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writes:Hi, Im 16 and am feeling a bit disappointed because I dont feel like I have a crush on my boyfriend of about a year anymore. By crush I mean that excited feeling you get when someone you like texts you., when he asks you to hangout, obsessing over everything he does etc. I feel so comfortable with him, and it makes me feel a little sad. I miss all the paranoia, excitement etc. haha. That being said, I still love him and want to spend all my time with him, but am just wondering if it not feeling like hes my "crush" anymore is normal. Any comments or suggestions? Thanks =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): You know, I actually once brought this up with my best friend, and I think that if you still love him and would devote all of your time to spending it with him, then I think that's completely fine. That's what love is all about; it's friendship on fire. Just as long as you don't find yourself dreading every time he texts you, and wants to hang out, because then there's definitely a problem. A great way to bring back that sense of "butterflies in the stomach," is to maybe spice up your look. It's good for people to change their physical appearance once in a while.(Maybe get a new haircut etc. ...just remember don't change your personality, because that's obviously why he loves you in the first place. I hope this was some help to you, good luck! xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): Its only natural for those feelings to dissapate once you reach the comfortable stage. I know what you mean though it does kinda suck. The real problem is when one or both of yuo becomes complacent in the relationship. By that i mean stops putting in effort, doing and saying nice things, ect. This can cause resentment and its like a vicious cycle. Just make sure the spark doesnt burn out completely. Its normal to to not be as big than it was in the beginning but it cant go out completely!
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