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writes:I fell for a guy who is 34 and i am 45,however he is my son's friend .He has not denied his attraction for me ,at first he thought I was his friend's sister :)I really like him a lot,we spoke and we have so much in common i have never met anyone in my life that is so compatible .My son is cool with the idea ,but he is not!I am really disappointed ..is there anything than can be done to change his mind ? or is this a man thing being involved with his friend's mother will make him uncomfortable :( Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 May 2013):
 If he is not comfortable with it, then you can't make it happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses ..........it is no different to what everyone is telling me .....while others would say if he was really interested he would go for it,
All my life been looking for a partner who have the same interest and life style ...so sad to know that all the comments and answers that I have been getting are all the same.
If this guy is for me then only prayers can change that.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (5 May 2013):
 Nothing you can do, I'm afraid. He probably (and understandably) feels uncomfortable with it.
Imagine if you did get together. Even if your son says he's "cool with it", it would completely shift the dynamics of their friendship. The friend would be spending time with you instead of your son. They wouldn't be able to talk in the same way as they used to. If your son and his friend have friends in common, they would most probably make fun of him. You'd have to constantly explain and justify your relationship.
He's being sensible by not getting involved. You need to forget about him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 May 2013):
 No, there is nothing that will get him to change his mind, maybe the thought of bonking his friend's dear old mum doesn't turn him on as much as the thought of bonking your son's friend turns you on.
He isn't interested so leave him be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): I personally would NEVER get involved with anyone who is my friend's family, no matter who they were. It makes things complicated and can put my friend in an awkward position. If he is not ok with the idea and is uncomfortable with it, then you will just have to respect that. It is not a man thing, it is a personal thing that shows he has respect for those people in his life and is not going to do anything that can cause trouble within your family, which can happen. Your son may think he is ok with it, but if it happened he may find that he isn't. If you really care about this man, respect the fact that he has made his decision and that he does not want to take it further with you. It's hard yes but it is all you can do.
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