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writes:I'm having a hard time choosing what I ought to do. My situation isn't complicated, but it is long-winded, so I'll try and shorten it down.- I saw a guy at prom who I decided that I liked, but I didn't talk to him.- I added him on Facebook and told him that I'd like to talk to him.- We mostly communicated online, but we meet every few days in real life as well.- Within two weeks of knowing eachother, we were a couple. We've also kissed. I was his first kiss.I've known him less than a month, and been with him two weeks this Friday (25th June).However, I feel as though getting with him was a mistake, because now I feel trapped in this relationship. He is incredibly nice to me; he's sweet and caring and he tells me he loves me all of the time. Because of this, I don't want to hurt him.I met another boy on Monday (21st) at rehearsal. We had to act together and we flirted the whole time. I know that he's single and I am very attracted to him. I'm also going to rehearsal tomorrow, and we'll see eachother again.I am not sure what I want, but I think that I want to be single so that I have the freedom to flirt with people and not feel guilty about it, because that's what I enjoy.Would it be cruel of me to break up with my boyfriend so soon? That's all I'm worried about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): i know how you feel as i was in the same position about a year and a half ago. i met a guy through some friends of mine and i thought i really liked him. when i found out he liked me too we got together. we went on a date not long after and thats when i realised that i felt trapped. we talked through out the date and i realised that he was completely wrong. it was harder because he was a really nice guy and even kissed me at the end... but if felt even more awkward when i started my new job. a colleague of mine and i just completely clicked and thats when i knew i had to break it off with this really nice guy. i didnt want to risk cheating on him for someone i felt i could be with for a more long term type relationship. i told him and i left off getting closer to the colleague untill at least two months after. now he is with some he is very happy with and im glad that hes happy. so doing this sooner rather than later would be the best because then this guy can move on faster and you are free to do what u want with your new freedom.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 No, it wouldn't be cruel to end it now, so long as you do so with due consideration for his feelings, and understand that no matter how gently you give him the bad news, it's still bound to hurt.......
You may be feeling rather smothered by him. To be nice and considerate is great; but to tell you, after such a very short time of dating, that he loves you all the time, is a bit much........too much, too soon.
In fact, by ending it, you are setting him free to eventually meet someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): It'd be crueler not to; the longer you're together, the more he'll hurt at the break up. If you're not into the relationship back out asap before things become even more serious. You don't sound like you should be in a committed relationship right now and this guy deserves better than someone that feels your relationship is a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): I broke it off with a guy after a day, you just know when its not right it can be cruel but you cant just stay to make him happy when your miserable
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