Should I give them the money despite working so hard to save it to make myself more financially stable?
Q. Hi I'm facing a dilemma here. After leaving an abusive relationship of five years (which also ruined me financially; also during this time the situation was so unstable I was moving from job to job, state to state and just handing over my paychecks) ...
A. 5 March 2010: Glad to hear that everything is fine now .God has answered your prayers.... (read in full...)
Body image questions
Q. im 15 years old girly girl (im puerto rican and chinese) and i weight 100 pounds i have a six pack lately some people been saying that sexy and some say that is a turn off because im a total girly girl and they wound expect a girly girl that wears ...
A. 28 February 2010: Those who say it is a turn off could probably be jealous of it. If you like it , it does not matter what others think.... (read in full...)
I have two men in my life, how do I choose which one?
Q. I am a 30 year old attractive and smart female. I was a former Ford model in teens and early 20’s, and after graduating college, I am currently a VP in pharmaceutical sales. How do I choose? Here’s some background on the men. Guy #1--We’ve ...
A. 28 February 2010: What is the criteria for choosing a mate?
Choose someone whom you can't live without.
Choose someone who will placed you first in his life.
Choose someone who has the time for you and be there for you always.
Choose love or choose money .... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel overwhelmed by a series of misfortunes?
Q. I feel cursed! Everything falling apart in my life!. There is no explanation why. And why everything.I,m totally normal,but I can't see any other explanation, how everything can go bad at the same time totally unrelated ways.. Within 5 years -...
A. 28 February 2010: Focus on God and do not lose patience, faith and hope.There will be light at the end of the dark tunnel.Everything happens for a reason and only God knows.
Keep your spirit up and soldier on. Just keep going on until you see the sunlight in your ... (read in full...)
My ex is getting into deep waters, should I talk to him or his family?
Q. Hello, I broke up with my boyfriend about 2 months ago. I've been trying to call him a few times and left messages but he hasn't returned or picked up the phone when I called. He's a smart man and I've known him for more than 6 years now. He's ...
A. 27 February 2010: It could only be your perceptions but reality maybe different .Since he has not responded to your overtures, there is no point in talking to him or to his family . You might not even get a good reception there.
If he wants to go to the deep end... (read in full...)
My friend is pregnant again, and I don't want to have to help financially again
Q. I'm probably going to get alot of backlash with what i'm about to write so I want you to read this post properly. I have been mates with this girl for about 10 years. In that time she has has 2 children that were accidents 1 of which I'm god...
A. 27 February 2010: You could direct her to see your MP and apply for those grants and aids from the govt.
That's the least you can do.... (read in full...)
Our friend is depressed because she can't pass her drivers licence
Q. Morning, I desperatly need some advice. My friend who is 28 is trying to get her drivers licence, she has failed a few timesand after each test she is becoming more withdrawn. She hardly comes out with us anymore-infact my birthday is coming up and ...
A. 27 February 2010: She will eventually pass her driving tests if she does not give up taking those tests.
You could be overtly concerned about her because I think she is made of sterner stuff. Otherwise , she would have given up taking those driving test.
You can... (read in full...)
How can I let my guy friend know I like him?
Q. Alright, so I'm friends with this guy and I'm starting to like him.. He's nice and has a great sense of humor, he has respect for women and he's just a wonderful trustworthy guy. I know he would never do anything to hurt me and I just want to be ...
A. 27 February 2010: Since you are texting each other everyday , you can send one text message saying you like Him.
Don't worry , take the plunge and I am sure ,he will accept it positively. If the response is good, ask him out for a date.... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening me with "truth" tablets, do they exist?
Q. Ok everyone Im still in contact with my ex. The thing is my brother done something not horrible to him and my ex thinks im involved in some sor of way The other day he said something o me over the phone about hes ordered somehing on lin...
A. 27 February 2010: There is such a drug but it is unreliable. Don't worry , he is just trying to frighten you only.
reference;-
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Truth_drug... (read in full...)
My mother says I am sending the wrong message by giving a gift
Q. ok, my mom said it means u like a guy when you give him a birthday present and he's not your boy-friend?? is that true? im 15 he's turning 17 and she wont let me give my guy friend a birthday present. i dont think it is true neither do other people ...
A. 27 February 2010: Your mother comes from an older generation . Perhaps during her generations , it was true .
Today , it does not hold true unless you give something very expensive or extra ordinary to your guy friend.... (read in full...)
Why do cheaters get mad when they're caught?
Q. Why do cheaters always continue to lie, even when they've been caught? Why do they become angry when they are found out? What moral foundation is there for this behavior (why do they think the way they do, and why do they think cheating is okay)?...
A. 27 February 2010: If they were to admit it , it would be the end of them. It is not the end unless you have concrete proof.
But then , even if photographic evidence you cannot be 100% positive because somebody may look like that person .The only sure thing, i... (read in full...)
He says my actions prior to our dating permits him to have sex with other girls
Q. Hi, my boyfriend of 3 and a half years suffers from retroactive jealousy. I was no slut in the past, far from it actually, but still, he thinks I was and that's what's ruined us. He knows a guy to whom I gave a BJ to, he knows that guy was a close ...
A. 27 February 2010: There are givers and takers but unfortunately, some givers give so much of themselves that people will take advantage of them and they will become doormats or people pleaser.
Usually, it's not intentional , but it does happen.
You become a ... (read in full...)
My wife bet a BJ to another man and he's won the bet... what should we do?!
Q. My wife made a bet that I don't want her to keep and now she has to pay up, or default on her word. What to do? A couple of weeks ago, my wife, some friends of ours and myself were drinking at my house. The conversation got heated regarding...
A. 27 February 2010: Sometimes , in the heat of a moment and under the influence of alcohol, we can do or say silly things.
Sometimes, we may even bet on things which we cannot do .Like a BJ or cut off your head.
The sensible thing is to renege on her words and le... (read in full...)
How to deal with resentment?
Q. I'm 14 and I'm suffering from resentment, its KILLING ME! The guy that I'm in love with, doesn't love me any more and he's moved on. I hate him , he lead my best friend on and did other things that made me feel small.I stopped talking to him s...
A. 27 February 2010: Forgiveness is the key to making peace with yourself and ultimately dealing with resentments.
If you learn to forgive, you can also learn to let go of anger and control your temper.
Forgive all those people ,bless them and wish them well.Y... (read in full...)
How do you know if a man is stingy?
Q. Hello people, How do you know if a man is stingy? I mean i had a date with a man i met on line. I prepared myself very well and wore the best i have. But i was shocked when i found out what he wore, he wore daddy jeans or baggy jeans a terrible...
A. 27 February 2010: Outward appearances can be deceptive. Some rich people do dress in that way .
Many rich people are rich because they are stingy and are great savers.
He is probably looking for someone who can accept him as who he is and do not care about i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about sex and treats me like an object. How can I get him to stop?
Q. I have a boyfriend who only talks about having sex with me. I feel it's disrespectful and he randomly pulls out my shirt to look down it. How do I get him to stop?...
A. 27 February 2010: Tell him that you will tell your parents that he is harassing you and if does not stop , you will report him to the school authorities or the police.... (read in full...)
No pleasure having sex...
Q. Hi, im a 19 year old male, and ive just started having sex, yet all of the times ive done it i havent felt anything, its warm and all but no real sexual pleasure like when i masturbate, ive considered the fact i may be gay but that doesnt appeal to ...
A. 27 February 2010: The pleasures of sex is all in the mind.If you are not in it , you won't receive any pleasures. You just want to get it over quickly .
Some one you love or someone who have a strong attraction to will make a difference.... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend's new friend. How do I address the situation?
Q. Hi, I have a problem with my fiancée new friend. He started a new job in November and he met this guy his colleague who always wants to hang out with him. Now I met the guy and he is a bit of a loner... But he is very annoying and rude and alway...
A. 27 February 2010: You should be able to tell your b/f about his new friend without any bias or prejudices and he would make sure that your wish will be respected.
Maybe , it is only once in a blue moon.If he is sensitive enough he should sense your discomfo... (read in full...)
I want to travel the world but my parents won't let me.
Q. This is not really a question about relationships or anything but I am only 13 and I want to travel the world and be on my own but my parents won't even let me walk around by myself! What should I do?...
A. 27 February 2010: Read the papers and you will understand why your parents would not want you to walk around by yourself let alone allow you to travel the world. There is too much violence in the outside world. People being mugged, battered, killed , raped and kidn... (read in full...)
Should I give them the money despite working so hard to save it to make myself more financially stable?
Q. Hi I'm facing a dilemma here. After leaving an abusive relationship of five years (which also ruined me financially; also during this time the situation was so unstable I was moving from job to job, state to state and just handing over my paychecks) ...
A. 27 February 2010: It is just like the groundnut who forgets his husk which protected the nut when he was young. I would like to rephrase that. There is a Malay idiom which says," The groundnut forgets it's skin." When they were small, the skin(parents) protec... (read in full...)
Why do guys from council houses treat me so badly when I am nice to them?
Q. there was lot of guys i have likes from council houses but they seem treated me very badly and i am nice to them i am not not from council house area.but they guys i have like are they insulted and be little treated me badly some don,t want even to ...
A. 27 February 2010: There are the good, the bad and the ugly guys in every society. They are taking advantage of your kindness and being a woman .Avoid those lowlife creatures if you can .... (read in full...)
I want to keep my virginity until I am married, but my current boyfriend wants to get intimate. How do I deal with this?
Q. I recently started getting "serious" with a guy I like and we are pretty happy, except I'm really nervous about one thing: sex. I'm still a virgin and no, this is not my 1st relationship-the problem is that my last one ended because the guy was ...
A. 27 February 2010: Tell him your limits and boundaries and he should respect your wishes.
If he is interested in sex only and not in love and commitments ,then I think he will disappear and not the right one for you .
The problem is ,in the heat of the moment , ... (read in full...)
Is it ok that I have protected sex with people when I am not in a relationship?
Q. im currently single so im just having fun, but do u think its ok that i have protected sex with people? the only reason i ask is because my friends say im dirty but i dont have one night stands after a night out, i know the people i have sex with....
A. 27 February 2010: Having multiple partners puts one at higher risk of HPV (human papillomavirus )which can lead to cancers of the cervix, vulva, vagina, and anus in women .Most people who become infected with HPV do not know they have it.
Condoms is not 100% saf... (read in full...)
Should I give them the money despite working so hard to save it to make myself more financially stable?
Q. Hi I'm facing a dilemma here. After leaving an abusive relationship of five years (which also ruined me financially; also during this time the situation was so unstable I was moving from job to job, state to state and just handing over my paychecks) ...
A. 26 February 2010: You are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.
If you don't lend, you will have to move out from your parents and they may disown you or not want to have anything to do with you anymore.
You will also be labeled as ungrateful and s... (read in full...)
Do I tell her that I am still in love with her after all these years?
Q. I am having a bit off a tough time...I'm a male, 42, and still keep in touch with my ex-fiancee, who is now married for 2 yrs with a new baby...the problem is we have been broken up for 7 years now. However, during this entire time, we have always ...
A. 26 February 2010: 'You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's.'
What is your motive of wanting to tell her that... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says no porn, yet I catch him watching it.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so devistated right now. I have begged my fiancee to watch porn with me but his excuse is that he has me so he doesn't need to watch it. But just last night I caught him in the bathroom watching porn and relieving himself. That re...
A. 26 February 2010: You have to take some risk but if you are not judgmental in your views of him , you should have no problems.
First, you ask about his views and then you will ask him to listen to your perspective. He will learn where you stand or your limits a... (read in full...)
How do I deal with feeling ashamed that I wasted time with him?
Q. i feel ashamed. this guy and i were about to be an item until something happened. everybody knew that we went for dinner every night and what not. everybody knew we were close. anyway, we're not talking anymore now. i hate all the places i we...
A. 26 February 2010: All's fair in love and war.
There is no shame if you can't get along with someone.
It is just that you were too good for him and that you had to part ways.
You are not alone.Many couples too go their separate ways.
Whatever people... (read in full...)
If your partner says they love you, yet you don't feel the same way yet, do you tell the truth?
Q. I'm just wondering. What if you're in a relationship and your partner tells you that they love you but you don't feel the same way at least not yet. Do you be honest with them about how you feel or do you lie and say I love you back so they won't ...
A. 26 February 2010: This is a serious matter and you should tell your partner the truth . Be honest and please don't joke.
It is unwise and unethical to play with other people's emotions.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says no porn, yet I catch him watching it.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so devistated right now. I have begged my fiancee to watch porn with me but his excuse is that he has me so he doesn't need to watch it. But just last night I caught him in the bathroom watching porn and relieving himself. That re...
A. 26 February 2010: Your boyfriend is probably unsure of how you will react if you know he is watching porn.
Most men would deny it in front of their g/f's that they are watching porn even if they are secretly doing it. To admit it would lower their moral standard... (read in full...)
Will my breasts grow anymore?
Q. i'm 16 and have small boobs. i dont mind the fact that they are not big but i hope that there is a chance they will grow. its the main thing im self concious about. i just hate being self concious about them. my friends have amazing bodies it makes ...
A. 26 February 2010: Foods that contain phyto- estrogen or natural estrogen in plants like,
Fenugreek, Saw Palmetto, Fennel, L-Tyrosine, Mexican Wild Yam Root, Pacific Kelp, Damiana Leaf, Dong Quai, Mothers Wort,Black Cohosh, Oat Grass, Blessed Thistle, Hops Flower. ... (read in full...)
Spoke to him every day for fifteen years, now he's cold?
Q. Hi Guys. My questions is regarding my ex/on-off partner. We've been together for years and split up on-off over the last 18 months. We always stayed in touch and stayed friends and there are still feelings between us and we are still attracted but ...
A. 26 February 2010: He has kicked you to the curb .There is not much you can do except to get up and dust off the dirt and walk away with your head held high.
Whether it is because the new woman told him to stop contact with you or his own decision , it does not matt... (read in full...)
Will my breasts grow anymore?
Q. i'm 16 and have small boobs. i dont mind the fact that they are not big but i hope that there is a chance they will grow. its the main thing im self concious about. i just hate being self concious about them. my friends have amazing bodies it makes ...
A. 26 February 2010:
You can give them a helping hand by eating certain food and exercise and drink more beer.
As to what kind of food , you can Google them ,"make my breast bigger." There are loads of info there.
This site may interest you .
http://www.teengr... (read in full...)
How do I achieve bigger boobs without surgery?
Q. I'm really want to attract someone I like but I have small boobs and although I know there's nothing wrong with that and so forth, I do want to feel confident and attractive. I would like to boost them a little, make them appear fuller and bigger. ...
A. 26 February 2010: I think this site may give you those tips .
http://breastenlargementwithoutsurgery.com/how-to-get-bigger-breasts-without-surgery/... (read in full...)
Will wishing an ex happy birthday seem clingy?
Q. (Mod note: Titled by poster) Ok, so I was wanting to know if I should wish an ex a happy birthday if he broke up with me because I was too "clingy?" His birthday is 3 weeks away...will it seem like I want him back if I do? Also, he said that ...
A. 25 February 2010: Words said in anger should enter one ear and leave another.It should never be remembered or placed in the heart.
When a person is angry as when you break up or quarrel , they will say hurtful words but it not the truth and they do not really m... (read in full...)
Sex seems to be the his main focus. Sould I go on another date?
Q. Hi, I ran into this guy that I use to work with last year. He had gotten a divorce and asked me on a date. I accepted the. Well, of course he tried to sleep with me,on the first date but I didn't. On our second date we had a talk and he told m...
A. 25 February 2010: If you are going on a future date with him , he could infer that you are still interested in him and if he keeps pestering you for sex, you may one day relent.
You are both incompatible as you have different objectives..He is only looking for sex ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating somebody else, should I fight for him?
Q. I liked a guy for 2 years and we dated for 6 months. I just recently found out that a montha and a half before we broke up he was talking to the girl he is dating now. I still love him and I don't know what to do. Do I fight for him?...
A. 25 February 2010: You need to know whether he is still worthy of your love?
You have to decide that he is worth his salt , meaning ,there is no better guy in your world and you still like him a lot.
If you still love him, you should try to reconcile with h... (read in full...)
My boyfriends parents wont let him come and see me
Q. So there's this guy I really like. He lives 2 hours away and his parents wont let him drive down to see me. He told me he likes me so much. We don't know what to do because we want to be together but we wont be able to see each other. We don't know ...
A. 25 February 2010: If he cannot drive, what about other forms of transportation's like Bus or train or taxi? ... (read in full...)
Everything I have done has been for him, now I find he is having an affair
Q. I found out very recently that my husband was having an affair for the last 6 months. I am not sure if I can forgive him or ever trust him again. It's not like it was a one time thing. He wasn't even the one to tell me, I had to find out when I ...
A. 25 February 2010: You found out that your husband had an affair. You are naturally very angry and sad over it .This is from your perspective.
Let's look at this issue from another perspective. Your husband was stolen away from you by a female thief.
What wo... (read in full...)
We often go out as a foursome and I fell in love with the other guy
Q. So i fell n love with someone that is not my husband. I know it does not sound possiable but it was. Im still n love with him but we broke things off. One reason cuz he and I both know that im still n love with my husband and i never would leave hi...
A. 25 February 2010: You are a sensible woman and realized your mistake and pulled back. It was an honest mistake .
You could still be good friends . Set your limits and boundaries and don't cross them.
I think you have learned your lessons.
In time , those... (read in full...)
Marriage foundation... confused!
Q. Hello, I have been chatting with a man on a dating site for a while we even discussed marriage. So he soon asked out on a date. But then he told me about a foundation that was helping people to get married and that they would be given money and ...
A. 25 February 2010: He gets the woman , money and house. What can you ask for more, with all expenses paid by the govt....LOL!... (read in full...)
He seems to have lost feelings for me
Q. Married for 19 years, love my husband with all my heart but can't seem to continue to deal with him always being in a bad mood. He never seems happy. He says it's all due to finances but we both make good salaries. He is constantly talking about ...
A. 25 February 2010: Find some interesting things that you like to do...Life is short.You only live once.
What are the things you like to do , see ,eat or watch?
We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm, and adventure.
There is no end to th... (read in full...)
Marriage foundation... confused!
Q. Hello, I have been chatting with a man on a dating site for a while we even discussed marriage. So he soon asked out on a date. But then he told me about a foundation that was helping people to get married and that they would be given money and ...
A. 25 February 2010: Miamine,
The OP wants to know why is that man on the dating site recommending her to the foundation to get money and free housing for married couples.?
Is it because he is poor?
From the limited info, we cannot say with certainty if he is ... (read in full...)
Marriage foundation... confused!
Q. Hello, I have been chatting with a man on a dating site for a while we even discussed marriage. So he soon asked out on a date. But then he told me about a foundation that was helping people to get married and that they would be given money and ...
A. 25 February 2010: I get it. He is suggesting that you reap the benefits from the foundation for getting married in your country.
The foundation is run by the govt. to promote marriages and giving out those incentives.
He is not poor but wishes to take advantag... (read in full...)
How do I achieve bigger boobs without surgery?
Q. I'm really want to attract someone I like but I have small boobs and although I know there's nothing wrong with that and so forth, I do want to feel confident and attractive. I would like to boost them a little, make them appear fuller and bigger. ...
A. 24 February 2010: For instant bigger boobs.
Wear those backless, strapless, push up, breast enhancer,
seamless, reusable,adhesive stick on bra-silicone , Nu bra .
If you want to have a bigger boob, wear three of them over a normal bigger size bra.
It will... (read in full...)
Marriage foundation... confused!
Q. Hello, I have been chatting with a man on a dating site for a while we even discussed marriage. So he soon asked out on a date. But then he told me about a foundation that was helping people to get married and that they would be given money and ...
A. 24 February 2010: He is trying to con you off your money. He is asking you to donate to the fake foundation (he is the beneficiary)
Agree with Miamine, it is probably a scam.... (read in full...)
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