Is she letting me know these things because she wants to move on, or is she genuinely looking for answers?
Q. Hi, I'm 39 and my girl is 27. We both love each other, and have been together 5 years. She is starting to question things...she wonders why we don't talk deeply and where are we heading? (her brother who is younger just got engaged). She an...
A. 24 May 2007: Wake up! You have said it yourself -- her "younger" brother just got engaged and here she is older and not engaged or married -- HINT HINT!!!
Maybe if you love her and want to spent the rest of your life with her you should commit and ask her to m... (read in full...)
Is our relationship going downhill or am I simply too needy? Which is it?
Q. Is our relationship going downhill or am I simply too needy? My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now, and I am completely in love with her. I know I have not lost any of the drive (emotionally or physically) that was there at the...
A. 21 November 2006: From what you have said you don't sound too needy at all. All you are wanting or needing is some basic affection and intamcy from the woman who you want to spend the rest of your life with - and that is by no means unreasonable.... (read in full...)
Is our relationship going downhill or am I simply too needy? Which is it?
Q. Is our relationship going downhill or am I simply too needy? My girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now, and I am completely in love with her. I know I have not lost any of the drive (emotionally or physically) that was there at the...
A. 21 November 2006: I think you should take on the very good advice given by Bev Conolly. Slow down, work these issues out, and then think about marriage.... (read in full...)
I'm too tired to have sex. Now he is threatening to go get it elsewhere!
Q. i have been with my partner for 5 years and i am 22 years old and he is 37 years old and we have 3 children 2 of them his and 1 not but that was before we met well the problem is that we dont have sex its not his fault he wants to have it but im so ...
A. 21 November 2006: Firstly, it is wrong of him to give you such an ultimatum. That sort of thing isn't on.
However, he does appear to have a valid complaint. He is obviously really feeling like sex and you are just dismissing him and leaving him to feel frustrat... (read in full...)
ive turned to hypnosis to help save myself and my marriage
Q. My husband and i thought we were indistructable as we had such a strong happy relationship. But issues i have within myself have ruined the marriage. I've read up on so many relationship problems and solutions in an attempt to fix things but they ...
A. 20 November 2006: The way to go might be to sort yourself out properly (as it sounds as though you're not done yet) and then show him in some way that you have changed. Constantly pestering him that you have changed, which he's heard many times before, is unlikely to ... (read in full...)
I think I'm gay or am I bi? How do I go about finding this out?
Q. hi. i have been gay since i was 13 however for a long time now the thought has been on my mind that i may be bi. My feelings aren't just physical but emotional as well. I havn't done anything about following up how i feel purely because i don't ...
A. 20 November 2006: You should be able to indentify your feelings simply by the way you look at and feel about men/women or boys/girls.
Emotional attraction doesn't really define whether you are straight, gay or bi. It all comes down to physical/sexual attracti... (read in full...)
Husband has fallen for my cousin! We've had problems and he loves her. Should I just call it a day?
Q. My husband has fallen in love with my cousin. They know I know. I threw him out and he stayed with his sister for a while. We talked and decided to give it another go. I know he still loves her, I think they talk and may be see each other. I only ...
A. 20 November 2006: If your husband is still seeing and/or talking to your cousin then he isn't really giving things another go - he is continuing to be unfaithful and either having or pursuing an affair. If you haven't got along or had have sex for years there isn't ... (read in full...)
Sex with him is painful and has caused me to bleed! Any advice?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend now for just over a month, but we're having terrible trouble having sex. My boyfriend is not my first sexual partner, but everytime we attempt to have sex the pain is unbelievable. I've slept with men more we...
A. 15 November 2006: You probably have a haemorrhoid down there. I'd had regular anal sex for about a year with no problems and then all of a sudden it was painful and bled. It turned out I had a haemorrhoid.
Apparently if you eat lots of fibre, drink plenty of water... (read in full...)
I want to wish my first love the best in her marriage - would it upset her?
Q. Nothing matches the thrill of my first real love I met a girl in the first year of my university course 13 years ago. She was friendly and popular and had a socially prominent group of friends, whereas I was quiet and reserved but passionate. ...
A. 7 November 2006: No I don't think you should. It sounds like you hardly no one another and she would probably be creeped out if you just showed up like that to wish her the best. You need to just try and forget about her and move on.... (read in full...)
Sometimes he just doesn't want sex - is it me or am I reading too much into it?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now and been officially his boyfriend for a week. We had sex on the second date and have had it a few occasions since. The problem is sometimes he just doesn't want to sleep with me for some reason...for ...
A. 7 November 2006: It could be that he just doesn't feel like it. He probably has a lower sex drive than yourself. Believe me I know it is hard to take! You could ask him and see if that is the case, or if it is something else.... (read in full...)
My mums friend was helping me through a rough time, she said I contacted her too much, now she won't let me apologise!
Q. Ok im 16 and i met this woman( 30) my mum works with. We became friends and i started looking up like a sort of a role model. She knew i looked up to her and seemed to like that i did. My parents broke up and i need someone to talk to so i sorta ...
A. 7 November 2006: I understand you wish to say sorry (and that is good of you) but it may be better to just forget about it. For whatever reason, good or bad, she obviously doesn't want you contacting her anymore. Your pesistance in trying to say sorry will probably ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and like a guy but I've never had a relationship before and I'm so nervous!
Q. im a 22 year old girl, and i know a 23 year old guy who i've had a "thing" with for awhile. Well, recently i found out that he likes me, likes me....and everyone else thinks so too. I am anxious to talk to him again, but when i think about him ...
A. 7 November 2006: It is just nerves so don't be put off. Go for it.... (read in full...)
I wanted to fix things, not get dumped!!!
Q. My g/f has just dumped me. Last week i said she didn't make me happy as she has acted uninterested in me, always out with friends and family and nothing happening in bedroom. She was shocked and said that she was happy and unaware we had problems....
A. 7 November 2006: I think what you did was the right thing, except for the part when you said she didn't make you happy. It is one thing to point out a few problems but saying she didn't make you happy is quite a mssive statement.
From what you have said it does ... (read in full...)
This new man has got me all confused and I need your advice!
Q. Hi about a month ago I was working away for a week when I met this amazing guy, who also working away for my company, but from a branch close to me. We seemed to hit it off and I spent three nights with him in his hotel room. We never exchanged ...
A. 5 November 2006: Don't worry too much about why he never gave you his number when you first met - as just remember you never gave him yours either! You obvioulsy had your reasons for not giving him your number at the time, and his may well be the same.
I am not s... (read in full...)
I think my penis is too small and my erection may be abnormal - thoughts?
Q. I am a 16 year old male, nearly 17 and my voice has broken and i have a small amount of hair on my body. But i think that my penis is too small and my foreskin doesn't retract when i get an erection. Is this normal?...
A. 3 November 2006: Your foreskin will eventually be able to go right back in time. Don't be concerned about it as it is completely normal. For some people the foreskin goes right back when they are in childhood and for others, such as you and myself, it happens during ... (read in full...)
Is it realistic the think a guy is attracted to you if he nervously avoids you in public, but is warm and close in private??
Q. Is it realistic the think a guy is attracted to you if he nervously avoids you in public, but is warm and close in private. Avoids being seen with you outside to the point that he almost falls over himself backwards, yet lingers with you if he is ...
A. 3 November 2006: If he is nervous in your presence when others are around then I'd say YES, he is attracted to you.... (read in full...)
I slept with him and after our second date said he couldn' comment about his feelings towards me!! Male pov's please?
Q. Ive been flirting with a guy from my local post office we will call him Jon say. I have flirted with him 4 2 years now so i finally plucked up the courage and asked him out on a date. He accepted, we went on a date and we came home together.Things ...
A. 2 November 2006: I think by "the situation had changed" probably meant that the situation between the two of you. You ask him out and then afterwards avoid seeing him for a while - which doesn't send a very good message. You then ask for his number but don't take ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend choose the worst possible times to propose?
Q. Wedding Talk Weirdness! My BF of 8 years has brought up the subject of marriage a few times now. He often picks the wrong times to bring it up. Most often when I am in a bad mood and then I just clam up! I don't mean to do this it just happens!...
A. 2 November 2006: It sounds like you might be making it very difficult for him. He is unlikely to surprise you with a proposal when every time he's spoken of marriage you've clamed up. As a result of your responses to marriage talk he might be wondering whether or ... (read in full...)
How can I help my bf with his smoking habits?
Q. I'm 21, and my boyfriend's 22. We've been together for 18 months now. Recently my boyfriend admitted to me "he smokes too much because he's stressed and he's stressed because he worries about smoking too much!" He says he has no idea what to...
A. 2 November 2006: All you can do is be supportive. In the end it is entirely up to him if he cuts back or quits smoking.... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't fancy men, but wants a mmf threesome and checks out guys! How do I deal with this?
Q. Recently my boyfriend told me he wants a threesome - me, and another man. I told him no, and that it would bring out negative emotions in the relationship, but he insisted it was for the best. I asked him why he liked threesomes, and he said th...
A. 2 November 2006: Maybe he is in denial. A lot of men don't like to admit to themselves or anyone else that they are or even might be gay or bi. I suggest you stick to what you've already said - NO. I can't see how bringing another men into your bedroom will make the ... (read in full...)
I don't look at him and find him as sexually attractive as other guys!!!
Q. My boyfriend fancies me more than I fancy him. I've been seeing a guy exclusively for the last two months and we're now talking about potentially living together. I really enjoy spending time with him, I like all his friends and feel like we cou...
A. 26 October 2006: Looks aren't everything, and in the long run the other things you share with one another will likely be of more importance. It sounds like you do find him attractive to a certain extent so I doubt there would be any problems.
You could get toge... (read in full...)
My daughters boyfriend now thinks we hate him when he couldn't be more wrong!!!
Q. My daughter has been seeing her boyfriend for just over a year. My husband and I love him. Recently they had a bump in their relationship, but seemed to have gotten over it. While my daughter was hurting, I was there to listen to her, trying to be ...
A. 24 October 2006: Perhaps just tell him! Explain your distance and stress the point it isn't that you don't like him.... (read in full...)
Being gay and brought up in the UK makes me find it difficult to understand why people do this!!!
Q. My partner and I have been together for six years, recently he stated that he thought being gay was a desease and that people like us should not be able to have any rights and that he puts his family first before me. This came as shock, but he is a ...
A. 24 October 2006: It sounds like a sad situation for you both. If he carrys on like he is there isn't much chance of things between you having a happy outcome. I think you've reached the right decision already in that it is probably time to move on.
Shame on him f... (read in full...)
Why can't he perform when he's with me???
Q. I want to know if I'm freaking out over nothing. Me and my boyfriend have been together a year and before he met me, he had a very colourful past and slept with tons of women. Anyway, he is faithful to me now and loves me very much and claims to ...
A. 8 September 2006: Some men really don't like condoms. I've never had a problem with them but some guys find them a huge turn off - to the point that they lose their erection. It could be this or he might just be using it as an excuse.
Try and remember that he would... (read in full...)
Caught in the middle between my BF and my best gay friend...
Q. I'm best friend with a gay guy since I was little. We call each other everyday, and would talk for hours. He's almost like my boyfriend, but minus the sexual part. Now I have a boyfriend (first boyfriend), it seems like my best friend and my ...
A. 8 September 2006: Even if you best friend was a woman the same thing could be happening. Your boyfriend probably wants to do things with you - not with you and your best friend. On the other hand your best friend is used to it probably being just the two of you and ... (read in full...)
I passed wind and my boyfriend dumped me!!!
Q. My fella has finished with me because i accidently passed wind!I said i was sorry but he wouldn't listen,he said i was disgusting.I really miss him,what shall i do?...
A. 7 September 2006: I guess you could apologise again but I am not sure you should as you haven't actually done anything wrong. We all pass wind and we can't always control it - surely everyone realises this?
Could he have possibly wanted to end things with you and ... (read in full...)
I feel so sorry for myself (long-winded post)
Q. Hi, More than a year ago something happened to me. It's a long story so here goes.. Me and my boyfriend have a great realationship but one night things went wrong. I did something for him but it didn't go to well and then it got worse when he got...
A. 7 September 2006: I find it a bit alarming that you were so extremely upset and in tears yet he managed to just nod off to sleep - and not once but many times. He probably genuinely didn't understand what you were going on about. How he could just go to sleep with ... (read in full...)
He has lost interest in sex, and blames me!
Q. I have been in an almost 7 year relationship. We have been through a lot this last year from September 2005 to now having moved twice. We met in NYC where neither of us had any real friends since we were both new to that city. Then we moved to a ...
A. 7 September 2006: You say that in the past you did try and make changes however I am not sure how many changes or how hard you tried if an entire year passed with no sex.
He is obviously worried about the emotional and physical let down of what has happened... (read in full...)
I dont like where she wants to live, and she doesnt like living here.. what to do ?
Q. I am engaged to be married next April. Her and I moved back to my home 4 months ago, now she wants to move back to her home, but I hate it there and she said she hates it here. What to do?...
A. 7 September 2006: It is time to find a house in a location that you both like. Then it will be your home as much as it is hers.... (read in full...)
She asked me who is the prettiest of her friends and I told her. Now I am regretting it!
Q. i was in bed with my girlfriend about 2 months ago, she was asking me lots of questions about her female friends, who is prettiest e.t.c bar a couple of questions i could only answer with 1 girl's name as she wouldnt let me just pick her the whole ...
A. 7 September 2006: She was the one who put you in a difficult position by asking such questions, and demanding detailed answers. What was she expecting? I suspect she was trying to compare herself to her friends through your answers.
I don't think you've done any... (read in full...)
Can you really be in love with two people at the same time?
Q. Is it truly possible to be in love with two people at the same time? or is that just something people say when they're afraid to admit how they truly feel, or are scared to say they don't love their partner anymore? I always thought that it wasn't ...
A. 7 September 2006: She either only "truely loves" one of you, or nether of you! If she feels so torn that she loves you both then maybe neither is real true love - as if it was she'd know which of you she wanted to be with.... (read in full...)
He has lost interest in sex, and blames me!
Q. I have been in an almost 7 year relationship. We have been through a lot this last year from September 2005 to now having moved twice. We met in NYC where neither of us had any real friends since we were both new to that city. Then we moved to a ...
A. 7 September 2006: The way he told you seems a bit unkind, however it sounds like his points were very valid ones.
I think if my boyfriend didn't have sex with me for a year I would start feeling a bit annoyed as well. You might not have felt like sex much however ... (read in full...)
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