He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 16 December 2008: I'm sorry sweetie but I think I've given you all the help I can.
If it gets to the point where you can't cope any more then you may need to end the relationship as it's not very good for your mental health.
He'll be home for Christmas surely... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 27 September 2008: Sweetie, with everything you've said I really think you are just going to have to accept that yours is going to a long distance relationship for a while. If this relationship is for real and you really are planning to be in love with him for the... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 26 September 2008: If you join up then you will definitely be separated, for years at a time. The army chooses where you go to. You don't get a choice in the matter. Plus you'll be miserable if you aren't joining the army for yourself.
Imagine 6 months in Afghanis... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: That's good point. If you don't want to get married straight away then you could find someone to rent a room from.
I'm sure there are other private soldiers who are married and could have a spare room. It might be a bit awkward if you were liv... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 9 September 2008: I think you need parental permission to get married under 18, but that shouldn't be a problem.
When he gets deployed you can always come home and move back in with your parents so you are not alone.
I would just say to be very very careful bef... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my boyfriend wants a DNA test, what should I do?!
Q. im 5months pregnant in and i cheated on my boyfriend in i dont now what to do? I know if its not my boyfriend than im on my own and its going to be over because he already thinks its not his because i use to work in the strip club.and he wants a dna ...
A. 3 September 2008: Well if you do not know who the father is then you will just have to wait till after it is born and do a DNA test.
You may be a single mum, but it's not impossible.
Unfortunately if you cheat and have unprotected sex then you have to face the... (read in full...)
My mom might ruin my dream of going away to school!
Q. Hi there! Well, I have a problem ... I tell you: Three years ago, I was a girl who disliked school, who didn't like anything except laughing,I was 12... But when I was 14 , my life has changed and I discovered that I liked a lot of things lik...
A. 3 September 2008: Well since you are only a child then you have to do what your parents say. However, you can always go to university in America when you are old enough to support yourself.
Can you speak to your teacher before the development meeting and explain ... (read in full...)
Does this guy have any respect for me or is he going to sleep with me then never speak to me again?
Q. I like this guy alot i know him from online and we text each other we've been talking for about 2 and half years. We have cyber sex and text sex all the time but i have feelings for him, and i told him this about a year ago and he didnt seem to ca...
A. 3 September 2008: When he was drunk he was horny and was telling you whatever he could think of to get into your pants.
This is only ever going to be about sex for him.
Even if you do it and he speaks to you afterwards it's just going to be about what he wa... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and doesn't want to give me 'false hope' so is it really over?
Q. I'm trying to figure out what I should do with this situation. I love my ex SO much. In my heart I believe we are meant to be together. So, basically, we broke up 7 weeks ago, He 'loves me very much, but feels like we don't get along well enough." ...
A. 3 September 2008: Well I think he told you those things about the beach because he wanted you to know he wasn't a cold monster, but I don't think it was helpful.
Did he not give any warnings that this might happen if you didn't change? He is right that after a ... (read in full...)
Should I move bases to be with my future wife?
Q. Hello, I am a 22 year old male in the army. I met my fiance' in Iraq. It was strange because I use to and she use to look down those because people always rushed them. We started it by seeing where it would go, we both agreed to this. We deployed ...
A. 3 September 2008: Yey for medics!
My husband is a British Medic currently in Basra, so I know what you mean about not wanting to move from a unit when you know all your guys now.
But, this is the life of a medic and when you come out of the army and into a hospi... (read in full...)
Will God forgive my dead cousin for her gesture? I am open minded to all different beliefs.
Q. My cousin killed herself. She was 27yrs old. In my church we were always taught that if you kill youself then you are going to burn in hell forever. And I was eavesdropping when some family didnt know I was there and I heard them saying things about ...
A. 2 September 2008: Well I think that the bible is really telling you 2 different things, and completely contradicts itself if you take it as one book.
Old testament god - yeah he'd send her to hell, he turned someone to salt just because she dared to watch somethin... (read in full...)
Why am I so terrified of actually having a baby?
Q. hi, i'm 27 years old and since always i've been absolutely terrified of having a baby, and really quite scared of being pregnant- and nobody understands the way i feel. i don't know when it started, but i know that my birth was tramatic for my ...
A. 2 September 2008: I feel EXACTLY the same as you. I'm 25 and married and elderly relatives are starting to ask if there has been any sign of "little feet yet."
But yeah... it's like that scene from alien, where the thing bursts out of his stomach! With the screamin... (read in full...)
He called me a tease even though I told him I wasn't ready to have sex! Now I'm having nightmares....
Q. About 4 or so months ago I was with my ex bf. One night i was over his place and he kept harrasing me to take my clothes off. I kept saying no because I didnt want to have sex- i wanted to wait until we were in love to have sex. He said 'we dont ...
A. 2 September 2008: Ring victim support. This was attempted rape.
You can find counselling groups in your area and talk to them about it, and that will make you feel better.
Either that or tell a friend or family member about it. You can't deal with this on you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's personality has changed and I find myself going off him!
Q. Right this might be long so il apologize now! Me and my boyfriend have been together for around 8 months, we never had a honey-mood period, i dont no why we just didnt. when we got togther we argued all of the time but something stopped me endin...
A. 2 September 2008: It could very well be that although he put on a calm cool exterior, that this is what he's really like and it's only now that he's really relaxed with you that he's letting it out.
If you can't cope with it any more then see him less. Tell him... (read in full...)
They've been raising my baby as my sister! What can I do to claim her back?
Q. i really need some help and advice but dnt no were to go or wat to do! wen i was 12 i was raped and i ended up gettin pregnant! when i was 6 weeks pregnant my mum, dad and me moved away for a bit until everything settled, i was close to my mum and ...
A. 2 September 2008: Talk to the citizen's advice beaureau, or even social services and ask what your legal rights are as the mother.
I know your parents probably only think they are doing what is best.
Do your parents know how upset you are about this? It's no go... (read in full...)
The boy I think I love went to Afghan and said he wanted to see what happened when he got back. But since then I've ben with someone else.
Q. I think i love sum boy but not sure if he feels the same. his in afghan and bfore he went he sed to me i do like yuu but i want to wait till i get bk and since then i have slept with over boys i dunno wat to do? Help me !!! xXx...
A. 2 September 2008: Write him a bluey or send him an email and be honest. It is far worse for him to get his hopes up for 6 months and then come home to find you have been playing around and got a new boyfriend.
Write and tell him that since you are not official... (read in full...)
He's recently been in the army for 4 months and I plan to follow him in Cyprus, any advice / tips?
Q. hello, im 17 years old, and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes recently been in the army for 4 months, we miss each other like mad and plan to spend the rest of lifes together, its all planned out, and i know that sounds silly cuming from ...
A. 1 September 2008: Marry him. Get a civil partnership and the army will pay for you to move out there and give you a house.
Either that of you need to go out on holiday and start job hunting. The army is banned from one or two resorts due to bars getting smashed ... (read in full...)
Flat chested forever?
Q. Okay, I will be 16 in about a month, and I'm still almost completely flat chested. Do I still have time to grow, or is it too late?...
A. 1 September 2008: Look at your family. Are the women on either side of your family flat chested?
Work out which side you most resemble and then ask them when they got their boobs.
You could just be a genetically late bloomer.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He wants a baby, I think I'm still too young, what should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 8 years now, we have a house and a dog, he is ready for kids i am not. We argued about this early this year and in the end to keep him i agreed to start trying after our holiday in september.(yes he ...
A. 1 September 2008: I'm 25 and the idea of pregnancy and childbirth TERRIFIES me, let alone looking after the wellbeing of a child's whole life!
For him to give you an ultimatum was very wrong. If you were in your late 40's and the biological clock was ticking ... (read in full...)
I have a wife and two kids but I miss the relationships with men that I had before marriage!
Q. Hello to all, I am so crazy right now. I am so in love with my wife and 2 kids but my insides still have desire for men. I told my wife before we got married that I had past relationships with men but never really felt like it was the right thing....
A. 1 September 2008: Well if you are bi-sexual and you wife knew about that when you married then she may understand. You just have to take a deep breath and tell her you have been thinking about men in a sexual way a lot.
Tell her that you love her and the kids but... (read in full...)
What can I do, if anything, to make my periods lighter?
Q. hi, my periods a re really heavy, is there anything i can do to make them lighter? ...
A. 1 September 2008: You can go on the pill. That some times helps, but if you go on it for years and years it does raise your chances of getting cancer so you might want to put off going on it for as long as you can.
Other than that, it's just a case of using su... (read in full...)
He won't tell me the reason why he broke up with me, we are now friends but does he keep staring at me?
Q. well i was previously dating a guy for 2 weeks n then he broke up with me. i still have feelings for him though, anyways,we argued alot and fought after he broke up with me and he wont tell me the reason why we broke up. i am still frustrated at ...
A. 1 September 2008: He sounds like a fruit cake.
If he's too immature to even tell you a reason for breaking up with you then he's probably immature enough to gawp at you.
Next time he does it just smack your arse, and tell him he can't have it. Or just say "STO... (read in full...)
What are some methods of emergency contraception?!
Q. dear friends! I have a huge problem! Had unprotected sex with my girlfriend yesterday. Usually we do the pull out method, however I believe that didn't work. We're afraid she could be pregnant, and we are really worried. Are there any other ...
A. 1 September 2008: Pepper is right. Use the morning after pill. You have 72 hours to use it from the time you had un protected sex.
The withdrawal method NEVER WORKS. We get hundreds of am I pregnant questions on here from people who try to "pull out"
Get the... (read in full...)
How do I keep things civilized if she keeps ignoring me?
Q. I got a refund for a couple of Music festival tickets the other day and half of that is my ex girlfriends money. Strangely enough i bumped into her at the festival (out of 100,0000 people) and she didnt seem surpised to see me at all and was quite ...
A. 1 September 2008: You can't blackmail her!
What do you want to hear - that she's still madly in love with you? Do you want her to grovel?
If she's being off with you then it's her problem. It's annoying but you just have to rise above it, and move on.
Drop... (read in full...)
How can I make my flat nipples look more proper?
Q. I'm 15 and really self concious of my nipples, or lack of. I have boobs, im a 32DD i just dont undertstand why i dont have proper nipples, theyre like flat how can i make them more like proper nipples? ...
A. 1 September 2008: They are supposed to be all flat and soft.
They only get hard and pointy when you are turned on or cold. If you are looking at photos of girls with their boobs out then of course they are going to have hard nipples - both because they are in a col... (read in full...)
I took the morning after pill but am still scared about prgnancy!
Q. Last week I stupidly had unprotected sex. Within 24 hours I seeked out my local pharmacy. With my partner's help, I bought the morning-after pill and took it straight away. My period, to my calculation, is due towards the end of this week. But i'm ...
A. 1 September 2008: If you took the morning after pill correctly then you ill not be pregnant.
Read the little leaflet that came with it though as your period may be different.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I keep on flirting with him without getting too physical?
Q. So i have compleated my fiesr week of college and their is an older guy who is very intrested in me. We have a lot in common and he is absoultly perfect. We tease eachother a lot (verbaly and physicaly). I was wondering if anyone knows anything i ...
A. 1 September 2008: Well then just keep doing what you are doing. it sounds like you don't need out help!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want to masturbate my boyfriend but what should I do with the seminal fluid?
Q. i want to jerk my boyfriend off but what do you do with all the cum...
A. 1 September 2008: Well you are getting to the age where you start to experiment so hand jobs and fingering are the places to start. Just be away that if the cum gets on your vagina there is a risk of getting pregnant so make sure you are wearing trousers!
Well ... (read in full...)
Consequences of smoking pot?
Q. I'm happy with everything in my life, I love my boy heaps. We both work full time, and we smoke pot... is this affecting us in our personality? We only smoke after work......
A. 1 September 2008: I see Pot use as the same as getting drunk.
If you are doing it every now and then and have fun doing it then great. If you do it automatically every day then you have a problem.
Why not just try to go without it for a few days? You might ... (read in full...)
Would it be OK to rent a hotel room for my partner on both these special occasions? Any other ideas to surprise him?
Q. hey guys just wondering if you could give me a few ideas on what to do... my partners been away for some time now on a travelling trip and is due to come back sat... so on that i note im deciding to do something special... thus i am planning to b...
A. 1 September 2008: Well as some one who's husband is ALWAYS away travelling, let me say this... don't go to massive effort on the restaurant etc for the day he gets back because you will both be so emotional and he will be so exhausted, all he will want to do is crash ... (read in full...)
We really like each other but people hate the thought of us being together, so what do we do?
Q. I split with my partner of 10 years around 6 wks back. I have been chatting to someone who my partner went to school with. People started rumours that we were seeing each other which wasnt true. Since then me and this guy have met and have had ...
A. 1 September 2008: So when you say "people" don't want you to be together... what you really mean is "your ex boyfriend"
Well screw him! He's not with you any more. It's been 6 weeks and you are allowed to move on. If this ex has a problem then he shouldn't have let... (read in full...)
Help Being emotionally supportive?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with the most wonderful woman. We've been going out for almost two years now and ive been the happiest man alive. Untill the other day. For a while ive noticed something was wrong but put it down to stress as she...
A. 1 September 2008: Ask her questions about her day, and let her open up. Just let her talk, don't chime in with "well what you should do is..."
Really listen to what she is saying and understand how she says she is feeling. Put yourself in her shoes and think ab... (read in full...)
My ex's best friend told me "you should tell him you want only friendship to clear his mind". What does he mean by that?
Q. Alright I am going to try to make this as short as possible but advice would be appreciated. So 4 years ago I broke up with the nicest guy ever who truly loved me and wanted to follow me. We dated for around 3-4 years and he is 5 years older than ...
A. 1 September 2008: Well if you are content to be his friend then back off as you realise you are obviously causing conflict in his mind and therefore his relationship.
He can contact you again when he's single.
You two obviously have unfinished business but you... (read in full...)
I'm in love & I'm pregnant, but his parents don't agree... PLEASE HELP!!!
Q. I'm very young and am having a baby with my boyfriend (who is the same age as me). As anyone expects, his parents have reacted badly. But now it has come to an extreme. First his parents book him anger management behind his back, then they took awa...
A. 1 September 2008: Well having your 14 year old son come home and tell you he is going to be a dad is hardly what a parent dreams of. It's no wonder they've taken away his privacy, he abused it by having unprotected sex with girls when he had it. As for anger ... (read in full...)
It's been 3 weeks and HE hasn't called..should I wait for him to come back?
Q. I am a single mother of 2 and I met a younger man aged 25 who seemed very sweet and loving towards my children. I wasn't looking for anything too serious at the start and told him so but he is very assertive and within a week, he was suggesting m...
A. 1 September 2008: Wow, I'm sorry to tell you this sweetie but I think you just won the gullible woman of the year award.
"I have rich parents and many properties... oh no wait for some bizarre reason they won't help me get an education, I must return home because ... (read in full...)
I always end up unsatisfied after sex because I last too long. What can I do to change this?
Q. Doese anyone know a way to make your self more sensitive or easyier to come quicker during sex, basically i have too much stamina , where as most guys would probably think its a great thing, its becomeing a real pain in the ass during sex, i could ...
A. 1 September 2008: I guess your age is wrong and you are not really 10 hahah.
It could be that your "practising" has desensitised you.
So I'm going to give you the advice they give to women...
Find out what gets you really really turned on and then do th... (read in full...)
How can I keep on flirting with him without getting too physical?
Q. So i have compleated my fiesr week of college and their is an older guy who is very intrested in me. We have a lot in common and he is absoultly perfect. We tease eachother a lot (verbaly and physicaly). I was wondering if anyone knows anything i ...
A. 1 September 2008: If you get him excited, by talking dirty, or kissing his neck, then he is going to want to do physical stuff.
That's want 19 yearold boys are like. If you don't want to have sex with him then don't tease him with it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He can't leave his girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. I've been involved with a man for 6 months although we are both in relationships. Mine has been going on for 2 and his for 4 years. He says that the passion is gone and it is the same for me and my boyfriend. he even calls me his soul mate. we tried...
A. 1 September 2008: If you really wanted to split up with your partners then you would do.
But at the moment you both know that by being selfish and using them as your back up plan while having eachother for fun, is far easier than living in the real world.
... (read in full...)
I want to meet someone new and have a sex life, but the problem is that I have herpes!
Q. Picked up a nasty virus called Herpes over 20 years ago ... the 'lady' in question 'forgot' to mention it! Told my wife before we married ... she accepted it ok , but we never had a really good sex life ... i didn't want her to get it. Right now...
A. 1 September 2008: Well in America, they have a solution to this:
http://diseasedating.com/
but I can't find a UK based one on google. Possibly we are more reserved about this kind of thing.
You could always set up a website of your own to make a million an... (read in full...)
Would our age difference play a part in the duration of our relationship?
Q. ive recently been seing a girl whos nearly 17, im 24. she s a very mature girl and dresses really well, and extreamly pretty,intelegent,funny. when we met i thought she was a bit older and and she thought i was a bit younger. it started as just fun...
A. 1 September 2008: It will last - for about 6 months, and then she'll have grown up and changed and one or the other of you will lose interest.
Be her friend and even date her but don't expect it to last for ever. She might want to go to uni next year and do you w... (read in full...)
How can I convince people that my 25 year old boyfriend is not wrong for me? I'm only 14
Q. ok this is hard...im a 14 year old girl...and i have a 25 year old boyfriend...i know he loves me very much...we have promised eachother that we will wait for sex till im 18..and till then we act like normal people...except till we talk on the ...
A. 1 September 2008: I'm sorry to tell you this but I am 25 and I see 14 yearolds and they are like children, they are in a different world. Now you may look older or be more mature, but you even type like a 14 year old so I think the problem lies with him.
If he... (read in full...)
What can I do to strenghten my relationship with my parents?
Q. I am 40 and have a family of my own. About 20 years ago, against my parent's wishes, I attended University which led to split between us for about 10 years. About 10 years ago I realized that I needed to make an effort to re-unite with my parents ...
A. 1 September 2008: Well unfortunately you can't force someone to change their attitude in life.
You just have to keep doing what you are doing and putting the effort in to go and see them.
However if they won't change then you can't make them. Your children ha... (read in full...)
Why did he end his email this way?
Q. Well, this guy and I have being in touch for a year now. We met on a business and since then we are kinda long distance friendship. I mean, we like each other but we are just friends. We enjoy our friendship and emailing, share thoughts, pics, ...
A. 1 September 2008: That sounds a bit British oldy worldy to me so maybe he was taking the mick out of the fact you are from Europe.
Sign your next email "Chin chin old chap!" and see what happens.
Don't over analyse things or you'll go insane.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Are rebounds O.K?
Q. I'm a 31 year old female and I've been in 2 relationships back to back (kind of overlapping actually)combined total of 12 years. My current or ex, depending on how you look it, and I are pretty much through with ALOT of heartache. Is it so wrong to ...
A. 1 September 2008: A one night stand if done properly can be a self esteem boost and no one need get hurt.
But they can be addictive, so only do it the once or twice and for EVERYONE'S SAKE make sure you take condoms with you and be extra careful.
Go on a date,... (read in full...)
My ex's best friend told me "you should tell him you want only friendship to clear his mind". What does he mean by that?
Q. Alright I am going to try to make this as short as possible but advice would be appreciated. So 4 years ago I broke up with the nicest guy ever who truly loved me and wanted to follow me. We dated for around 3-4 years and he is 5 years older than ...
A. 1 September 2008: He clearly still has feelings for you. This is why he's keeping you a secret from his current girlfriend, and kept his current girlfriend a secret from you.
He tried to keep his distance but you keep nagging him to come and meet you so he assumes ... (read in full...)
My sister is dating someone who will clearly use her and she doesn't want to listen to me!
Q. Hello, my sister (who's just turned 16) has just started going out with a lad who is 24. This lad has no real interest in my sister and is clearly trying to get into her pants. He has a history of going out with many girls and having sex with them ...
A. 1 September 2008: You can't unfortunately.
make one last attempt to really calmly tell her that you know for a fact this guy has a string of ex girlfriends that he left as soon as he got sex.
After that you just have to leave it up to her and be there when she g... (read in full...)
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