I said I didn't want kids; she said no problem; now she says she's pregnant
Q. i'm a 52 y/o and i met this young lady who is 31. we hit it off from the start. i told her that i've been married for quite some time and divorced ten yrs, have three grown childrens and whatnot and that i'm not interested in having anymore. she ...
A. 16 July 2009: Here is the first problem, you dated someone knowing that you did not share the same goals for the future. This a factor that contributed to you ending up in this situation. Had you been with someone who had the same goals that you do (not to have ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with a man who is always trying to catch another womans eye!
Q. I would like to knoow what to do about my husband flirting with other women. Getting upset and arguing doesn't help. Trying to tell him that it hurts me doesn't help. I am about to give up on the marriage. I don't want to be with a man who is ...
A. 16 July 2009: Tell your husband it has come to this point. If he isn't willing to work with you on this issue, then how can you expect him to work anything else out in the marriage. If he is willing to work with you, then you two need to make agreements about ... (read in full...)
We have differing timelines for marriage
Q. Hello. I'm twenty-five years of age, turning twenty-six in exactly two weeks and I'm still a virgin. In junior high and high school, I never wanted a boyfriend because I was focusing on my studies, but I did have a lot of guy friends. Plus, I grew ...
A. 16 July 2009: If you have been with this man a long time and he isn't ready to commit or set a date to do so, then as hard as it is for you to hear and accept, he just isn't as interested as you are. You have to make decisions that are best for you and that... (read in full...)
He cheating on his pregnant girlfriend with me, I want to continue this, but want people's opinion anyway
Q. ok guys your all going to prob hate me for this but, m sleeping with my ex boy friend and he has a new girl who is 13 weeks pregnent, the thing is when we have done things i dont even have the ounce of guilt over doing it and to be honest i dont ...
A. 16 July 2009: You may not feel guilty for what you are doing, but you do know it's morally wrong. That is a start. For most people having a relationship, sexual or otherwise has some point or fulfills something in their life that they need. What does this ... (read in full...)
I have jealousy issues, insecurity, paranoia and need a robot lover
Q. Dear Cupid, I seriously need some help, before I go completely insane. I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months and to start with, everything was fantastic. However, I have started to become severely jealous. If he befriends a girl, I have to ...
A. 16 July 2009: I would say the thing to do is discuss it openly with your boyfriend (which it sounds like you have done to some extent) and make some relationship agreements.
You cannot ask him not to talk with or befriend other women, but the two of you coul... (read in full...)
I should just go clear this up with him, but continue to live in limbo anyway
Q. I am really confused. I split up with my boyfriend at the weekend by text (I am appalled that I did it in that way, and instantly regretted doing it but I was rarely able to get hold of him on the phone which I found deeply frustrating. We were in ...
A. 16 July 2009: You are absolutely right about the biggest problem here being communication, but it's up to both of you to communicate.
Throwing in the towel on a relationship and not communicating why isn't going to lead to long-term happiness for you in any r... (read in full...)
Can a guy tell if a girl is a virgin during sex?
Q. Dear cupid, Okay i was just wondering when having sex can guys tell if the girl is a virgin? Would they feel any different? Thanks :)...
A. 2 July 2009: Since everyone else covered your question... Hopefully I'm not out of line mentioning this...
If you are considering having sex for the first time and the guy doesn't know you are a virgin, you should definitely tell him. And you should totally ... (read in full...)
Don't have any luck with girls! Could my height be the reason behind this?
Q. this is embarrassing. i think i have a really good body..but i dnt hav a gf. obviously good girls aren't shallow jus to go for a bloke who takes care of himself.. so i think i hav an ugly face cuz i always hear how girls ask a guy out but i never ...
A. 2 July 2009: The best place for you to find someone is probably in a place where looks are not focused upon. If you have any hobbies or interests, try to find a place you can go where people who have the same interests and hobbies get together.
This ... (read in full...)
How can someone be incapable of loving?
Q. My boyfriend told me that he doesn't want to be with me because he isn't capable of truely loving anyone and doesn't want to hurt me. He also doesn't want to have sex with me because he knows I will end up getting hurt. I think that my boyfriend ...
A. 2 July 2009: What you are doing right now is punishing yourself. You are with someone who just can't give you all of themselves (heart, mind, body) and on top of that he has problems with addiction. This is not a healthy relationship and he trying to do the ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I want something serious or is he just using me?
Q. There is a guy who I've known for a while and he has a girlfriend that he's been dating for six months but he flirts with me all the time and talks about wanting to have sex with me. Should I tell him I want something serious or is he just using me?...
A. 2 July 2009: If you are looking for something serious, you have to act more like you are looking for that. By flirting with someone who is taken, your actions are not matching up with what you want and any guy who sees that won't get serious with you.
This ... (read in full...)
Advice needed? Is he using me for sex?
Q. hiya :) I'm 15. There's this boy I've liked for a while. we'll call him connor. I've been on a date with him but that was months ago. He knows i still like him and he says he likes me too. we're quite close friends and have been for about a ...
A. 2 July 2009: When you have sex the first time it should be more so with someone who really loves you and who doesn't take such a special thing so casually. Seriously, if you can create life with sex, it should be respected!
Just tell him that you like him... (read in full...)
It's too soon for us to be exclusive, so how can I turn him down gently?
Q. I am meeting a guy for coffee today and I've got a strong feeling he's going to ask me to be his exclusive girlfriend. We've been seeing each other for a month or so and I like him, but I guess I'd like to get to know him some more before rushing ...
A. 2 July 2009: If a man is driven away by honesty, then that isn't the kind of man you want in your life. Just be honest with him. Tell him you like him and that you are very interested in getting to know more about him.
Then, tell him that you like for rela... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but I don't know because he cheated on his girlfriend with me...
Q. Okay so I don't know what to do, this guy I'm in love with(lets call him ed) is always texting me and he says he loves me too but I don't know because he had a girlfriend and cheated on her with me. and they broke up and he promised we would be ...
A. 2 July 2009: Men will tell you they love you just because they want sex or to hook up. If you setting for a man who is not faithful to his girlfriend, he definitely won't be for you.
You could easily find someone who would want to be with just you. I know ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart and try to rescue what me and this woman had or try to work it out with my wife?
Q. hello all, need ur help. About 3 months ago I left my wife cause of infedality issues with her (not me). I work at a hospital and there was this one woman who i had taken a liking to. We started seeing eachother and it turned into more than I had ...
A. 2 July 2009: It's probably not the best thing that you dated someone else so soon after leaving your wife. The best thing would have been not to date so soon after a breakup and not to date at all until you are divorced. YOu seem like a pretty honorable person ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait until first sex in my LDR?
Q. Hi all, I'm 23, and i've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now, only that it's been mostly a long distance relationship. but we've been pretty good in communicating with each other about our feelings and usually we get to spend a weeke...
A. 2 July 2009: I'm sure your girlfriend wants to have sex too (eventually), just not right now, but when she does, if you are not with her, it will be someone else.
Never pressure a woman for sex. If you love her, wait until she is ready. Find ways to ... (read in full...)
Can laxatives help me lose weight quickly?
Q. Can laxatives help me lose weight quickly? All my friends are so skinny and size 6 and 8... I dont want to lose a great amount of weight, just enough to look like them and one of them said laxatives helped them. thanks...
A. 2 July 2009: Dancing is a great way to lose weight and/or stay in shape! I love to turn my radio to the dance station and dance for 15-30 minutes. If that is difficult right now, just work up to it. :-)... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my anger may take a toll on the marriage. Can I change this?
Q. I have a huge problem, I'm 21 years old and have been married to my husband for almost 4 years but it seems like all we do is argue. I will get mad at the smallest things and it'll cause a huge fight and we say hurtful things. I don't know what to ...
A. 2 July 2009: Sheila I really hope it does help! I wish you lots of happiness and totally manageable anger. :-)... (read in full...)
Why didn't the guys I kissed ever get back to me?
Q. hey guys wanting your advice!!! Basically...I want to know what you guys think of this situation ( and me..) i have only ever kissed two people before, the first guy was at this party i went to (it was only a few months ago) the guy took my num...
A. 25 June 2009: It seems like you are looking for a relationship like your friends have. If this is what you are looking for, you will need to go about things a bit differently. Try thinking of it this way... if you were interviewing for a job as a waitress ... (read in full...)
I asked my girlfriend not to talk to someone I disliked. She did anyway, is she in the wrong?
Q. I asked my girlfriend not to talk to someone i dislike. she told me she wasnt talking to him, and never would. I believed her. However i found out that she had actually spoken to him, i feel betrayed and upset. I really love her, but am i in the ...
A. 25 June 2009: It's a very controlling thing to tell someone else who they can or can not talk to. If the only reason you asked her not to talk to this person is that you feel jealous, then that isn't a good enough reason. You need to find a way to feel secure ... (read in full...)
Can laxatives help me lose weight quickly?
Q. Can laxatives help me lose weight quickly? All my friends are so skinny and size 6 and 8... I dont want to lose a great amount of weight, just enough to look like them and one of them said laxatives helped them. thanks...
A. 25 June 2009: Laxatives would not be a good or permanent way to lose weight. Sign up for sparkpeople.com or fitday.com and focus on eating fruits and vegetables primarily. Track your calories and eat 1300 to 1500 calories daily. Get exercise too! You will ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my anger may take a toll on the marriage. Can I change this?
Q. I have a huge problem, I'm 21 years old and have been married to my husband for almost 4 years but it seems like all we do is argue. I will get mad at the smallest things and it'll cause a huge fight and we say hurtful things. I don't know what to ...
A. 25 June 2009: Living in a constant state of conflict is not good for anyone, let alone for a relationship. Eventually your arguments will cause marriage problems if they have not already. Try thinking of it from your husband's perspective. Would you want for ... (read in full...)
He proposed to me but every time we break up he has sex with his ex! Is marriage a good idea?
Q. I would like and advice. I have been dating the father of my child since 06, we have brocken up couple of time, and everytime we have brocken up he ends up hooking up (having sex/having sexual activities) with one of his ex from high school. ...
A. 25 June 2009: If the breakups you experienced with him were in the beginning of your relationship and you have been able to make it work successfully for last couple of years without a lot of conflict or breakups, marriage might not be a bad idea.
But i... (read in full...)
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