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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:There is a guy that i used to hook up with as a teenager. now after many years i saw him again at college n he went out of his way to start a conversation up with me. now me n him are hanging out and talking all the time. he is showing many signs that he likes me. and weve only hooked up once since we started hanging out again. I am a bigger girl and he told me allllllll of his standards and i meet every single one except for being skinny. now i dont know if he would ever date me because of my figure. what should i do?
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reader, Artistry +, writes (7 October 2010):
 ..Hi there, First of all you have standards as well. This is a two way street, you are as important as he is in this.
You are who you are, people like people who they have things in common with but more than that they like people whom they like. If the man likes you, forget about the weight thing, he sees your body, it didn't stop him from trying to be your friend. Want to lose weight, stop eating white bread, sugar, and starchy things, start drinking 8 or more glasses of water per day. Cut out the salt. Eat a banana every now and then. Buy a jump rope and use it. Go for a brisk walk after school. There are a lot of brides who are not skinny. Stop worrying. Does he meet your standards? Enjoy the friendship. Take care.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Instead of being concerned about his standards and meeting them, you should have your own. He's not going to date you because you're a friend with benefits, I doubt your weight is really an issue with him.
The next time you find someone you're interested in and want a relationship with, don't hook up with them. That's what ruined your chances of being seen as potential girlfriend with your current guy, because you're not asking for more but still giving him benefits of a relationship.
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