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writes:My husband is in the navy so he's in Virginia at the moment I am in California. I am expecting his child, about a month ago I was looking through our phone bill an there was this one Virginia number that kept coming up at first I pushed it away and didn't think nothing of it because things were going well but one Saturday night I just couldn't take it anymore so I called come to find out it was a girl. I called him he wouldn't answer and she wouldn't either. I knew he had been out at a bar that night with his buddies and they got a hotel because they knew they weren't going to make it to the ship. Finally he calls me at 7 am I ask who this girl is and he plays dumb I called her and it was the same background he was in and quickly hung up. Long story short I ended up speaking to the girl and she told me he lied about his name and age to her and when I told her who I was she was in shock and told me she had completley fallen for him and that they had sex that Saturday night....pretty much I need advice I love him we're trying to work things out for the 3 of us but I just don't know how I'll ever be able to have sex with him it use to be so good I can't get it out of my head and I feel worse because I know what this easy skank looks like I just feel so lost and it makes me upset that I have changed my whole life around to be with him and raise our child and he does this crap HELP!!!!!
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reader, sweet_baby49 +, writes (24 March 2009):
I am a Navy girlfriend.I'm also in California and he's in Maryland.
I can understand where you're coming from when you say he goes out drinking with his buddies.
I don't think that you should stay with him just because of your baby..I think that if you can be willing to forgive and forget then go ahead..
because one thing is forgiving and another is forgetting..if you wont forget it it'll always be in the back of your head and it will piss you off to think about it.
I really hope things go well for you and just follow your heart..do what's best for you and your baby!
good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 January 2009):
To be honest: He lied and he continued to lie to you. You had to find out that he had conned this poor girl so he could use her for sex.
Do you really think you can ever forgive him for that?
If you can then you should get some counselling together to find out why he cheated and how he can make sure he will never do it again. Also you will need him to put in extra effort to regain your trust.
You don't even say he's sorry about this though.
Personally I could not forgive someone doing that and I would be filing for divorce and working out what the best way to be a single mum is, and figuring out what to do with my life.
Good Luck!! xx
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