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Same day my boyfriend broke up with me another sent me a lovely gift
Q. right my boyfriend fraser broke up with me today and i`m really upset but i still have feelings for him but 10 mins after he broke up with me a parcel came through the door from a boy called Sean who still loves me and it was a sphere of life which ...
A. 2 March 2010: Don't decide on something like this because of a gift that made your day. Maybe...Don't go with either? It's not a good idea to have a boyfriend because you can...Wait for someone you actually can decide on and know you like. It's silly to have to ... (read in full...)
Wanting a relationship, not friends with benifits.
Q. So me and this boy have been messing around for almost a year...i havnt done anything with anybody else and he hasnt either and he lives at my house.wouldnt you call that a relationship? because to him we are still friends with benifits (i think ...
A. 2 March 2010: Really? He lives in your house? Odd situation...Have you actually asked him about a relationship yet? Or are you just assuming that's not what he wants? If you've already talked about it and he has already said no, chances are that he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
In love with someone who doesn't even know my name.
Q. Ladies, I am seriously in love with this one girl but she doesent even know my name I've tried talking to her but I don't know what to say how to impress her or what girls like. I'm not after sex I really love this girl but don't know how to talk to ...
A. 2 March 2010: Sounds to me like you are not in love but have a massive crush on her. How can you know you love someone if you've never even had a conversation with them, let alone not knowing their name? Just take it one step at a time. I understand this kind of ... (read in full...)
Is it the excitement of someone I cant have, or do I just not feel as much as I should do for my boyfriend?
Q. hey agony aunts and uncles.. im warning you this might be a little long, so i apologise in advance! basically, iv been with my boyfriend *ash* for just over a month now. hes my first serious boyfriend, my first everything, if you catch my meaning...
A. 1 March 2010: Well...First of all...I want to say whatever you do, don't go for "tony" while you're still with "ash". It's any easy mistake to make even if that was never your intention. That aside, I'm thinking that if you really loved "ash", you would not be ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirts and pretends to be single online. Should I dump him?
Q. I recently discovered my boyfriend has a networking account on which he behaves as if he were a single guy. He flirts, he apparently texts, and his status when I checked was "looking for random hookups". I called him somewhat hysterically and ...
A. 1 March 2010: It's hard to say if you should dump him or not. If I found something like this on my boyfriend's computer, you can bet I'd be in hysterics too. To me, this is pretty close to cheating if not the same thing. It's no different from him talking to a ... (read in full...)
I cheated. What can I do to try and fix things?
Q. Recently, i cheated on my boyfriend with his bestfriend, i feel really guilty about it and made up a different excuse to split up with him, his friend is acting like nothing has happened what can i do?...
A. 26 February 2010: Splitting with him was probably the best thing you could have done. We all make mistakes. But I can say (coming from someone who has been cheated on numerous times) that even if you try to forgive and take someone back after they have cheated, the ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I never got to tell my side of the story, what do I do for the best?
Q. I have this "ex" we ended on bad terms, not that I had anything to do with it, yes seriously. It happened 17 years ago in High School, I really liked her... a lot. Well I got into some trouble at school and got suspended. While I was susp...
A. 26 February 2010: It happened 17 years ago, so my advice is to let it go. However, if it means that much to you, start talking to her and bring it up. Chances are that she has matured quite a bit and will be willing to talk about it now. ... (read in full...)
Insentive girlfriend and I don't know what to do.
Q. For 18 months i have been in a relationship. I knew she had seen a married man long before we met. I never thought much as mistakes do happen. Yesterday we were talking in bed. Its now she tells me that i`m the only single guy she was interested in. ...
A. 25 February 2010: Wow...All I have to say is, what a bitch...And if she could possibly be so cruel and cold towards these families, who's to say she won't treat you the same way? Laugh in your face when you're upset, totally throw your feelings out the window, be ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher fancy me or am I just being silly ?
Q. Ok i am having this major love/hate realationship with this male english teacher in my school. Ive liked him for atleast 3 years now. But ive always felt a connection between him and me , his eyes are so hypnotic. Then i went to see a play with my ...
A. 25 February 2010: If you got warnings against you for following him around, you're obviously making him very worried and uncomfortable. He doesn't like you. If anything, he really would rather you left him alone. You could get him in big trouble. And he has a ... (read in full...)
Both my ex and my current boyfriend want me to have an abortion, but I want another child. What do I do?
Q. I am 8 weeks pregnant and I know it is my ex - boyfriend's kid. He and my boyfriend wants me to have a abortion. my friend wants me to keep the baby and she promised to be there for me. I dont know what to do. she had an abortion from when she was ...
A. 24 February 2010: Stop listening to what everyone else wants. This is your baby and your body. You decide what's best for you. You have support and if you really want this baby, then have it. Don't let other people decide for you on something as big as having an ... (read in full...)
I read my boyfriends texts and now my world has come crashing down
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend now for neally 6 months, and I've trusted him untill now. Yesterday I was bored and I know it was wrong of me but I had the urge to see his texts. In saved messages I saw a text saying 'well you can see...
A. 24 February 2010: So, maybe he's not cheating. He could have just been sending "sexy" texts to some other girl. But are you really ok with that? You could just let this go and drop it. But it's going to bother you. I know it would bug me. I say, the best way to solve ... (read in full...)
Would you consider what I did rape?
Q. The night began with a party and was all good fun , I ended up in bed with a girl that I know quite well and we were both naked and fooling around with fore play . Naturally I was extremely aroused and wanted sex ..she said NO , I stuck by that ...
A. 24 February 2010: So, you're saying it's her fault for being there in the first place? That he should hold no blame for what happened? No is no until you get a yes. I can't tell you how many times i've heard that stupid line "she's says no but she really means yes". ... (read in full...)
Should I stop loving her because she might be a slut?
Q. I was in a relationship for four years we have been broken up for ten months and i still dearly love her but we were talking and we came across the subject of sex and she told me that she have had sex with two guys and i really love her but idk if i ...
A. 18 February 2010: Hypocrite...You sound like a bit of a slut yourself if you want to put it in your terms. Seriously, you're going to "stop loving her"? If you can just turn your love off that easily then you aren't really in love with her...To answer your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a boyfriend of 5 years to refuse to go to my Aunts funeral?
Q. My aunt just died yesterday. I'm just wondering if it's wrong for my boyfriend of 5 years to not want to go to her funeral with me? This is pretty much all new to me. I have never been to a funeral or known someone close to me that has died. I am 27 ...
A. 18 February 2010: You're not asking too much at all! He should be there for you. During times like this, you need as much support as you can get. Explain to him that it would very important to you if he went. And if he still refuses, you might have some decisions to ... (read in full...)
Genuine reason or mental block?
Q. Hi I have a strange problem. I have been married for a year and I still cannot love my husband. To be honest, I was never in love with my husband...even before I decided to marry him. We didn't get a chance to date much but he seemed like a ni...
A. 18 February 2010: The first mistake was marrying him before you loved him. If he is really not the one you see yourself with for the rest of your life, you need to make yourself happy and move on. You should never marry because other people want you to. Don't live in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave her but to me it seems that if I do it wouldnt even matter to her
Q. ok me and my girlfriend just got back together after like 2 months of not being together and now shes tripping and pissing at me for things that i havent even done...i do evrything possible to be with her n i do anything for her and now all shes ...
A. 18 February 2010: If she's being a total bitch and treating you like crap, she doesn't even deserve you. Obviously you care for her very much and you don't deserve the "bullshit" she's dishing out. If you honestly feel that she doesn't care about you, find someone ... (read in full...)
I wondered if anyone has noticed anything like a type of stigma about single people?
Q. So I'm one of those people whoose always always single, I wondered if anyone has noticed anything like a type of stigma about single people? I've often wondered that it's because I'm a girl with short hair and a flat chest anyone think this ...
A. 18 February 2010: I'm not really sure what your question is here. Are you asking about the stigma or if your single because you have short hair and a flat chest? In both cases, I'd have to say no. I don't believe there is a stigma against single people. I'm not sure ... (read in full...)
His sexual past makes me feel used. What should I do?
Q. Ok I'm upset because my 18 year old boyfriend isn't a virgin and he was my first. Just 4 months ago was when I lost my virginity to him and well....... He was 10 years old when he lost his...... And I'm the 6th girl he had sex with that I know ...
A. 18 February 2010: If his contact with ex girlfriends is something that you really don't like, you need to talk to him about it more than you have. Stress the issue and make sure he knows it's not at all ok with you. Expect responses like "you're just being jealous" ... (read in full...)
Valentine's day plans gone wrong...
Q. hi, I've been planning valentines day for a little while now, but its falling to bits, i did have a restaurant booked for valentines day with a set menu for 48 pounds per person, in the last week the restaurant have asked for an extra 40 ontop t...
A. 17 February 2010: My entire answer was about him! I don't want to flood his question with an argument. But the mother is obviously bothering him. He feels that she is being invasive. Yes, he did promise her dinner, but he tried everything in his power to fix it. In ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my mom?
Q. this is a question on what to do about my relationship with my mom... i went through my first break up by myself locking myself in my room and crying even on the bus on i would just cry but always make sure she never saw me cry cause i didnt want ...
A. 17 February 2010: Does she know you feel this way about talking to her? The first step to talking to your mom about anything important is talking to her about the issues you have with your mother/daughter relationship. Maybe she has no idea that she's making you feel ... (read in full...)
Please help me, should I stay or should I go?
Q. So i am in a relationshio with this guy and i am unsure if i should stay... So here's the thing iwe have dated for two years now and have had a child who is only 6 months old. We have had many of fights and been through alot and i am unsure if i a...
A. 17 February 2010: It's a tough decision since you two have a child together. But if he's not being there for you anyway, what difference would it make? It might be better for you and your child to eliminate the stress he causes you. He's acting like a child and ... (read in full...)
She is a moody aquarius and doesn't seem to know what she wants!
Q. This girl and I were friends for 2 years and a half then suddenly i began to like her, but i was several month of me liking her sometimes but not feeling that i have feelings and i couldn't like understanding whats going on...then i began to like ...
A. 17 February 2010: You summed it up yourself:She likes drama! Don't let yourself be part of her game. You'll always be chasing her if you let this go on. Instead, just back off. See what happens. Most likely she'll come chasing back after you because she'll think you ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my muslim boyfriend and try to make it work?
Q. I just broke up with my muslim boyfriend we were together over 3 years... we were good for the first year but then I couldn't deal with me being a secret anymore all we would do is get into aruements about it but all he would do is ignore the ...
A. 17 February 2010: No. Don't try to make this work. He is controlling you with guilt and emotional manipulation. I understand how it feels to love someone, even when you don't want to. The thought of leaving them feels awful even when you can't stand them. It's scary! ... (read in full...)
Help!! I'm in love with someone I can't have...
Q. Hello I am 21 he is 34...In september of 2008 I started to think I liked my coworker we were both having issues with our partners, I was having serious problems with my husband abusing me and he was having problems with his GF. So that created a ...
A. 17 February 2010: If he really felt as strongly as you say he does he would have left his girlfriend to be with you. That's all there is to it. Not to mention, he cheated on his girlfriend. That doesn't say good things about his character either. Who says he wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Advice needed. 15, pregnant and don't know what to do... please help!
Q. Im 15 I Am pregnant and dont know what to do.. Please help me? If your gunna judge than dont say anything....
A. 17 February 2010: I understand what it is to be young and pregnant. I can't say I was brave enough to go through with it. I chose abortion. I can't say that I regret it, but I can't say I feel happy about it. It was a relief, but I find myself being ashamed and ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 17 February 2010: You're not training a dog...He's a human being and it's not fair for you to give him "penalties" whenever he does something wrong. In my opinion, it's sick. I think it's fine to not want to have sex with him because he's pissed you off...And it ... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good handjob?
Q. how do i give really good handjobs? ive given my boyfriend a few, but he doesnt seem to enjoy them, he says he does afterwards, but it doesnt show. he wants me to give him head but i dont want to, i just want him to really enjoy it and for me to see ...
A. 13 February 2010: I really hope you aren't 13...... (read in full...)
Valentine's day plans gone wrong...
Q. hi, I've been planning valentines day for a little while now, but its falling to bits, i did have a restaurant booked for valentines day with a set menu for 48 pounds per person, in the last week the restaurant have asked for an extra 40 ontop t...
A. 13 February 2010: And to soon103...Don't be so dramatic. It's a dinner. The girl will get over it. He didn't kill her cat or anything. And her mother shouldn't be involved in the first place. ... (read in full...)
Valentine's day plans gone wrong...
Q. hi, I've been planning valentines day for a little while now, but its falling to bits, i did have a restaurant booked for valentines day with a set menu for 48 pounds per person, in the last week the restaurant have asked for an extra 40 ontop t...
A. 13 February 2010: I'm from the U.S., so maybe this is why...But a trip to London sounds amazing! I'm guessing you live pretty close by, but she just doesn't go there often. Sounds similar to my boyfriend and I only London is Seattle. In any case, have you told her ... (read in full...)
We have been together for 9 years but he is taking another woman out for Valentines Day!
Q. Hi AUnts and Uncles. I'm really distraught because my boyfriend told me a few days ago, after an argument, that he is going out with another woman (from work) tomorrow for Valentine Night and that he is going to 'stay over' at her place. We ...
A. 13 February 2010: I just have to ask...What are you thinking? I don't want to be mean..But open your eyes! This should not be a question of "should you try to stop him or let him go". You should be figuring out how to dump this jerk in the cruelest most hurtful way ... (read in full...)
Our sex drives have gone down the drain!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8months now and we have a strong relationship. when we first met our sex relationship was great... but now it seems boring we have tried to spice it up a little by having sex in other places as well ...
A. 13 February 2010: I don't have much advice since I'm going through the exact same thing. It's not that it's boring exactly...You just don't want to as much. So just don't. Wait it out until you feel like it and don't force the situation...Otherwise it will just be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to me to date another man as well
Q. Hello, I've got questions for those who have lived this certain way. My boyfriend and I are very turned on by the idea of me dating another guy LTR - long term relationship. We have a second bedroom that we would decorate and setup, the ...
A. 12 February 2010: I'm sure we're two very different people. But from my point of view, I could never do this. And my boyfriend would NEVER allow it. Honestly, I would feel used and wonder why the hell my boyfriend would let someone else have sex with me. I'm sorry, ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself wanting to play with barbie dolls?
Q. hi. I need some help. I'm an 18 year old girl who stopped playing with barbie toys two days ago. I know it sounds a bit crazy. Anyways, sometimes I feel like I want to play with them again. I really miss playing with them but I know I have to grow ...
A. 12 February 2010: Have you thought about WHY you like playing with barbies so much? Were they special to you when you were little? Are they comforting? Also, think about the things that make you want to play with barbies. Is it triggered by anything? This sounds like ... (read in full...)
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