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Hi,

Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.

I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.

If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.

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16 October 2008: Do you remember years ago when families used to sit in at nights? They had no TV, no computer games, no telephones, no DVD's, no video recorders etc etc. They had one another! They had TIME to get to know one another, to BE with one another to ...

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We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...

A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice. Keep ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem. http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence http://pi... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...

A. 31 May 2007: Tell him to move out, (sooner rather than later or it might be YOU he hits next time,) give him the divorce and let him see his son, he has that right (as long as he sees him sober.) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it! I wish you... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)

We are married but have been living apart for 4 years, and no sex for 3 years, does he still love me!?

Q. I'm confused. I love my husband but I'm not sure if he loves me anymore. He prefers we live apart because he says at the moment we can't afford to live together. we have a child together but I have be like a single parent. I want a divorce but...

A. 30 March 2007: Good for you Kore, NOW you're thinking positive! You know there are always people to help you here on this site so please NEVER feel you are alone in all of this. Stay strong! Eve... (read in full...)

We are married but have been living apart for 4 years, and no sex for 3 years, does he still love me!?

A. 30 March 2007: In my last post I said... "And so what if he doesn't earn as much money as he did in Africa, as long as he earns, that's the main thing." What I meant to say was "And so what if he doesn't earn as much money in Africa as he earns in Britain, as ... (read in full...)

We are married but have been living apart for 4 years, and no sex for 3 years, does he still love me!?

A. 30 March 2007: I think if you dig deeper you'll see that he hasn't gone without sex for the last 3-4 years. As a christian you'll be aware where it says you can get divorced if adultery happens (Matthew 19:9) so don't worry there. It is honourable that he wants ... (read in full...)

Shes got cold feet, she said she loves me and wants me but not right now!!

Q. I've been having girl troubles for about the past month and she's playing the whole "I love you and I want to be with you... someday... just not now." act. We have been together for about 1 year and lived together for about 3 months. Everythi...

A. 30 March 2007: There is more to this than meets the eye I'm afraid. She moved in with you and a month later (due to work related issues) she moved out again. I think the "work related issues" involved this guy you're talking about and I also think there may have ... (read in full...)

We are married but have been living apart for 4 years, and no sex for 3 years, does he still love me!?

A. 30 March 2007: He is bullshitting you here. He's saying you can't afford to live together? So instead there are 2 houses. 2 sets of council tax, 2 lots of electricity bills, gas bills, phone bills etc etc. I would take the initiative here and TELL him you want ... (read in full...)

Just married last year and he loves me so much. But I don't think I love him! Any advice?

Q. Im 20 and I got married last year and I don't think I love him anymore his family is amazing and I knoe he loves me so much but I just dont love him as a husband what can I do?...

A. 30 March 2007: What attracted you to him in he first place? How long have you known one another? How old are you both? Why the change of heart? Get back to me with the answer to these questions and a little bit more information and I'll see if I can help you ... (read in full...)

Thought my feelings for him would fade but they just get stronger! How do I deal with this?

Q. Ive posted a couple of questions on here, but im in need for desperate help, im reallyy really really crushing on this guy at my school and its not a school girl kinda crush that lasts a few months i honestly really really like him. ive liked him ...

A. 30 March 2007: You're now 3 years older since you started to like him, older means wiser, why don't you take a deep breath and just talk to him! He's only a normal person like you are but you have him on this kind of pedestal at the moment thinking he is ... (read in full...)

Can anyone interpret this dream? I confided a sickness to a teacher in real life and had a bizarre dream about it!

Q. Okay. I was wondering if anybody is good at defining/interpreting people's dreams? My Dream: I was in some class room, with all of my sophomore classmates. I had this little pink diary and slipped it into my bookbag. Then I heard someone sa...

A. 30 March 2007: Now you've told your teacher about your anorexia, do you regret it? It seems from your dream that you do. You have a lot of feelings for this teacher so much so that you want everyone to know it, (hence you shouting I love you out loud in front of ... (read in full...)

If a teenager is in a proper relationship, how far into the relationship do you think the average teenager has sex?

Q. hi if a teenager is in a proper relationship, how far into the relationship do you think the average teenager has sex? My 16 year old daughter and her 16 year old boyfriend have been together for about 3 months and they are both pretty serious a...

A. 30 March 2007: You love your daughter very much, she's growing up now and in her first serious relationship and obviously you'll be worried about her having sex. Will she know what to do? Will he treat her right? Will they use contraception? The best thing to ... (read in full...)

When do you say 'I love you', when your in love or when you start to love someone?

Q. I'm 19 and in my first relationship. Im starting to really love my boyfriend, but I know Im not 'in love' with him yet. When do you say 'I love you', when your in love or when you start to love someone? I feel like I really want to say it now......

A. 30 March 2007: There is no hard and fast rule when to tell your partner for the first time that you love them. If the relationship is going well and he makes you feel good then tell him! Who knows... he might just say it right back to you. Eve... (read in full...)

What is the deal with "vaginal farts?" and why do they happen?

Q. What is the deal with "vaginal farts?" and why do they happen? Is there a way to stop them from happening?...

A. 30 March 2007: This is harmless but somewhat embarrassing. It is only trapped air. Here are some links that hopefully will answer your question. http://www.steadyhealth.com/Vaginal_farts_t59475.html http:... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so insecure when I'm not with my girlfriend?

Q. I've been in a relationship for a few months now with a girl who I really like. In fact, I don't think I've ever liked someone as much as I do her. The problem I have is I'm getting quite insecure about it. I'm not sure if it's just a lack of s...

A. 30 March 2007: Okay, first of all, instead of analysing the negative, analyse the POSITIVE! She's been with you for a few months, that's a good thing, there are obviously things about you that she loves or she wouldn't be with you! Sometimes others see things in ... (read in full...)

Am I being a drama queen blowing this up, when he said he preferred that I didnt go out with him ?

Q. i have been with my bf for over 3years now. we both had plans on Fri nite but last nite i told him how mine had fallen through. i had never dropped hints about him inviting me out with him n his mates but he asked if i wanted to go, i said no ...

A. 30 March 2007: I think your boyfriend too was hurt because you said you didn't want to go and him saying he preferred you not to go anyway was just his way of dealing with it. He wanted to let you see it didn't bother him (but I think he was hurt too.) I ... (read in full...)

Im a female student and have fallen for my female teacher!

Q. hiya i have this question well i am a 21 year old female student and i have fallen in love with my teacher who is a striking blond(female) i cant stop thinking of her i just dont know why though anyway please help me out as well as do u knw any laws ...

A. 30 March 2007: Student/teacher relationships are always a no no! Whether it's gay relationships or straight. As long as she is your teacher she can't get involved with you and if she does then she could get struck off as a teacher and I'm sure you wouldn't want ... (read in full...)

Im only 11, but I love 2 guys, and dont know if they love me to be able to choose which one to go out with!?

Q. hi cupid im 11 years old and i live in florida im in elementry, in 5th grade. there are 2 guys i both love but i don't know if they love me and the problem is i don't know who to choose i both like them but i have a BIG choice both are cute ...

A. 30 March 2007: At 11 years old I would say you are still too young to date. There is no reason why you can't be friends with both of them though! Get to know them both better and find out more about them. Once you actually start chatting and hanging out with ... (read in full...)

How do you know when your in love with someone? What are the signs etc?

Q. Hi i think i'm in love with my best friend, we are really really close, my question is really how do you know when your in love with someone, what are the signs etc. I know i'm only 16 but when u've been friends with the lad virtually all your life ...

A. 27 March 2007: To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I am a mental person in a normal world?

Q. hello I really cant sleep any more my life is really so hard I am 36 years old 20 years working, I live with my memories and I do remember every thing or almost every thing that's happened in my life and I really dont know what to do any more, I a...

A. 27 March 2007: I don't think you're mental homeland, you just see life as very serious. You are a sensitive person inwardly but are a very strong person on the outside. Sex isn't a big thing with you either. You take people very seriously too and have strong ... (read in full...)

How do I gain her trust back after cheating on her 4 months ago?

Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 7 months, an I have cheated on her once with someone I went to college with. I explained why I cheated on her and we got back together but now my girlfriend doesn't trust me at all, It has been 4 months no...

A. 27 March 2007: Trust needs to be EARNED! Because you cheated on her you can't blame her for feeling the way she does. Show her by your actions that she can trust you. Reassure her and tell her how you feel about her. Let her know there's no one like her. Here ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I am a mental person in a normal world?

A. 27 March 2007: Has something happened to you in the past that you're angry about? Do you feel as if the world is all consuming and you feel lost in it? Do you feel as if no one understands you, that you're on a different wavelength to others? Can you be more ... (read in full...)

If I don't have sex with her she says she'll break up with me, the problem is her age, she's only 14.

Q. I'm in love with a younger girl. I don't have a problem with the age gap because age is just a number to me, but I turn 19 this November, and she just turned 14. The thing is that I love her so much, but she wants to have sex. I object to this ...

A. 27 March 2007: YOU need to take the reins here as YOU are the adult in this relationship. First of all you need to be assertive and let her know the boundaries in this relationship. "If you don't have sex with me I will break up with you." Does that sound like ... (read in full...)

She won't let me go home to see my parents unless she's with me!

Q. hi I am a 21 and a lesbian. I am in one of the most unhealty realationships possible I think. My girlfriend won't as much as let me go home to see my parents unless she is there with me and I am not allowed out for drink with out her cause she ...

A. 27 March 2007: I got your email so I'll reply here for you. It seems to me that she feel very insecure about herself and about your relationship. She was terrified you might fancy your ex again and this was why she flipped. It's up to YOU to let her know she ... (read in full...)

How can I get her to talk to me and be honest with me about what she is feeling?

Q. My gf of 6 years and I have been havin a lot of problems and have split up twice now this year. We have 3 young kids together. We split up for around 2 weeks in Jan, during this time we spoke about all our problems and said that we both loved ea...

A. 27 March 2007: If you want this to work you really DO need to give her some space. I suggest you only call once a week to talk to the kids and only see them at weekends. No more letters or cards or texts... nothing! It sounds to me like she's taking you for ... (read in full...)

She won't let me go home to see my parents unless she's with me!

A. 27 March 2007: Why is she like this? Have you cheated on her in the past? How long have you both been together? You need to sit down first and foremost with her and reassure her big time! Next you need to set boundaries within your relationship. Let her know ... (read in full...)

How can I tell him I don't want to have sex with him?

Q. dearcupid i am a 14 year old and i was wondering how do i get a boy to see the real me and how do i ask him to go out with me? I go to his house and he talks to me and he wants to have sex and i am scared and i like him alot but i'm afraid to tell ...

A. 25 March 2007: Simply tell him you would NEVER consider having sex until you're older. This lets him see you have a good head on your shoulders and that you won't be forced or pushed around for anyone. He'll admire and respect you for your principles, I'm sure ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 25 March 2007: You KNOW the answer, you said so yourself, you just need to put it into practise. For one, you admitted you have too much time on your hands and are bored. You're using this time to get on his bad side. I would advise you to find something to ... (read in full...)

Suddenly his feelings have changed, and he doesnt think its a good idea to see each other! What the hell!?

Q. We were dating for 14 months and it seemed perfect in everyway, about 4 weeks ago he told me his feelings had changed. Is that normal? He had always told me he loved me and he would always be here for me. Still four weeks later I feel as though my ...

A. 22 March 2007: People DO change unfortunately. That is the reason we have relationships, to see if they work. Yours did for a while but he's either got bored, met someone else, feels the relationship has its downside or has new priorities. He obviously doesn't ... (read in full...)

The love of my life just asked me out for another guy! What should I do?

Q. The love of my life just asked me out for another guy what should I do?...

A. 22 March 2007: Let him know you couldn't possibly go out with him as you have your heart set on his friend! Eve... (read in full...)

How can I build back up my trust to him when living so far apart!!

Q. How do i get back communication with my man? We have been together 5 yrs up until a week ago. We are a long distance relationship but had always planned for him to move to where i'm located. Last week in anger i told him he i was setting him free ...

A. 22 March 2007: Text messaging isn't the best way to sort this problem out. You would be better either meeting with him or talking to him on the phone. Why don't you send him a card with "I'm sorry" or "Please forgive me" on the front of it. Tell him in it how ... (read in full...)

I’m a guy in a pool of older, success-driven women and romance is far from blossoming. Am I looking in the wrong place?

Q. I feel like a small fish in a big bowl. Category: Age Differences I’m a male university student and I’ve always looked older than my age. Due to advance placement in school I’ve often found myself in an older crowd. Recently, I’ve begun my ...

A. 21 March 2007: First of all you don't say where you're actually looking! Older women can be found anywhere, pubs, clubs, libraries, museums, anywhere there's people! You may just have to be a little more choosy of the "type" of woman you go for and not how old ... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

Q. Hallo ..i have been dating a younger man (29, pisces) for the past 1,5 years. It has been on and off because he has said there is no future between us and that we are not the same "class". Most people would be very upset with such comments but it ...

A. 21 March 2007: I would just go with the flow Jules, like you said he'll be leaving soon so it might be nice to give him something to remember you by. Have a great time whatever you decide. Eve... (read in full...)

He doesn't know what he wants in the future, one minute he wants to travel, then he wants kids then changes his mind...

Q. I've been going out with a lovely guy for 3 years. we even spent a year trravelling in Asia together. We get on really well but I don't know if he will ever commit to me? I don't even want to get married I just want to know that he thinks we have ...

A. 20 March 2007: Let him know you love him and you'll move as quickly or as slowly as he'd like. The fact of the matter is you want to be with him but want to know what he's looking for in the future. Eve... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

A. 20 March 2007: Well you are certainly thinking more positive Jules so that's great! And yes, if you don't run after him and he's interested then he WILL make contact. Did you manage to have a look at that movie I recommended? Eve... (read in full...)

What exactly is "a ladie's man?"

Q. What is a ladies man? I heard someone say to someone I know who is very respectful to females 'Oh I can see you bein a ladies man when your older'. So guys and especially ladies, what would you describe a ladies man to be like?...

A. 20 March 2007: In my opinion, to be a ladies' man you need a lot of charm and charisma and you always put your date first. Pull out her chair for her, buy her drinks, take her to dinner, pay for everything of course, buy her a single red rose, send her flowers ... (read in full...)

Why couldn't he wait a couple more hours instead of jerking off by himself!!!

Q. The other day my boyfriend was trying to get me to have sex with him in the morning when I was still asleep by putting my hand on his penis. However I had gone to bed later than him so was very tired and not in the mood to get up let alone have sex. ...

A. 18 March 2007: Like eddie said, it's his hand and his penis. He might have felt hurt because you didn't want to do it to him, nevertheless he was turned on enough to want to finish the "job in hand" (excuse the pun!) I wouldn't worry about this one iota. Forget ... (read in full...)

He wants me to give him blowjobs all the time but he's only ever given me oral once!

Q. My boyfriend wants me to give him blow jobs all the time however he has only ever given me oral once. I don't know what to do?...

A. 18 March 2007: He gives you oral first then you'll reciprocate, simple! Eve... (read in full...)

She's spread rumours about me all because I started to like her ex. They've been broken up a year now!

Q. Over summer I was introduced to my friend's boyfriend, at the end of summer they broke up and we had been talking on and off since summer. A couple of weeks ago he came on msn and got me to do one of those crush tests that sends the answers to the ...

A. 18 March 2007: Why do you think he hates you for what happened? Has he said as much? Let him know that you did nothing wrong and the lies your friend has been spreading around is exactly that... lies! Eve... (read in full...)

My friend was sexually abused by her uncle and I don't know what advice to give her, please help me?

Q. A friend of mine has been sexually molested and she doesn't know what to do... She is afraid that it might wreck her family since it was her uncle that did it... please help me... I dont know what I should tell her...?...

A. 18 March 2007: She needs to report him to the Police or he could do it to someone else. Go along with her for moral support. She did nothing wrong and will be treated gently by them. No one will blame her at all but she DOES need to have him stopped from ever ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)

How do you distinguish love from lust?

Q. How can one distiguish love from lust. Does a guy who wants sex every time you meet lustful about you and not actually love you, I really want to know coz I am not sure if my boyfriend loves me. THANX 4 your help. :)))...

A. 18 March 2007: LUST - a passionate or strong sexual desire for something. LOVE - a very strong feeling of affection for someone. If you love someone then you will be there for them no matter what, of course they'll want to show you how strongly they feel about yo... (read in full...)

Can a guy love two girls at the same time?

Q. Can a guy love 2 girls at the same time? My in mate says he loves me but I know he has a girlfriend and I dont know what to do coz I also love him. PLZ HELP....

A. 18 March 2007: One can certainly be very fond of two people at the same time but in my opinion you can't love two people at the same time, at least not in the way you're talking about. If you love a person you're faithful to them, you want to be with them and ... (read in full...)

He pushed me and almost broke my nose all because I shouted at him!

Q. We just had a terrible fight a few days ago because he was talking to girls on the net and he was really sorry so I forgave him, but tonight he pushed me around onto walls and I thought my nose had broken (it hadn't but it hurts real bad) and then ...

A. 18 March 2007: Do you really need to ask? LEAVE HIM... PERIOD! If you don't then the next time you might not be so lucky! Eve... (read in full...)

My husband always spits in my face!!!

Q. I have been married for 16 yrs now. I am 35 and my husband is 37, My problem is that from the very beginning of our relationship my partner goes to far with insults, He has told me for 17 yrs now that I forced him into marriage or that he felt sorry ...

A. 18 March 2007: Okay do you want the truth? This man has absolutely no respect for you whatsoever! He resents you to the extreme and "blames" you for the life he's living now. He feels he was forced into marrying you, he has even admitted "he felt sorry for ... (read in full...)

It's as if he's leading two seperate lives!

Q. I have been dating this man for 2 years. I have some suspicion that he's seeing other people. We have both agreed that we would not see other people and this was a serious relationship. I am concerned because he hides his cell, when he's not with ...

A. 18 March 2007: Again, you need to redefine your boundaries with him. Ask him if he has anything to hide from you, if he says no then ask him to hand his phone over. If he says no, you have your answer! Then it's up to you to decide whether to stay with him or ... (read in full...)

He doesn't know what he wants in the future, one minute he wants to travel, then he wants kids then changes his mind...

A. 17 March 2007: You need to sit down with him and tell him exactly what you're looking for from this relationship. You have said you don't want to get married anyway so I don't really see where the problem lies? I think he's the way he is because he doesn't know ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

A. 11 March 2007: Hi Jules, He will pay for you to go over as long as you have sex with him! Hmmmm this puts a whole different light on things. I would still go over but go over with your own money and still go for your dream! The Secret is about the Law of Attra... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 9 March 2007: I would meet with him. When he does come to the house then let him know you're glad he wanted to talk because YOU wanted to talk too. Then let him know that you had already decided that him moving back was NOT going to happen. YOU had changed your ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 6 March 2007: I was shocked to hear how you just rolled over and let him back into your home so easily! Things OBVIOUSLY aren't going well with this other woman but do you really want him back in the house the way things stand? Do you realise the life you're ... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

A. 3 March 2007: Watch this movie! It's called "The Secret" It is $4.95 (3.75 euros) to watch immediately from your PC. http://thesecret.tv/home.html Trust me here and watch it, then come back to me and tell me if you still feel the same way! Eve ... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

A. 3 March 2007: I think this woman is WRONG! Very wrong! You sounded so full of enthusiasm when we last spoke, now you are thinking negatively because of the negative thoughts she's put into your head. You will be distracted because it takes so long to settle ... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

A. 28 February 2007: I WOULD see him before he goes, there's nothing wrong with that, you are still good friends and you'll also be able to see by his body language how he feels about you. I do think you're right not to sleep with him. That will only cloud your ... (read in full...)

Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college

A. 25 February 2007: You said your passion is painting so I would pick up where you left off there and concentrate on that first and foremost in order to get your MA. He made you take a look at yourself once and put you on the right road, maybe him going to London i... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 21 February 2007: Keep yourself looking your best, go out and meet other people (like your city friend) it will keep your confidence boosted and that's what you need right now. Continue to let your ex husband see that there is more to life than HIM! Try and ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 18 February 2007: Hey if you want this to work you need to listen to my advice! How many times did I tell you to play it cool with him, being friendly without being needy! The minute you get by yourself you call him and ask him over????? Jeeeeeeeeeeze.... wake up ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 12 February 2007: Oh dear, what a weekend you had. Nothing worse than being with someone you want so much and them to treat you this way. You have to resort to the fact he's made his mind up. "You can take a horse to the water but you can't make it drink." You've ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 9 February 2007: I think you're doing great! You could have flown at him a number of times yet you've kept it together EVEN with your cold so well done there! DON'T ask him to stay over. When he comes to visit be friendly and pleasant. Remember, the plan is to ... (read in full...)

My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!

A. 31 January 2007: Next time he comes over tell you you're sorry for being such a bitch to him and if you could turn the clock back you would. For the sake of your son though you want to be able to be friends with him and hope he agrees. If you prove by your ACTIONS ... (read in full...)