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writes:i met this guy in one of my PE classes during the previous term. I unintentionally developed a crush on him on the last day of class, which is awful timing. Over winter break, I added him on fb, and messaged him a week later. I asked him if he wanted to take the PE class again during the winter (I was trying to petition for the class, since it wasn't being offered this term) and he said he would take it if it's offered. Unfortunately, the class did not happen, so I didn't have class with him this term. I saw him twice on campus this term but he didn't see me, so we didn't talk. The PE class is being offered next term, and I'd like to know if he is planning on taking it next term. However, it's been about 3 months since I last contacted him, and I don't want to creep him out by messaging him again, Would it be a good idea to message him again? I don't want him to think "wtf?", and i don't want to bother him.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (10 March 2015):
No it wouldn't be creepy just to drop him a line asking if he's going to join the class or saying that you hope to see him there. It's just normal friendly human behaviour.It would be creepy if you bombarded him with messages or if you sent him a direct proposition for sex or something.But a nice short friendly message about the class wouldn't be creepy at all.Send that message today - if he doesn't reply, then you can just get on with your life and stop regarding him as a possible love interest.And it'll be too late after the PE class starts and it'll feel even more creepy trying to contact him when you don't have a mutual hobby as an excuse.Do it today
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): Why are you asking if you won't take the advice? He's just a guy for crying out loud! He's either interested or he's not.
The only way you'll know is to stop slinking around and hiding; just come right out and talk to him. Stop messaging him about PE class, when that isn't even the real reason. Yes he will think there is something wrong with you; if you keep "asking the same question."
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 March 2015):
 You keep asking this question. Which means you are either no listening to the advice ALREADY given or you don't have the guts to just send him a hey how are you? message.
You aren't looking to chat PE with this guy. Or to know if he is taking that course, at least be honest with yourself. You WANT to talk to him to get to know him. So what is holding you back, really?
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