Something happens when we're in the bedroom... he loses his erection.
Q. My guy says he loves me and does show it at times. We're both affectionate and have fun together but in the bedroom just before we have sex, his erection goes away. Why?...
A. 14 June 2005: It could be that it is taking too long and the anticipation is detracting from the intercourse. Try jumping on him a bit sooner, before he loses his erection. I realise that doing it that way all the time could be detrimental to you reaching that ... (read in full...)
Cheated on Guy No. 1 with Guy No.2... I'm still with Guy No. 2, but falling for Guy No. 3!
Q. I was with this guy for over a year and a half. Things weren't working out so I ended up cheating on him. The guy I cheated on him is the guy I am still with. The problem is I have this guy friend who I am really close to and I have liked for a lo...
A. 13 June 2005: It looks to me like there's a bit of a pattern here.
Make your mind up which guy you want to be with and stick with him. It's not fair to the other guys to be messed around like that and you will probably end up with none of them if they find out ... (read in full...)
I think he lacks intelligence and I don't know if we have a future... Do I end it?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have been dating my boyfriend for two years now and for the most part it's been a great relationship. Lately, however, I have started noticing how much smarter I am than him. I know that sounds awful but I have always been very goo...
A. 13 June 2005: Well missy, the last time I looked, there were no such words as caringness and romanticness, so maybe you should hop down off that pedestal of yours and realise that you might not be quite as smart as you think.
Video games might not be your thi... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant on your first time?
Q. Can you get pregnant the first time you have sex, and you have sex without using contraception? I'm still a virgin but I worry about these things all the time. Please help. ...
A. 6 June 2005: As stated by someone else, yes you can get pregnant by having sex, it doesn't matter if it's your 1st or 1000th time. If you don't want to become pregnant then you do need to use reliable contraception. Discuss this with your parents or docto... (read in full...)
My guy dumped me over a false rumour... How can I get him interested again?
Q. Dear Cupid, I was going out with this guy for about two weeks. It seems like such a short time, but I had soo many feelings for him. I was almost sure that we were in love. Neither of us were self conscious of what the other one thought or anyth...
A. 6 June 2005: Prove to him that the rumours were false! If it's your word against others and can't be proven then you may just have to accept that he's not going to believe you. It sounds like you're young and 2 weeks of going out might seem like a lifetime ... (read in full...)
Am I just bored? Why am I developing silly crushes on friends?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. We are best friends and we get on so well. However recently I have been having dreams and developing silly crushes on celebrities and other friends. I am meant to be an adult. My friend suggested ...
A. 5 June 2005: You have answered you own question, you are meant to be an adult and these are silly crushes. Are you bored? If so inject some excitement into what you do with your partner and stop fantasising about the unattainable and focus on what you have, n... (read in full...)
I think he needs to shower more than he has been. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. He is the first uncircumcised guy I've ever been with and I have had more yeast infections than normal over the past year (which I've heard is common with uncircumcised guys). My question...
A. 5 June 2005: Don't wash yourself for a couple of days and get him to go down on you. When he complains about it, say "Well do think it's like sucking a lollipop when I go down on you"?... (read in full...)
Dating is harder than it needs to be, because I don't like small talk...
Q. I don't like making small talk and more often than not can't think of things to say. This is making dating hard. Any suggestions?...
A. 5 June 2005: Try porn, it's cheaper than dating. Seriously though, if you want to date, you'll have to learn to be able to chat to people. Don't put the pressure on yourself to go out and chat up women, just go out and chat to people, the rest will come to you... (read in full...)
An old flame has contact me... but I'm married now!
Q. I have been married for 10 years and thought the relationship was pretty good. Suddenly a girl from 12 years in may past contacted me and I know she had tried a few times over the years. She truly was the love of my life but we parted due to ...
A. 5 June 2005: You have made a committment to your wife that you didn't make to this other girl. That is a choice that you made a long time ago and you shouldn't be questioning it now. If you had loved the other girl as much sa you think you do, you would have ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I think my truck-driving husband would prefer being on the road to being with me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. He is a truck driver and has always made accomodations to be home. He promised me that after we got married he wouldn't go back over the road, recently he has. I often tried talking to him about this ...
A. 5 June 2005: Do you work? Do you both pay into a pension to make your retirement comfortable? Would you be able to live to the standard you are now if he wasn't earning as much as he does on the road? Many men feel that they need to be the bread-winner and... (read in full...)
I'm desperately embarrassed by my mum's weight and vulgar habits...
Q. I'm not sure if anyone will be able to help with this but here we go.... The problem is that I cant stop being rude or short tempered with my mum. I know it's shallow but it's because she's obese. The doctor has told her she needs to dramatically ...
A. 5 June 2005: Oh you sympathetic soul you! Have you considered that you take after your father and are naturally slim whereas it would take a lot of work and effort for your mother to lose weight? She's your mother for god's sake, show some respect! Give... (read in full...)
She's a special girl to me, but she's a virgin... and wants to stay that way!
Q. I used to be a guy that dates lots of girls till I met this girl. We have been dating for a while now and I really love her. But she is a virgin and has refused to make love to me. I have tried to be faithful but I am at my ends. What do I do? ...
A. 5 June 2005: If you love her and want to be with her then you will wait for her to be ready. But let's face reality matey, what you really want to do is get down and dirty with a girl and it sounds like pretty much any girl will do so you need to make a choice: ... (read in full...)
Thinking of telling her about my feelings next Valentine's Day. Good idea?
Q. I'm really good friends with this girl and I really love her.She did know I fancied her and we briefly fell out because she thought I was using our friendship to take advantage. We're back to being really good friends now and once we become even ...
A. 5 June 2005: Can you really wait for another 8 months to tell her? What sort of strain will that put on you and your friendship with and this girl? Assure her that you are not using your friendship to get into her knickers and value her as a friend before ... (read in full...)
If I tell my friend I love her, it might be a big shock, so should I tell all, or not?
Q. I'm deeply in love with one of my really good friends and I intend to tell her but I don't know if she'll be freaked out if I tell her I love her. So do you think I should tell her I love her or should I just tell her I feel really strongly?...
A. 5 June 2005: You'll kick yourself for the rest of your life if you don't tell her. You'll always wonder what might have been. So go on and let her know how you feel about her.... (read in full...)
Everything is so good with my girlfriend, so why do I have recurrent thoughts about my ex?
Q. Dear Cupid I've been with my current girlfriend for nearly 19 months years and I love her with all my heart. Everything is great between us. For some reason, every now and again, I think of my ex fiance who I was with for over 3 years. M...
A. 14 May 2005: You were with your ex for a while and I would say that it is normal for thoughts of what could have been to enter your mind. You say that you love your current girlfriend with all your heart and that should be enough to tell you that you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
We used to have sex at least twice a day. Now we're down to once a week and I can't get her in the mood! Help!
Q. My girlfriend and I are experiencing a major problem in our relationship. We love each other very much with no doubts, but when it comes to sex, we don't seem to have a connection. When we first started dating, it was almost a total physical...
A. 12 May 2005: You've worn her out mate! What are the circumstances that you do have sex? Do you push it at other times? Try the romantic approach - candle-lit dinner, soft music etc Although an intelligent woman will catch onto this and think "Oh, here w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't swallow. Can I talk her around to seeing it my way?
Q. hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx...
A. 11 May 2005: Just tell her that it's good for the complexion, not to mention full of protein...... (read in full...)
What are the signs of a cheating partner?
Q. Hello, what do I look for when I suspect that my fiancee is cheating?...
A. 11 May 2005: A suspicious person might look for signs such as: lipstick on clothing perfume/aftershave smells phone numbers scrawled on pieces of paper unexplained changes in routine nights of disappearance inconsistant stories furtive beh... (read in full...)
We've always been long-distance, but now I can move to where he is... except I've lost interest in sex!
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. I am 18 and he is 19 so we are still very young. We have always had a long distance realtionship and the time has come for me to graduate and go to school. I want to move to where he is, but ...
A. 11 May 2005: If you are losing interest in sex at your tender age, if I were you I would give up and join a monastery! Maybe the fighting has put you off him. It's simple really, either get back that spark with the guy or move on.... (read in full...)
My b/f won't even try a long-distance relationship while he's away. Instead, he just broke up...
Q. My boyfriend of over two years is leaving in about a month for military training and will be gone for a year and has decided he doesn't want to try to have a long distance relationship. He told me after he broke up with me that he did somethin...
A. 10 May 2005: Although he has done the dirty on you, it would seem that he has a conscience and has come clean. Most (and I stress most, not all) forces personell will play the field while away on training and some even carry it on through their service li... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm a cheater now, because I kissed a gay friend!
Q. Last weekend a gay friend of mine kissed me and I reciprocated, thinking it was quite amusing and totally harmless fun. My boyfriend saw me and now considers me a cheat and very nearly split up with me over it. I have said sorry so many times an...
A. 8 May 2005: How would you feel if he kissed a girl? Would you consider that to be harmless and amusing? The sex of the other party is irrelevant, the fact that some interaction went on can be construed as cheating. Although there is a generalisation t... (read in full...)
He confuses me. It seemed like we clicked straightaway, but he never asked me out..!
Q. I have a situation. At the beginning of the school year I met this new guy at school. We clicked right away and would flirt in every class we had together, walk everywhere together, very touchy feely type of situation with the long hugs etc. Also ...
A. 8 May 2005: You are both treading softly and as such will probably never know how the other feels. Go and grab him and stick your tongue down his throat, metaphorically of course ;-) judge his response by the bulge in his trousers. Seriously though, be... (read in full...)
Why can't I get my girlfriend's past sex life out of my head?
Q. Hey out there, I'm going crazy. Well I'm having trouble with my girlfriend's past. She has had sex with 15 other guys and had sexual relations with at least 6 more. I try not to bring it up but it comes up in my head a lot, to the point where I get ...
A. 8 May 2005: Firstly your pasts should not creep into what you have now. Secondly to that, how many women have you been with??? Other than the fifteen, were that other six at the same time? In which case I would be worried! What exactly do you want the ... (read in full...)
What happens if you wee during sex?
Q. What happenes if the women or man pees while having sex?...
A. 1 May 2005: Firstly and obviously, you are gonna get wet! Yes it is unlikely that a man could urinate with an erection but it could be forced. This would not be reccomended as it could cause infection to the female and it's just plain not nice although some ... (read in full...)
He lied to me about his smoking because I wouldn't have gone out with him. Will he lie in future?
Q. Im 16 and have been goin out with this guy for about three months and at the beginning of our relationship I asked him if he does or have ever smoked. He told me he had tried it but then stopped. Just today I found out that he smokes almost e...
A. 30 April 2005: What's your damage Bev? I take it that you are an ex-smoker...(see below) The real issue here is that you think that you have been horribly disrespected by his lie when he only said that because he likes you. I assume that he is the same age ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on her, but I know she doesn't love me. Should I say something?
Q. I have a crush for a lady for 9 years but cannot tell her as I know she likes me but doesn't love me. I don't want to lose her. What shall i do?>...
A. 21 April 2005: You say you hve a crush on her. You do not say that you love her but it seems that you are expecting her to love you. You need to talk to her to find out if she harbours any feeligs towards you. If you don't ask you'll never know... Devil's Advoca... (read in full...)
My husband tells me the ad that appears on the internet dating site "must be a mistake"...
Q. My husband cheated on me before we married and it took me a long time to trust him every again. But now we have been married for 12 years and I completely trust him again. Until I found him checking out dating services on the internet. We have l...
A. 16 April 2005: Kick him out, create your own profile on an internet dating site and find yourself an honest,trustworthy and honourable man. My bet is that you will find someone decent long before him because he is nothing but a untrustworthy scumbag that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to get an erection every time I kiss a girl?
Q. Hi, whenever I snog a girl I keep getting erections. I am just wondering, is this natural and if so/not, how can I sort it out? ...
A. 14 April 2005: As long as you only get an erections while snogging girls and not when you are snogging boys then it would seem natural. As for "sorting it out", you could say "look what you've done, I can't go home like this, what will my mother think?". It will ... (read in full...)
Looking for suggestions to drive my b/f wild...
Q. I want to keep my boyfriend excited in bed. What are some things that drive guys wild?...
A. 14 April 2005: Do you have a twin sister or a similar looking friend? Maybe having her join in might tickle his fancy... Devil's Advocate... (read in full...)
I'm more than willing to have sex, so why does my man masturbate so much?
Q. I am lucky enough to have found the man of my dreams. Perfect in every way! Except, he mastubates morning noon and night! Okay maybe thats an exageration slightly, but hes always masturbating, sometimes as much as 5 times a day. He doesn't do it ...
A. 14 April 2005: Have you tried tying him to the bed and leaving him there all day and then jumping on him? Maybe it would make him appreciate you a little more in that department. If not buy a rabbit and tell him to sling his hook. Devil's Advocate... (read in full...)
Being honest isn't getting me any dates. Is there any other way to ask girls out?
Q. I have never really had the best luck asking girls out. I'm always honest and that doesn't work. Is there anything I can do that would help me? I've always been myself but that doesn't seem to work....
A. 14 April 2005: Well me-lad-o, you haven't said what you are honest about... do you recant tales of porn, belching, flatulence, masturbation, ramming things up your arse and snoring all night? Cus I don't really think that that will work with most females (although ... (read in full...)
Our growing attraction might be too much to control, but we don't want to hurt our spouses...
Q. I am married but have found someone else very attractive. He is also married, but we feel that working together is becoming almost impossible without our attraction to each other growing. Unfortunitly not working together is not an option either o...
A. 5 April 2005: Take a cold shower! If you both love your respective partners, then you really shouldn't even be asking this question, should you? Devil's Advocate... (read in full...)
Are my fantasies telling me something?
Q. Happily married but have been having gay fantasies. Does this mean I may be bi or gay?...
A. 5 April 2005: Yes, probably. Devil's Advocate... (read in full...)
To avoid a fight, I lied and said she was just a friend. Was I right or wrong?
Q. What can I do? I met my rival in my girlfriend's house. The rival was about to fight with me. But, I show a big understanding to him by lying to him that we are just ordinary friends, just to avoid fighting each other. What I did, was right? I...
A. 2 April 2005: Firstly, what was he doing in her house? How much of a rival is he? Are you the only one doing the horizontal mambo with her? Lying to him doesn't really matter to anyone except you and your girlfriend. You may always feel on the run from him and... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on me; he says it's "horrible"...
Q. Help! my boyfriend will not go down on me, he says the taste is too horrible, and that it's not just me but other past girlfriends, also. Any suggestions?...
A. 24 March 2005: Maybe you haven't attacked the forest with a bush-whacker recently. Some guys just don't appreciate a face full of minge, it's like french kissing your wizened old uncle or something. Devil's advocate... (read in full...)
I can't get an erection...Tried everything!
Q. No erection. I tried all tablets ( viagra, cilas , etc. ) With no effect. What shall I do ?...
A. 24 March 2005: Have you tried changing your woman? She may be as plain as a Bulgarian pin-up and just doesn't float your boat. Alternativey you may be gay. Have you tried dabbling on the other side of the fence? Devil's Advocate... (read in full...)
I'm over the age difference, but why is he so possessive?
Q. Hi cupid, Please help me , i am 39 and started seeing a guy who is 26 .Fist of all i had a problem with the age gap ,but now ive accepted it ,and just enjoy what we have .. Afetr a few weeks of seeing each other he then tells me he is in love , wit...
A. 1 March 2005: Well Blondie, there is quite a gap in your ages which shouldn't make a difference if you are happy together. You need to decide if you really want to be with him and if you do, reassure him that he is your only interest, he does sound insecure... (read in full...)
What about what other people think?
Q. Hey, I really like someone but they are 2 years younger then me and is very young lookin. Should it matter what others think?...
A. 28 February 2005: If this person is of a legal age and there's only two years difference in your ages, then go for it and ask them out. Just make sure that they are above the legal age of consent.... (read in full...)
She dumped me twice, so I broke up the third time...
Q. I've just dumped my girlfriend of 4 months. It's the third time we have been together. The last times she dumped me and broke my heart... twice! I think she is a stunning looking girl and I think about her all the time, but I guess I'm just sca...
A. 28 February 2005: Question why she dumped you the first 2 times...is it likely that she would do it again? If you really want to be with her, dumping her isn't really the way to go about working on a lifelong relationship. Do you only not trust her to break up w... (read in full...)
There's three of us now: me, her and God... and things have changed
Q. I've been in a loving sexual relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now and up until a couple of weeks ago everything was perfect. My girlfriend has recently had an "epiphany" where she started to get involved with the church again an...
A. 28 February 2005: Like they say, three's a crowd! You need to have your own epiphany and discover porn, binge drinking, belching and walking around the house naked. This will no doubt test her beliefs and will show you how much she cares about your relationship. ... (read in full...)
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