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writes:My bf and i broke up a month ago today. since that we have started different uni's. i was devastated. but he said we were arguing about things too much. we were but i told him i loved him no matter what. i meant it. we always made up after, and even when we argued i never questioned his love. or my love for him. we were inseperable for 9months. he was my best friend, my soul mate, we just connected on every level and when things were great they were amazing..it killed me when he ended it. more than anything i miss his friendship. so much, it hurts. i love him. i started uni and made great friends, i talk to other boys, go out, keep myself busy, but always, always, hes in my head and heart and ive cried everyday since it ended. its like this heavy burden feeling in my heart everyday, and it wont leave me. i want it to, because its not good for me. After he ended it, he emailed me a few days later and said he wanted firendhsip, i tried that for a few days but it was too hard. and hurt even more being treated like a friend. so i toldd him just to leave my life for good. i didnt want to say that, but the hurt was un bearable..still is. i havent told people how i feel because if i speak about it, it dosent get me anywhere. they think im fine and over it..I'm not over it, because i still love him. its to the point where i just sleep or go out to block him out.. but i cry everynight.. i could email him, he would email back, but then that would just make things worse? i knew we could never work again, i just miss him and what we had so much. i cant escape this feeling, and its making me ill. it feels like longer than a month, and i cant do this for much longer.help me?[Moderator's note:]Please, if you have any more questions, cut out the text speak and abbreviations. It might seem like gobbledegook to some people. I'm sure if you're going to university you know how to spell properly. I've edited your question - this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): hey guys,thankyou so much for your wise words and encouragment... so.. i emailed himed and basicially just said that there isnt a chance 4 anything 2 hapn but we have this connection and are so lucky to have had that, and if he wanted that he shud email be bk..he did.. and said he always had room to be a protective friend 2 me so.. it wont be the same as it was but im glad we can be there for eachother in ways now.. thankyou again x x x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): And they say Love is free...I have spoken on here in a past incarnation of the rose of Love. when you grasp the rose as you have done and planted it in your heart. when the rose dies which sadly for some it does the flower goes but it leaves its thorns behind and they hurt. The memories of the closeness the first kiss (sexual encounter??) you are going through what a lot of people have gone through and vowed never to love again but like silly fools we all do, once the scars have healed we learn to love again and you will too.You can now understand why they say He or She died of a broken heart, you need to look outside yourself the sun is still shining the birds are still singing and there is a world outside your room.When my first wife left I sat in a room watching the clock go around looking at the enormity of it all, but believe me when I say it wont be the same three months or a year down the line. You will never forget the memories none of us do so welcome to the world of the brokenhearted kidda and remember you're not alone and it will take time for the hurt to heal
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (11 October 2008):
 Yes try to email him. Be honest and tell him you want friendship and that's all. Probably he misses you too. I know how painful can be loosing your soul mate and best friend. This can be the worst thing in the end of relationship. So email him, tell him you miss his friendship and your conversations. Tell us how things are going to work.
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