Hypocrites who justify cheating.....what's going through their minds?
Q. Help me out here. How can a woman accuse her husband of cheating and then justify her own affair as a form of retaliation, or as a means to quench her insatiable thirst for attention? She gets all bent out of shape when she suspects that her husband ...
A. 12 November 2013: It's a toxic relationship that should be left. "...procedes to sleep around more than her husband". They're both as bad as each other. You say that she won't move on, but why doesn't he either? If he's sleeping around then he obviously doesn't... (read in full...)
Is this classed as cheating..has he learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I need some peoples advice on a situation because I feel myself going crazy! I've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years, all was going great up until summer of last year... I noticed he started acting really strange at the end of s...
A. 18 October 2013: Personally, I would say yes - it was cheating. It was something that should only be shared between the two of you, but he did it with someone else. He knew it was wrong, otherwise he wouldn't have pulled away, nor would he have felt so uneasy about ... (read in full...)
Older guy for younger women?!?!
Q. Hi I'm a 41 year old, good looking single guy who only really gets on with girls aged between 18 - mid 20's. I just find them more fun and I seem to have so much more in common with them than women my own age. Do you think this is normal??...
A. 6 October 2013: Do you get on with them because you find younger women more attractive? I don't see anything wrong with being friends, however the parents of an 18 year old girl might find her friendhsip with a 41 year old man offputting.
In terms of a relation... (read in full...)
Tiny boobs and a wierd vagina
Q. Hi please help! One of my labia minora is stretched, saggy and gross! Is there anything I can do and if not is it weird Also my breasts have been stuck at a 32a for a year now what does this mean? (My mother is a c aunty is a d as is cousin does t...
A. 5 October 2013: You're still young and still developing. In my case, I didn't even start to wear a bra until I was 16, and was in an A cup until I was almost 19. They stopped growing at 21, and by that stage I was a C cup. Everyone is different in how and when they ... (read in full...)
What physical act counts as cheating in a relationship?
Q. Hey Just wondering what you guys would consider cheating in a relationship? E.g. A kiss? Oral? ...
A. 27 August 2013: Personally, anything that you would do with your other half but not your best friend would be cheating. A kiss, oral, sex. I feel it's all cheating. But everyone's opinion is different on the matter, and all that matters to your relationship is the ... (read in full...)
Is being tan really considered to be more beautiful?
Q. So lately, everyone has been commenting on how pale I am. I mean its the summer time and I work as a lifeguard so you'd think I'd be super tan but nope, I have to wear a lot of sunscreen and when I don't, I get badly burned very easily and the burn ...
A. 20 August 2013: Everyone is different, and everyone sees 'beauty' differently too. I have swarthy friends, and I have pale friends, and they're equally as beautiful.
I'm like you - pale and burns easily. For me, I'd rather be pale and natural than faketann... (read in full...)
How can I believe that he isn't cheating when he's using porn and having phone sex?
Q. Me and my fiance are together now for almost 8 years we have 2 boys together as far as I know him he is watching porn and keep on denying it, I cought him 4 times already having phonesex with other woman, he keeps on saying he will never cheat on me ...
A. 1 August 2013: What is your definition of cheating?
In my eyes, phone sex itself is cheating...
If you keep catching him out, it means he's not learning his lesson, and isn't worth your time... (read in full...)
Any and all advice on different things that would work for lovers with a height difference would be greatly appreciated.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, My boyfriend and I are high school sweethearts, we've been dating for over two years now and while we've gotten really physical, we haven't had sex yet, although we are ready to. We intend to soon - with protection, we are p...
A. 31 July 2013: Me and my fiance are the same - I'm 5'5" and slim, and he's 6'4" rugby player. We've never had a problem with height/body differences.
For our first time, I was on top. It wasn't premeditated, it just happened that way. There's no problem with him... (read in full...)
"Girlfriends before friends" -- why?
Q. Hi I want honest opinons in this. I;ve read so many questions about female friends being ditched their male friend gets a gf and I notice in every single one people say, "so they should" "girlfriends come first" etc. I have been on the receiving...
A. 22 July 2013: I was always of the same opinion as you - my friends came first. That was until I met my now-fiance, and things felt a whole lot different. Friendships and relationships involve different feelings. Yes, friends love each other, but it's a compl... (read in full...)
How do I define the relationship I now have with my ex?
Q. I really need advice. I broke up with my lesbian partner of 3yrs in February. We were having issues and she couldn't forgive me n move past it so we broke up. A couple weeks later I'm in another relationship with a woman I met online. I didn't fall ...
A. 19 July 2013: If you were having sex the entire time you had broken up, and she was on dating websites looking elsewhere, you were being FWB.
She wants to continue on what you had with no strings. If you can't handle this, tell her where you stand and that if ... (read in full...)
I am new to having sex but am worried something is wrong. I feel like I could pass out!
Q. i need some help. i had sex for the first time about two days ago. yeah i was nervous but also very comfortable since it was with my boyfriend who i love very much, and he also helped me feel comfortable. what i dont understand it right when i ...
A. 19 July 2013: Does the sex feel good for you, or is it painful?
Some people feel like they're going to pass out when they orgasm, which is normal for them. Perhaps this could be the case for you?
If you're worried, speak to your doctor about it, and they can... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if girlfriend was a virgin?
Q. hello dear aunts, I have recently start dating this girl, she has just turned 21. she recently confessed she was a virgin when we did it for the first time, however I've been skeptical. (sorry for being graphic) I gave her oral a few times, only ...
A. 19 July 2013: If she says she is, you should trust her - without trust you two will go nowhere. You say you gave her oral a few times and it went no further. Then she had trimmed... Rather than this being a sign that she wasn't a virgin, it might be that sh... (read in full...)
I want to give my boyfriend the best blow job in the morning, any tips how can I start?
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend always tell me that It would be great if I give him a bj in the morning. But can anyone tell me how will I start? I'm afraid that when I start it in the morning he will stop me because he is still sleepy or not in the mood, you ...
A. 18 July 2013: Take him by surprise. Wake him up that way. When he realises what's happening he will be in the mood, and won't be too sleepy at all. But don't get yourself worked up about it, or you won't sleep well. If he's awake before you, who cares. Just go ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong because I asked my g/f to let me know what's going on rather than making me wait for hours to find out?
Q. I had plans with my gf last night, that we had made weeks in advance, to meet up at ten pm as i was winding down from work. I'm a bartender and Thursday nights are crazy. And she was going to come when she knew we were going to exchange shifts and I ...
A. 31 May 2013: No, you're not selfish. While she's going through tough times with her brother, she does need to understand that the rest of the world doesn't stop, and needs to be considerate of the other things going on.... (read in full...)
He wants to do sexual things and I do to but am unsure of how and what to do
Q. I've liked a guy for about 5-6 months and we've recently told each other that we liked each other. He said he likes me and wants to do things and become more than friends and i agreed. However, i have never done anything sexual with a guy before, ...
A. 31 May 2013: you say you've liked this guy for 5-6 months...
how about getting into a relationship with him for 5-6 months first, then consider doing sexual things with him. Then you won't need to ask this question.
If you don't want to/can't wait, s... (read in full...)
The relationship is amazing, but I'm worried he's not really over his ex
Q. I'm confused. My boyfriend of 8 months and I get along really well. I'm really attracted to him but I'm a little insecure! We talk about future holidays and even what our wedding will be like. He's told me (after a few drinks) how he really really ...
A. 31 May 2013: The only person who can tell you whether he is over her or not is your boyfriend himself - we can't answer that for you.
In regards to using the old picture - maybe she just likes that one of herself? You know what its like, you'll favour some pic... (read in full...)
I wasn't sure if he only wanted me for sex. Was I right to reject him?
Q. My friend at college had a huge dorm party last week and there was a lot of alcohol involved. Long story short, I had drunk quite a bit when one of her friends whom I didn't know hit on me. We ended up making out and kissing, but he was really ...
A. 14 May 2013: you're right to act on your feelings. If he's pushy and you're not all that into him you're right to stand back and let him pass.
His pushiness when you were drunk suggests to me that he was trying his luck, and his behaviour now, ignoring... (read in full...)
My FWB is sick of me and called me a whore! Did I do anything wrong to deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Dear Cupid I am in on and off FWB with my best friend. I fell in love with him but he says he likes me but no love word. Long story short, he bacame very abusive (physically and emotionally) lately. I couldnt even hold a decent conversation ...
A. 14 May 2013: isn't that the point of a FWB? no strings sex? He doesn't seem to grasp that concept. However, I'm afraid it's much the same for you. As a FWB situation is about having the fun without the commitment of a relationship, feelings don't come in to it. ... (read in full...)
What are your views on no sex before marriage?
Q. I am Christian but nondenominational and I honestly can't decide whether I should wait till marriage and the most committed relationship possible to have sex or have fun, play the field and get experienced with boyfriends at college. I would love to ...
A. 14 May 2013: Nondenominational doesn't really have an affect here. Christian churches teach that you sex is for marriage. It all comes down to your own personal faith, and your relationship with God.
My husband and I both waited until we got married, and neit... (read in full...)
She had sex with the boy I like. How do I act around her now?
Q. i like this boy but he had sex with a girl i know she talks to me but she knew i liked him when she had sex with him they arent together but me and him talk secretly and he asked me to prom and also we are going to revise for exams together what...
A. 12 May 2013: if he liked you as much as you like him, he:
1. wouldn't keep you a secret.
2. wouldn't sleep around.
I'd leave him well alone - he seems to enjoy casual sex, and that's not what you want in a potential boyfriend. Especially not if he feels he n... (read in full...)
I feel guilty because I feel needy and unwanted.
Q. A few weeks a go my boyfriend told me I was being too clingy, and he said more recently that I was holding him back and not letting him be himself...(he was saying that I wouldn't let him do things that he would normally do that would get him in ...
A. 12 May 2013: at 13-15 years old, boys tend to just want to have fun and enjoy themselves. Even at 20 they'd still prefer to play football than have a romantic night in with their girlfriend. He isn't holding your hand/kissing like you used to probably because... (read in full...)
Is it right for an ex to buy you jewelry?
Q. Back once again about the obsessive ex. He texted me and said he has to see me tomorrow night (mothers day) because its important but says he won't be up until 9 at night my son is in bed by then. So I asked him why and he said he had to drop ...
A. 12 May 2013: in regards to a mothers day gift, I don't see why not. However, if it's meant to be from your son why would he want to come so late? Wouldn't he want your son to give it to you?
Is he wanting to get back with you? To me it seems that he perhaps ... (read in full...)
Jealousy is eating away at me about my boyfriend's ex
Q. My boyfriend and I are great together, he loves and appreciates me and vice versa and the sex is great. The only problem in our relationship is my jealousy! I often ask questions about one of exes of two and a half years ago. He is very honest about ...
A. 12 May 2013: You shouldn't ask questions you know you don't like the answers to. If you know you get jealous over it, why do you insist on bringing it up? Jealousy is, unfortunately, a natural thing. Nobody likes to think of their significant other with anoth... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but he has quite a past, should I get out before getting too attached?
Q. hey everyone, I'm a 24 year old virgin and the guy I'm dating has a pretty 'shady past' he has dated a lot of women probably slept with some of them!he has never been in love..we have not hd sex and he is ok with that,he said he will not force me...
A. 12 May 2013: talk to your boyfriend about all of this, and lay your cards on the table. Does he know you're a virgin? Just be honest and open, tell him you expect the same from him.
He obviously respects you enough to not push you into anything, so I think it... (read in full...)
No contact with ex since he broke things off. What do I do?
Q. Hi really hope you can help i was with a man for 4 months who i really loved i met his family who i got on well with me and my ex were so in sync with each other we would say the same things at the same time we had known each other for 5 years ...
A. 10 May 2013: Personally, I feel that no contact is best when it comes to breakups.
Breakups are hard to deal with at the best of times, never mind after a pregnancy and with no explanation. I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. It will take time for you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going to spend Mother's Day with his ex and his daughter
Q. My boyfriend has a daughter with his ex, and usually he got to see his daughter after he finished class like around 9pm. Recently his ex decided that 9pm is too late to come see her (even though on the days she works, she's ok with him watching her ...
A. 10 May 2013: I can see why you're annoyed - it does seem like a date as opposed to him getting to spend time with his daughter, in an appropriate setting. However, he is also the child's father, and so has that responsibility to do the whole mothersday thing for ... (read in full...)
I am wondering if my crush could be gay or bi. How could I find out?
Q. So I think that I might like this girl that I work with. The only problem is that I don't even know she's bi or even gay. She is always touching me when we're working together, like touching my back when she walks by or hugging me. She laughs a...
A. 10 May 2013: I don't think you can make judgement on someone's orientation based on whether they touch you or not, or if they laugh at your jokes. Sometimes I laugh at my friends jokes purely because they are THAT bad. How is she around other girls?
ask h... (read in full...)
My husband is using money he used to give to me for strip clubs
Q. I have been married for 2 years I have two kids now one 20 months and another one 6 months when my husband turned 21 last year he started drinking a lot now he drinks once in a while. But now he's starting to go to strip clubs more and more he use ...
A. 10 May 2013: sit him down and tell him that his behaviour isn't acceptable. he's acting like a child, a single one at that, but reality is quite different - he's a husband, a dad and is meant to be a provider. Tell him he needs to get his act together and take ... (read in full...)
We've been together for 8 months and already the sex has stopped, is it worth trying to continue this relationship?
Q. In a relationship with a female for my first time. I have been having issues with coming out and I have kept her as a secret. We have been going back and forth about this issue. I am willing to work about my issues too however there is another ...
A. 10 May 2013: what you do depends on how important sex in a relationship is to you. She obviously has a much lower sex drive than you do, so sexually you two may be incompatible. You say you need sex. it's not a great feeling when your needs are not being met. It ... (read in full...)
My friends are open about going on internet dating sites despite being married, yet I don't feel comfortable with this. Opinions please?
Q. What do you think about this please. I have some friends they are a married Indian Hindu couple with a year old child. I have learnt from her that her husband goes onto Internet dating sites for fun. He was contacted by an escort who said she ...
A. 10 May 2013: No, you're not being insecure or unconfident. Personally, i don't agree with that set-up...marriage should be between two people.
In essence, it's their choice how they want to live their lives. Maybe you could sit down with her and express ... (read in full...)
Ladies, do you prefer pubic hair on your guys or not?
Q. hey, I've been seeing a girl for about a month now, we've decided to move things on a bit and starting to do sexual stuff. Do girls prefer a guy with a bit of hair or not? I've not done anything before and do not want to be embarrised by my ...
A. 25 May 2009: my boyfriend has never trimmed or anything, and we wanted to try something new, so we both decided to trim right down, and shave a little off the top... not a good idea. the itchyness was too much hassle.
plus, i figured that i like hair better than... (read in full...)
Should I tell the new girl that I'm not quite over my ex?
Q. I'm in a new relationship with a female at college. not too long ago i broke up with someone. i'm not completely 100% over my ex however i havent said anything to this new girl. should i mention her? or is that a bad idea? or is the fact that im ...
A. 2 May 2009: you are not a slut for wanting sex. every1 has urges.
however, i think its a bad idea gettin into this relationship without being 100% over your ex. You'll compare the new relationship with the old one, and will not give the new girl all the atte... (read in full...)
How to stop being jealous of my ex best friend
Q. I'm really jealous of my ex best friend. She's prettier than me, more successful than me in all areas of life (eg: academically) she's popular and has more friends than me, has a really hot boyfriend in her life (the guy I had a secret crush on for ...
A. 2 May 2009: you are a beautiful individual woman. there is no1 else like you on this earth, because no two ppl are alike. Please don't put yourself down because of this girl. If she treats you like that, she's not worth your time.
Hang out with the ppl that... (read in full...)
Why would he act so differently from real life and on msn?
Q. I would like to ask about a guy's mind. Why would a guy behave so differently on msn from real life? For example, on msn, when you tell him that you are struggling on something or tell him you are sad..., he would somewhat comfort you. But...
A. 2 May 2009: he's different on msn because you're not face to face. When there's a screen between you, you tend to get more confidence, and would say things you wouldnt necessarily normally say. Have u tried talking to him about how you feel? like, explaining ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend too flirty?
Q. My boyfriend is a naturally flirtacious person who likes to make people laugh.he has quite a few friends as girls. Some r ex girlfriends! He isnt trying to hid anything and is always honest that when he goes out he does get girls come upto him ...
A. 2 May 2009: he loves you, and he's yours. I wouldn't worry about these other girls, because they broke up for a reason...
Also, be proud that he's yours :)
It might help to talk things over with him, to help him understand how you're feeling. Maybe he wil... (read in full...)
Tired of being sad, how can I move on?
Q. Hi,my problem is I'm heartbroken,and I want to get on with my life.I'm 15,female and I have feelings for my best friend who is also female.She is bi-sexual and only recently got a girl friend, they've broken up now because the girl was cheating.I ...
A. 1 May 2009: thats really tough. I suppose you could see where she's coming from when she said it may ruin your friendship if you got together. But, isn't it better to be with her as a friend, than not be with her at all? I think you should have a chat abou... (read in full...)
Should I Break Up With Her Before Or After The Holidays??
Q. Sadly, I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. We have been dating over a year and have been close friends for three years prior to that. I love her to death, and she thinks I am the one. Even though I still love her, I feel a break up is ...
A. 24 October 2008: I personally think you should do it as soon as possible. one, its not fair on you to be in a relationship where you possibly feel stuck. Noone deserves to feel like that.
and two, its not fair on her. this girl thinks your happy with her, and its ... (read in full...)
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