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Should I just hang out with him as friends and see if maybe he ends up with me??
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 3 March 2009: to me i dont think i would associate "your amazing" with sex, unless it was specifically "the sex was amazing". he's probably refering to the connection you share with him, and that he feels very close to you, possibly admiration and respect who ... (read in full...)
Should I just hang out with him as friends and see if maybe he ends up with me??
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 3 March 2009: its really good that you knew wher to draw the line, if you take this any further before he splits up with his current gf then your leaving youself open to heartbreak. if he respects you then he will stay friends until he has made up his mind, but i ... (read in full...)
Should I hold on to her? Even if our relationship time is limited?
Q. I just need advice. Ok, so here's what's going on. I'm pretty much in my first real relationship, the girl I'm going with is great. But recently, she told me she plans on keeping her virginity until she's married which is a bit of a bummer because...
A. 19 February 2009: you really need to think about her and not the sex, but you new you were going to hear that reaction. you really cant tell a celibate women that you need sex after 2months because its human nature, its just not how it works. she will be thinking.. ... (read in full...)
Do LDR relationships work?
Q. ONE SIMPLE QUESTION: DO LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS (LDR) WORK? answer however you like.. yes, no, youre opinions or experiences etc. anything would be helpful! thanks...
A. 17 February 2009: personally..not really, in my experience everything can be going absolutly fine and with no warnings the attraction to another can readily escalate, just because of the lack of physical attention alone, even though the person in question may feel ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are a good or a bad kisser?
Q. how do you know if your a good or bad kisser? PLEASE HELP!!!!!...
A. 17 February 2009: Just dont rush in, the worst thing you can do is bump heads lol the first time, keep eye contact and move in very slow (slower the better) and feel it out start off very soft and see how he reacts, gudluk.... (read in full...)
Should I hold on to her? Even if our relationship time is limited?
Q. I just need advice. Ok, so here's what's going on. I'm pretty much in my first real relationship, the girl I'm going with is great. But recently, she told me she plans on keeping her virginity until she's married which is a bit of a bummer because...
A. 16 February 2009: dude it really doesnt make you look good if you bale out now because your not getting any of that, she may even have different plans that you dont know about as of yet, it may be wise to put your friendship first either way. but whatever happens ... (read in full...)
I prefer masturbating to actual sex! What's wrong?
Q. Ok so a very bad sex experience on a virgin makes him get the wrong idea? coz I am afraid I really got the wrong idea about what sex is.. I didn't enjoy it... not in pain but pleasure... didn't feel anything special... I prefer masturrb...
A. 16 February 2009: you may just find that you and your partner just didnt bond to well in the sack, if you just had sex for the hell of it i could see why there was no passion in it, and of course its less effort to pleasure youself for that matter, i wouldnt go ... (read in full...)
What can we do to keep it fun except for sex?
Q. ok well im 16 and well i have been with this boy for like 2 months now and well you no what its like when get to the age of 16 .. well i dont want to rush in to sex and i have talked to my boyfriend about it and hes cool about it but its just i dont ...
A. 16 February 2009: dont worry to much, if he's already getting frustrated about the sex thing after only two months then all you can do is explain your situation about not feeling ready, if anything he will appretiate it more when you are. if you have to much free ... (read in full...)
Your opinions needed... What is wrong with my boyfriend?
Q. We have been going out for a year. We both love each other. I am suspecting that he is cheating on me with this other girl.. The other day he told me that he hasn't been talking to her recently and told me that she has a boyfriend anyhow. I still ...
A. 16 February 2009: hello, your boyfriend isnt actually guilty of anything from what you have just said, if he ran out of credit or forgot to txt you today its no reason to be suspicious of his love for you. if you were to go through his private things emails and what ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but have a crush on someone else...
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl who has had a crush on a guy 2 years older than me for a few months now. At the same time I still feel strongly about my boyfriend. Unfortunately I'm not sure if he feels the same anymore. If things are to die with my curr...
A. 16 February 2009: the problem is that things may not feel the same because your so distracted by this older boy for the past few months, and the thing is you dont even know if the other guy is interested, or maybe you have already asked him. well either way your ... (read in full...)
To scenarios to enable me to talk with her...
Q. I really need help! I like this girl and she likes me. When we are at school she's often quiet. I want to be able to talk to her. I want to use the time and just talk. Do I walk up to her and just start talking? Would that make her comfortable?? I ...
A. 16 February 2009: if you dont know enough about her to strike up a good conversation why dont you wait until your both doing a subject you both enjoy and ask her advice on some of your work, and say her opinion means a lot to you etc, she might realise you have ... (read in full...)
I snooped - will he take me back?
Q. Just recently I snooped on my boyfriend's computer and I got caught. He never accused me or discussed it. He just came out of the computer room with this smirk on his face and started acting pissed. I asked him what's wrong and he said "I think ...
A. 16 February 2009: well its possible he knows about the first time you did it but let it slip, if thats the case then he knows you definatly dont trust him, if you read his emails then i could see why he would be very unhappy, but atleast you admitted to it. you said ... (read in full...)
I've given up on finding love.
Q. I've given up on finding love. I feel like love is a really special thing that everyone is entitled to, however it seems that it's just not meant for me. I've become really cynical and find myself avoiding all my friends who have significant ...
A. 16 February 2009: i know its tricky keeping your head up when all your friends look so happy, every now and then theres this glimmer of hope when i meet somone new but i have to keep reminding myself to keep a clear conscience over the past, but if we stay cheerful ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and my boyfriend (15) wants to have sex with me!
Q. I need you advice. My boyfriend (15) wants to have sex with me, but I think I am too young. What do you say? I really would like to have sexual intercourse, but I'm not sure whether I am old enough to decide that....
A. 16 February 2009: well you are wise beyond your years, dont feel obliged to have sex because your partner wants it right now, be strong and stand up for yourself, i know you dont want to break up over this, if he's 2 years older than you, then he needs to grow up and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom my brother's taking drugs???
Q. I NEED HELP!!! This has really nothing to do with relationships, but my mom asked me to find out whether or not my older brother is doing drugs(he is). She is worried about him and wants to know what's going on. Now I told her that's unfair to ask m...
A. 16 February 2009: thats is quite a predicament, if you want to keep everyone happy i sugest that you tell your brother that your mother is very worried, and possibly mention the fact that shes asked you to check up on him and that you dont know what to do, tell him ... (read in full...)
Dating cousins.
Q. My sister confided in me last night that her and our cousin have been dating. His great, great, grandfather married my great, great, grandmother and they had kids and those kids had his mom. Therefore, he is blood. As my sister told me about them ...
A. 16 February 2009: Why cant you just be happy for your sister, if she feels that she's found the right man then the age thing realy doesnt matter. I can relate to your sister, I have a second or third cousin that's been stalking me since she was 15 (2 years now) and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I let his friend finger me???
Q. Hey, One day I was at my boyfriends and he introduced me to his best friend. At first I wasn't attracted to him but as time went on I started to like him more and more. A few weeks later we were all under a blanket watching a film and he held my ...
A. 16 February 2009: i dont think you should bring your love for your boyfriend into this, i feel you made your desision the moment you held hands with him! but letting it go much further then that was quite irresponsible of your bf's feelings. and no his best friend ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex ask if I'm dating?
Q. Why does my ex girlfriend who I have a child with consistently ask if I am dating? She is the one who left the relationship and is now dating someone and I never ask her. Please advise. ...
A. 16 February 2009: she probably feels better about herself knowing that she's found a new partner, but its most likely that she is the one finding it very difficult to move on as she would'nt be asking you about your personal life if she wasnt thinking about you, it ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I don't know how to tell him I have some what feelings for him.
Q. I met this guy and we've been talking for a couple weeks now. He seems like the perfect guy but people have said he's majorly prude, and very shy. But he's so hot and cute and we seem like we click. We get along very well. But I don't know how to ...
A. 16 February 2009: well if you only met weeks ago dont go and tell him you love him right now lol, your going to need more then 2weeks just to find out if he's right for you, i dont know how you met but im guessing you see eachother regularly anyway, if your worried ... (read in full...)
Should I just hang out with him as friends and see if maybe he ends up with me??
Q. I've had a crush on this guy since my freshman year in High school, i'm 20 now. I recently got a Facebook account and added him as a friend. He e-mailed me so we've been talking. He asked me to hang out and gave me his cellphone number. I text him ...
A. 16 February 2009: good your being mature about this, go with your gut instinct, if you want to hang out and be friends and get to know eachother better go for it, but if you go any further your going to be back here asking if he's taking advantage of you, if you guys ... (read in full...)
Dating cousins.
Q. My sister confided in me last night that her and our cousin have been dating. His great, great, grandfather married my great, great, grandmother and they had kids and those kids had his mom. Therefore, he is blood. As my sister told me about them ...
A. 16 February 2009: well im trying to work this out great great granparents would make them 3rd cousins? well that is very distand i barly know my second cousins so i dnt know how it could be that big a deal unless theres a huge age gap, you said he's in his 40s i ... (read in full...)
My crush didn't wish me happy birthday or come to my party. Any ideas why not?
Q. Hay.. I have a crush on my school mate. We're both 18 and I have always suspected that he likes me too even before this crush started. But now I'm confused because he didn't even say me happy birthday or come to the party, even when he saw everyone...
A. 16 February 2009: It does sound like you are just friends from what you have just said, if you only talk to each other somtimes, how can you suspect he has a crush? if he does like you then your going to have to do a better job comunicating with each other, if he ... (read in full...)
The clubbing scene.
Q. Soooo, I'm 16 and I would like to try clubbing. There is a 16 year old club close to where I live, and I'm thinking about trying it. See the thing is, I'm kinda afraid. I WANT to live life though. I want to experience. I'm afraid that the persoon ...
A. 16 February 2009: well im not sure which 16year old clubs sell alcohol but back to the questian. the problem about drinking and driving is that your responsible enough to admit to the dangers right now but after you have had a few drinks you may not care who's ... (read in full...)
Did I take my jesting too far with her?
Q. My girlfriend and I went to this pool party (I live in Australia) with some our friends. My girlfriend never let me see her breasts (because of a scar on one) and she thinks it might turn me off. Anyway we were in the pool making out until my very ...
A. 16 February 2009: ouch dude, yes you took it to far when you didnt get her a towel! but laughing and mentioning breast implants, i bet she's realy realy hert, if she couldnt show herself to you before then this has probably realy set her self-esteem back, if she lets ... (read in full...)
I gave her a gift, she rejected it, now I don't know how to respond, what do I do?
Q. hey i gave the girl who is kind of really good mate a snow patrol ticket for her to go with me she rejected it and said it was too much n she was really sorry but i work with her weekly so i dont know how to react next time we speak.. should i bring ...
A. 15 February 2009: dude if you feel awkward i would make it clear that you only got the tickets because you thought shes the only friend who would go with you, you might have to cut the romace out for now and just ask her as a friend, if shes still not interested then ... (read in full...)
Having sex with another girl, don't want my parents to know, don't want to stop either, what do I do?
Q. I need you help. Im 13 and i am having sex with another girl (16). I dont know what i shall do. I cant tell my parents, but otherwise, I cant end it because im so horny and i like the sex with another girl. I am afraid my parents could find out....
A. 15 February 2009: well im guessing you have never had sex with a male, its possible you will forget all about this and move on when you find the right guy, thers nothing stopping you from looking while you think about how your going to handle this situation, gudluk.... (read in full...)
I have a desire to have sex with my sister, what do you think?
Q. i need help to sleep with my sister but she says that she is complely by say that that stuff is gross when ever its mentioned. i feel like she just say that to convince her self. when we were little we would alwaly show eachother our privite parts ...
A. 15 February 2009: i dont have any brothers or sisters so i cant approach this questian like others but i bet your fantasy is shared with alot of men and women, im sure its only because its very wrong that it becomes a temptation, i find that the only people who give ... (read in full...)
She acts different when her Ex's are around...
Q. I am young and confused but here goes, i need some help my girl friend and i are fighting all the time because every time one of the people she messed around with before me comes around she acts completley different. She doesn't show the same ...
A. 15 February 2009: one of my best friends was in this situation with his girlfriend recently, she would act like a total flirt to make him jelious in the end he made a stand and she didnt want to hear it so they spent long periods apart followed by very casual sex ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if she's really bi and if she likes me?
Q. Im 15, and I think I'm in love with one of my best friends. We havnt been friends for that long, but i cant stop thinking about her. Im openly bi around my friends (only my brother knows in my family) , and she says that she is bi too, but i dont ...
A. 15 February 2009: hey why dont you just ask her if she's ever experimented with a girl before, if not ask her has she ever wanted to, dont be tense about it just make it like a fun/natural questian etc. if she admits shes thought about it its down hill no? it wont be ... (read in full...)
Sex is painful for me, what can I do to enjoy it?
Q. Sex is more pain than pleasure for me.my bf says im extreamily tight and things will change but i feel they wont.iv started makin excuses evrytym he brings sex up.what should i do? ...
A. 15 February 2009: hey dont let him tell you whats best for you in that area, guys dont have..you know..woman parts. at best you could get on top an take it at your own pace. i heard that if women are too tight it puts guys at risk of tearing that part of skin at the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know that I love him
Q. I am a waitress at a high class restaurant... and I'm in love with one of our regular customers... The problem is, he doesn't know I'm in love with him.. The reason is because I always remain professional towards customers. He usually visits o...
A. 15 February 2009: hey i jus want you to know i go places where i like to eat too, and theres this one girl who realy likes me, so friendly and shes the most beautiful thing i ever seen, she always has a huge smile and never breaks eye contact and we just keeps waving ... (read in full...)
Why can't women just say no?
Q. im new and im pretty horrified at some of these stories, why is there never a lack of lerking guys waiting to take advantage of these younger and somtimes underage women, its like theres a perv lerking in every family, on every street waiting to ...
A. 13 February 2009: Thanks, good response, I remember when I was 11 and a family friend in her 30's tried to take advantage of me, I felt awkward but I still told my mum and that was the last time anything like that happened, thank god.... (read in full...)
Any advice for 1st kiss?
Q. hi everyone, ive been going out with a guy for about a month and hes soo sweet hes taking me out for valentines day and then we're going to the cinema and i know he wants to get off (make out) with me but its my first kiss and i dont know how to any ...
A. 13 February 2009: you just said that you know he wants to "make out", only do it if you feel comfortable and if its what you want, dont be pressured, if your to nervous you dont have to kiss on the first date, dont be in a mad rush if it doesnt feel right, well ... (read in full...)
First date! Any tips?
Q. Hi Ive asked a girl out and she said yes. We are going to the cinema i think (lol). I just donno what do do on the first date. I get nervous around girls and this is gonna be really hard :P any tips?...
A. 13 February 2009: whatever happens dont just take her home after the cinema, dont make the mistake of not useing this time to get to know her, even if your just sitting on a bench somwhere chatting, idealy over dinner though or a bite to eat, women love drama lol so ... (read in full...)
Back to the ex? Or stay with the b/f?
Q. ok i started having sex at age 14 with the love of my life =] ... but we broke up last year and the second boy i fell in love with .. I started having sex wit him ... but then i started talking to my ex again and i still love him cause he was my ...
A. 13 February 2009: well just talk to him then (the ex), if he tries getting intimate, taking you out, buying you gifts, saying sweet things, you either go and be with your ex and break it off with the new kid or you stop talking to the ex, and make it clear! if you ... (read in full...)
How can I get pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriends have had sex three times. Those three times hes cummed in me, but nothing had happened. Wat should we do, i mean my girls tell me maybe is when i get up the sperm goes down. I just need advice am i ready to have a child ?...
A. 13 February 2009: you realy are going to wander what happened to your childhood if you go down this route, thers a good reason people wait till later in life, its because the need partners they can rely on to support them emotionally and finantially, there is no ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to love someone 10 years older than me?
Q. I am deeply in love with someone, He buys me drinks all the time, drives me home when I don't have a car, talks to me when I'm down, looks at me from afar and when we see eye to eye he smiles, we're both in the same college. he's every girls dream ...
A. 13 February 2009: ok stop right there im putting myself in this guys shoes, i guarantee this guy is interested but because of your age difference he is to scared to make the first move, i know i would be. If he made a move and you turned him down he must feel like it ... (read in full...)
What does a girl say when she likes a guy?
Q. How do you know the diffence between win a girl likes you or is just being friendly. Like sometimes girls will ask me what my name is. Or tell me there's. But this could just be them being friendly. How do I know the difference....
A. 13 February 2009: funny thing is you never realy can be sure, you just gotta try read the eye signals, women usually get very quiet and shy around me, and when i make eye contact and they awkwardly shy away with a subtle grin, then i know for sure, well goodluck.... (read in full...)
How do I go about telling my mother of the age gap in my relationship?
Q. Okay, i need some advice. I have been with my Fiance for over 3 years now, and we plan to get married next year and hopefully move country to live together. We both still live at home and however, to cut a long story short, he is 8 years older th...
A. 13 February 2009: at your age 8years is no big deal atall, why dont you start off by telling her you have found somone that is mature and reliable etc and your very happy with him because of this, some women refuse to date younger guys in ther teens and early ... (read in full...)
Plenty of eye contact but no action! Interested? Or not?
Q. I am 21 and I go to college. There's this guy in one of my classes. Its been about 3 weeks. We've maintained plenty of eye contact and all. We haven't actually spoken to each other. He definitely notices that I have been looking at him. He's been ...
A. 13 February 2009: i had alot of this going on in college it was very fun, im sure he does like you but he's probably shy also, why dont you just ask him if he wants to come to the canteen at lunch time, i used to always get to know people over lunch when i was ... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 13 February 2009: i feel that young men and women are getting more and more short sighted, putting there own needs before anyone elses, it must be the media, somthing is mentaly changing people and i feel like im the only guy taking a step back and asking what the ... (read in full...)
First time with a prostitute...
Q. Is it better to lose your virginity to a prostitute if your past your teens than waiting for sumthing long term, which could take forever?...
A. 13 February 2009: i dont think to many people hear remember ther first time well enough, when you dont know how your going to be able to perform its nerve racking, girls take one look at me and asume im a player, i have turned down many offers beacuse i played the ... (read in full...)
Is he protecting me from him? Or is he playing me?
Q. I am an 18 year old collage student. My friends consider me good looking and even knowing me do not believe that I am a virgin at times. I have everything, and everything that a teenage girl could want...except a serious relationship, I fear ...
A. 13 February 2009: no i wouldnt say he's playing you, when a guy wants somthing like that they make it pretty clear and rarely play around with it, if he says he just wants to be friends then thats perfectly feasible. as im also a virgin i find i probably overeact and ... (read in full...)
Is she just saying that because she doesn't like me?
Q. Okay so i've been talking to this girl for like three weeks and then at a party she asked me to go up to her room because she didn't feel good and we ended up cuddling and making out and it was great ... we did this for like 3 days straight, she ...
A. 13 February 2009: no dude, let her have her space, if shes feeling like its moving to quick then just hang out as much as possible, stay friends and keep the interest going, if she doesnt like you you'l be the first to know that way, gudluk.... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 13 February 2009: heres a quick example, im mad about this girl, she has an open relashionship with her bf who lives in a seperate county for the moment cause he's married to his job, they call themselves swingers at 20 years old lol, so anyway she's crazy about me, ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know that I love him
Q. I am a waitress at a high class restaurant... and I'm in love with one of our regular customers... The problem is, he doesn't know I'm in love with him.. The reason is because I always remain professional towards customers. He usually visits o...
A. 13 February 2009: i am totally totaly lost..let me summarise- your a professional and he's a customer, he asked you your name, he has cute eyes...voila...your in love with him, if thats the case what the hell am i doing wrong. ok back to your situation, im sure he'... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 13 February 2009: dude girls can deny this all they want but its as true as the sky is blue lol, im hear to express myself, and get my negative opinions out. but in the real world im nothing short of a gentlemen, im better then average looking and im a 17st ... (read in full...)
Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 12 February 2009: dude im with you, i thought i was realy getting somwhere with a girl i realy liked recently but when they found out how down to earth i am i dont think they were interested, somthing to do with suspense i think mate, im not a badboy anymore lol.... (read in full...)
First time with a prostitute...
Q. Is it better to lose your virginity to a prostitute if your past your teens than waiting for sumthing long term, which could take forever?...
A. 12 February 2009: im not sure you guys get it, im not confident enough to engage somone im not paying at this stage in the game, when the dirty deed is done (the first time) i can go have sex with anyone and il feel like thers nothing to it, im a 23yo bodybuilder and ... (read in full...)
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