What can a guy do to sexually attract a woman?
Q. What can a guy do to SEXUALLY attract a woman, be it a friend, girlfriend or spouse? I mean what can he do to get a sexual spark in her, to get her mind thinking or wanting, even subconsciously, to do something sexual with him? It's easy for ...
A. 3 August 2013: Have a good dress sense. Find the style that you feel most comfortable in (no sweat pants please), and smell good. Scent is so important. Whenever I walk by a man who has on great smelling cologne, I always give him a second glance.... (read in full...)
Does a man get attached to a virgin when he is her first?
Q. Hello everyone. I would love to hear some opinions. We all know that females tend to get attached to the man they lose their virginity to. BUT on the flip side.... Do men get attached to a virgin when she loses her virginity to HIM? I...
A. 3 August 2013: No I don't think so, and I was never attached to my first lover. It was awful sex, and I regret losing it with him.
I think people get attached if there are genuine emotions involved, even if it's not your first time. Getting attached has noth... (read in full...)
What's more wrong? Checking your boyfriend's phone or your boyfriend betraying you?
Q. What is more wrong? Checking on your boyfriends phone or finding out he has betrayed you? Seemingly he said I would never of got hurt and I shouldn't have gone looking...
A. 3 August 2013: Your boyfriend betraying you is worse. Whenever I suspect something is not quite right, I always do some snooping. I am right 100% of the time. My gut never fails me.... (read in full...)
He's tried to do the right thing but doesn't want her to be hurt more than necessary
Q. 4 years ago when I was 18 I met this guy when we started working together, he was 26 at the time. Our job requires us to work away from home; so we spent quite a lot of time together and became close straight away even though he was in a ...
A. 31 July 2013: I agree with eyeswideopen. If he really wanted to be with you, he would not have gone back to his first gf.
It sounds like you're star-crossed lovers.... (read in full...)
What did her text mean? Was it good? Or not so good?
Q. Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her ...
A. 31 July 2013: I'm not a big texter and usually I would send a text like this (short and sweet) to someone I am interested in, but I don't want to sound overly excited, in case he does not feel the same way.
If I'm not interested in someone, I either do not text... (read in full...)
I told my girlfriend's friend she was hot, and now there is friction between them
Q. Dear cupid, Just eight days ago , I said to my girlfriend's close friend , in front of her, that "Oh my God, you are one hell of a hot girl." . Her friend just smiled whereas my girlfriend said "Enough" . Ever since that happened, my girlfrie...
A. 29 July 2013: You were insensitive and disrespectful. I'm surprised that your girlfriend is still with you. This may be the beginning of the end of your relationship. You just earned an X against you.... (read in full...)
It took me a long time to get over my last relationship and now I'm scared my time is running out and I'll end up alone
Q. I have been single for over two years.I am now 24 years old.I have this growing fear that I may end up spending the rest of my life alone.my last relationship ended badly,my heart was broken into piece.I had a hard time getting over that.I am ok now ...
A. 27 July 2013: When I was younger, I also thought time was running out and got married to a man who loved me more than I loved him. I thought that I would grow to love him eventually. I was so wrong! We got divorced, and I felt relieved to have him out of my ... (read in full...)
I feel unloved and unwanted in this marriage
Q. I love my husband of 10 years but for the past 6 months he has become totally disconnected from me. I am 47 and my husband is 49. We have no children. My 85 year old mom lives with us in a 2 bedroom 2 bathroom apt. We haven't had sex in ...
A. 20 July 2013: Try couples counselling to figure out why he is distant from you. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to come up with answers, which could range from having an affair to having no privacy with your mom around. You really don't know what's going on ... (read in full...)
Can one be a nymphomanic without being promiscuous?
Q. Is it possible for someone to be obsessed with all things sexual without being a nymphomaniac? I was very curious about sex from an early age.... which I am ashamed to elaborate on. Let's just say I would watch films on the television (soft...
A. 17 July 2013: I am very much like you describe, but I know what caused it. I was sexually abused when I was a child. I'm not saying the same happened to you, but because I was exposed to sexual stuff at a very young age, it affected my sexual boundaries while ... (read in full...)
Do you believe there's someone for everyone?
Q. I think the media hypes love by saying there's someone for everyone, don't give up on love. etc. NOT everyone finds love. I think society just says this to make people who've been hurt feel better, as well as to encourage procreation and sell ...
A. 17 July 2013: Love does not always exist as it does in a nice, romantic movie where everything works out in the end. Love is a very personal experience and we all find it in different places, sometimes in the most imperfect situations.
I have a friend who foun... (read in full...)
I got dumped and I know how to survive a breakup and didn't know I could
Q. Well, as the story goes; people all over the world in different languages, know how it feels to get dumped. Generally it stinks. In my case; there was a lot of fun. No real arguments, and being two very mature people; we are well-schooled, a...
A. 11 July 2013: Thank you for sharing. It was very healing to read this, because you hit on so many things that I identify with. I am also working through the pain of a break-up. It has been about 9 months, but the pain hits me hard every once in a while. You ... (read in full...)
Anyone ever seen a chick magnet in his 50s?
Q. I am just wondering if anyone else has seen such a thing. There is this guy at work, who is probably about mid 50's. Maybe more. He is more popular than any of us with all the many girls here, including those between 18 and 25. They all lust after ...
A. 10 July 2013: When I was 25, I was head over heels in lust with a man who was 52. Why? Because he was handsome, kept himself in good physical shape, was experienced in the bedroom and knew how to turn a woman on, and he was confident. Nothing beats ... (read in full...)
How old were you when you kissed someone?
Q. just asking, how old where you when you kissed somebody or anybody?????...
A. 9 July 2013: I was 24.... (read in full...)
He sent me a critique of our night together!
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay this is embarrassing.. I started to see a guy, very smart, kind and fun to be around. Last night was the 1st we had sex. I am a bit shy by nature but quite open minded sexually. Anyway the sex I thought was quite good, and when I...
A. 9 July 2013: That guy is a total loser. He's basically treating you like a call girl. Those are the kind of instructions a client gives to someone he's paying to have sex with. Tell him to go **** himself!... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to keep a booty call around for 2 years?
Q. Okay, so 2 years ago I moved back home and decided to try out the internet dating deal. I met a few nice guys but nothing really went anywhere, except with one guy, sort of. We met a month or so after talking and seemed to hit it off. We always had ...
A. 9 July 2013: I agree with k_c100. I was in a similar situation to yours for two years, and at the end of it, the guy moved in with another woman. It broke my heart. Ten years later he contacted me and told me he regretted losing me and that I was the best ... (read in full...)
LDR ex dumped me without an explanation and it really bothers me
Q. My ex of 5 years dumped me without any explanation. We were in a long distance relationship. He still said he loved me and missed me a month before he broke up with me. I have no idea why he would change so st. He never contacted me after the ...
A. 6 July 2013: He probably met someone else and was too chicken to tell you. I'm so sorry he hurt you and left you like this.
If you really want to know the true reason why he broke up with you, then go ahead and contact him, but I agree with So Very Confused... (read in full...)
I'm getting the same feeling in the pit of my stomach as I had when I last caught him messaging a female co-worker!
Q. I haven’t been on here for a while but I have come to a point in my relationship where I need advice please. My boyfriend and I have been going out for over 5 years now and we have lived together for 4. Our relationship has had its problems som...
A. 29 June 2013: I agree with the anonymous response. I would also like to add that if your gut tells you something does not feel right, listen to it. I can't tell you how many times I ignored that bad feeling I got in the pit of my stomach, only to realize later ... (read in full...)
Should I go back on Facebook?
Q. I used to be on Facebook and closed my account about 3 years ago, looking back i can say i did it because I didn't feel it was my thing, but at the same time I could see the advantages of having easy access to people that you wouldn't necessarily go ...
A. 28 June 2013: I use facebook to keep in touch with friends and family who live all over the country and overseas. I don't use it for dating purposes, so my profile's privacy settings are quite high, and the people on my friends list are people that I know. ... (read in full...)
How can I learn letting them in my life without being negative?
Q. I never thought that I would be asking advise from strangers, until now. i really need a second opinion. I always push away, people who cares for me. I push away my friend who did nothing but being a good friend to me. I broke up with my ex-bf wi...
A. 27 June 2013: Sounds to me like you are self sabotaging your happiness. Maybe you suffer from abandonment and trust issues because of stuff that happened to you in your childhood. I'm only guessing here. I would advise that you see a therapist regularly to dig ... (read in full...)
I know it's unhealthy to hate someone, but I just hope my ex dies. How can I get rid of this?
Q. My ex dumped me with no reason two months ago. He's my first. He cheated on me twice and I still forgave him. We were together for 4 years and the last two years were long distance. We were serious. He talked about getting married and having kids. A ...
A. 20 June 2013: I know how you feel. When my ex husband and I broke up, I used to imagine him being hit by a huge bus or truck. That's how much I hated him. I felt like he wasted some of the best years of my life and I wished he would die. This is a normal part ... (read in full...)
Why did I find condoms when I cleaned up his room? Was he cheating?
Q. Me and my bf are together about 3 years. First 2 yrs was in the distance, I was in Europe, he in America. About one year we are living in same city, but not together yet. In fact we don't have a time to meet often, we are both working to save money ...
A. 18 June 2013: I agree with the anonymous poster. It looks like he was using it to masturbate. Don't jump to conclusions. Ask him about it, if it bothers you that much.... (read in full...)
Do guys stop calling me and asking me out because I'm not the motherly type?
Q. I have been having this problem for many years now. I never had it when I was younger. I am in my late twenties. I meet cute, smart guys who seem interested when I go out. I go on a couple of dates with them. Well, we usually hang out together as a ...
A. 14 June 2013: Changing yourself to attract a guy is not the answer. Being yourself and staying true to yourself is what you need to do in order to attract the right guy for you. You're not interested in many guys right? You just want that one guy who gets you, ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from sending messages to a man who isn't interested in me?
Q. I met a guy who's 2 years younger than me in a dating site. At first, he was very much interested in chatting with me, in meeting me, and was even telling me that i was more important than his work, so he wanted to chat with me more in the middle of ...
A. 13 June 2013: I agree with the anonymous person who told you to delete his number. I practice this for any guy I'm not interested in or is not interested in me, and it works. Out of sight. Out of mind. Open your doors to other guys and forget this one.... (read in full...)
Doesn't anyone date anymore?
Q. I just became single again after 3 years relationship. Started going out and meeting lots of guys. We exchange phone numbers, then they call or text. Never with an invitation for a date. It's ussualy a little after we met: did you get home alright? ...
A. 11 June 2013: What a great question. I became single about seven months ago and I'm encountering the same issue. It's what they are calling "The hook up culture". I've had more men ask me if I wax or shave my you know what, than ask me on a date. I roll my ... (read in full...)
Do girls ever think about the Good Guy who they lost contact with earlier?
Q. Girls,well what I would like to ask is, if you been with bad boys, an one that you thought you loved, broke up with you, an you were heart broken. And then you met a really nice guy , an you were together for a few months, he treated you so good,...
A. 8 June 2013: The answer to your question really depends on what kind of connection the two of you had and whether she was in love with you. If she had feelings for you, then yes, she'll think about you and even miss you, but from what you described, your ... (read in full...)
I cant deal with this! My ex got married within 6 months of breaking up with me
Q. I am in intense emotional pain right now. I found out today that my ex got engaged and married within six months of breaking up with me. I was still pining over him and he moved on with no issue. He never informed me directly. I found out quit...
A. 3 June 2013: Thanks all for the words of encouragement. Aunty Audrey, your advice brings healing. I actually read it everyday as reinforcement. WiseOwlE yes there were red flags all over the place and I chose to ignore them.... (read in full...)
Can I live with my BF's selfish streaks?
Q. I need help understanding why all my relationships eventually disappoint me. My current relationship of 5 months was so great in the beginning. My BF was doting and treated me special. Now - it seems his priorities are shifting back - or maybe I'...
A. 31 May 2013: I would feel the same way you do. These are solid examples you gave of a man who is selfish and does not have your back.
It's really about what you want. What faults are you willing to put up with? Does he have other redeeming qualitie... (read in full...)
Boyfriend quit his job, I'm the only one working. He's angry because I bought something for myself!
Q. My boyfriend quit his job because he hated it so much. We are in week 7 of him not having a job and I don't feel that he is really making much of an effort to look for one. I am paying his mortgage (my name is not on the house) and the food for the ...
A. 31 May 2013: Dump this loser before he makes you bankrupt.... (read in full...)
I discovered that my boyfriend sent sexual texts to other girls!
Q. Hello everyone! Recently I discovered that my boyfriend sent sexual texts to other girls. He apologized and is extremely upset so he promises never to do it again. He deleted all the girls phone numbers that were in his phone.I want to trust him but ...
A. 28 May 2013: He broke your trust and now the responsibility is on him to prove to you that he can be trustworthy again. Don't force yourself to trust him. He has to earn that trust back from you. I think taking a break from him would be a good thing.... (read in full...)
I don't know which guy I like more!
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about 5 months now and i'm beginning to really like him, we flirt every time we see each other, he has a great personality and he's been coming round every other weekend, and we would end up kissing and cuddling. ...
A. 28 May 2013: Date the two of them for a while and the answer will come to you. Many things could happen. One of them may lose interest or find someone else, or may do something that does not appeal to you. As long as you are not committed to either of them, ... (read in full...)
Should I try to work things out and see if my feelings come back for him or should I just cut all ties?
Q. I need some advice as i'm still a year and a half later struggling to move on from my ex, i don't know whether this means i should be with him still or not. So me and my ex have been on and off for 11 years now i love him and think about him ...
A. 28 May 2013: A lot of what you said about him is based on assumptions of what you think he feels or wants. I think the two of you need to have a good heart to heart conversation with some open and honest questions, so that you can both figure out what you both ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating or am I just being paranoid, please help my hearts breaking
Q. Hi, Well this is abit mad but I need some advise, Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8 months now and I cant help it but I just keep thinking hes cheating on me since one day he was at work and called me and said he has to go back to ...
A. 26 May 2013: I think he's cheating on you. Follow your gut. If you feel like you need solid proof before you leave him, then investigate him a little more. A little snooping will give you answers and save you from wasting time on a loser. He will never admit ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with the issue of bad breath tactfully, yet firmly enough that the behaviour changes without resentment or hurt feelings?
Q. My new boyfriend (3 months) has horrific breath sometimes. I tried subtle, then obvious hints like putting a toothbrush on his overnight bag. I finally said that didnt cut it, brush your teeth man! Then I turned it into a game about brushed te...
A. 20 May 2013: The only time I dated a guy with bad breath, I only kissed him once, pulled away because I nearly puked, never kissed him again. When I realized the bad breath persisted during our second date, I decided not to see him again. Occassional bad ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?
Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...
A. 20 May 2013: I work in the corporate world and I know many colleagues who have tattoos under their suits. Hell even I have a couple.
I'm attracted to men with tattoos, and I would feel proud to be seen with someone who in my eyes represents rebellio... (read in full...)
Why do I always fall into the wrong relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, Why I always fell in a wrong relationship? I’m 30 yrs old been engage once he is my boyfriend for almost 8 years since we are in collage. After I graduated I left my country to work in other place. He cannot wait me so he widows t...
A. 19 May 2013: Have you tried dating yourself? What I mean by this is why are you so afraid to be alone, enjoy your own company, enjoy your life as is, without stressing about the past and the future? Treat yourself like you would any of these men. Give all to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's friends do not like me. I'm worried it could lead to us breaking up
Q. Let me just get this out in the open, i'm a lesbian... I have been with my girlfriend just over a year, everything has been great apart from a month or so ago when she lied to me by saying she was at home in bed when really she was out clubbing...
A. 19 May 2013: I think you are right. She probably complained to them about you when things were a bit rough between the two of you, so their perception of you has changed.
There is nothing you can do except use underhanded tactics
to control the situation (b... (read in full...)
I have been invited to attend my married lover's birthday party. I don't think I should go, should I?
Q. Hi.All I'm in a very long term relationship with a married man,please no judgements,we can't end it so it goes on and has done for years. We are both in our late 60's and have known each other for over 30years.he treats me with the utmost respect a...
A. 18 May 2013: Yes, you've done the right thing by refusing.
I had a friend who had a 30 year affair with a married man. I only knew her in the latter years of her life. While I could not understand her reasons for engaging in the affair, it just seemed t... (read in full...)
I yelled at her and due to her past it's left her feeling traumatized. Now she's ignored me for 2 days. How can I make things right?
Q. in need of help... two nights ago, out of frustration and in the heat of the moment, i slightly raised my voice at my girlfriend of 6 months. this was the first time I ever did that. I simply got upset over something involving us. later on i...
A. 18 May 2013: I don't think she's punishing you. I think she withdrew because she does not feel safe and needs to calm the fear that this argument brought up in her. It's like when you raise your hand to hit a dog who has gone through abuse in the past. The ... (read in full...)
If I want optimal results, should I be clean shave, have some stubble, or full beard?
Q. I know looks are only part of what women want, and other factors for attraction come into play, like how active I am, how I take care of myself, etc. But, my question here is, what should I do, facial hair wise, to get some more potential suitor...
A. 17 May 2013: I personally like the goatee look or stubble. Throw in a couple tattoes and an intense look in your eyes, and I turn to jello...but that's just me. Each woman has their own preference.
My advice would be just to be yourself. What feels good for... (read in full...)
I have never met anyone like him and I'm really confused by him!
Q. Hi all, I posted a question a few weeks ago to determine whether or not the guy I had started seeing was intersted. I am a 36 year old, ordinarily together woman, however feel like a confused teenager at the moment. I have been kind of seein...
A. 17 May 2013: He likes you, is definitely attracted to you, but is not committed to you. A month is really a short time to make a firm judgement as to how this relationship is going to develop. You obviously like this guy a lot, so I would advise that you slow ... (read in full...)
He's not ready for a relationship and I'm not either, but I'm worried I'll fall for him if I keep on seeing him.....
Q. Hi cupids! Have you ever seen that film " hes just not into you"? Well thats like the story of my life but without the happy ending. I think the saying is right "if its meant to happen, then he will make it happen" and for me it just doesnt happ...
A. 16 May 2013: I hear you. I'm older than you and I'm still trying to figure out the whole dating scene. I think the dating landscape is changing. People are more into short term hook ups rather than long term relationships, or maybe no one really wants to put ... (read in full...)
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