there ever a point where breasts are too big?
Q. My breasts are 34F's but I'm still young and they are still growing. I also have big nipples. Will boys be put off by this? Is there ever a point where they are too big?...
A. 14 November 2008: Most guys that i've talked to love big nipples and big boobs guys are happy with a handful dont worri about them, but it's what your comfy with if your boobs put strain on your back maybe you should seek some medical advice and if you don't wanna go ... (read in full...)
I need more sex!
Q. Hi, I wanted some advice if there's any out there, I've been with my fiance 4 nearly 3 years, he says I'm the love of his life and he's never loved anyone like he loves me, but there is just one problem - our sex life! He never wants sex, maybe ...
A. 13 November 2008: Maybe he has a problem that he is just to embarassed to tell you about or maybe you could spice things up with surprising him when he gets home from work with a kinky outfit or watching porn together, it's not your fault some guys just aren't that ... (read in full...)
My much older girlfriend is pregnant and moving away. should I marry her?
Q. My brain says its wrong but my heart says its right: I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 43. I have only had one girlfriend before her and this relationship is way better. We have been going out 15 months. The last month she was offered a new job ...
A. 13 November 2008: Nope, your not a baby you got yourself into this and you can be a good dad, I think it's unfair to say this woman is terrible, your both adults and you both have responsibilities. maybe it's better to listen to your heart instead of your head for... (read in full...)
My much older girlfriend is pregnant and moving away. should I marry her?
Q. My brain says its wrong but my heart says its right: I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 43. I have only had one girlfriend before her and this relationship is way better. We have been going out 15 months. The last month she was offered a new job ...
A. 13 November 2008: you have to ask yourself would you do anything for this woman is she your world do you love her more than life itself?
i think your a typical young guy and you don't like the words forever but it's a little too late to be thinking about backing ... (read in full...)
I love my online boyfriend and now he isnt replying to me
Q. help please i got to know this boy online and i fell for him. i told him that i was in love with him and he said he was too. so we started somthing. but he's been all off me and isnt reply to me. i dont wanna be a pain, but i love him. does thi...
A. 13 November 2008: maybe he feels that things are moving to fast because you havn't met yet and he might be getting a little nervous give him sometime to cool down and if he really likes you he'l reply to you, make more friends while he is not talking to you that way ... (read in full...)
He wants me on top. What do I do when I am up there?
Q. I just lost my virginity a few days ago. and I was talking to my boyfriend about it and he suggested next time I be on top. I don't have a problem with that...but what do I do when I'm up there? how do I make it feel good for both of us? any ...
A. 13 November 2008: firstly isn't this ilegal in the states? kneel across him lean back so his dick is in you and get him to hold onto your waist then he can pull you down onto his dick so he has more control if that makes anysense it will all come naturally and it's... (read in full...)
He says I'm being silly, but am I?
Q. I dont know my man anymore... Last night he really embarressed me infront of friends. we went to our friends and i cooked dinner. while at table my friend got up and asked if my man wanted a drink, he was talking and talkin to the guy ne...
A. 13 November 2008: i havnt masterd watever yet thats all i ever get aswell just ignore him for a bit relax read take a bath but don't obsess cause if you do it will go round and round your head so much when he comes home you'l blurt something out and a huge fight will ... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive... what can I do?
Q. I am 53, and in the last month I have lost my sex drive. What can I do?...
A. 13 November 2008: spice up the sex life if you have a partner come up with your fantasys making a list in itself might get u excited.
you could go to the docs and see what they reccomend or sometimes a change in diet can help. if your single start dating exci... (read in full...)
My husband is still taking care of his ex's daughter
Q. My Husband is lying! My husband and I have been together for 2 years. We have a beautiful 7 month old daughter. (I have 3 children from previous relationship) The problem lies within his past relationship with another woman. He started dating t...
A. 13 November 2008: i don't think he has feelings for her he has probably made a bond with this child and he didn't want to tell you she wasn't his because he was worried you'd think that he still has feelings for his ex, however i think your husband shouldn't be ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but says he is bored without me.
Q. im in love with a guy...that i should not be in love with, because he has a gf. but im to the point that i think he may be with me in the end. i try to go days with no contact in attempt to leave him alone, but it hasn't worked. we had a talk last ...
A. 13 November 2008: he sounds like a user no offence but i had an ex who got a new gf and he kept telling me he missed me and he was so bored without me i asked how and he came up with all these sexual reasons. maybe he misses you in a sexual way
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In love with a known lier and womanizer. Do you think he has changed for me?
Q. right iv been seeing a guy for 9 months on and off. but he told me weeks ago im the girl he loves and wants to be with. BUT he has a really bad reputation hes got 2 kids to two different mothers. i hear hes a womanizer, cheat, liar and caught lots ...
A. 13 November 2008: give him a chance if he likes you he won't hurt you, i know you might get your heart broken but if you don't go for it you will always be wondering what if? so what if he has a bad reputation he's never treated you bad right? any woman can change a ... (read in full...)
He says I'm being silly, but am I?
Q. I dont know my man anymore... Last night he really embarressed me infront of friends. we went to our friends and i cooked dinner. while at table my friend got up and asked if my man wanted a drink, he was talking and talkin to the guy ne...
A. 13 November 2008: haha well atleast he said sorry i think now he understands why you were feeling so bad about this, haha maybe now you two can spend a nice evening making up. i think he was probably just confused most men are not quite as deep as women. you and him ... (read in full...)
If he didnt want to talk to me anymore why didnt he just say so?
Q. I met a guy online five months ago,we started chatting as friends and after some time we started talking romance to each other.I didn't believe in "long-distance online relationships" because I had bad experience ,but he kept saying that distance is ...
A. 13 November 2008: it could have been all a game unfortunatly you have no way of finding out whats gone on. i think stop worrying about it make more internet friends and meet new people i no it's killing you and it's a hard situation but if he truly likes you he'l ... (read in full...)
He says I'm being silly, but am I?
Q. I dont know my man anymore... Last night he really embarressed me infront of friends. we went to our friends and i cooked dinner. while at table my friend got up and asked if my man wanted a drink, he was talking and talkin to the guy ne...
A. 13 November 2008: he's callling you silly to shut u up, have it out with him tell him you need a serious conversation and tell him to stop patronising you. some guys just arent open though and it will forever be like talking to a brick wall you can either forget ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend really wants a threesome and I'm really not up for it.
Q. okay well my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost three months now and we've had sex a lot but now he's been asking me all the time to have a threesome with him and he just won't understand that i really don't want to. sometimes he says ...
A. 13 November 2008: i'm pretty sure the ex comment was only to wind u up tell him your insecure about it and you don't like the idea of it and ask him if he wants to try other things, but don't be pressured into doing anything i mean most people when they hit 30 are ... (read in full...)
I ejaculate quickly and there is nothing I can do about it!
Q. I am 20 and I don't know if I will ever get a girlfriend. I ejaculate quickly and there is nothing I can do about it! I don't know what to do anymore I am going crazy! Girls all want sex, but that is nothing I could ever give to a girl! It sucks and ...
A. 13 November 2008: you need to train yourself into lasting longer masturbate and before you cum stop and then start again after a while have a little self control it'l give you a much intense orgasm aswell.
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If I masturbated before, do I still count as a virgin?
Q. if i masturbated before do i still count as a virgin? i don't know if i've had an orgasm. i really like the way it feels to masturbate, but when my boyfriend asks if i'm a virgin do i tell him yes? i do it almost twice a week. ...
A. 13 November 2008: your a virgin! dont worry... (read in full...)
Why do guys and girls never understand each other?
Q. Why do guys and girls never understand each other? I thought I had it figured but I am dead wrong. please help......
A. 13 November 2008: it's because there both to afraid to tell eachother what they really want and they think its needy to open upto eachother if they actually talked about things they could work things out but one person in the relationship is always too scared to be ... (read in full...)
Should I I let the best thing that has ever happened to me disappear or should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I finished with my boyfriend in in July. We had been going out for 6 months and I loved him soo much. I was soo happy with him because he would do anything for me. He meant the world to me but then we started to argue and then my grandad died and ...
A. 13 November 2008: well you could tell him but it might backfire on you and his gf might not be too happy with you. or you could be patient if things really are meant to be with you 2 then try bein his friend be there for him when he's sad and be happy for him when he ... (read in full...)
I met a man online, he says that he loves me but at times he just switches off.
Q. I met this man via chatting..He is a scorpio by the way. After some days he proposed his love for me stating that he meant it by his heart n soul n is just waiting for my reply. We exchanged numbers n got to know each other well n after some days I ...
A. 13 November 2008: maybe there is another woman on the scene thats why he switches off. if he's possesive now either make another internet friend or go meet people you shouldn't have to justify yourself to a man on the internet if you ever met him imagine how ... (read in full...)
I like goth clothing, is goth believing in the devil?
Q. Hey, I'm a christian. I like goth clothing. Just the way they look, dress. Can I dress goth? Is goth believing in the devil. I want to know more about goth. Any advice?...
A. 13 November 2008: a satanist is believing in the devil gothic clothing is just fun you can dress how you want it will never effect your religion. your religion is how you feel inside you do not have to portray this on the outside ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend that I want jewery for Christmas?
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know how to tell my boyfriend i want jewelry for christmas. he's asked me but i don't know what to say. from what to say what to say?...
A. 13 November 2008: you can either just say i saw this really nice necklace today walkin past this shop n it's not that expensive he might get the hint but if hes a dosy guy walk him byy the shop and point out what you like. or flick through a catalogue and gasp and ... (read in full...)
He says I'm being silly, but am I?
Q. I dont know my man anymore... Last night he really embarressed me infront of friends. we went to our friends and i cooked dinner. while at table my friend got up and asked if my man wanted a drink, he was talking and talkin to the guy ne...
A. 13 November 2008: to be honest your man was just plain rude to your friends you did have the right to say something to him and then to humiliate you infront of them and make a joke about ignoring you was pretty bad of him. your not being silly but perhaps you and him ... (read in full...)
He says I'm overreacting to his drug use...
Q. hi, i seem to be at a dead end with my new relationship and suppose i need feedback and a little advice on what exactly i should do. ive been in a relationship for 5 months now and he is great he is very affectionate, wonderful lover, interact...
A. 13 November 2008: ofcourse you have the right. you care about him and he should understand that, if he truly respects you he will listen to you and your concerns and if he makes you feel like you don't have the right then he's not worth it i mean it's not like your ... (read in full...)
Should I call or text him? I want us to be friends.
Q. ive broken up with my boyfriend of over a year for various reasons. mainly the fact that i felt more like we we friends. he also did things that were strange, like calling me from a private number, and lied to me at the start of our relationship...
A. 13 November 2008: how about send him a text askin if he wants to go see a film but make it clear just as friends. tell him that he was a really good friend and you don't want that friendship to disappear. if he says that he doesn't feel right about it then tell him ... (read in full...)
Some boy wants sex with her - am I over-reacting?
Q. right me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 years now and there was times in the past where she has got a text from some boy and he has suggested sex. I had a go and all that but when he text now i get annoyed. my girlfriend says im ...
A. 13 November 2008: just because he wants it doesn't mean she does. maybe she just likes the attention pay more attention to her and compliments. but it would be best to sit down with her and tell her you feel insecure about this. ask her how she would like it if some ... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant from the sperm on his hands?
Q. im really paranoid, badly. my boyfriend and i started to have sex, he said he wanted to feel what it was like for a second without the condom, so i let him, and a few seconds he put his condom on, i made him stop half way, and he jerked off the rest ...
A. 13 November 2008: hardly possible at all if you think about how deep a penis can go and think about how little sperm get to the egg then i'd say you were the unluckiest girl in the world if that happend.if your still uneasy about it go get checked out.
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A Christmas present for my boyfriend that doesn't cost anything...
Q. ok. so my boyfriend told me he already knew what he was getting me for christmas. So i told him that i wanted to get him something for him too, and then he said that he didnt want anything. So i told him i was gonna get him something anyway, and he ...
A. 12 November 2008: you could try recordin all his favourite songs and puttin them on a disk or sumthin but that might be a bit corny or just giv him something that means something to u or an IOU ... (read in full...)
He says I'm overreacting to his drug use...
Q. hi, i seem to be at a dead end with my new relationship and suppose i need feedback and a little advice on what exactly i should do. ive been in a relationship for 5 months now and he is great he is very affectionate, wonderful lover, interact...
A. 12 November 2008: sit down with him calmly and tell him you don't like the idea of him taking these drugs tell him he's a completely different person to you on the drugs and that you'd like it if he could stop taking them as much. it's not like he needs the drugs and ... (read in full...)
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