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My lack of self confidence is preventing me from persuing this relationship. What can I do to change this?

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Question - (5 February 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 February 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ilmizzbaybehh writes:

Hey, I'd be greatful if someone could help me. I am a 22 year old, bi female and have been in a 4 year relationship with a girl, which didn't end very well, but I'm sort of over her. I have slept with one guy and have had relationships with guys, but I've never felt comfortable sleeping with them.

Now, there's this girl who I know and I haven't actually met up with her, but I really like her and she claims to like me to. She wants to meet me but I'm worried about many different things. What if she doesn't like how I look? What if I can't please her? Sexually, I really want to go for it, but I dont know why im being held back. I'm normally a very outgoing person, but all of a sudden I cut myself off from being in a relationship. I want a elationship, and I want to be sexually active, but it seems something is knocking my confidence.

I appreciate any answers. Thanks.

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A male reader, Dataluke United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2011):

Dataluke agony auntYour confidence is being knocked by you previous relationship, the one that ended badly. It happens to loads of people, even me from time to time.

What you have to understand is that this woman your going to meet is just as nervous and worried as you are. She is also afraid that she won't be attractive enough for you and she is also afraid that she may not be able to please you. When you meet just be yourself, be honest with her. If you got on before you met then your going to be fine when you do meet.

I hope I've helped in some way.

All the best, Dataluke

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