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I have been there and I know what it's like to feel completely out of control of your life.
I am here to help you, I am here to listen and give friendly advice, whenever you need it, for whatever problem you have.
I managed to turn my life around and now I am in a beautiful relationship with a wonderful woman, now I want to do the same for you. All I have ever wanted is to help people.
Let me help you, and guide you to helping yourself regain control.
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What do you find attractive? Opinions wanted please!
Q. Hello :) My question is personal opinion! Feel free to answer! I really have been curious about what everyone is attracted to in a woman physically. Full figure, small hands ext. This is not shallow, and I KNOW personality plays sometimes a bigg...
A. 30 March 2011: My girlfriend is short and plump. I have had girlfriends who were taller then me, skinny, big ass, small ass, big bust, small bust. If I'm honest most looks are filtered from my vision until I get to know someone. I have little preference on wh... (read in full...)
Worried about standing out when everyone else is grinding at the school prom......
Q. Im going to prom with a guy... far more sexually experienced then me. i do not plan on having sex but at my school everyone grinds...and like id like to not stand out. is there any way i can get better at this. any tips? im ok...but idk still ...
A. 30 March 2011: The prom isn't about who's grinding against whom and how hard,its about having fun and enjoying yourself. Everyone else will be enjoying themselves so why don't you? All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with our ages?
Q. Can a 17 year old who will be turning 18 in a month date an have sex with a 19 year old?...
A. 29 March 2011: It would depend upon local law for it to be legal or not. But morally if your both ready and want to then yes :)
All the best Dataluke... (read in full...)
All my friends are 'doing stuff' I don't want to though... reassurance?
Q. Hello everyone, I am 15 and so are all of my friends, at least five of them are doing things with there boyfriends which I would Never do! For example some are being friged? One has been licked out and one has given a hand job - Even when I fall...
A. 15 March 2011: It doesn't matter what we think, its about what you think.
I admire you greatly for taking this stance, its not easy to resist what everyone else is doing.
It is up to you what you do with your body at what ever time you want. And if your frie... (read in full...)
I miscarried and it was HER fault!!!!
Q. recently i fell pregnant now im only 14 so initially i was freaking out about it. i had told my boyfriend and he was going to support me on wanting to keep the baby. i told my best friend everything and she was happy for us although i never told my ...
A. 15 March 2011: She did a terrible thing, you know that, but she doesn't. This girl didn't know you were pregnant and so couldn't have known that she was running the risk of causing a miscarriage. While you may hate her for this, she shouldn't be burdened ... (read in full...)
My family life is beyond miserable!
Q. Hi, so im 20 years old, and my family life is beyond miserable. at age 13 i learned my mom was cheating on my dad, so i told him thinking it was the best idea. It wasn't, instead he started to rape me and use me sexually as a way to get back at ...
A. 15 March 2011: You are very very right to get out of there, get out as fast as you can and don't look back!
Change your address, change your phone number and stay away from your parents.
Please, do this as fast as you can.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend is too controlling?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months now. We were practically best friends before we got together, we helped each other through everything and spoke all the time. We were like boyfriend and girlfriend without actually being together, so ...
A. 6 March 2011: Whilst I do not recommend you drinking or smoking at your age, it is up to you what you do to your body. He has your best interests at heart but its not right for him to dictate what you can and can't do. Sit down and talk with him, ask him ... (read in full...)
First sexual experience...
Q. Hey, so me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 1 month now and she wants to get a bit 'sexual' and im keen for this. Were both 16 and we have both never had sex or given/received a blowjob. I know she wants to but im a bit nervous I might ...
A. 2 March 2011: The first time is always over quickly, there's not a lot of things you can do about it.
There are techniques that can delay ejaculation but they take a lot of practice.
Just relax, it will be fine for both of you.
All the best, Dataluk... (read in full...)
Sex positions with a curved penis?
Q. Hay guys, quick question for you. Me and my girlfriend have great sex. But my manhood curves slightly which does limit the number of positions that are comfortable for us both. Any suggestions? Thanks :)...
A. 1 March 2011: Much obliged everyone thank you :D... (read in full...)
Sex positions with a curved penis?
Q. Hay guys, quick question for you. Me and my girlfriend have great sex. But my manhood curves slightly which does limit the number of positions that are comfortable for us both. Any suggestions? Thanks :)...
A. 1 March 2011: I have an upward curve, just to clarify... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't like it that I masturbate but won't have sex with him
Q. Hey everyone reading this. I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years. Per my request, we don't have sex - which my boyfriend is fine with (most of the time). Like any other teenager out there, I masturbate. I assumed that m...
A. 26 February 2011: Perhaps I can lend a male view. To guys there is no distinction between sex and masterbation, or very little anyway. To us, sexual pleasure is sexual pleasure is sexual pleasure either way. In your boyfriends eyes, the idea that you would 'r... (read in full...)
Would I be able to satisfy a woman?
Q. i m 24.. and i am still a virgin and to confess i dont have a big manhood..so would i be able to satisfy a women.. what if i found someone who has already had sexual experience....earlier i didnt think much about it but now i feel really depressed ...
A. 25 February 2011: You are doing the thing that every male virgin does but don't worry, you will be fine.
We have all looked at our manhoods before our first time as seen them as small, but trust me, when it comes to it, your woman won't care if its big or small, a... (read in full...)
First Time Blues
Q. I lost my virginity when I was 16 years old to a guy who, granted, was a nice guy, but he wasn't anything more than that. I had been waiting and hoping for that moment since the beginning of high school, even before my first kiss. After it finally ...
A. 25 February 2011: I feel proud when I read this. I am proud of you and proud of what you are doing because you are apserlutly right. Stay together, love each other, and enjoy sex when you eventually have it. All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
How did my boyfriend move on so fast? I can't even forget him! Please Help!
Q. Me and my boyfriend (now ex boyfriend) have been dating on and off for a year.The first time we broke up was over me being on vacation and him having trust issues and him wanting me to come home early so we decided we wouldn't talk for awhile .Well ...
A. 25 February 2011: Speaking as a guy, I am ashamed to say that I have moved on fast as well, of course at the time I didn't know what affect it would have on my ex.
Guys can make a fast move for several reasons.
The first, is that they honestly don't care and j... (read in full...)
How can such a terrible person be doing okay while I'm so unhappy and insecure?
Q. My mind is in a fog. I've written on this site countless times hoping for different answers. Hoping one of which might somehow help me. Hoping that someone has been where I've been and can give me hope and help me to better understand what my issue ...
A. 25 February 2011: I went through this! I understand this! Finally someone else who knows what its like!
The truth is, the only reason it bothers us so much is because we are constantly aware that that person is there and doing what they're doing.
Its terrible ... (read in full...)
We want to try different kinds of sex!
Q. im 50years old and my gjrlfriend js 28, we have good sex, we want to try diffrent kinds of sex,i love my girl so i will do anything to keep her happy,any helpfull hjnts wood be great...
A. 25 February 2011: Perhaps some books on the subject would help. And also toalking to your girl and finding out what kinds of things she likes.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Do I have myself a friend with benefits?
Q. ok i met this girl at a bar who was an acquantinces.. and we made out that night and got her number.. the other week she wrote me a private msg on facebook saying that she doesnt want a relationship with me but she wrote saying 'we could have cra...
A. 13 February 2011: Sounds like you have a fuck buddy to me friend. From what she's saying she's really only leaving you with Friends with benefits as an option, so go for it. Just make sure you know what you're getting yourself into. FWB can be tricky, especial... (read in full...)
What is this kind of friendship called?
Q. Hi, i met this great guy about four months ago when he called me on phone, and since then we've been talking and sharing pictures, we stay in the same area. We've met two times physically, and the second time we kissed. He got me very nice gifts ...
A. 10 February 2011: You say you're scared of being in a relationship, but I don't think this situation you're in right now sure sounds like a relationship.
Its totally up to you what you want to call it but from the sounds of things you have nothing to fear from dat... (read in full...)
She wants to be FWBs, and I suffer from Premature Ejaculation... how should I let this play out?
Q. A female friend and myself, who seldom see each other, have been texting each other quite often for a while now. In recent months the texts have got more and more flirty until the other evening the subject of sex cropped up when my female friend ...
A. 7 February 2011: I would say go for it and see what happens. There are several things you can do beforehand to help though. First, try seeing your doctor, they will have some tips on what to do and maybe some medication. Also there are condoms on the market that ... (read in full...)
I like good conversation. How can I encourage my GF to talk more too?
Q. My girlfriend and I are wonderful together, we get along, we have a wonderful sex life and see each other every day. Sounds perfect right? Not quite. I like talking, I like conversation, I like expressing opinions, but she doesn't. My girlfriend ...
A. 6 February 2011: To FloridaCatGirl We've been together for 8 months so I don't know how more opinionated she can get, but I will try your advice. Hopefully she will give me more of an opinion than 'it's alright' lol... (read in full...)
Bled after sex!
Q. hey everyone. i had sex last night with my bf 5 times... i woke up this morning, went to pee and blood also came out. should i be worried? my period is always around the 10th... i'm in pain, period pains... a friend said i have to go to the doctor ...
A. 6 February 2011: I would FULLY recommend you go and see the doctor, it definatly could be torn. On the plus side though, five times is more than I ever get lol All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
My lack of self confidence is preventing me from persuing this relationship. What can I do to change this?
Q. Hey, I'd be greatful if someone could help me. I am a 22 year old, bi female and have been in a 4 year relationship with a girl, which didn't end very well, but I'm sort of over her. I have slept with one guy and have had relationships with guys, ...
A. 6 February 2011: Your confidence is being knocked by you previous relationship, the one that ended badly. It happens to loads of people, even me from time to time. What you have to understand is that this woman your going to meet is just as nervous and worr... (read in full...)
Due to insecurity I'm seeing a Dr. Is it a good idea to bring my BF to my therapy?
Q. Hi everyone, I often post messages on this board because it seems as if I often have relationship problems. I am still living with my boyfriend but we're going through something right now, and he says he needs to think about what he really wants...
A. 6 February 2011: I think that if you are both having problems which are affecting your emotions then you should take him with you. After that, follow your doctor's advice on what to do. All the best, Dataluke ... (read in full...)
Even if you can't see them on him, is it possible to get genital warts from your boyfriend?
Q. dear readers i would like to know if its possible to get genital warts from your boyfriend even if you have never seen them on him? or if he has never has sex with anyone else? ...
A. 6 February 2011: People can carry the virus that causes genital warts without any warts actually being present, but there is almost no chance of him having any kind of STI if he's never had sex before.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
I like good conversation. How can I encourage my GF to talk more too?
Q. My girlfriend and I are wonderful together, we get along, we have a wonderful sex life and see each other every day. Sounds perfect right? Not quite. I like talking, I like conversation, I like expressing opinions, but she doesn't. My girlfriend ...
A. 6 February 2011: She actually has very few interests, the only thing we tend to talk about is our friends, and there is only so much about them we can talk about.... (read in full...)
So what comes next? I don't want to jump right into sex so do we start using our hands next?
Q. Alright. I'm 24 and I've been dating a guy (26) for a little over a month. I like where things are going with him but am a little uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with him just yet... it hasn't been proposed but let's face it, it's on his m...
A. 4 February 2011: I support your decision to take it slowly, very few people do anymore and its good that you are.
Not everyone takes steps like that but its really what ever feels comfortable, go with what you feel.
If it feels like its leading to hands then le... (read in full...)
I've never given a gift to a guy before and I'm confused!
Q. Hi everybody...i been with my boyfriend for a month an things are good an as we all know valentines day is around the corner....an I need all of you alls help...whats a good gift to get for a guy?...HELP ME...ive never gave any guy a gift for for ...
A. 4 February 2011: Don't panic, its nothing to worry about.
Since you've been together for such a short time it doesn't have to be big. Most guys like sports, so a little something to do with that might be nice. If not then a piece of jewellery, like a pendant ... (read in full...)
He wants a blowjob but I don't like doing it, what can I do?
Q. i have been in a sort of relationship with a boy, we are both same age(17). at the start we were just good friends he would come up for a drink, then things started to change we would kiss at weekends and then i saw him during the week and we would ...
A. 1 February 2011: Well you don't actually have to do it if you don't want to. If its something that makes you feel ill then it may not be worth it. However, I do have some suggestions.
A way to make it less disgusting and more sexy is when your round his house, t... (read in full...)
He just smiles at me?
Q. i am 13 years old in year 8 and i like this boy that is in a year below me he hardly knows i exist and he never speakes to me but whenever we walk past each other we smile at eachother does that meen anthin? confused...
A. 30 January 2011: Without talking to him or interacting with him further there is no way to tell. He could just be friendly.
A way that you could tell is when you pass and smile, have a quick glance around at him, if you see he's looking at you too then he MIGHT li... (read in full...)
Not had sex for a while, will it hurt!
Q. will it hurt to have sex if you havent had it in a while?...
A. 30 January 2011: Not at all. Once your used to sex and it doesn't hurt for you anymore then it shouldn't hurt at all.
The only exception is if the guy your with has a big penis, then it might be slightly uncomfortable.
Hope this helps.
All the best, Dataluke... (read in full...)
Am I big enough?
Q. I'm about 5.5 inches, maybe a little smaller but I was wondering (as i am a virgin) if I'm big enough for vaginal sex with my girlfriend? And what position would be best for my length to get the most in?...
A. 28 January 2011: Dude, your bigger than me! Me and my girlfriend have very productive sex in as many positions as we can think of.
Your size is just right, you don't need to worry about it at all, trust me.
Just enjoy yourself and don't worry about it.
All t... (read in full...)
How do I win his trust back?
Q. hey i have tricky question. i am 23 and my boyfriend is 24. we have been dating for almost 4 months now. we are in a long distance relationship he is in South Africa and i am in London. i really love him so much and he loves and cares about me too. ...
A. 27 January 2011: A few sips of wine shouldn't cause that much damage, he is drastically over reacting.
Its understandable that he doesn't want you to drink and its wonderful that you keep to that. But the idea that he loses faith in you and doubts your relation... (read in full...)
Bisexual and proud!
Q. Im bisexual and proud! i like girls and boys, i cant understand why people are a afraid to admit it, you are what you are and you shouldnt hide away from that. there is nothing to be ashamed of, i've had sexual experiences with girls and boys its ...
A. 25 January 2011: I too am bisexual and proud!
We are a wonderful people and should be as loud as we can about it :D... (read in full...)
I regret moving my ex back in, I want her out tonight!
Q. So right to it.I made a huge mistake feeling me and my ex gf could start off fresh. She lost her job which was my opening to start fresh. She moved in with me 2 months ago but I'm not feeling it. I want her out but she doesn't have the money or any ...
A. 25 January 2011: You need to be frank with her, its the only way.
Tell her the truth but don't mention your new lover, you should keep that quiet for now. Take an active role in helping her find a new place and getting her back into work. Your going to be her f... (read in full...)
Should I believe the rumours that my girlfriend is cheating on me
Q. Ok, so i'm 14 and I know everyone will be like 'ohh your too young for this' or something, but i'm serious. I love my girlfriend, but does she love me back? I know she does marijuana and cigarettes, and I know everyone is telling me she is cheating ...
A. 25 January 2011: Ok, school is no stranger to rumours, you know this, so maybe it is just a rumour.
People are always trying to discredit each other, and the fact that your girl friend smokes and stuff will add fuel to this.
So cool down about it, act like not... (read in full...)
Why am I so down on myself about these things? Is it the Cannabis that is making me paranoid?
Q. Morning to you all I need some objective advice. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. I love him very much. We do "clash" sometimes because we both hold strong opinions on things and are equally quick tempered. Well, here's the ot...
A. 25 January 2011: Paranoia is a core side effect of cannabis and you need to get off it NOW!
Get yourself into rehab, the paranoia will disappear once your off it.
As for your boyfriend, its possible that he's getting down because he is worried about you.
I ... (read in full...)
Can I get my girlfriend to "sext" me?
Q. Hello. So I joked with my girlfriend while texting the other day about sending me some pics, and she told me that's something she was just not comfortable with. I dropped the subject. I understand her concern for it, and will not press her into i...
A. 25 January 2011: She is smart, there are hundreds of stories of these pictures being spread on the net and she and the other women on here have every right to be concerned.
You can't say anything to change her mind but you can do some things that could sway her... (read in full...)
Pubic hair question.....
Q. Hi everyone, im just wondering does hair actually grow on the penis or they just grow on the base of the penis? ...
A. 25 January 2011: Just the base, and maybe a little bit at the bottom. But everyone is different
All the best, Dataluke ... (read in full...)
He only comes to me when he has a problem and I have to pick up the pieces.....
Q. Hi, would love to get an outside opinion on this. it's kinda long (sorry), so here goes... I'm 19 and have an extremely close guy friend of mine who's 20. We were sexually involved but it ended and we still remained best friends. We are very hone...
A. 24 January 2011: Well I think you've found your answer right here.
Direct him to this website. Be there with him when he goes on the site. With you there he is much more likely to trust the site. This should hopefully take some of the pressure off you.
Also, t... (read in full...)
I don't know how we can be together and work this out!
Q. Hi guys, I need some advice on my relationship. My partner and I have been together for 2.5 years. At the beginning of our relationship, we were long distance for about 8 months - before this we were best friends. I decided to move to...
A. 24 January 2011: I feel for you my friend, its a tough decision.
You have uprooted your life for this woman and now that your settled she's asking you to do it again, and that's just not fair.
Love is a powerful connection but sometimes its not enough. Why shou... (read in full...)
I really want to blow his mind when I see him again!
Q. My guy is out of town working and we wont be able to see each other for three weeks till he gets his second pay check.....and I wanna really blow his mind when I see him again...should I get lingerie...or something else...HELP?...
A. 22 January 2011: Lingerie yes defiantly. But there are many other things you can do as well.
Try and think of something that you guys have talked about doing in the bedroom but have never done. Most guys like rough sex and dirty talk so you can throw those in... (read in full...)
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