Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 24 May 2021: I'm pretty sure you left a post or two a while back along similar lines, accusing your parents of being too harsh. A quick search on your username also throws up similar posts from today and a couple of weeks ago about your parents being harsh on ... (read in full...)
I'm losing trust in my family. Everything is left up to me
Q. I am 55 and look after 2 disabled parents and sister. I always feel like i am not doing enough. Brothers do help but everything is organised and does not always work. Like Monday to Friday i do whatever i need too for my parents. Have no family of ...
A. 24 May 2021: Have you actually discussed this situation with your brothers, or do you just let it all fester and keep quiet? Sadly I have seen this similar situation in families before, where there is one person who does a lot more giving than the others. As ... (read in full...)
Is his behavior normal? Or suspicious?
Q. Pretty much looking for opinions please. Would you think someone would go to the pub (till 1am), go home on their own and stay awake for a further 4 hours? This is after consuming a lot of vodka and have work at 9am. For a bit of backgrou...
A. 24 May 2021: Whatever the explanation for his strange behaviour (and yes, I agree it IS odd), you obviously don't trust him so why are you still hanging onto this relationship, especially as he can't even decide if he wants to be with you or not? I suspect his ... (read in full...)
My sweet boyfriend has turned into a really unpleasant man
Q. Hello thanks for your comments and advice in advance! So me and my bf have been together 3 years. At the beginning he was so sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. This last year has been like a nightmare. Thankfully I didn't accept his propo...
A. 24 May 2021: You are finding it difficult to end the relationship because you are still under the illusion that, underneath that cheating, abusive and manipulative character is the old sweet, kind, caring boyfriend you fell for. You need to understand the ... (read in full...)
My son received inappropriate photos from a classmate. How to proceed?
Q. My son, John, who's 16, told me yesterday he received two inappropriate photos from a classmate. Here in Canada, schools in our area are doing remote learning. We don't know when in-person classes will resume. My son showed me a WhatsApp he...
A. 24 May 2021: In your shoes I would, first and foremost, make sure these photographs are actually coming from "Steve". This could be a "prank" from someone else. Don't go wading in without absolute proof. I would phone the number the photographs came from (off a ... (read in full...)
He's the one who has cheated yet he doesn't trust me
Q. Hello, dear cupid, I want to know something about my boyfriend's behaviour. I've been dating him since the past five years it's a long distance relationship,we met in a youth conference, he asked my number and after that we started chatting and ...
A. 24 May 2021: Sweetheart, if he is speaking to you in this abusive manner already, how do you think he will treat you if you are ever together for real? He is giving you a taste of what life will be like with him and you should be hearing loud sirens blaring and ... (read in full...)
Is the issue myself or does the world just think I'm not worth it?
Q. Hey, 23 soon to be 24 in about 3 weeks, lady wondering why on this moss and water covered rock why no males my age seem interested in me. From looking online, to putting myself on dating sites and just existing sometimes offline, no one seems to ...
A. 22 May 2021: Without knowing anything about you apart from what you have shared in your short post, there is no way any of us can realistically advise you on relationships, including finding one.
The only thing I would say is that you need to stop this ins... (read in full...)
Wife has a day planned with her friends that I want no part of
Q. My wife is planning a big family day out in the next few weeks with all of her friends and our/their kids but I really don’t want to go. I can tell she’ll give me grief if I tell her though because it’ll be our first proper day out since the end of ...
A. 20 May 2021: If it's the transport which she really wants, then why not offer to drop her off and pick her up afterwards so she can still have a drink and enjoy herself with her friends, but you won't have to endure the outing? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want me to get a dog. Is this petty? Or controlling?
Q. Hi guys and gals So for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship with a man who has massive anxiety issues, ocd , depression and has control issues to which be has admitted. Before I start I should mention, we are not engaged , we do ...
A. 20 May 2021: What sort of a relationship is this where, after 5 years "together", you only see each other once a week for 4 hours? Is it just to meet up for sex? (Sorry, I have to ask.) Why have you allowed this man to exercise control over your life for so ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 18 May 2021: Op, having just read through your numerous responses (because I've not had time to check this site for a couple of days), I am starting to get a better understanding of why people may not wish to get into correspondence with you. You seem to get off ... (read in full...)
Why Is This Couple Rude To Me Every Time I See Them?
Q. I live in a small town where everyone bumps into each other often. Twice recently, a random miserable couple I do not know has been extremely rude about me loudly for no reason as I have been minding my own business! About a month ago, I was walki...
A. 16 May 2021: Let me be perfectly frank with you. What they think about you is none of your business, or even down to anything you may have done. It is all about THEM. For some unknown reason, they have decided to pick on you when they see you. Ignore them. They ... (read in full...)
What if a guy cups your face in his hand?
Q. How relevant is it if a guy cups your face in his hand? Does that mean he has deep and loving feelings towards you? Or is that a side of physical attraction? Was he thinking about a kiss? I am talking about taking one hand and gently cupping a...
A. 16 May 2021: Does this guy have a wife/girlfriend/significant other? What about you? Are you in a relationship with someone else? If the answer to either of those questions is affirmative, then the answer to YOUR question is "it was inappropriate".
If, o... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing getting married when I still have such strong feelings for my ex?
Q. I am female and i had been dating a guy for about 3 years before leaving him and meeting someone else after. We were engaged, supposedly, but after a few months of our engagement he told me he might not be able to go through with it any time soon, ...
A. 16 May 2021: Your fiance sounds like a good bloke. Set him free to find someone who loves him and him alone, which is what everyone deserves. He deserves so much better than to be your Plan B. Having experienced the hurt of being with someone who is not 100% ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: A couple of questions: do you work and do you have any "regular" responsibilities (by that I mean things you have to do and which take priority over "communications")? I ask because, reading your post, I could not help building a mental picture of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's career hasn't taken off and I don't want to feel like he's taking it out on me
Q. hi everyone, hope you're all well! I'm having some trouble in my relationship with my boyfriend and would really appreciate some advice.. I met my bf in a house share and we got on really well. It's been a couple of years now and we've fi...
A. 15 May 2021: So you haven't even had "an honest conversation" with him about this unpleasant and uncomfortable situation? Why? For most people, that would be the first thing to do.
You are already getting a taste of what life with him will be like when thi... (read in full...)
Is it okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls
Q. Hello, I have a question about whether it's okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls (but not boyfriend and girlfriend). Here is the story: I had just recently broken up with my ex whom I had been dating for a few years. We broke up due to ...
A. 15 May 2021: I find it interesting that you didn't feel you should tell the girl you were dating the truth as you were not in a "committed" relationship. What else would you feel it was ok to lie to her about? At what point did you think it would be appropriate ... (read in full...)
My fiance expects me to help his mother financially. I don't want this to continue
Q. Hello and thanks! So my fiancee and I have been together for 4 years. He expects that I help his mom monthly. She is always needing something. bill's, food, clothes this that. I seen a recent picture of her with nice gold earrings and a t...
A. 14 May 2021: You are being scammed. Walk away. You can do better. And no, his mother is definitely not your responsibility. If HE wants to send her money, then HE can earn it, not expect someone else to give it him. He doesn't have issues UNDERSTANDING; he has ... (read in full...)
My 17 year old song met up and had sex with a male prostitute. We don't know how to handle this
Q. My son, Carl, is 17, and told me a few days ago he had a confession; he'd slept with a male prostitute a year ago (in February), not long after his birthday. He admitted he'd paid the guy $250 (well, technically it was two payments of $125...
A. 14 May 2021: I think it is a great shame that, despite your son trusting you sufficiently to open up about what he has done, your reaction is one of anger and a wish to punish him. Take a deep breath and think this through calmly. I am hoping it is just concern ... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me 5 times in 2 years. Should I continue to see him?
Q. Hi I need some advice about a relationship I am a widow, my husband died 8 years ago and two years ago I met a lovely man and fell in love. But he has finished our relationship 5 times so far and caused me a lot of heartache. The last time it ...
A. 14 May 2021: I firmly believe the universe sends us people to teach us lessons. If we refuse to learn the lesson they were sent to teach us, they (or someone similar) will keep coming back into our lives until such time as we learn the lesson.
He's finished... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is trying to get back into her life and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. I've been dating a woman, Megan, who's been divorced for a long time now, at the time she was already divorced for 4 years and was ready for a relationship. We met in March 2015. Our relationship has been pretty good, and is now in the serious s...
A. 13 May 2021: Why is your girlfriend's ex suddenly wanting to come back into her life? My guess would be one of two things are going on here. Either he has had a serious relationship (or, even more than one)since they split up, which has now ended, and he is ... (read in full...)
I loved being the mistress but now that he's told his wife about me, I'm not sure I want him because I don't see him as a life partner
Q. Hi, I am really struggling. It is a heart vs mind battle. My heart loves my boyfriend. My mind is telling me he isn't right for me. We had an affair and now he is saying he loves me and sees a future with me. He has told his wife about our relati...
A. 9 May 2021: I find it difficult to imagine that he just told his wife about your affair without your prior knowledge or agreement. Surely he must have discussed the future with you before burning his bridges with his wife? (Men rarely dump a wife without ... (read in full...)
I don’t want to leave my husband for this guy but it shows me what I’m missing in my life
Q. Hello, I am looking for a bit of advice really. To be honest I’m not even sure what I expect from this. I’m currently in my late twenties and have been married to my husband for basically all of my 20s. When we got together he was fun and outgoing ...
A. 9 May 2021: What else has changed since the start of your marriage? Has he put on weight? Has he had any major illnesses? Does he suffer with his mental health? Is it possible he is suffering from depression? Has he lost anyone close?
In your shoes, I would ... (read in full...)
The man I'm seeing doesn't seem to want to get vaccinated. I think its a deal breaker
Q. Hi, I have reconnected with a man, who a had a few dates with, a few years back. We really hit it off, but life sort of got in the way. I was an empty nester, but he was a widower with three kids home from 10-21. We started chatting in late ...
A. 8 May 2021: Considering that the manufacturers have admitted the jab neither stops you getting the virus nor passing it on to others, why are you so hell bent on him having it? Considering how many people have suffered serious side effects, including death, ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex after 5 years no contact? Is 5 years enough for someone to change?
Q. I have an urge to talk to an ex from 12 years ago. We haven't spoke for 5 years and the last time we spoke I ignored her last msg because she was acting crazy. She was important to me and I want to reconcile but I don't want to msg her for fear...
A. 8 May 2021: Why would you want to reconcile with someone who was "acting crazy" last time you had contact with them? You believe you have "grown as a person" in the last five years, yet you haven't managed to move on from this relationship. Why is that? Ask ... (read in full...)
Blatant favoritism in my boyfriend's family and I'm fed up
Q. Hey there, Thanks in advance for your responses. My boyfriend rents a space on a close family member's property. Due to some unfortunate events, the second space on the property is opening up soon for rent. It's nice, much better maintaine...
A. 8 May 2021: Honeypie has already said everything I was thinking as I was reading your post. As you do not live with your boyfriend, it is really not your place to be putting the proverbial boot in with his family. The best way he can show them he is unhappy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy for me
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months. He always forgets our anniversaries, but I'm used to it. For the past two months, we haven't been able to talk properly.. He says he's too busy with school even if i try to get in contact ...
A. 8 May 2021: Have you ever even met this boy? You don't mention you have in your post so I suspect you only know him as an on-line/phone buddy. It is not possible to "love" someone you haven't met, or only met briefly. Love comes from spending time together, ... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 2 May 2021: Your reply appeared after I had posted so I will just add this: as well as him having a vile temper, you have trust issues with him, so, again, I ask "WHY do you stay?" ... (read in full...)
How should I tackle the issue of wanting to get back into the honeymoon period
Q. Hello there. I'm at the stage of our 4-year relationship where we now should be, theoretically, able to discuss more serious things, but my husband wants to recreate the honeymoon stage of our relationship (no, not THE honeymoon after we married...
A. 2 May 2021: A saying sprang to mind as I was reading your post: "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy". I wonder, have you become "Jack"?
Have you let all the fun and romance leak out of your relationships? Do you have date nights with your husband?... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 1 May 2021: I would do as instructed - fuck off and not look back.
It doesn't sound like you live together, so what are you actually getting from this relationship? Whatever it is, is it worth being abused in this way? Is this all you think you are worth? ... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship with ex. I want him to reach out but don't think he will
Q. Been on and off with an ex for a couple years. Broke up simply due to having different needs but still care for each other very much. Thursday night after a movie with his friends, he got angry at me over something I said regarding driving and ...
A. 29 April 2021: Let me ask you something: would you re-read a book, expecting the ending to be different from the first time you read it? Would you watch a film again which you had watched before, expecting the ending to be different to the previous time(s)? Of ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy?
Q. Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy? F (32) I’ve been with my boyfriend about a month now, so it is early days. I do come from a broken home, so I will mention that I have a lot of trust and abandonment issues. I also seem to go for t...
A. 29 April 2021: Regardless of whether there is anything going on between your boyfriend and this girl, you admit he has already lied to you, so why do you even entertain trusting him? If someone shows themselves to be a liar, why would you risk trusting them? ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and devastated, I fear my new relationship may end. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi all, I'm new here. Thank you do much for taking the time to look at my question. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months. That might sound like a small amount of time, but I've never felt so in love in all my life, even compared to prev...
A. 29 April 2021: Red flags waved wildly at me while I was reading your post.
Firstly, you find out whether you love someone when you go through difficult times together and find out what sort of person they really are, not just the mushy fluffy romantic stuff, w... (read in full...)
I was his mistress. Now that he's left his wife for me, I live in fear. How can I stop the anxiety?
Q. My boyfriend left his wife for me. He says he loves me. If so, why do I always feel so anxious, scared and insecure around him? Even though he's divorced and proclaiming his undying love and devotion to me? Do you think I could ever be happy with ...
A. 29 April 2021: Sorry op but, get them by cheating, lose them to cheating. I suspect, deep down, you actually know this, hence your insecurity. How can you trust a man who you know for a fact is capable of cheating on his wife? Is this how you want to live the rest ... (read in full...)
I found out my ex is a registered sex offender and don't know what to do with the information
Q. Hi dear cupid. In November last year I found out my then boyfriend is a registered sex offender and has seven years to go on the registry... I took a photo of the paper I found as evidence. he was never going to tell me... I walked ...
A. 28 April 2021: I agree with the anonymous aunt who suggests you voice your concerns to the police and leave them to deal with the situation. There are many levels of "offence" and you don't know if the children with whom he has contact are in danger from him. ... (read in full...)
I think my LDR girl may be lying but what if I'm wrong?
Q. So, I am in a long distance relationship with someone whom I have never meet in real life! We are supposed to meet each for the first time for christmas in december. We video chat and messages everyday, but she has this habit of randomly ...
A. 25 April 2021: I always wonder why people claim to be in relationships with people they haven't even met. What is that all about? How can you be in a relationship with someone you have never met face to face?
Considering the "disappearing" is a regular thing an... (read in full...)
I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends
Q. What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can...
A. 25 April 2021: Relationships - including friendships - often have a finite lifespan and eventually run their course. Few last from cradle to grave, as it were. People drift apart because they no longer share common interests and grow apart. I can totally relate to ... (read in full...)
Is a man capable of abstaining from sex for four months?
Q. Can a man go without sex for FOUR months? Let's say he is away from his wife or girlfriend for FOUR months. Can he abstain or will he be weak and succumb to his little head? Any action is better than no action? Just wandering, are men are capa...
A. 25 April 2021: Most men are completely capable of controlling themselves if they so wish. Whether YOUR man wishes to do so (because this is quite obviously what this is about) is a different question. You obviously don't feel he IS, otherwise you would not be ... (read in full...)
My insecurities about a woman my boyfriend works with are causing big problems
Q. So I want to start by confessing I am an anxious person and unfortunately due to previous experiences struggle to trust. My boyfriend and I are having big problems in our relationship because of my insecurities but I don't know how to stop. The on...
A. 24 April 2021: You do realize your boyfriend is not the one who hurt you in the past? Why are you holding him responsible for how others have treated you? Why are you even in a relationship if you cannot trust? Surely your first priority should be to heal from ... (read in full...)
I don't think our marriage is going to work unless I just hold everything in
Q. I won't go into the lengthy background but my wife and I have been together for about 10 years. We've had our ups and downs, nothing big - nobody has ever cheated or anything like that. But the biggest problem we've always had is not that we argue ...
A. 22 April 2021: This is just a feeling I get so, if I am wrong, just ignore me. My impression from your post was that this is YOUR problem because YOU ARE BEING TOO NICE. You are being so careful not to upset her that you probably come across as apologetic and - ... (read in full...)
We broke up but still talk and I'm confused
Q. I don’t know what to think anymore. My gf broke up few months ago but we talk daily and still love each other. However due to pandemic it has been hard to move forward. However I have just realised she does talk to me but barely answers. It’s so...
A. 18 April 2021: You do realize that, if you had gone "no contact" when you broke you, you would be well on the way to healing by now, if not completely healed and ready to move on. Because you have chosen to stay in contact, you are still no further forward in your ... (read in full...)
I am having a relationship with a woman 1/2 my age. She has sex with other men. I don't mind but my family does
Q. Im a 75 year old man who would like some honest advice...my entire family is upset with me..for over a year now Ive been having a relationship with a 36 year old woman..we spend alot of time together, traveling the world, going to restaurants, ...
A. 18 April 2021: The other aunts and uncles have pretty much said it all. However, I do have a couple of questions of my own (strange how some posts demand more questions than advice):
1. Who pays for everything when you travel/eat out/shop? Does she contribu... (read in full...)
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