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writes:I'm curious as to what you women would think about a 27 year old guy who has no relationship experience and never had a girlfriend because he has experienced nothing but rejection, bad luck and simply didn't attract any interest from girls at all. The effort is there and I've tried for an entire lifetime.... it just doesn't work for me. Major red flag? I don't want anyone to know about this, as I find this shameful and embarrassing. It appears that most girls will run away if they found out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2012): Meh. Stop trying to find a relationship and just shoot for a friendship... a lot of good pairings start off that way.
Plus... maybe you are just approaching the wrong type of women? If you are just frequenting bars and clubs... of course you aren't gonna find a relationship. No one goes to those places to meet a long term investment. They go there for all the casual sex and for women... free booze they can get men to buy of they make out with their female friends enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): Mate, I had my first girlfriend when I was 25 - she never asked, I did not tell her till later and it never bothered her. Only one thing I would not do again and that it to tell her unless she asks. I think it is good style not to talk about the exes anyways.. So no worries, dont overthink it and let it come naturally.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 HI
I dont think so, if anything it would be quite refreshing to be with a guy who They would be your first, no ex's to worry about. They may have a little think as to why you have never been with anyone, but its really no different as if a girl is still single and never been with anyone. There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right girl/boy to come along. But could it be your trying to hard with women? if you come across as being too eager then this can be a big turn off. Try to stay possitive, there is someone for everyone, just dont look to hard.
hope this helps
Mandy x
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reader, Htsn47  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 It will depend on the woman. I was a virgin when I met my fiancée at age 36, and hadn't dated anyone seriously since high school. She actually brought up the subject on our first date (which we laughingly call "The Interview" now), and later admitted that various other circumstances made her less worried: that I'd been in school and thinking about career and so on.
My advice would be this: don't lie about it if you are asked, because if you do find that special person you won't want the lie on your conscience. I think it's probably a bigger deal for you than it will be for them.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 Hi Canada, How exactly does this come up in conversation? Hi my name is Canada and I've never been in a relationship???? Any girl who doesn't want to be with a guy because he's never dated is not a girl that you want to be with. It seems awfully superficial to find that a reason to say not show interest in someone. What I would suggest to you...and I honestly suggest this...is to purchase a book on dating...something modern..not one of those ancient ones. But I would recommend actually "Think like a man, Act like a Lady". Now this book is for women...but the best way to learn about women is through reading up on "their books". the best way to learn about someone is to immerse yourself in their culture as it were...so you need to learn about women....In the midst of learning about them, don't lose your unique self. I sense that you are very unique and different. Which for that special genuine lady, would be a wonderful thing. My brother was a unique person and through lots of reading and getting advice from his friends who were girls....he made it through. His first gf was for 5 years...Good Luck my friend....everyone has a first for everything....don't lose faith or heart
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