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writes:Would it really be so bad if we hooked up?I have a guy who was a mutual friend of mine and my ex husband. We used to hang out together as a group (me, my ex *he was my husband at the time*, him, and his girlfriend-now his ex)I'm very good friends still with both him and his (now) ex girlfriend.Here's the problem-we've both expressed mutual interest in each other. I'm attracted to him, and we know each other well.I feel like it would be wrong to hook up with him since I am good friends with his ex. But, it's very tempting!!!What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): You conduct yourself with integrity and treat your 'friend' with respect. If you are to sleep with this man, then you should be ending the friendship with his ex too.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 I don't know. One of my friends decided to hook up with her (now former) best friend's ex and father of the ex's children. It ruined the friendship and she's no longer got anything to do with this guy. I don't think it's a good idea. If you had both fallen in love and genuinely thought that you would have a long and successful relationship then it might be different, but by the sounds of things you're just attracted to each other and want to hook up. Is that worth potentially losing your friendship with them both over?
If you want to go for it then speak to her first and see how she feels. If she is fine with it then go ahead, but if she is unhappy about it I wouldn't go there, even though they're not together. There are lots of men in the world, why does it have to be this one?
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