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*ady in Love
writes:Dear cupids,Today i asked my boyfriend of 1 year, what would he respond if a sexy woman asked him for his phone number, he said: to be honest, any man that is put in such a situation will be lead by his hormones and probably approve and take advantage of her sexually not more, saying that this doesn't mean he is not faithful or does not love me, it only means he was acting as his physical building demands.This was not the answer i expcted, knowing that my boyfriend is loved by many girls around us.I respect his honesty, but is what he is saying dangerous and might mean he would cheat and not feel guilty?Should i do something to change his mind?Note:i know that a particual girl is planning on talking with him , should i tell him? Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (14 June 2013):
 His heart may well belong with you, but where does his penis and thinking belong!? He’s basically telling you whilst his heart belongs to you now, he will blame his male hormones for whatever happens if a new girl comes along… In other words he’ll take no responsibility and feel no guilt to cheating for example; because it’s 'the hormones fault' and not his (bad) moral character!? So just imagine when he no longer loves you that much or when he gets a hormone demand to scratch outside your marriage one day, he’ll then start seeing it worthwhile sleeping with another girl? That’s if he hasn’t grown wiser.I believe ones thinking is also attached to their good moral behaviour as proof of what you’d be getting engaged to if you continue.Take Care – CAA
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (13 June 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear cupids, i never give him the idea that cheating is okay, we even broke up twice only because he had the phone number of a new girl with out telling me, and he always was the one to come back. I do not think he is strong enough to cheat over me, he say it him self also, saying his heart is with me, and since he loves me that much , he do not see any other girl worth sleeping with.
This is a done deal, but his answer wrose concerns in me, and your answers are what i was thinking off, we are going to get engaged soon, i hate the way he thinks about this issue, but i do not think its dangerous, do you? Is their a specific thing i need to do to change his mind?
Thank you a lot, you helped for real
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reader, rovingminstrel  +, writes (13 June 2013):
Be as upfront with your man as you can possibly be. By this, I mean, let him know that you love fidelity and monogamy. Be a leader and seek to affirm a relationship with him that is full of faithfulness.
If he lets you know where his heart is, you won't have to worry about whether he'll go sneaking around behind your back.
Secondly, it may be time for you to have mature conversations with him to see whether he is a spiritually mature gentleman. To get your views into the open with your partner is part of building a healthy relationship and knowing one another. Don't leave anything in the dark!
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